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  • cross2bear
    cross2bear Posts: 1,106 Member
    It is true that there is beauty in everyone, regardless of their weight because that is only one dimension of their being. Being comfortable in your current skin, or size or shape is wonderful, but it does not exclude the possibility that you want to change it, to create a different size or shape or weight that you can be equally or even more so happy with. Basically, being overweight and ok with it doesnt preclude the fact that you can want to lose weight.

    And its all relative isnt it? At 290 lbs, you may be the envied size and shape of someone who is 350lbs. They may aspire to be as shapely as you are. Just as you look at those who weigh less than you and are differently shaped.

    Do what makes you happy.
  • zimazoom
    zimazoom Posts: 34 Member
    Get your mind right...and the body will follow.
    Your mind is a very powerful thing and it can move mountains...or lbs!
  • cerise_noir
    cerise_noir Posts: 5,468 Member
    Sara1791 wrote: »
    soyflo84 wrote: »
    I hate the term morbidly obese, people Love throwing it around reguardless of the fact that the BMI is an archaic metrics that wasnt even developed by doctors who know anatomy & physiology and have completely disregarded evolutionary body types according to environments. It's stupid and therefore irrelevant... Shaqule Oniel (butchered that spelling) was "morbidly obese" throughout his entire pro career... bottom line is: you can be healthy a genetically built bigger. Don't feel bad, your working on it. Slow and steady wins the race!

    BMI is a tool. It needs to be used correctly. There are outliers for whom BMI is inaccurate, but those are the exceptions, not the rule. A person with a lot of muscle and low body fat would be an exception. As far as I know OP doesn't fit that description.

    ETA: morbidly obese is a technical descriptor, not a moral judgement. It means that a person is at risk of serious medical issues from being fat.

    This.

    I was once morbidly obese.

    Even though I've lost almost 100lbs, I am still right at the bottom of the obese category. It is what it is, and I am working to improve it.
  • archermfp87
    archermfp87 Posts: 8 Member
    I'm "morbidly obese" and the term doesn't bother me either, other than it being a reminder that my weight may one day impact my health to a dangerous level.

    I follow some body positive Twitter & Instagram accounts and for the most part I am fully on board with body positivity and fat acceptance. But the one issue I can't agree with is the refusal to accept being overweight has health implications. Yes, there are loads of fat people who are healthy and thriving and haven't a single health issue related to their weight, but there aren't many who are 50+ years old, fat, without a single weight related issue. There seems to be some refusal to admit that amongst body positivity advocates and IMO it's actually damaging when it's overlooked/ignored/outright refuted because it tends to play into the message that we should respect fat people when they're healthy and fat, rather than just because respecting people regardless of their size is the right thing to do. But that's a whole different issue really.

    The point is, you need to be happy in yourself no matter what. There's nothing wrong with striving for improvement, whether your idea of improvement is weight loss or a healthier diet or increased fitness or whatever. It's very personal. For me, my improvement is getting down to a weight where I am more physically able to move around without it starting to hurt. My ultimate weight goal isn't thin by any means, I have no desire to be thin, it's not important to *me* to fit into a certain size of clothing or be a certain BMI or meet certain beauty standards/expectations. We all have our different goals and reasons for wanting to meet them. Fat is as beautiful as thin - just aim for what YOU want, not what others influence you into thinking you should be.
  • kshama2001
    kshama2001 Posts: 28,052 Member
    EricaKemp44 wrote: »
    Why is it that I want to lose weight so bad , but I also look at my self and say "you look fine the way you are" I'm 290lbs and 5.7 , everywhere I look I see people saying being plus size is beautiful, but I want to be skinny so bad

    Do you FEEL fine? How are your knees and wind on multiple flights of stairs?

    I started feeling better and sleeping better as soon as I started making better food choices and exercising more. After a while, I became able to go on walks with my mother and brother without slowing them down.

    I have more energy in the afternoon and am more productive at work.

    The lower number on the scale is just one of many benefits.
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