Unsupportive Significant Others

my husband tells me he thinks i'm fine where i am and eats a tub of ice cream in front of me..i know its not the same as what was said to you but its just another was of being supportive.. sorry you have to hear things like that.. i hope your answer was actually no i'm going to keep going and get even lower.. good luck.. stick with it you can show him!

I am sorry that you got that response. I finally got under 250 last week and my husband said Congratulations I am so proud of you. That is what you deserve too. It doesn't sound like you can talk to him about how he is making you feel or how much you need his support. If you think you can, then that would be my suggestion. If you can't have that kind of conversation with him then it will be difficult for you to ever get the support you need and deserve. Your partner should be your biggest cheerleader.

My husband has also been that way. At one point I was down to 155 pounds and he said he would take me to any bakery if I would just eat something different. Eventually I gave in and gained it all back and more. I think maybe he was just afraid that I would change if I lost weight and maybe wouldn't feel the same way about him as that is what happened to his uncle when his uncle's wife lost weight. Good luck and keep doing it for you. I know that's hard but you are worth it!

Shari

Johnny Depp is a sexy human, but still human.

My husband's a complete butt if he doesn't get his eight hours.

I was home for one night and one day after having my baby, and he started whining that the house was a mess and I should get out of bed and clean it. So I got out of bed, collected all the stuff he left lying around and dumped it on his side and said "I did my half, this is all yours!" He apologized, and cleaned up his stuff, then gave me a back rub.

The other night, he was running on four hours sleep, and our daughter woke up crying at three AM, and I didn't throw off the covers, climb over him, and grab her a bottle fast enough, so he yelled at her to shut up, and told me to quit being so lazy. Next morning, he asked me where his work clothes were, and I told him I didn't know, maybe he should quit being so lazy and find them. He asked me why I was being so mean, and I told him what he'd done the night before, and he said "I'm sorry, I was asleep, I hadn't realized, and I didn't mean to be such a ****." So I walked over to the basket of laundry I hadn't yet put away and pulled out his clothes for him

When I was whining to him about how my belly skin is so wrinkly and covered in stretchmarks and my boobs are so big they enter a room twenty minutes before the rest of me, he was like "Well, it's because you're fat, what do you expect, you just had a baby, though I have no idea how you managed to gain 80 lbs when she was only five. Your *kitten* is probably going to look like cottage cheese forever. It's a good thing you wear swim trunks when we go to the pool." I told him that I could at least do something about being overweight, he couldn't do squat about his face, and that really was a shame. He stuck his tongue out at me, and said "I didn't mean it like that, you're still hot to me, and that's all that matters"

Usually after I bring things to his attention with sarcastic and snide comments, he realizes what he'd said or done and apologizes. I wouldn't suggest doing this with your husband, but he tells me rather frequently that he married me because I'm mean, sarcastic, and brutally honest and it entertains him. I also have the benefit of having skin thicker than steel, so it's pretty hard to hurt my feelings.

As for your husband looking like Johnny Depp, well, mine's not exactly bad looking himself -- 6'1, 175 lbs, all muscle. I swear I catch myself drooling while staring at his butt rather frequently, and I now have a reputation with the inlaws for being sex crazed as a result. Girls stare at him when we go grocery shopping, and I always have this silly desire to grab his nuts, beat my chest, and grunt while telling them "THIS IS MINE." And the best part? I got him with my mind, not with my boobs.

Edited to add: I hadn't realized how hard it was to find the point in this message, being talk to him, in whatever way he understands best, for mine, it's sarcasm, for yours, it might be just gentle talking too. Adjust your approach for his personality and mood.