Have you ever felt left out because of your healthy lifestyle?

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  • Alienique
    Alienique Posts: 122 Member
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    I can relate to the sleep > friends one and turning down drinking (not because of caloric/metabolic concerns, but simply because I don't drink), but if anything, getting healthy has made me more friends. You just have to find people who share your interests.
    As someone who is also 21, I know there are a lot of people our age that make a point of living unhealthy lifestyles, and depending on what your life circumstances are, it can be easy to fall in with them; but, I assure you, there are plenty of people who share your healthy ways, too. :smile:
  • stillnot2late
    stillnot2late Posts: 385 Member
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    I can relate to going out to eat and not fitting in. Only because I dont eat anything prepared with milk. Restaurants use milk and butter, and its already cooked so I cant say hold it. and so many items have cheese. I get teased because I'm like that, and they will say "oh it wont kill you". So I go to dinner alone cause I just dont fit in fiddling over menu items and asking questions of how something was prepared!
  • stillnot2late
    stillnot2late Posts: 385 Member
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    Great Scott I thought alcohol slowed your metabolism - Hot dog!!
  • healthy491
    healthy491 Posts: 384 Member
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    I was like that a while ago , but honestly it drove me nuts. Life is too short to miss out on all those things in my opinion.
    Just find a balance. I go out to eat and drink and have fun ,every weekend . I just make up for it during the week.
  • girlinahat
    girlinahat Posts: 2,956 Member
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    When I was younger I used to say ‘yes’ to everything, for fear of missing out. The paranoia of not being part of something, or other people having fun without me was crushing. As I got older, I realised that constantly wanting to be part of something was a drain on me, and ultimately my health, with heavy drinking and late nights taking their toll.

    Learning how and when to say ‘no’ is liberating. It means you are making a choice, and valuing yourself. No one respects you the less for it, as long as you strike a balance. But it’s also about priorities and time management. I run before work, which leaves my evenings free, but then have dance classes twice a week on those evenings, and occasional social dances at weekends.

    I used to go diving most weekends, but now I have swapped diving for dancing, and have a different group of friends, meaning I have even MORE opportunities to socialise with both dancing friends and NDF’s (Non-Dancing Friends). This means I now have to say ‘no’ more often, to different groups of people, but at the same time it is forcing me to say ‘yes’ to social environments I might not previously have considered. I also know from experience that I have to retain one weekend a month where I DON’T commit to loads of stuff, and can use this to regroup.

    I drink less now, because drinking and dancing is messy, and I can have fun with those people on a night until the small hours with nothing stronger than water. I still go out drinking, and enjoying good food, when it suits me.

    I do more active stuff now, I run the occasional race, but I make sure in my schedule I find time for friends, because they are important to me. That’s not about saying ‘yes’ because I’m paranoid about missing out, that’s about saying ‘yes’ when there are things I genuinely want to do. Friends change, your friendship groups change and your priorities change. Health is important, but nothing should come at the exclusivity of friendships (I have the same feeling about relationships).

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