Social struggles
FitLaughLove
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How do you handle people giving you a hard time for trying to eat right? I bring salads for lunch often and always get crap for it.. Sometimes it gets so embarrassing that I have considered bringing unhealthy food.. just so they shut up ha
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You cannot change people. Eat whatever you want and ignore them.6
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yeah, i never understand how others feel they have any right to comment on what others are doing. The horror of you eating healthy! I find that when insecure people have guilt or bad feelings about what they are doing, they will try and bring others down.4
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Maybe your healthy choices are making other people feel defensive about their no-so-healthy choices. But that's their problem, not yours! No way should you sabotage yourself to make other people like you better. That's a middle school mentality. Do your thing and do it proudly. (Don't make a big deal about it. Just go about your business and ignore idiots.)
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Positive changes in your life won't go unnoticed and haters are going to hate trying to bring you down with them. F them! If you’re getting hated on, it’s often because you’re doing something right! Only you lose if you give into their peer pressure.
I sometimes get crap for being a vegetarian & separately for eating healthy. When someone says something like that (which is rude as hell), I pick from the arsenal below depending upon my relationship with them:- Snarky: Yep, eating healthy is a horrible thing to do.
- Truth: I'm sure you don't mean anything by it, but when you say things like that I feel a bit demoralized about my healthy choice.
- Stay positive: You're just jealous of my awesome salad. OR My salad is freaking great! You should try it. You’d be surprised how good it tastes. (A confident answer can make it harder for them to say anything next time.)
- White lie: I like to splurge on dinner so this gives me wiggle room.
- Get them on board: Explain what you're trying to do & that you want their support & help.
- Challenge: I have a personal challenge that I'm trying to complete & I want to see if I can actually follow through with it. OR Invite them to a healthy eating challenge.
You got this!7 -
Are you telling (implicitly or explicitly, doesn't matter) those people that your way of eating is the right way of eating and that the others are eating unhealthy food? Or that you really would have liked to eat something else instead? If so, maybe they are just annoyed.2
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It's their issue! I still go through this at work and I have even thought about looking for a new job where it would just be norm for me. But you have to remember you are doing this for yourself- just smile and go on back to your salad. In the time that I've maintained my loss I've watched others lose and regain weight.3
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Tell them to f*** off?6
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asaber1616 wrote: »How do you handle people giving you a hard time for trying to eat right? I bring salads for lunch often and always get crap for it.. Sometimes it gets so embarrassing that I have considered bringing unhealthy food.. just so they shut up ha
if they give you crap serve it right back at them.
if they serve you crab ... say thank you3 -
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whenever I get comments about my lunch it seems to be about how amazing and colourful it looks compared to their cheese sandwiches in white bread. If they are giving you c*** for it, then ignore it, if not, just tell them what's in it, just for information. You never know, they might start thinking how much more interesting your lunch is.
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I can't comment as you haven't provided much detail0
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I work in IT, so I was the only girl in a room of 20+ boys my age (call center environment for a university), and on top of that I was the only one that didn't order food on Saturdays and instead munched on my carrots and quinoa. They used to call me the rabbit. The best thing you can do is roll your eyes, or if you know them and their sense of humour well enough, hurl an insult back at them. "Ah, yes, I might be a rabbit, but I also won't be dead by the age of forty."0
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It's called jealousy that you are sticking to your goals and they are succumbing to the "convenience " of fast food knowing it's not healthy. I've been dealing with this for years and ignore it. Can't change them.1
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If anyone is so rude as to comment on what I'm eating, I generally just say something like "Well, you know, I plan to live forever, so...did you watch The Bachelor last night?" and change the subject. I'll also use stuff like "Just have to drop to my race weight for a half-marathon next month," or "Need to be able to button up my work pants," or "I really love vegetables," etc etc etc. One reply and a subject change, don't allow it to become a discussion and you won't have to discuss it. I don't believe it's necessary to be impolite in reply unless the comment is extremely OTT.1
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I get the same thing...salad again??? I just tell them I LOVE LOVE LOVE salad. ~truth0
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I've had people comment on my lunches but never in a negative way. If they did I'd just say something like "Why do you care what I eat?" and go on with my day. I don't live my life to please others.2
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What do you mean "I always get crap for it"?
Seriously?
It is possible that you are interpreting commentary as 'giving you crap' when it may be poorly communicated interest?
Food is such a social topic. We all need it, daily. We give it to others. We plan around it.
I think it's natural to be curious about the what/why of what others are eating.1 -
Giving people crap for eating a nutritious lunch is kinda like giving someone crap for not smoking.
Who does that?!?!2 -
Meh, keep eating what you're eating and enjoy it. My colleagues do the same thing but I have learned to just shrug and keep eating.0
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Ignore them. I get the same thing at work and they come sit next to me with their greasy food from the lunch truck and tell me I'm missing out on life..1
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Thanks guys!! All of you had great advice. It really helped a bunch! It's also nice to know that there are people out there who have experienced the same sort of thing!2
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"What's it to you?"
"Maybe you should pay a little more attention to what YOU'RE eating."
"This works for me."
"All mine. None for you."3 -
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Do you like the food you are eating? If so talk about how much you enjoy your lunch, ask what they like about their lunch and then change the topic. Don't use words like junk, crap, unhealthy to talk about food. Talk about flavor, satisfaction, cost... whatever, just focus on the positives.
If you don't like salad bring food you do like. There is a world of nutritious lower calorie lunches that are not salad.
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Most of the time people are like "ew why do you have to be so healthy" and I freeze up and respond with an awkward "haha idk I try". Or they say something like "wow how's that salad" in a sarcastic tone. It just really makes me feel like I'm 2 feet tall. I'm not the confrontational type so I just take it. But I really like the suggestions of using positive comebacks like "you're just jealous of my AWESOME salad" which was mentioned earlier in the thread!1
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Just smile and say, "Don't worry, it's all mine and I'm not sharing!"
Just stick to your goals and do your thing. It's so rude to comment on other people's food. Pretty soon they will see your results and be asking you how to eat.0 -
Get in there first.
Announce your salad and all it's tasty ingredients then turn and say- Josie, you wasting your money at the greasy food truck again, Deb, the same old burger and fries. Don't you ever get bored of eating the same stuff day in day out? I love the variety a salad gives me and the money I am saving for a cruise is a real bonus. Can't wait to get into my bikini.
Cheers, h.4 -
If you like to read at lunch, or listen to music and they gave you crap for that too, would you give in to their demands? People LOVE to worry about what others are doing so much that they usually want to interfere in some way. It ain't there business, so don't let it be.asaber1616 wrote: »How do you handle people giving you a hard time for trying to eat right? I bring salads for lunch often and always get crap for it.. Sometimes it gets so embarrassing that I have considered bringing unhealthy food.. just so they shut up ha
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middlehaitch wrote: »Get in there first.
Announce your salad and all it's tasty ingredients then turn and say- Josie, you wasting your money at the greasy food truck again, Deb, the same old burger and fries. Don't you ever get bored of eating the same stuff day in day out? I love the variety a salad gives me and the money I am saving for a cruise is a real bonus. Can't wait to get into my bikini.
Cheers, h.middlehaitch wrote: »Get in there first.
Announce your salad and all it's tasty ingredients then turn and say- Josie, you wasting your money at the greasy food truck again, Deb, the same old burger and fries. Don't you ever get bored of eating the same stuff day in day out? I love the variety a salad gives me and the money I am saving for a cruise is a real bonus. Can't wait to get into my bikini.
Cheers, h.
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