My husband and my children could care less!

It is hard to plan meals when the rest of my family wants to eat fattening, unhealthy meals. My husband is from the mid-west and has absolutley NO clue about healthy eating....nor does he care. I occasionally see him gag when he is trying to eat a vegetable. Of couse, my children watch and do not want to eat it either! I am now fixing one meal for them and a different meal for me. This is getting somewhat expensive! I am buying different foods for me and for the family...my grocery bills have doubled! Any advise?

I am fortunate to have a wife who decided to start being conscious about what she eats as well, but in your situation, it is best to continue down the road you are on. I suggest buying less bad foods, enough so there is only enough for the unhealthy eaters, and buying good food with the money you save from the bad food.

I have even started to be a bit of a snob when it comes to food at the peril of people thinking I'm a jerk! Tonight my wife's mother came over from a couple hours away and brought ribs to cook and covered them with barbecue sauce. I politely told them I was going to abstain and had them grill some turkey burgers right along side those nasty ribs

I also took vegetables and turkey dogs to someone's house that was cooking out for us. I'm too dedicated to my lifestyle change and losing weight, and I've done great for 6 weeks, that I don't want to blow it. With the holiday weekend coming up I plan on staying on the diet, but I know it's crucial now to not "give in" to that "one" bad meal, because over an extended weekend it would be very easy to take on a second bad meal, and then a third.

Stick with what you are doing and eating healthy while they eat their calorie-filled mess, and good luck to you!

Here is my best friend's attitude and I've adopted it.... she says:

"If I am doing the cooking, I'm going to fix what I want to eat. If my family doesn't like it they can fix their own or go hungry. There's food available, so it's their choice."

I cook what I want.... if they don't like it they can eat it or not. If HE doesn't like it, he's welcome to make his own, but I will not fix more than one meal per mealtime because somebody else wants to be difficult...

I rarely eat the same meal as my wife and daughters. I cook my own meals though.

I buy things like green giant frozen box veggies..then When I make chicken I leave the sauce off mine and add the mac and cheese and brocolli and biscuits to their plates..and only the roast garlic potatoes and chicken to mine...Same with Salmon...they get the fried rice and cresent rolls I get the salmon and teryaki veg box...Its makes it easier and as its just the sides not to expensive...

I have made subtle changes....light butter, light sour cream, using skim milk when cooking, using frozen veges instead of canned....so that the change will not be so drastic for them, but still healthier. I eat what they eat, but watch my portions, and if need be I add a big salad!!!!

That's pretty much what I do too. My hubby is deadset on NOT eating vegetables. Although he doesn't mind if we have just chicken and a salad for dinner. Thank God he supports me! But I've always raised my kids that what I make to eat is what there is to eat. Don't like it...too bad. Its gotten a little tougher since my daughter has become a vegetarian. But I make vegetarian spaghetti sauce with Quorn Grounds and no one noticed the difference. Just keep trying to change your habits and hopefully your family will eventually follow suit.

I had a little trouble with this initially...I would shop for them and then if I had enough shop healthy for me...At my heaviest I topped out at 420. Needless to say...I had to finally sit down and say this is it...I started to change some things in the house and if they dont like it too bad. I can either make the changes or die sooner...that is how I feel about it.
I started getting my shopping done first. Lots of fresh veggies and fruits. Whole grains. I started using the old advice shop the outside first then go to the rest.
I dotn necessarily fix different meals..if we are having chicken I have chicken. If I make the potatoes I make enough for them, and I make a different side for me. We drink sweet tea.
WIthout them knowing I started cooking healthier...I still cant get them to eat everything I prefer, but if I want steamed veggies...I make them some green beans or corn or something.
I dont buy chips, soda or sweets in bulk at all..I buy them for the occasion or meal and only enough for them so they dont over eat and I dont have any.
Little by little, I start to change something small...now they are slowly getting used to it...It takes awhile.
Just have to be crafty...once they realize the changes...they are already used to them...and may even prefer them!
Good luck!

I am going through the same thing....my husband says " he's not the one on a 'diet'.... Just try to get low-fat, fat free where ever you can. Also, google some 'healthy meal ideas'.... As for the children, YOU are the parent, and you should enforce good eating habits NOW or it will only get tougher. Also, explain that to your husband... they are watching him and if he won't eat them, they sure won't.

We have our 4-year-old eating just about anything... even asparagus and brussel sprouts!

Here is my best friend's attitude and I've adopted it.... she says:

"If I am doing the cooking, I'm going to fix what I want to eat. If my family doesn't like it they can fix their own or go hungry. There's food available, so it's their choice."

I cook what I want.... if they don't like it they can eat it or not. If HE doesn't like it, he's welcome to make his own, but I will not fix more than one meal per mealtime because somebody else wants to be difficult...

There you go. Or, as a friend recently told her teenage son, "I'm not running a restaurant, there is no menu for you to choose from. This is what I cook; if you don't like it, you know where the pots and pans are."

Kris

I make one meal but sometimes make side dishes that I don't eat
or I bake potatoes and do a sweet potatoes for me

I understand what everyone is saying when they say it should be you're way or the highway, but I'm not so sure that really a very encouraging way to persuade them onto your side of the fence. Why would you want to push your disciple onto them, aren't you the one that admittedly has the problem? If they don't have a problem eating their own food choices, then why make it a problem?

I would not recommend demanding they adhere to your eating preferences. However, I also would stick to my own eating preferences and refuse to cook their food for them. That way you stick to your own eating and allow them to their own as well. Nobody is backed into a corner or made to look like the bad guy just because they don't want to join your eating plan.

My wife is not involved in my eating plan. When she wants to eat normal people food, I have no problem doing that - as long as I stay within my own eating plan. When we eat out, there nearly always something on the menu I can choose - even at McDonald's. At home, if I don't like what she's prepared, I can always make tuna.

Just because I've suddenly decided to change my life by modifying my eating does not mean I should demand that my wife do it as well. So we talk and make decisions together about the foods we buy. She has her favorites, and I have substitutions I can eat when she wants something I don't want. It works out easy for everyone this way - or at least it has so far.

I wish you great success in finding ways to make your eating plan workable with your family where everyone is comfortable.