Picky eater problems

kedrum73
kedrum73 Posts: 31 Member
in Food and Nutrition
Anyone have any healthy recipes for picky eaters? I live with my bf and when I'm trying to eat healthy/stay on a diet it's hard bc he's so picky and won't eat most of what I make and I don't want to have to make 2 meals every night. Help please!?

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  • kedrum73
    kedrum73 Posts: 31 Member
    CattOfTheGarage wrote: »
    Hmm. I won't say I never take others' dislikes into account when I cook, but there's a threshold beyond which it's not reasonable. If you are unable to cook the foods you want to eat because of your partner's pickiness, I do not think that is reasonable. If he wants to be extremely picky then that is his responsibility and I would suggest he should cook for himself. If sometime else is cooking, they get to choose the meal and you suck it up and say thank you. If you want to choose what is served, you volunteer to cook. This is basic manners.

    I completely agree with you! However I don't like dealing with his bitchiness when I cook and he has to make his own :/ it's easier to suck it up and make two different meals
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    kedrum73 wrote: »
    CattOfTheGarage wrote: »
    Hmm. I won't say I never take others' dislikes into account when I cook, but there's a threshold beyond which it's not reasonable. If you are unable to cook the foods you want to eat because of your partner's pickiness, I do not think that is reasonable. If he wants to be extremely picky then that is his responsibility and I would suggest he should cook for himself. If sometime else is cooking, they get to choose the meal and you suck it up and say thank you. If you want to choose what is served, you volunteer to cook. This is basic manners.

    I completely agree with you! However I don't like dealing with his bitchiness when I cook and he has to make his own :/ it's easier to suck it up and make two different meals

    then you've got your answer!
  • paigeg150
    paigeg150 Posts: 27 Member
    I am in the same boat... So we found a compromise. We usually agree on our protein (grilled chicken, ground turkey, fish) and we each make our own sides. Mine usually being grilled veggies of some kind and his being velveeta shells and cheese, baked potato or baked fries. LOL btw- he lost 19lbs in two months eating mac and cheese. Yes, I hate him! :-)
  • Colorscheme
    Colorscheme Posts: 1,179 Member
    edited August 2016
    Im picky and eat completelydifferent from my boyfriend. He cooks his own food, I make my own. No biggie. We also have different food allergies so he can't eat what I eat, I can't eat what he eats.
  • littlechiaseed
    littlechiaseed Posts: 489 Member
    Cook what you want. If he won't eat it he can make his own right?
  • lynn_glenmont
    lynn_glenmont Posts: 10,092 Member
    edited August 2016
    kedrum73 wrote: »
    CattOfTheGarage wrote: »
    Hmm. I won't say I never take others' dislikes into account when I cook, but there's a threshold beyond which it's not reasonable. If you are unable to cook the foods you want to eat because of your partner's pickiness, I do not think that is reasonable. If he wants to be extremely picky then that is his responsibility and I would suggest he should cook for himself. If sometime else is cooking, they get to choose the meal and you suck it up and say thank you. If you want to choose what is served, you volunteer to cook. This is basic manners.

    I completely agree with you! However I don't like dealing with his bitchiness when I cook and he has to make his own :/ it's easier to suck it up and make two different meals

    So he complains if you don't cook for him, and he complains about what you cook when you do cook for him. So you have four choices:
    1) ignore his complaints and do what you want to do
    2) don't share meals with him
    3) go out to eat
    4) dump him

    Thinking that there's something you can do to make things "OK" with someone who finds reasons to complain about everything is delusional.


    ETA: if you seriously want useful responses about what you can cook, it would be massively helpful if you described his pickiness -- what he will and won't eat. People are picky in all kinds of different ways when it comes to food.
  • JoshuaMcAllister
    JoshuaMcAllister Posts: 500 Member
    kedrum73 wrote: »
    Anyone have any healthy recipes for picky eaters? I live with my bf and when I'm trying to eat healthy/stay on a diet it's hard bc he's so picky and won't eat most of what I make and I don't want to have to make 2 meals every night. Help please!?

    Agree with everyone else, if he is not grateful for the meal you have put in front of him, he knows where the kitchen is. Call me progressive but I don't think he has any right to expect a meal on the table just because you are his partner and you live together, certainly not one he will dictate. This ain't the 1950's were the bloke comes home smokes a pipe, sips a beer whilst the woman slaves over the stove haha.

    If I were in your shoes, I would not discuss what you are planning on preparing for dinner.
    I'd cook it, put it in front of him.
    If he doesn't like it due to his pickiness, he can go grab something from the kitchen.
    Box what he didn't eat take it for lunch the following day (can't stand food waste)
    I'm sure before long, he will suck it up be a man and eat what you cook or cater for himself.
  • kedrum73
    kedrum73 Posts: 31 Member
    paigeg150 wrote: »
    I am in the same boat... So we found a compromise. We usually agree on our protein (grilled chicken, ground turkey, fish) and we each make our own sides. Mine usually being grilled veggies of some kind and his being velveeta shells and cheese, baked potato or baked fries. LOL btw- he lost 19lbs in two months eating mac and cheese. Yes, I hate him! :-)

    That does sound like a good compromise! I'll have to run it by him haha. As for the losing 19lbs on Mac n cheese yea I hate him too! Mine is skinny as a rail (fit/muscles not skin n bones) but he eats everything and never gains an ounce!
  • kedrum73
    kedrum73 Posts: 31 Member
    rldeclercq4 wrote: »
    I mean, to what degree is he picky? I think of myself as being really picky too but I've learned how to just pick off and not eat what I don't like when others have prepared a meal for me. If he's too lazy and complains when he has to make his own meal then what he really needs is to grow up and stop acting like a child and act like the adult he is (assuming your not both 14 years old). Sorry if that sounds harsh. A grown adult male should not have to rely on his girlfriend treating him like his mother did when he was a child. And you shouldn't have to put up with it to avoid the whining from him.

    I agree with the above, pick a protein and then let him do his own sides if he's too childish to eat vegetables with his dinner.

    I laughed the whole time reading this lol he's picky as in he doesn't like many vegetables that I like he's picky about fish/seafoods that I like...pretty much he likes anything that's unhealthy and it doesn't help that we work different shifts I work 3rd he works 1st so our eating schedules are off
  • kedrum73
    kedrum73 Posts: 31 Member
    Thank you for all the input it's quite helpful! I'm going to try the choosing a protein and making our own sides it seems like the best idea!!
  • Christine_72
    Christine_72 Posts: 16,049 Member
    Nip this in the bud now, don't put up with anything now that you know will drive you nuts in2-5-10- 20 years time..

    We all put up with more when a relationship is newish and tend to turn a blind eye to things, but that patience and rose coloured glasses soon wears off, trust me :wink:

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