How to stay on track when your SO doesn't want to eat like you.

I guess that would depend on what he wants to eat ... but I agree with the person above eat the same but less and ad some veg or whatever else for you.

I would either make my own food, or adapt the main meal he is having to fit how I wanted to eat.

In my family (there are 5 of us, one is veggie, two are incredibly fussy in different ways, one is allergic to a few things, and then there is greedy old me) it was commonplace to never all eat exactly the same meal, but with some planning ahead we could eat roughly similar meals and still share the social aspect.

What are your boyfriend's specific eating habits?

My OH and I eat mostly the same things but I have more veggies and he has more starch. I'll pass on the bread and the wine most times. He'll have a side salad; I'll have an entree-sized salad. I have more protein and less rice than he does.

When we get an 8 piece pizza, he has 5 slices and I have 3 (and a big salad). He's a foot taller than me and needs more calories.

queenliz99 wrote: »

You can eat what he eats, just eat less. That is what i do at home.

This. You don't need special foods and you cannot expect your man to give up his favourites just for you.....

I usually make mostly the same meal for the two of us, but tweak it a little if I find it necessary, to more comfortably reach my daily goals. For example, I may fry his pork chops, but broil mine. Or, he may have a beef burger on a regular bun, I may have a bunless turkey burger. Other times, I may not really care for what he's having, so I have something totally different. Rarely do I cook two completely seperate meals for us, but one of us may eat leftovers while the other has, say, scrambled eggs or something else easy. Sometimes we both eat the same meal. He has snacks to take for lunch that I generally do not eat; not that I don't like them, but a Swiss Roll doesn't fit into my calorie allowance as nicely as an apple does. Our kitchen has food he prefers, and food that I prefer, so I don't really find myself "tempted."

courtneyallisonatx wrote: »

cwolfman13 wrote: »

How exactly do you eat? Part of the problem is often people think that because they're on a diet everything has to be bland and boring...I make all kinds of deliciousness using primarily whole food/minimally processed food ingredients...like tomorrow night I'm grilling some sirloin steaks that are marinating in some carne asada sauce I whipped up...I'll do baked potatoes and likely roast some asparagus...what's not to love? My wife and I will both eat a healthy meal in portions that are appropriate for us.

Most of our dinners are some kind of grilled meat, poultry, or fish with some kind of starch or grain and a veggie side...usually sauteed or roasted.

My boyfriend is very much addicted to fast food. He also loves carbs, all the time every meal.

Well if it's a fast food issue, then problem solved...you don't have to cook two meals, he can buy his and you can make what you like.

As carbs go, I have carbs with every meal...there's nothing inherently wrong with that...don't buy into the "carbs are the devil" stuff...most of human civilization has subsided on diets consisting largely of carbohydrates for most of our existence.

I would also add that often my wife will skip the carbs with dinner and have double veg while I have my quinoa or baked potato or whatever. I'm the primary cook in my house so everyone eats what I make or they go hungry or otherwise figure it out on their own.

jgnatca wrote: »

Pizza - one slice for you with a side salad.
Burgers - yes. You may skip the mayonnaise and the bacon, and ask for extra veggies. He gets the fries.
Chinese - you get the WarWonTon.
Taco Bell - you got me stumped there. Do they have "salads"? Get the dressings on the side so you can control the amount.
Chicken - peel off the delicious coating. Eat with a side salad.
Subway - skip the sauces, be generous with the veggies.

OP, Taco Bell has many options for making items lighter in calories by doing them "fresco style." That will replace the cheese and sour cream with pico -- depending on the item, this can make a decent difference. Their website has many options to help you customize your meals and meet your calorie goals.

courtneyallisonatx wrote: »

sijomial wrote: »

How to stay on track when your SO doesn't want to eat like you.

By taking personal responsibility for what I eat.

If that means I cook then I cook. If it means we have different portions or different sides it's not a big issue. Or I might have an extra snack - loads of options to cater for different needs.

Do wonder why you have to radically change your diet but your BF doesn't?
Is your diet (noun) so bad you have to change or are you switching to diet (verb) foods?

It's changing because I need to lose weight but he doesn't think he does. He could stand to lose weight, but its not my place to make that decision for him. We used to go out and eat almost every meal, mainly Italian places and pizza. I am trying to have that only once in a while but he is still wanting to eat it all the time.

I don't find pizza or pasta particularly satiating, so only have pizza once a month or so and when I make pasta I have lots of protein and veggies. My OH and I don't live together yet and only eat together 4 days a week so if he wants pizza more often he has it on our off days.

I find it much easier to stay in a calorie deficit when I'm eating at home - can you sell him on this from a saving money standpoint? You still cook Italian but it will be easier for you to consume less calories.