Do you weigh more than you look

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  • rennickm1986
    rennickm1986 Posts: 70 Member
    Several things are at play here. Politeness could play a factor. If you ask someone to "c'mon be honest" and guess how much they think you weigh or how old you are, most adults will not be honest and underestimate (especially with a woman) out of politeness to not hurt your feelings.

    As was said, asking people this is asking for an opinion from someone who likely has zero expertise in this area. You might as well build a building and ask a buddy if he thinks it'll stay up. "Hmm, ya it looks good to me?"

    What you are wearing plays a factor. Certain clothing because of shape, patterns, color etc creates the appearance of being thinner or heavier.

    Lastly and most importantly, fat distribution plays a big factor in this. Where do you put on pounds? If you're an apple shape it's going to be very obvious you've put on weight. If you put weight on to your stomach, butt, thighs, arms etc it's less obvious in clothing and can surprise people of how much you weigh. It's just visual cognitive dissonance, like one person has a box under their shirt, which is easy to spot, and another has a weighted vest suit under their clothes, which is more subtle and much more difficult to notice.

  • MonkeyMel21
    MonkeyMel21 Posts: 2,396 Member
    To others I think I do look like I weigh less than I do. One of the girls at work is 4'11" and about 112 lbs (so 25 lbs less than me). The other day I asked her if she wanted an accessory I had bought that was too small for me. She seriously said that if it was too small for me then it would be too small for her. I told her my waist was about 31-33" and she said, oh, mines about 27". I feel like that probably had more to do with her self image, cause...really?
  • MorganMoreaux
    MorganMoreaux Posts: 691 Member
    Lastly and most importantly, fat distribution plays a big factor in this. Where do you put on pounds? If you're an apple shape it's going to be very obvious you've put on weight. If you put weight on to your stomach, butt, thighs, arms etc it's less obvious in clothing and can surprise people of how much you weigh. It's just visual cognitive dissonance, like one person has a box under their shirt, which is easy to spot, and another has a weighted vest suit under their clothes, which is more subtle and much more difficult to notice.

    Excellent point and so very true. If you're carrying the bulk of your weight in your core or it's pretty evenly distributed people may legitimately not be able to tell. I have a girlfriend whose weight goes straight to her hips so small fluctuations in her weight are obvious where as when I lost 40 pounds few people noticed, and even at that they just thought I changed my wardrobe from baggy to more tailored. At my heaviest i couldn't see my feet past my stomach bit large shirts and layers his that to the public. If people aren't noticing consider yourself fortunate OP ;)
  • SCoil123
    SCoil123 Posts: 2,110 Member
    Yes. It has to do with body composition I think. I'm muscular with larger bone structure so I carry the weight differently than a small frame person without much muscle would. People are surprised when they hear what I weigh but that's because they make the assumption certain weights look one way without considering all the other factors. I'm 5'7" a size 8-10US and 175lb. My ideal weight range is 145-165lb. Someone else the same height could have a very different range.
  • Shells918
    Shells918 Posts: 1,070 Member
    I definitely look smaller than my weight. I carry it well, at 5'4" weighing 173 I'm a US size 10 and I just got a pair of 8's zipped up.
    I'm an hourglass with long legs and my weight distribution is pretty even. All the exercise is taking the inches off so when I get to goal (135) I'm hoping to be a 4.
  • ssakcik
    ssakcik Posts: 121 Member
    I'm 161 lbs and 5"8 and a UK size 14 in jeans and a 12-14 on top. People don't believe me when I tell them...
  • louisepaul16
    louisepaul16 Posts: 261 Member
    The few people I have actually told how much I weight, they're always pretty surprised. When I started I was 223 (or around 101kg) and no one could believe that. They all said they thought I looked around 80kg, or 175 or so.

    I don't think they wer just being nice as the look of genuine surprise was on their face, especially when I told them I wanted to lose 6 stone, (85lbs/nearly 40kg).
  • carmelmaryjordan
    carmelmaryjordan Posts: 1 Member
    jemhh wrote: »
    Lounmoun wrote: »
    I don't know. I've never asked people to guess my weight and no one has ever asked me how much I weigh.

    I'm an apple shape. I look more pregnant the more overweight I am. I have had someone ask when I was due. I don't think they were guessing my weight as less than it was. If my fat was more evenly distributed I suppose I wouldn't look as obviously overweight. I'm aiming for a healthy weight and reducing my waist size.

    I have the same body type. There are so many cute tops I admire but don't buy because I know I'd end up being asked the same thing if I wore them.

    ladies, I can 100% relate. I am size 4 in jeans but have a huge gut, I mean huge ! concerned not just for vanity reasons but also for health reasons.
  • GorgeousMa
    GorgeousMa Posts: 34 Member
    I always hear that, NO!! You can't possibly weigh that much......yeah I can and I do What a great feeling when people say that hahaha Like noooooo Your not THAT FAT as the scale says, im looking right at you! It's all good tho
  • frammis4242
    frammis4242 Posts: 25 Member
    edited June 2016
    255 and look like i'm 320

    someone told me i look morbidly obese x2 but they might have just been cyberbullying me for hyperbole
  • amusedmonkey
    amusedmonkey Posts: 10,330 Member
    In well fitting clothes I weigh more than I look. In ill fitting clothes I look more than I weigh.
  • protoplasmica
    protoplasmica Posts: 12 Member
    Am 5 5 and 80kg and am pear shaped/heavy bottomed. Wear a UK size 14 but sometimes a 12. I have a tiny waist in comparison with the rest of me & am relatively toned, so it fools the eye into thinking I'm smaller than I am.
  • krziskecm
    krziskecm Posts: 4 Member
    I get the same thing...no matter hoe much weight i gain...everyone thinks im 20 lbs lighter.
  • ericatoday
    ericatoday Posts: 454 Member
    It could be just how you hold your weight im 5'7" and weigh 140lbs and youre wearing smaller clothes than i am. Its amazing how different bodies are.
  • DebSozo
    DebSozo Posts: 2,578 Member
    If I guess someone's weight - and I have no idea why I would - I am definitely not saying what I ACTUALLY think they weigh! Better to "guess" low than to have them pissed when you're right or higher than their weight. You're just asking for trouble to tell the truth with that!

    I'm gonna second this. People are sensitive about their weight. I never comment on people's weights or guess what they weigh unless they really ask. Even then, I'd likely shoot low just not to offend someone.

    Yeah. Same thing with age. People always say a number lower than they think to make you feel better.
  • protoplasmica
    protoplasmica Posts: 12 Member
    ericatoday wrote: »
    It could be just how you hold your weight im 5'7" and weigh 140lbs and youre wearing smaller clothes than i am. Its amazing how different bodies are.

    I think people who weight train/climb like I do tend to be heavier but more toned than people who do just aerobic/cardio exercise. Or at least that's what I've observed. I'm not too fussed at the scale right now - happy with gradual weight loss. Aiming for 74ish so I can get down to a size 10/12.

  • 3dogsrunning
    3dogsrunning Posts: 27,167 Member
    If I guess someone's weight - and I have no idea why I would - I am definitely not saying what I ACTUALLY think they weigh! Better to "guess" low than to have them pissed when you're right or higher than their weight. You're just asking for trouble to tell the truth with that!

    I do think in general this is what happens. That and people are just lousy at guessing weight.

    In my job I have to ask people's weight. I play a game where I guess in my head and see how close I was. There was one time where a woman was smaller than me, both shorter and thinner. I tend to weigh on the heavy side even when lean. She said she weighed more than I did. There is no way I would have guessed her at that, and I'm pretty good at the game. I did tell her (in a nice way) that that I was surprised by her weight.

  • robininfl
    robininfl Posts: 1,137 Member
    No. Except for people who don't understand that tall women weigh more. I look at least my weight, maybe heavier?

    At 5'9" 136lb now I am about 35-29-37, 22" thighs, I think most women with my mass and height and bodyfat would look smaller. Maybe that's delusional but I don't think so. Probably light bones from misspent youth.

    Maybe you are right about curvy able to hide more weight. I am not ever curvy at any weight.
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    Most people are surprised if they find out that I'm around 182...most guys my height would look a little chubby at that weight but I'm about 12% BF so pretty lean so I don't fit the bill.
  • Hauntinglyfit
    Hauntinglyfit Posts: 5,537 Member
    Maybe you have an invisible tail

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  • kuftae
    kuftae Posts: 299 Member
    BMI is silly, Mine is 25 and just in the overweight range. My defined six pack is gone because bulking but overweight is ridiculous.

    People also think that I'm lighter too, by about 20lbs. Muscle is heavy. I take it as a compliment.
  • angerelle
    angerelle Posts: 175 Member
    I weigh a lot for a girl as it is! I weigh nearly as much as some guys! I run a lot but I don't think I have much muscle. I was took a body fat % test with a fitness instructor; it put me as 29% which is in the normal range for a woman.

    I wouldn't worry about comparing yourself against what you imagine other people weigh (or even what they tell you). If you feel good and like the way you look, then who cares what other magic number other people weigh?

    If it helps at all, I'm a couple of centimetres shorter than you at 169cm and currently weigh around 72kg, I am surprised that I'm in UK size 12 now. I'm aiming for 69kg to match my centimetres over a metre! Though we'll see. I think my clothes hide a multitude of sins and I know what flatters me, so I think others might guess my weight lower than it is.
  • JeromeBarry1
    JeromeBarry1 Posts: 10,179 Member
    You are dealing with people's perceptions in a society where 40% of people are "obese". If you are merely "overweight" you are strikingly puny by comparison.
  • teetertatertango
    teetertatertango Posts: 229 Member
    I would probably be way off when guessing your weight because I am much shorter than you and only semi-accurately judge people who are a similar height. Tall people look thinner at much higher weights (and clothing sizes) than I do!
  • Shana67
    Shana67 Posts: 680 Member
    Because I've been super heavy - 235 lbs and really thin (135) for my height (5'9"), I am usually pretty spot on when estimating weight.

    However, I do agree that people who have not struggled with weight issues are really clueless. =P
  • ludazatobom
    ludazatobom Posts: 53 Member
    I started at 310 ppl r shocked. They say they'll have me max at 200. I think it's when someone carrys their weight well and it's proportioned all over.
  • sefonxo
    sefonxo Posts: 3 Member
    I (at least, I think) look like I weigh less than I actually do. I am taller than average (5'9) and most of my weight gain goes toward my lower body which is a blessing lol.
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,598 Member
    Do you weigh more than you look?

    No idea ... no one has ever guessed my weight.
  • esaucier17
    esaucier17 Posts: 694 Member
    I think I look less. I am 5'4 and a shameful 160 pounds. I have gained about 30 pounds in the last 6 months. I feel like I look about 140 but my clothes don't show that!
    Working on getting back on track after a TON of stressful situations the last year or so. I am sick of it and tired of my clothes not fitting and feeling bad about myself. And this time my husband is on board with me this time. He has a good 30 lbs to lose also.
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,598 Member
    This might help ... a little exercise to help see what you really look like ...

    http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10268800/perception/p1