why am I even bothering?

PeachesNcreamgal wrote: »

@marm1962 I am Indian therefore my diet is predominantly vegetarian. i eat eggs almost everyday and chicken once or twice a month. My daily calorie goal is 1530 and I eat anywhere fron 1200-1400 and walk/jog for an hour 5-6 days a week. I eat lunch/dinner comprising of chapati(indian flatbread) with homemade curry and eat a salad of cucumbers and carrots before both meals to fill up. My grouse is I cant stop snacking on wrong foods.

my apologies, I misunderstood and thought you were having weight loss issues. I don't do the wrong/right food thing...I do the better/worse food thing though ie...apple vs potato chips, white potato vs sweet potato, but if I want ice cream or chips or even a cookie or 7 then I have it.

don't be so hard on yourself. weight loss is not a quick thing, except maybe for those first few weeks when all the water weight comes off. give yourself a chance. i've plateaued for the last 3 weeks even though i've been eating right and logging and excercising. i increased my fluid intake (hardly drink during the day) and today i lost 3lbs when i weighed myself.

like the others say if you want it, have it in moderation and log it before you eat it. do you weigh your food? for more calorific foods, like fries, i do.

youve lost a lot already, so be proud of that. just give yourself a break, don't stress about it and it'll happen.

Firstly, don't be so hard on yourself! Weight loss is hard, and staying on an eating plan that doesn't contain unhealthy foods is an impossibility for a lot of people. You've done really well already, you should feel pride!

So for the unhealthy snacking issue, perhaps plan out your shop more effectively. If you don't want to snack on chocolate and chips, replace them on your shop with healthier snacks. It doesn't have to be all veggies and typical diet foods, I'd recommend looking on the recipes section of this site for inspiration. Also drinking water between meals helps to satisfy hunger cravings that lead to snacking. Often my hunger is just boredom so I get a drink and go do something, even if it's just some housework or a craft or some buzzfeed quizzes. Anything really!

As for the guilt and helpless feeling, it will pass. Don't shove a finger down your throat. As a recovered eating disorder case (bulimia then turned into binge eating disorder which led to a whole other range of difficulties) it really isn't worth it. If the feelings of negativity are happening often, have a look into mindfulness. It's simple things to keep the mind active and helps to improve self worth and feelings of happiness within the self. Weight can be a daunting thing, it can make even the strongest of people feel negative about themselves, but the reality of it is, we're all still worth respect and happiness, we deserve it for trying to change ourselves and having goals and pushing ourselves. You are worth more than a number on the scale, so don't fear it.

Finally, have realistic expectations for yourself. Weight doesn't come off quickly without an unnatural and harmful way of life. You are going to have food that is unhealthy unless you are militantly strict with yourself, and even then you will end up caving eventually. If you want chocolate, have it, but try to keep the rest of your food healthy for the day so you stay within your calorie allowance. Losing weight isn't about depriving yourself of everything good in life, but about incorporating it into a healthy lifestyle.

Best of luck to you Peaches! We're all in this together

This weight loss thing requires a life style change with the way you eat your food. Losing weight is work and requires a commitment from you. Dropping weight does not happen over night..it takes weeks, months, and years. One day at a time! You can do this! You just have to want it bad enough.

You bother because you're worth it; because you want something better. That's a good thing.

PeachesNcreamgal wrote: »

With this weight loss *kitten*. I eat clean but end up eating crap everyday
For example, I eat carrot and cucumber before lunch and post lunch end up snacking on chocolates or chips. I am so depressed I want to _____ myself(fill in the blank, I won't go there for fear of ban lol) I will never be thin again. i am just two steps away from sticking a finger down my throat sorry for such a negative post I am really upset. Rant over

One thing that really helped me was making sure I did not have those tempting foods in the house until I could control myself. The first month of my journey I would only eat raspberries if I was feeling I needed something sweet. I even stopped buying snacks for my husband, he likes snack cakes, ice cream etc. Now im able to have those things back in the house after 3 months of not. They don't really phase me at all but I do have my own snacks that I prefer dark chocolate.