I just got dumped

beginforthelasttime16
beginforthelasttime16 Posts: 533 Member
edited December 3 in Motivation and Support
So last night I got the good ol' "it just doesn't feel right" talk and now I only want to eat is chinese food and drink coke.


What do you guys do when you get life altering bad news?

Also, feel free to add me- I'm always looking for support and motivation.
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  • goldthistime
    goldthistime Posts: 3,213 Member
    Not sure if this is what you want to hear, but I'd increase my calories to maintenance right now. I'm not down with being stressed, sick, over tired, sad etc AND hungry.
  • kd_mazur
    kd_mazur Posts: 569 Member
    working out helps me to relieve stress and occupies my mind for a while.
  • BennettVicious
    BennettVicious Posts: 6 Member
    That sound really rough. I'm sorry for you. :(

    I'd say go for a bike ride. You'll feel better afterwards than if you give into your (very understandable) urge to eat and drink comfort foods.
  • beginforthelasttime16
    beginforthelasttime16 Posts: 533 Member
    Thanks guys! I've always either binged or just lost my appetite all together and I want to avoid both of those!
  • Katiebear_81
    Katiebear_81 Posts: 719 Member
    I'd probably do the coke and chinese food, but then set my alarm to get up and go to the gym tomorrow (if that's a thing you do). Mourn the relationship but try not to get completely off track.

    If you think one night of bad food choices might end up derailing you, then I might consider eating other foods to maintenance and try to find something else to occupy your mind and hands. Bike riding, a hobby that you haven't done in a little while, etc.
  • MrsKila
    MrsKila Posts: 320 Member
    Use it as motivation :) I know it's easier said than done. But in the end you win. You don't want to let someone else motivate you to go backwards.
  • RuNaRoUnDaFiEld
    RuNaRoUnDaFiEld Posts: 5,864 Member
    Congratulations on your big weight you dropped :D

    Do some boxing imagining his/her face o:)
  • brialger
    brialger Posts: 41 Member
    Order your Chinese food and Coke for one meal but keep busy. Go to thr gym go to work go hangout with friends and family. Sitting at home and mourning will make you feel worse emotionally and make worse nutrition decisions. I'm sorry for the breakup :/
  • zcb94
    zcb94 Posts: 3,678 Member
    edited September 2016
    I have never broken up, but I personally always go to my Higher Power for comfort and strength/wisdom in the midst of bad news. He then infuses me with the strength and information necessary to make the necessary changes.

    Edit: although it is hard, I then proceed to take care of my body the way I normally would: eat right, sleep well, and exercise consistently if possible.
  • Alluminati
    Alluminati Posts: 6,208 Member
    I lose my appetite and don't eat for days, so I have no advice. Sorry you are going through a sucky time. Just go with grieving and giving in today and get back on track tomorrow.
  • txfyreflye
    txfyreflye Posts: 91 Member
    beginforthelasttime16 wrote: »
    So last night I got the good ol' "it just doesn't feel right" talk and now I only want to eat is chinese food and drink coke.


    What do you guys do when you get life altering bad news?

    Also, feel free to add me- I'm always looking for support and motivation.

    Rejection of any kind can be disheartening. Whether its a relationship or people bullying you or just not being allowed to join in on something.

    Last night I allowed it to get the better of me, too. But hey, at least it was 2 slices of pizza and not four!

    One of the other posters here said to replace the urge to eat with something constructive that keeps you busy. He recommended exercise. Like, get up and take a walk (but not to the local pizza joint lol). Or maybe work on a project?

    I don't know if you believe in God, but I do find myself yacking at Him as well. Not so much a "dear God" prayer as a conversation. But you can also come on here and talk to people as well.

    Oh, for the record? Whomever it was that dumped you? They really messed up methinks. You're an honest person. Such a rarity nowadays!

    Stay strong and stay long :)
  • txfyreflye
    txfyreflye Posts: 91 Member
    LOL Roxie thats great!
  • ElJefeChief
    ElJefeChief Posts: 650 Member
    kd_mazur wrote: »
    working out helps me to relieve stress and occupies my mind for a while.

    That's what I would do. Hit the gym twice as hard.

  • NancyCaz61
    NancyCaz61 Posts: 136 Member
    I'm sorry to hear of your break up :( I honestly think you should do what you think will make you feel better. If that's eating Chinese food and drinking soda, then do it (it's probably what I would do!). If you do, then just have it, own it and move on. You will feel differently today than you will feel tomorrow, and the day after that, etc. Take a step each day to do something good for YOU.
  • Rhumax67
    Rhumax67 Posts: 162 Member
    Paybacks a b*t*h! and the best way to payback is having a wonderful life & being the wonderful person you are!
  • 20pnds_goal
    20pnds_goal Posts: 4 Member
    Don't see it as bad news but mostly like a learning experience and events that make you stronger. Got dumped, their lose. Just go to the gym and make sure that the next time that person sees you, you're sexy asf and that you're doing okay without that person.
  • fostersu
    fostersu Posts: 327 Member
    That's rough, I'm sorry. Even when its for the best it still hurts so much. Forgive yourself the cravings - that'll happen. I liked the suggestion to increase to maintenance for a few days while you settle. Take care of yourself in the best ways - treat if you need to, but know its rest and exercise and nutritious food that will heal you in the long run.
  • BasicGreatGuy
    BasicGreatGuy Posts: 857 Member
    edited September 2016
    When one rejects you in a relationship, it isn't about you (most times) as it is really about the other person. Said rejection should not be internalized in a manner that sees the love given as something that was wrong.

    Rejection does not mean that there is something inherently wrong with you. There is no need to view it as something negative.
  • arditarose
    arditarose Posts: 15,573 Member
    When I broke up with my boyfriend (it was mutual but he brought it up), I went to the bar alone, got drunk on wine, then came home and ate all the food I wanted.
  • bluelilac102
    bluelilac102 Posts: 79 Member
    arditarose wrote: »
    When I broke up with my boyfriend (it was mutual but he brought it up), I went to the bar alone, got drunk on wine, then came home and ate all the food I wanted.

    Hahaha, same. That was me only a mere six or seven months ago. But then we breathe and move on.
  • littlewomensmom
    littlewomensmom Posts: 54 Member
    It doesn't hurt her one bit when you take your pain out on yourself. Treat yourself the way you deserve to be treated. Your value will rise in your own eyes and the eyes of others the more you do. Get into a relationship with someone who is crazy about you!
  • valerialeek
    valerialeek Posts: 65 Member
    Well, me too. After 11 years of marriage. I'm now separated. "I love you but I don't love you that way anymore".
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