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empmmurray · June 2016

I have two family members that are so negative about my new lifestyle journey ( not calling is a diet because that's not what this is, it is a change of lifestyle). They say that it is annoying and that I am being too strict and that I am just going to lose weight quickly now and it will all come back. They get very defensive anytime I try to talk to them about anything regarding the foods I am eating or going to the gym.

It blows my mind.
Because apparently getting healthy and being happy with yourself is a sin.

Has anyone else had experiences like this?

jemhh · June 2016

Stop talking to them about it. I guarantee you that your food and gym habits are of no interest to them. Know your audience. My husband doesn't talk to me about cars because I don't care about cars. In turn, I don't talk to him about whatever crappy novel I'm reading. We're both happy.

Chef_Barbell · June 2016

^^^^Agreed! This is why I don't discuss my goals with anyone.

Gallowmere1984 · June 2016

Pretty much what jem said. They should care, but clearly do not. You can lead a horse to water and all of that.

kristysaurus · June 2016

I found that many people don't want to hear about (or continuing to hear about it day-in-day-out) it so I stopped talking about it or expecting other people to participate in it.

Find people who you can talk to about your food or exercise. This could be a family member who is supportive, a friend, someone who goes the the gym or even here on MFP.

If people aren't being supportive it isn't worth telling them. it just frustrates both parties and no one ends up being happy

Ready2Rock206 · June 2016

Nope - I don't go blabbing my business to everyone. No one needs to know but me. If I want to talk about that type of stuff I come here.

NaturalNancy · June 2016

Same.
Ignore them.
Keep your goals to yourself and do what you need to do.
Negative unsupportive ppl are everywhere, pay them no mind and do you ;-)

TeaBea · June 2016

Are you being too strict? Are you losing too fast?

"Lifestyle change" can absolutely be the real deal, but it can also be a buzzword people use to justify 180°/drastic dietary changes. I saw a poster commenting on her "1200 calorie lifestyle." Really? She expects to be eating 1200 calories forever?

Explain to annoying people.....I'm not cutting out any foods to lose weight that I do not expect to cut out forever.

Explain to annoying people....I expect to do some form of exercise for the rest of my life.

Explain to annoying people.....I'm not aggressively dieting because I am losing at a moderate pace (for my current size).

Pound per week goals
75+ lbs set to lose 2 lb range
Between 40 - 75 lbs set to lose 1.5 lb range
Between 25-40 lbs set to lose 1 lb range
Between 15-25 lbs set to lose 1 -.50 lb range
Less than 15 lbs set to lose 0.5 lbs range

Some people won't want to hear ....calories in vs. calories out. All they need to know is this food is "bad" so they won't eat it (while they are losing).

jemhh · June 2016

I don't think it is unsupportive of them to not want to discuss the OP's diet. During the year when I was actively working on losing weight and my husband was not, we had very few discussions related to my diet or gym habits. He'd ask if I needed to see the label on something or if he was serving dinner he'd put the scale on the table for me. Stuff like that. But we didn't discuss how I was only eating X amount or X foods. I'd say something like "hey, I'd like to go to the gym Wednesday after work, does that work with our schedule?" and he'd say yes or no. But I didn't get into details, which is what the OP sounds like she is doing based on the feedback from her family members.

Need2Exerc1se · June 2016

Yeah, I've had that experience many times. It can be annoying when someone talks about their weight loss program a lot. If they expressed annoyance then it might be time to talk about something else.

pebble4321 · June 2016

Are you being annoying?
Some people get all evangelical when they have a new hobby/lifestyle/religion/diet etc and start to constantly impose their views and opinions on everyone around them.

If that's you, then it does sound annoying.
Maybe you aren't going over the top but it's just not something they are interested in or something they want to consider/discuss at this point.

Either way, just keep doing what works for you, and talk about it with people who are interested not those who aren't.

alyssa0061 · June 2016

Nobody cares.

Harsh, but true. Nobody cares and they find it annoying and irritating. The suggestion to find a similar minded person to talk about it with is the best option. I very much wish I had people, or even one person, in my life I could talk with about calories and fluctuations and weekly loss averages. But nobody cares. So I come here.

briscogun · June 2016

First, people who keep their goals and activities around weight loss and exercise to themselves tend to stick to them and meet them more than people who talk to everyone about being on a diet or trying to lose weight.

Second, if you are keeping it to yourself but just making healthy choices in front of them, that says more about them than it does you. They are probably overweight and annoyed that you are doing something and they aren't. You're just a reminder that they could be doing something but they choose not to. There is more than one person on this forum that has lost a BFF because they got healthy and their friend(s) didn't. Sometimes people just go on journeys that their friends can't go on with them...

And I don't talk to my wife about dieting/exercise/eating healthy because she doesn't. I know it kind of annoys her when I don't want to eat what's on the menu for dinner, let's say, but my schedule doesn't allow me to cook for everyone as much as it used to, so I have to just go with it and do portion control or skip if its a huge problem. Better than causing a fight.

empmmurray · June 2016

Thanks everyone for the somewhat harsh but realistic and honest opinions!
I'm gonna go to my room now and talk to myself about what I had for dinner and what I plan to do at the gym tomorrow.

DeficitDuchess · June 2016

empmmurray wrote: »

Thanks everyone for the somewhat harsh but realistic and honest opinions!
I'm gonna go to my room now and talk to myself about what I had for dinner and what I plan to do at the gym tomorrow.

@empmmurray Possibly create a diary concerning it, while seeking people here and/or anywhere else, that'd be receptive of this being; a constant conversational subject matter. Most likely the people that'll be best to associate with'll be those, that're very passionate about this & even consider it a hobby, instead of a chore. Possibly join a challenge, I am a member of these 3:

http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/group/109303-lose-1-pound-a-week-2016

http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/group/114693-overhaul-for-fall

http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/group/114816-cindys-24-week-christmas-challenge-2016-july-11th-to-december-19th

alyssa0061 · June 2016

empmmurray wrote: »

Thanks everyone for the somewhat harsh but realistic and honest opinions!
I'm gonna go to my room now and talk to myself about what I had for dinner and what I plan to do at the gym tomorrow.

That's the spirit

I talk to myself about it every day on the way to work.

cmriverside · June 2016

I thought that was why these forums exist? So we can obsess communally.

Seriously, talk about anything diet or fitness related on these forums and the thread may go on for thousands of pages. We never get tired of grams, shoelaces, macros, squats, bulletproof coffee, intermittent fasting, and cauliflower pizza and - okay. . .wait. Cauliflower pizza? No.

Starving and already ate your calories for today and tomorrow? We care!!

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