Please don't flame me but I have got to ask....

*sigh*

dont worry yourself with THEM. worry yourself about YOU. if YOU dont eat this way, then YOU have no worries.

Yes, I do. Because I am my mother's daughter, and I'm genetically predisposed to worry about people.

I hate to see people suffer. I hate to see people hurt themselves. I hate to see people set them up to fail.

So maybe, just maybe, by saying, "Hey, I did that, too, and it didn't work for me, either, but here's what did..." might start some wheels in motion for someone.

I run a dating advice site. When someone's posting about a being in an abusive relationship, we advise them to get the hell out of it. A person having a dysfunctional relationship with food and/or their body is no different than being in a dysfunctional relationship with someone.

I'm not saying "My way is the only way." I'm just saying that it's not supposed to be that hard. Good relationships run almost effortlessly. Good eating plans work the same way. There's no need for struggle.

so, if you do exercise, is it ok to eat more? I try to not eat my exercised calories- is that the right thing to do?

I'm five foot four and worry that the 1100 calories I eat is too much for my height if I want to lose weight? I eat mostly vegetables (hardly ever eat meat) and they aren't many calories. I always feel hideously guilty for going over my calorie limit. I try and make good choices, but don't know if what I enter is the right amount (as I make things myself I don't trust the calories it says it contains sometimes) and although I'm losing, I wonder if I'm losing enough?