What do/did you hate about being overweight?

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  • dlmciver
    dlmciver Posts: 149 Member
    I can relate to having hated most things listed above.... in addition, I hated feeling invisible; rubbing holes through the inner thigh of my pants from friction; only having a few 4x things that fit me and refusing to buy more; having to sit and rest while others were active; being an embarrassment to my daughters; facing a total knee replacement because I was morbidly obese for so long.
  • ogtmama
    ogtmama Posts: 1,403 Member
    amusedmonkey wrote: »
    Bxqtie116 wrote: »
    reinventingjessica11 wrote: »
    Having to go upstairs or to the back of stores for the larger sizes;

    I wonder why that is- that the larger sized clothing is ALWAYS in the back. Is it so that it gives overweight people a chance to exercise? Is it so that we won't be seen by those "normal" sized people walking by? It's like a badge of shame.

    It makes sense. If it's mainly a normal size store with a few plus size options it wouldn't make sense to make the extra options front and center. Just like a running store would have running shoes and clothes front and center, and if they carry some extra for other sports, it's way in the back or somewhere you aren't able to quickly scan with your eyes as soon as you enter. We need to stop looking for things to be offended about.

    Why not just mix the larger sizes in like they do with the "normal" sizes?
  • amusedmonkey
    amusedmonkey Posts: 10,330 Member
    edited July 2016
    eveandqsmom wrote: »
    amusedmonkey wrote: »
    Bxqtie116 wrote: »
    reinventingjessica11 wrote: »
    Having to go upstairs or to the back of stores for the larger sizes;

    I wonder why that is- that the larger sized clothing is ALWAYS in the back. Is it so that it gives overweight people a chance to exercise? Is it so that we won't be seen by those "normal" sized people walking by? It's like a badge of shame.

    It makes sense. If it's mainly a normal size store with a few plus size options it wouldn't make sense to make the extra options front and center. Just like a running store would have running shoes and clothes front and center, and if they carry some extra for other sports, it's way in the back or somewhere you aren't able to quickly scan with your eyes as soon as you enter. We need to stop looking for things to be offended about.

    Why not just mix the larger sizes in like they do with the "normal" sizes?

    That's not how it works. That would be a logistical nightmare. These sizes are considered "special" and in many cases only certain brands carry them. How would you feel if you were a plus size person, coming in to buy plus size clothes, and instead you are having to hunt throughout clothes scattered all over the store to find something that has plus sizes. Embarrassing for some customers, extra work for employees.

    Many stores here actually have multiple brands, only some of which have plus size options. Shopping there is a nightmare. I would rather order things online than have to browse the entire store for something that fits AND I like, It's often either one or the other. Not to mention I would have to visit multiple shops because there is no way of telling which shops have plus size and which don't. If some of them had a plus size section, and I don't care if they put it in the attic, it would have been much easier. I would be able to see at a glance which options I have. Be thankful for the back of the store plus size section. You'll probably never know how lucky you are to have it.
  • ogtmama
    ogtmama Posts: 1,403 Member
    amusedmonkey wrote: »
    eveandqsmom wrote: »
    amusedmonkey wrote: »
    Bxqtie116 wrote: »
    reinventingjessica11 wrote: »
    Having to go upstairs or to the back of stores for the larger sizes;

    I wonder why that is- that the larger sized clothing is ALWAYS in the back. Is it so that it gives overweight people a chance to exercise? Is it so that we won't be seen by those "normal" sized people walking by? It's like a badge of shame.

    It makes sense. If it's mainly a normal size store with a few plus size options it wouldn't make sense to make the extra options front and center. Just like a running store would have running shoes and clothes front and center, and if they carry some extra for other sports, it's way in the back or somewhere you aren't able to quickly scan with your eyes as soon as you enter. We need to stop looking for things to be offended about.

    Why not just mix the larger sizes in like they do with the "normal" sizes?

    That's not how it works. That would be a logistical nightmare. These sizes are considered "special" and in many cases only certain brands carry them. How would you feel if you were a plus size person, coming in to buy plus size clothes, and instead you are having to hunt throughout clothes scattered all over the store to find something that has plus sizes. Embarrassing for some customers, extra work for employees.

    Many stores here actually have multiple brands, only some of which have plus size options. Shopping there is a nightmare. I would rather order things online than have to browse the entire store for something that fits AND I like, not to mention I would have to visit multiple shops because there is no way of telling which shops have plus size and which don't. It's often either one or the other. If some of them had a plus size section, and I don't care if they put it in the attic, it would have been much easier. I would be able to see at a glance which options I have.

    I was just thinking the size 16 could sit behind the 14, just as the 14 sits behind the 12...I didn't realize it was that complicated. I confess when 14 got too tight and I needed a plus size was when I came here so I honestly don't know how it works.
  • RoxieDawn
    RoxieDawn Posts: 15,488 Member
    cross2bear wrote: »
    All those hates!! And it is within your power to change every one of them. Good Luck!!

    This..

    20 lines of hates! There has to be 20 lines of likes?
  • fattyclatter
    fattyclatter Posts: 28 Member
    This thread makes for a depressing read. All the self-loathing and insecurities are just... blah.

    I don't "hate" much about being fat. I dislike being unfit and the health issues I can see creeping up, but that's about it.
  • ogtmama
    ogtmama Posts: 1,403 Member
    I hated that I was never in any pictures...I love that I hand the camera to someone else now.

    I hated shopping for clothes that would fit over my body and not look TOO bad...I love shopping for clothes that I genuinely like and make me feel good.

    I hated being tired all the time...I love that I have ants in my pants now and I don't feel great until I get up and do something (even if it's just to clean the house).

    I miss eating spontaneously and not knowing or caring what was in it.
  • RoxieDawn
    RoxieDawn Posts: 15,488 Member
    fattyclatter wrote: »
    This thread makes for a depressing read. All the self-loathing and insecurities are just... blah.

    I don't "hate" much about being fat. I dislike being unfit and the health issues I can see creeping up, but that's about it.

    Its a bit of a mood killer for sure, the list is all about the external things in the world.

    And the things said, I hated at one point was myself entirely! But even looking back at it now I would not be who I am today nor would I be where I am today! And either would my husband who went through this more than I did, and he never really hated anything!
  • beverlyjlarson
    beverlyjlarson Posts: 104 Member
    I hate that I used to be so trim and fit now I'm a blob.
    I hate that I can't walk without hurting.
    I hate that I'm out of breath when I try to walk fast.
    I hate that I can't keep up to my Grandkids.
    Mainly i hate that I have done this horrible thing to myself.
  • LauraCoth
    LauraCoth Posts: 303 Member
    None of my pretty tops fit me anymore -- and I stocked up on really expensive, good quality stuff when I retired. Bummer. Have to get my size back to where it was.
  • dragon_girl26
    dragon_girl26 Posts: 2,187 Member
    I didn't enjoy clothes shopping, my declining health, and not attracting men. Aside from that, life wasn't too bad.
  • fitandfunchar
    fitandfunchar Posts: 12 Member
    I hate that I'm afraid to see people I haven't seen awhile because I'm heavier.
    I hated buying Spanx for the first time.
    I hate how sweaty I get, how exhausting stairs or even a mild walk can be.
    I hate how it feels to kneel or bend my elbow and have the fat collide.
    I miss the feeling of no back fat.
    I love my big tatas.
    I hate that I have stretch marks on my stomach now.
    I hate how much further I have to go this time.
    I hate that my 18 jeans are snug, but my 20 khakis are baggy.
    I hate that I'm restricted to only a couple of outfits because I'm in the 2Xs now.
    I hate that I feel extra guilty getting a small portion of dessert even though I know it's in my budget.
  • tomteboda
    tomteboda Posts: 2,171 Member
    I hated trying to date while overweight. It seemed to me that guys treated me worse, in general. I've been thin, and I've been overweight, and I've been downright fat. And the heavier I get the more *notcutelikeakitten* guys try to pull. If they're even willing to go out. My tolerance for that garbage was and remains about nil, although I work pretty hard to leave the guy (no matter how much of a *notcutelikeakitten* he is) feeling like he had a great date even if I'm personally really annoyed.

    Of course, I can't compare right now to dating while thin AND over 30, because the last time I was thin and dated I was in my late teens. Maybe its an age thing. Or maybe its just a I-don't-tolerate-*notcutelikeakitten*-behavior like I did at 19. Who knows. But I think being fat had something to do with it.

  • tomteboda
    tomteboda Posts: 2,171 Member
    And I hated having NO Energy. But I didn't appreciate just how significant the weight was an energy drain until it started coming off.
  • goldthistime
    goldthistime Posts: 3,213 Member
    jennifer_417 wrote: »
    How invisible I felt.

    This is kind of me, although I had a hand in it. I didn't dare wear "look at me" clothing. If I'm being frank, I was ashamed at what I had done to myself. The lack of energy was no fun either.

  • NanP135
    NanP135 Posts: 219 Member
    I hate my belly
    I hate being the fat friend
    I hate having no energy
  • CooCooPuff
    CooCooPuff Posts: 4,374 Member
    I hated going to London and being tired all day from the walking. I hated not being able to reach the top of Saint Paul church.
  • caradack1985
    caradack1985 Posts: 254 Member
    I hate getting so hot and sweaty just doing normal things

    I hate the bad sleep I get from sleep apnea

    I hate thigh rub!

    Sure there are other things, but they're all external and down to how society treats overweight people or simply my own insecurities.
  • RainaProske
    RainaProske Posts: 636 Member
    Downhill skiing. I never got off the baby hill. I would prefer sitting inside with hot cocoa, watching.

    Playing soft ball and having to run the bases. Or was it just that I'm not athletic?

    Being the fat lady who sang. You know: "It's not over until the fat lady sings." I never sing publicly since I lost the weight. Maybe that's because it's over? :p
  • cinnabondelights
    cinnabondelights Posts: 121 Member
    I always hated it when my parents and grandma pressured me about my weight, I had always been overweight my entire life until now. I hated that I looked bloated from every angle when I looked in the mirror, double chin, inner thighs being chaffed, lack of self-esteem, and I just basically hated my entire being when I was fat. But what was really embarrassing for me was when some complete stranger asked me "when the baby was due." Not only was that extremely rude, but it hurt. My husband laughed, I tried to laugh at myself but still. Made me really self conscious afterwards.

    Now that I have lost the weight, I have a tiny waistline, flat stomach, thigh gap, I am a lot more comfortable with myself and more confident! No more strangers asking if I'm pregnant :D
  • samchez0
    samchez0 Posts: 364 Member
    Chub rub, which I don't have quite as much of a problem with anymore since I've lost some weight, and looking lumpy in clothing. I want to wear fitted shirts without all my rolls being visible.
  • Nicklebee93
    Nicklebee93 Posts: 316 Member
    I hate(d):

    My double chin
    Taking pictures - i refused to be in them at one point
    Bathing suits
    Lying about my weight
    Feeling ugly
    Clothes shopping

    I still have a lot of insecurities about myself. But i've stopping lying about my weight. I feel proud to be 140 pounds, i've come a long way and i'm still working on it.
  • Lastyearsgirl
    Lastyearsgirl Posts: 12 Member
    I hate seeing an article of clothing I like, and automatically having to start a the back of the rack to see if they have it in an XL or an L...
  • shanahz
    shanahz Posts: 261 Member
    I hate that I let my self get this way again.
    I hate my double chin that is starting to show
    I hate that I bought bigger clothes and might have to buy more because I keep gaining
    I hate my midsection
    I hate that my hip bones have disappeared
    I hate that my jaw line and collar bone are no longer defined
    I hate that the muscle I had gained is hidden under fat
  • melonaulait
    melonaulait Posts: 769 Member
    Personally, I have problems with self-loathing, so I had to work hard on my mindset when I first started losing weight. Sometimes the hate feelings get to me still (if I feel disappointed in my progress), but mostly I've tried to stay positive during this journey, and I'm happy that I'm not in a hurry to lose and don't have any deadlines.

    Because of my past, I never ever thought I could be losing weight healthily (and be doing it for myself in a positive way!) but here I am. And I think it's thanks to MFP that I feel so good about it all.
  • jimshine
    jimshine Posts: 199 Member
    I hated my knees starting to hurt and the limited clothing options/higher prices.
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