Struggling so bad...and losing hope...seeking advice, sugges

Hang in there and don't give up! Surgery is a big shock to your system, so it probably does take some time to readjust. Adding exercise should definitely help, at least to prevent you from gaining. I'm not sure what exactly you're eating, but try to make sure you're sticking to nutrient dense, wholesome, natural foods - fruits, veggies, lean proteins, and really watch the starchy carbs, especially breads, pastas, etc... I've found for me, those things will really slow my weight loss down (probably because I find it really hard to limit portions, but ...). Talk to your doctor again and see what he recommends. Don't lose hope, though - it IS possible to lose weight and keep it off, it just takes a lot of hard work.

Haven't been there but I understand feeling like you just can't do it. you've got to use your want for pregnancy light a fire under that bootie of yours and do it!

Have your all your calorie intake by 4:30 pm… don't eat after that at all.. see if that helps at all.. it worked for me before, I've lost 20 lbs in 6 mos….. now I just can't stop eating. period.

HANG TOUGH!!! I went from 245 to 197 in 18 months. It took me nearly 7 years to find the right combination and regiment that worked for me. I'm stuck at 197, but have 40 lbs to go before I'm out of the "danger" zone.

Let's knuckle down and do this thing!!! : )

Maybe you need to take the pressure off. Don't put such a strict goal on yourself, like I have to lose 40 pounds in 6 months or else...
Just make a change, a permanent one. I realized my biggest mistake during weight loss over the years is eating healthy and exercising and getting some weight off and then soon as I am close the where I want to be, I go back to behaving the same way and lo and behold, here comes the weight gain. I see my friends and coworkers do this all the time. I think whatever diet you do it will have to be one that you can live with for the rest of your life. This isn't a temporary lifestyle change, it has to be a permanent habit to keep the weight off. Start easy and don't be concerned with how much, how fast, as long as you are headed in the right direction and making positive healthy lifestyle changes. Maybe drink more water and less soda, then walk a little more, then eat more fresh fruits and veggies and less fast food (that is my nemesis). Weigh yourself, but don't get upset. We women tend to fluctuate with hormones and whatnot, so just use it as a guide to what you need to do tomorrow. You can do it. Don't say I am going to, say I am doing it right now, this minute! Good Luck!

My best advice....DO NOT GIVE UP.. and don't think of this as a diet.. think of it.. as a life change.. ..

I had to change the way I thought about what I wanted ... I was always thinking.. Diet.. Diet.. Diet.. but its not.. its health health health....


healthier eating.. leads to healthier body.. I also learned to eat every three hours.. I am losing weight more now.. because I am eating every three hours ! It boost the metabolism.. but I'm eating fruits.. proteins.. like fish and chicken.. water.. and honestly eating as little processed and white foods.. like white breads.. white flour like biscuits , no red meat.. or me it works best.. I also made sure I was eating all my calories.. sometimes eating less.. makes the body feel like your starving yourself.... and you wont lose weight.

The other thing was boost up my cardio but to something I like doing.. and I learned to work out with light weights..

I learned changing it up a bit here and there.. is good for the body..

Don't give up.. I have been there more then I can count!!!!!

I am at 217 lbs.. there was a time.. I weigh 302 lbs!

So.. do a little personal research.. daily caloric goals.. , what your eating? are you eating enough.. cardio ing enough?

Good luck to you ... You'll lose the weight you want.. *

Nancy

Hello, hello... don't give up hope!
You're on the right track..
You have the right idea with the frequent meals, the water, the exercise and the calories.
Has your health care provider has ruled out all the usual suspects like thyroid, PCOS, etc?
What kinds of resources are you using, books, internet advice, etc? I liked Jillian Michaels' "Master your metabolism" and the New Rules of Lifting for Women.
There's no quick and easy solution, but there are some tricks...
Two big wild cards are what kind of exercise are you getting and what kind of food are you eating.
I'm not a specialist, but here are some things that really helped me:
The more intense your exercise, the less of it you have to do and the greater effect it will have on your metabolism. Think power, not endurance. Resistance training creates more calorie-burning lean mass, & amps up your metabolic rate. Interval/high intensity training (alternating short bursts of high-intensity with rest instead of steady-state cardio) & plyometrics (jump training) both boost your metabolism -- you train your heart rate recovery, increase your aerobic capacity, and stimulate a growth-hormone boost while revving up your metabolic rate for up to 48 hours.
If you enjoy steady-state cardio, a good time to add it is right after HIT or weight training -- your energy stores will already be depleted so you'll burn calories at a faster rate and burn more fat for energy. Vary your cardio type to keep things interesting and keep your body from adapting, which it's very good at! Over time you burn fewer and fewer calories from the same exercise as your body gets more efficient at it. You need to keep adding new challenges to stimulate your body's adaptive response to grow stronger, fitter, healthier muscles and bones.

For food, the more satiating your food, the steadier your blood sugar. I believe my body functions best with about 1 gram of lean protein per pound of bodyweight. Some people would be shocked by that amount, but it works for me. I eat a giant breakfast and snack throughout the day. I also aim to eat lots of high-fibre foods like berries, veggies, beans and legumes every day.

So that's what I'm doing, and it works for me --

I know it can be really really frustrating. I called my husband in tears at work one day I was so baffled by the immovable scale!!
You can do it!

Take care,

)

Tara

Vary calorie intake day to day working for an average of your target, one big cheat day to keep your metabolism from slowing down. Increase protein, fiber, and healthy fats while lowering starches and carbs.
The scale won't move steadily -- it will start and stop. Beginning a fitness program can cause temporary water weight gain, so don't panic if you work hard and gain weight. Don't just watch the scale -- watch your measurements -- body recomposition is more important than weight loss.