Breakdown :(
KristaCatherine87
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So I just had an emotional breakdown in the drive through at Tim Hortons. My boyfriend wanted something to eat after work (he didn't like the healthy supper I had cooked) so I went with him for a drive and to get out of the house. As we were sitting there I noticed a sign for pumpkin spice muffins; my absolute favourite thing! I was so conflicted I wanted the muffin so bad but knew it was 9:00 at night and did not need this at that hour. I sat in the car crying with my boyfriend trying to comfort me asking if I wanted to just leave. I said I was fine and he could get whatever he wanted. I did my first weigh in today and have lost 7.1 lbs in a week and am overjoyed at what I've accomplished this far. I'm proud for not giving in, but I need to know, does it get easier having to say "no" to your favourite foods?!
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You don't have to say no to your favorite foods... if you are crying over NOT having it, there's a problem - freakin' have one (ONE, or even half of one) Then move on. Count the calories- don't have one EVERY DAY. It'll be fine, really- you'll be happier and so will your boyfriend
& congrats on doing so well so quickly!9 -
Yes, it does get easier, but we all still get tempted, and heck, I give in to that temptation more than I should. Just remember to forgive yourself for being human if you do slip up, rejoice in small victories, and keep pushing forward. Congrats on the 7.1 pounds! That's definitely something to be proud of. Sculptures are not carved in a single day, and neither is your body.
Also remember that you're trying to change your life, not just temporarily change your body. So don't permanently deprive yourself. You can treat yourself occasionally, just not all the time. You can't diet forever and you need to make better daily choices.
Best of luck and keep going strong!1 -
Thanks maybe I'll reward myself with one after I lose a few more lbs! 2
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It gets easier. Your tastes may start to change as well. You can also budget some discretionary calories for this like that you love.
I have to say though. I still wish I could eat like I could when I was overweight
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I personally think it's awesome that you didn't have it. Self-control is super hard and fatiguing. Next time instead of crying, pat yourself on the back Now figure out how to work in some of your favorite foods into your diet. 3
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7 pounds in a week? That's an incredibly high rate of loss to aim for. I would be pretty hangry if I was losing that fast.1
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diannethegeek wrote: »7 pounds in a week? That's an incredibly high rate of loss to aim for. I would be pretty hangry if I was losing that fast.
I didn't aim for 7lbs I just worked hard and it happened lol4 -
arditarose wrote: »I personally think it's awesome that you didn't have it. Self-control is super hard and fatiguing. Next time instead of crying, pat yourself on the back Now figure out how to work in some of your favorite foods into your diet.
I feel better now knowing I didn't have it 3 -
funeraldirector87 wrote: »diannethegeek wrote: »7 pounds in a week? That's an incredibly high rate of loss to aim for. I would be pretty hangry if I was losing that fast.
I didn't aim for 7lbs I just worked hard and it happened lol
If you have a decent amount of weight to lose, and you chose a 2 pound rate of loss and stuck to that deficit (that is you did not get even more aggressive), it's fine. You will drop water weight at first.2 -
sometimes it's not saying 'no', but 'goodbye'
PS ... ok, ... not 'goodbye for ever' if the favorite foods can be managed within your calorie allowance for the day. For me, some have had to be banished to never-land.0 -
arditarose wrote: »funeraldirector87 wrote: »diannethegeek wrote: »7 pounds in a week? That's an incredibly high rate of loss to aim for. I would be pretty hangry if I was losing that fast.
I didn't aim for 7lbs I just worked hard and it happened lol
If you have a decent amount of weight to lose, and you chose a 2 pound rate of loss and stuck to that deficit (that is you did not get even more aggressive), it's fine. You will drop water weight at first.
I do have a lot of weight to lose but chose the 1lb a week option just to give it a try. I'm always under my calories tho. Not that I try to be necessarily but I'm eating such good filling foods I don't be hungry enough to reach the calorie goal4 -
funeraldirector87 wrote: »arditarose wrote: »funeraldirector87 wrote: »diannethegeek wrote: »7 pounds in a week? That's an incredibly high rate of loss to aim for. I would be pretty hangry if I was losing that fast.
I didn't aim for 7lbs I just worked hard and it happened lol
If you have a decent amount of weight to lose, and you chose a 2 pound rate of loss and stuck to that deficit (that is you did not get even more aggressive), it's fine. You will drop water weight at first.
I do have a lot of weight to lose but chose the 1lb a week option just to give it a try. I'm always under my calories tho. Not that I try to be necessarily but I'm eating such good filling foods I don't be hungry enough to reach the calorie goal
That's cool. Testing the waters
By the way, this is kind of an emotional journey. I have cried quite a few times myself. The first time was when I looked in the mirror after 10 pounds lost and thought I looked even WORSE than before I started.1 -
arditarose wrote: »funeraldirector87 wrote: »arditarose wrote: »funeraldirector87 wrote: »diannethegeek wrote: »7 pounds in a week? That's an incredibly high rate of loss to aim for. I would be pretty hangry if I was losing that fast.
I didn't aim for 7lbs I just worked hard and it happened lol
If you have a decent amount of weight to lose, and you chose a 2 pound rate of loss and stuck to that deficit (that is you did not get even more aggressive), it's fine. You will drop water weight at first.
I do have a lot of weight to lose but chose the 1lb a week option just to give it a try. I'm always under my calories tho. Not that I try to be necessarily but I'm eating such good filling foods I don't be hungry enough to reach the calorie goal
That's cool. Testing the waters
By the way, this is kind of an emotional journey. I have cried quite a few times myself. The first time was when I looked in the mirror after 10 pounds lost and thought I looked even WORSE than before I started.
Well this is the first time I've gotten emotional. But I know it won't be the last 0 -
I have had emotional breaks around weight loss. I was playing Wii Fit U with my family all there and they saw what the scale said and I was really uncomfortable about it. I went to the garage and cried alone. I knew I was big, but not that big.
A month or so later, my son told me he didn't think I was fat when I said I was. I was worried his friends might make fun of him for having an out of shape old man. Kids are really good at finding ways to be cruel to one another. He assured me I wasn't fat, but I told him I knew I was and i was doing my best to fix that and it wasn't something for me to be ashamed of. I just needed to work on making things better.
I feel like that more and more, some things are tough, and sometimes I want to indulge a little, and sometimes I indulge a lot when I shouldn't. Sometimes I don't indulge at all. You learn what works for you and where to stop and where to keep going.
It's never easy. The worst days are the ones where I haven't lost in a while (or I've even gained a bit). Those are the days where I really want to emotionally backslide but I have to remind myself to keep going at getting better.1 -
The best time to eat something within reason to celebrate a kick-*kitten* 7.1 lb weight loss is right after the weigh-in. Find the calories on the web site, and plan your celebration, which is to include pumpkin spice muffins (In September? What's this world coming to?) and all the exercise walking divided into the number of days before the next weigh-in.0
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JeromeBarry1 wrote: »The best time to eat something within reason to celebrate a kick-*kitten* 7.1 lb weight loss is right after the weigh-in. Find the calories on the web site, and plan your celebration, which is to include pumpkin spice muffins (In September? What's this world coming to?) and all the exercise walking divided into the number of days before the next weigh-in.
I'm just afraid I'll feel so defeated or that the last week was all for nothing if I give in. I know that's silly buys I feel it's still too early for a treat.0 -
Yes it gets easier. I say what a great win for you!!! Saying no to food that may send you off eating more than your daily limit when your a week in is a great accomplishment. It got easier for me after I figured out how to eat balanced and allow for pizza and potatoes - my weakness/triggers. And it's true I don't wish to eat them as much because all the sodium in pizza makes me retain water for days, something I didn't used to care about but now I notice.1
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funeraldirector87 wrote: »JeromeBarry1 wrote: »The best time to eat something within reason to celebrate a kick-*kitten* 7.1 lb weight loss is right after the weigh-in. Find the calories on the web site, and plan your celebration, which is to include pumpkin spice muffins (In September? What's this world coming to?) and all the exercise walking divided into the number of days before the next weigh-in.
I'm just afraid I'll feel so defeated or that the last week was all for nothing if I give in. I know that's silly buys I feel it's still too early for a treat.
I understand. I don't eat to celebrate weight loss. Rather, at 20 lb intervals of loss I run a 5k. It's time to schedule another.2 -
It does get easier. Good for you for not giving in to hundreds of undesired calories. There were some foods that I completely cut out for a few months, then gradually was able to reintroduce them in limited portions/frequency. There are some foods that after 2 years I still prefer to avoid completely because they are trigger foods. Glad your first week had encouraging results.1
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I use to be excited for "pumpkin spice" anything now I try to avoid it. I hope it gets easier for you.0
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Once you are down to the ideal weight, you can most certainly reintroduce those foods... Once a week or so0
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At 410 calories a muffin if it's something you'd really like, I'd recommend doing it in a healthy way!
Get one, and cut it in half. Put half in a baggie in the freezer, and have the other half for breakfast. Defrost the second half overnight and have it for breakfast the next day 205 cal once a day isn't awful!
Take it from someone who has been on this journey (debatably) way too long.. if you deny yourself the foods that you love long-term, it will impact your goals in the long run.4 -
valerialeek wrote: »Once you are down to the ideal weight, you can most certainly reintroduce those foods... Once a week or so
You don't have to wait that long. She can do it now if she wants.2 -
Why do we reward ourselves with food...we're not dogs lol. Include that muffin in your calories and enjoy it...even if it means eating salad for dinner because of it. If you want a reward, get your nails done or buy a book.0
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Losing weight is a lifestyle change - not a short sprint. If you have a breakdown over not having a muffin, eat the muffin. Feel guilty and savor it. Log it. Trim calories another day if you need to or get in an extra workout in the week to make up for it if you still have guilt.
Then google healthier pumpkin spice muffins you can make at home. It'll not only work on letting you control the calories but also buff up your cooking skills. I skimmed through the results and saw most of them are around 200 calories. You got this. Have your pumpkin spice and eat it too.1 -
Yes, it does get somewhat easier! You find some new favorites as well. And if you go long enough, and try that thing you do "love", you might even realize you don't even like it that much anymore!!! When I'm upset about not having something I really like more than just one impulse... I find a way to make a skinny version, the free websites I found that I like and help me do this a lot are skinnytaste.com and the blogger chocolate covered Katie. You won't believe the pumpkin love craving creations these women have on their sites. Don't cry, get smart and get even. You'll be home baking a pumpkin muffin, healthy style soon and eating it guilt free.1
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Ps. You MUST try the pumpkin spice light dip with green apples on skinny taste especially... I might have to make myself a batch now too.0
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Chilli7777 wrote: »Why do we reward ourselves with food...we're not dogs lol. Include that muffin in your calories and enjoy it...even if it means eating salad for dinner because of it. If you want a reward, get your nails done or buy a book.
You're not supposed to reward dogs with food for the same reasons you're not suppose to reward humans. TBH, I'd rather be a dog who gets rewarded with food than a human who gets a reward I don't want.
OP, I've been there with Tim's muffins. I'm lucky enough to have a husband who is willing to go halvsies or support me on only eating half. Most of the time, I work it into my day. As long as you can stop at one treat, you won't put back on the weight.1
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