Using the haters as motivation?

CoffeeandCats2
CoffeeandCats2 Posts: 49 Member
in Motivation and Support
Those who hate me and tell me I can't make it and that have tried to make me feel like I'm less than them, I work that much harder at weight loss just to prove them wrong and that I can better myself. Of course my reason for weight loss is my health but that motivates me to go the extra mile. How about you?

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  • queenliz99
    queenliz99 Posts: 15,317 Member
    I motivate myself, and I surround myself with people who like me. Hate is not motivating in the least. Whatever floats your boat.
  • nutmegoreo
    nutmegoreo Posts: 15,532 Member
    How many people hate you? This seems strange to me, but if it works for you, good on ya.
  • HippySkoppy
    HippySkoppy Posts: 725 Member
    So.....does this mean you have found a new way of dealing with set backs like the 2 experiences at the supermarket? If that works for you now in making positive life changes then that's great.

    For me, it wouldn't work.

    Not only would I find the surrounding negative energy far too mentally exhausting to deal with regularly, I would find it damn near impossible to not sink into a depressive funk over being around the type of people influencing me who feel the need to hate and seriously questioning why I am bothering to stay with my circle of 'friends'.

    Whilst negativity can always happen most Humans do thrive better with positive input.

    Just my 2 cents.
  • CoffeeandCats2
    CoffeeandCats2 Posts: 49 Member
    No I am not talking about my friends, I mean the haters you've encountered in life who have brought you down..showing you can have a positive and healthy lifestyle instead of being brought down!
  • HippySkoppy
    HippySkoppy Posts: 725 Member
    Thank you for clarifying.

    Thankfully I have not encountered haters....maybe negative people whose outlook on life does not match my own. In this situation I have made the decision to remove them completely from my life or distance myself as much as possible.

    I don't need nor want that input impacting me. Of course chance encounters can occur and then I try to employ either actively asserting myself to counter the negative input or making the decision to disregard them as it is their problem not mine.

    I wish you all the best to find inspiration for the betterment of your life and well being in every encounter good or bad.
  • MaryLuvsTheLamb
    MaryLuvsTheLamb Posts: 98 Member
    My sister is always asking me how much I've lost, so I tell her. For crying out loud, I'm losing an average of 2 lbs a week, but when I tell her that, she gets this really disappointed tone in her voice and says, "oh, ok", as if she expected more. This isn't a freakin sprint! 13.6 lbs in 7 weeks is HUGE for me! Gimme' a break! No matter how hard you work at this, there will always be people who have some sort of negative response, but poop on them. We'll see who laughs last.
  • CoffeeandCats2
    CoffeeandCats2 Posts: 49 Member
    maryhoule47 wrote: »
    My sister is always asking me how much I've lost, so I tell her. For crying out loud, I'm losing an average of 2 lbs a week, but when I tell her that, she gets this really disappointed tone in her voice and says, "oh, ok", as if she expected more. This isn't a freakin sprint! 13.6 lbs in 7 weeks is HUGE for me! Gimme' a break! No matter how hard you work at this, there will always be people who have some sort of negative response, but poop on them. We'll see who laughs last.

    You are doing GREAT! Amazing willpower and strength :)
  • Sued0nim
    Sued0nim Posts: 17,456 Member
    People don't really hate strangers, not in general

    Normally the most they feel is complete indifference

    If you see haters everywhere it's often best to work on yourself and your own perceptions, because living believing that stranger are hating on you means either
    1) you believe you're important enough for other people to expend that much energy is egotistical or
    2) you have a distorted perception of reality that leans you toward victim complexes which is innately depressing and destructive

    I hope you can find a way to work on your own ego and self confidence and head out of this spiral of self contempt.
  • Sued0nim
    Sued0nim Posts: 17,456 Member
    Poster above reminds me that is often best to read posts, and review comments in a kermit voice to check on actual intent :)
  • Larissa_NY
    Larissa_NY Posts: 495 Member
    I don't understand why you'd want to let people who hate you control your behavior.
  • arditarose
    arditarose Posts: 15,573 Member
    I never had any haters. I don't know what that means. Can you give an example of someone trying to bring you down, at least in regards to your health and fitness?
  • VitaSh
    VitaSh Posts: 113 Member
    You probably get more positivity and encouragement than hate, right? But I understand you. Hateful comments are usually jealousy, insecurity, and self-disappointment (they cannot pursue and achieve their own goals and your success makes them feel inadequate instead of motivating THEM). So "hate" usually amuses me and motivates me too because it means I'm doing something right ;) And I'm secure in myself and my self-esteem is much healthier than theirs so it doesn't bother me.
  • Gallowmere1984
    Gallowmere1984 Posts: 6,626 Member
    I embrace it; let it flow through me. Allow it to fuel the desire to be stronger. Yes, become the Palpatine of weightloss.

    Jesus, anything is better than seeing targeting and victimization everywhere you go.

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