How to be more feminine?

Keep your salty balls as smooth as eggs and you should be good to go.

Seriously? Just be yourself. Everyone will be happier (including YOU) in the long run.

Having broad-shoulders shouldn't be a problem. I suggest wearing more shoulder-revealing feminine clothes such as a halter top, a one-shoulder mini-dress or a strapless sundress to accentuate your lovely shoulders and arms. Go for girly colors in pastel shades.

Keep your hair long and layered to make it more girly.

As for your height, don't worry about it --- wear those stilettos like a supermodel!

And always wear make-up, it's a girl's best friend!

Just be yourself!

You don't have to conform to anybody's idea of femininity, you are a woman, and you define what that means for yourself, rather than letting anyone do it for you. I think femininity is a construct, and sometimes it's a good thing, and it makes people feel empowered and sexy, but often, I think it's just something people (women as well as men!) use to control women - you don't need to let it control you Any member of the opposite sex worth being with will want you as you are.

Psh. I'm such a man. I have an athletic build, don't like talking about emotions, and am sarcastic nearly all the time.

Except I OWN it. This is me, I am. Confident in myself and all that good jazz.

And guys love it. (though I am quite married) I figure it's because they wish they were this awesome too.

First, I just want to say congratulations on your weight loss! You seem to be doing really good there.

Next, just being confident helps a lot. From your picture, you look like a pretty girl. Just be yourself, and you will find the guy that is right for you. If you really feel that you need more help than that, look to your friends who you think are more girly and ask them for some tips.

I have a 15 year old who used to wear baggy clothes, and when she finally started wearing clothes that fit better, we could see that she had a great body, and were going to have to chase all the boys away. She doesn't like a lot of girly things, but she has started wearing more feminine clothes, and even started wearing mascara.

I will definitely keep my eggs smooth - don't you worry!

Thanks for the advice though - I just get fed up with always being the one with the biggest cahones in any room! I'm a lawyer and my colleagues are mostly men. I just know that even when I'm wearing killer heels and a lovely dress, they treat me like one of the lads and when I go out guys never approach me because they're terrified. Sigh. I need to go to America again. I love American guys!

totally know what you mean. I can be over 6ft with shoes on and I am athletic and can't take the whiny baby crap from plp. I have a saying...put your big girl underwear on and deal with it....lol I was never approached by men and I had just come to terms with it. Guys who dont approach you, trust me you dont wanna date!! They are scared for a reason and a scared man is not one worth having. You will find a guy or they guy who can handle all of you and love you the way you are dont give in or change your personality!

It's all about how you see yourself. If you imagine yourself as manly, well you will be. Although I don't have broad shoulders and am the farthest thing from tall, I completely relate to you on the feelings front. More girlfriends is probably your best bet. Find some that you relate to (girls who tend to relate to men more than women are the ones I tend to be really good friends with) but have learned to balance out their strong side with the feminine side. These kind of women will help you feel more girly and you won't be going out with a bunch of guys. I've found that when you go out with men, other men don't go near you. Wear those heels and a short skirt but wear them with complete confidence. There is nothing sexier than a woman who is comfortable in her own skin.

I feel ya. I look around and I feel out of place with other women unless they're women who know me well. I understand feeling more masculine, despite my diminutive stature and being referred to as "cute" even into my 30s.

These things have helped me feel more like a girl and less like "one of the guys".

I've tried to step it up a notch and find a style in fashion that I like, regardless of whether or not it's feminine - as long as I can represent my personality in small ways and learn to enjoy it a little more. I flip through women/girl magazines at the store and look at the ways they dress and try to adopt the parts that I like.

I recently decided I'd start either straightening my hair or using hot rollers if I'm going to be somewhere in public for longer than an hour.

I also put on mascara to achieve that apparent flirty eyelash that makes everyone else so pretty I wear makeup if I'm going to go out on a date or with the girls. But the makeup remains natural looking. I don't do the whole smokey eye and pink cheeks thing. I also wear lipgloss or lipstick every day.