dealing with your other half who eats like a pig

have you tried telling him how you feel? I'm sure he doesn't really mean it to be hard for you. You just have to stay strong and keep reminding yourself that you are doing this for you and your body. stay healthy!

He may not need to change his habits, but he needs to be supportive of what you are trying to accomplish. And, honestly, that eating is going to catch up with him one day.

And if that doesn't work - telling him how he's affecting your life goals and asking for help - perhaps a different boyfriend...? I'm just sayin'...

I know exactly how you feel, my boyfriend is the same way, but he HAS put on some weight--and it doesn't bother him. While I commend him for being comfortable, its rather frustrating that he eats four course meals when we go out and I'm eating a quarter of the calories he is.

My husband is the same way. Although because of his work, he really does need the calories. But he refuses to eat strictly healthy. He buys twinkies, cookies..me being a stay at home mom I have to stare at it every day and he expects me to make a full course meal each night and it really does make it hard! Like others have said, you've got to just have the will power.

I have the same issue! My hubby, loves his junk food. But a lot of it is your attitude (and mine too) about food. You are feeling like you're depriving yourself because you're not getting to eat what he's eating. We suffer from junk food envy (particularly with the kebab, my mouth waters just thinking about it). My husband will sit and devour a bag of crisps and then go on and eat an entire box of cookies as a "snack" while I'm cooking us a healthy dinner! It's infuriating.

But, you have to look at what you are eating, why you're eating healthier and not worry about his food choices. Savor your wonderful healthy meals. Use lots of herbs and colorful veggies. You deserve to feel healthy, fit, energized and ready to take on the world. You can make it work in your new lifestyle to have a kebab with him once a week. Just plan for it, plan your calories and exercise.

Some suggestions, which others have already mentioned:

1. Explain to him how this makes you feel, and that you want him to support your efforts. That you are getting healthy for yourself, which will make you feel better, and ultimately make you a better partner because you'll just generally feel better. You'd like his support in those efforts.

2. I love the idea of making your meal look pretty! Give HIM the food envy.

3. Look yourself in the mirror every day and remind yourself that you are better than a bag of crisps! You deserve a healthy heart and a life filled with energy. You deserve to be happy and sweets aren't going to make that happen.

4. Focus on you, not on him.

Good luck with it! It's a constant struggle when sharing your life with other people. You have to battle through and just worry about yourself. You can do it!

I can understand being upset because he didn't offer to get you something. That's a little rude. As for eating in front of you, well, that's life. You can't expect his metabolism to slow and appetite to disappear just because you are making changes. Would you really rather he start sneaking around, scarfing snacks when he thinks you aren't looking?

I used to have a problem with it. My wife is able to eat whatever, and she doesn't gain weight. But then again, she runs 3 miles every other day like if it were a walk in the park. I let her do it and not complain. I think to myself, this will make my will power even stronger for whenever I go out to eat, or hang with friends. If you can't deal with it, then talk with him. You can't have a good relationship if you don't communicate. Don't tell him he can't eat; just ask if he could not do it in front of you. Also, your tone of voice and body language, while telling him this, will also matter. You can yell at him and get one reaction, or you can kill him with soft and kind words. Good luck!

Hey. That sounds like it would be difficult! My partner and I have very different mentalities of how to lose weight so I wonder if I give him some of this "junk food" envy.

While he has tried to eliminate anything that is an obvious junk food/convenience store type thing completely he sometimes ends up eating very calorie/fat high foods and meals. I on the other hand will indulge in a popsicle or even a couple of squares of chocolate (as long as I'm eating healthy meals and keeping pretty close to my calorie goals).

For me, a big thing that helps is really evaluating carefully how much I enjoy a specific junk food and how much I need of it to enjoy it. Often, the answer is that lots of things that fall under junk food just aren't worth it because (1) they end up making you feel sick after (2) they are empty calories. For other types of junk, just a little bit will satisfy (but it depends on your personality and will-power whether this approach works for you. I have just come to realize that a lot of times I just think I have learned to crave anything because it is junk without putting much thought into how much I will actually savour that specific food. I am finding I am evaluating it a lot more the way I evaluate other food now!

Don't know if this is helpful but hope it is!

Now that's jerky.

I would talk to him about it. It sounds like he might think he's being funny. Let him know he isn't.

He may not need to change his habits, but he needs to be supportive of what you are trying to accomplish. And, honestly, that eating is going to catch up with him one day.

So, being supportive in this case would mean, what? Umm... changing his habits?

I'm sorry here, I am, but every time I read a thread like this... it...

Everyone here has got to get to the point where they can say no to tempting food. If they do not, food will always be an issue.

What does everyone do, avoid parties and get togethers with friends because food will be there?

This weekend I went to a party. There was a lot of ridiculously wonderful food... that I couldn't really track. Small portions. Didn't load my plate. but ate until I was comfortably full. Skipped on deserts because I was already full and I know that pumpkin cheesecake and flaky, wonderful blueberry pie would definitely put me over.

EDIT: It's really not that bad.

If there was a like button, I would have used it here. Someone needs to be the stronger person.

Its not so much the fact he eats it in front of me, its the fact he practically rubs it in my face. Saying things like "oh this is so good" or "ahh that aint enough for me, I want more" etc. He is as skinny as a rake, never puts on weight despite what he eats.

I couldn't care less if he ate junk all day, all that sugar aint gonna do him no good regardless of whether he's skinny or not, its just the fact he likes to rub it in.

He bought a massive packet of crisps earlier, afterward saying "I'm gonna eat that whole bag" and I'm like "yeah, you do that". He doesn't just eat a lot now and then, he eats all the time, akways rubbing it in.

Its the rubbing in I can't handle, I have willpower and I don't give into temptation but I wish he would stop with his rubbing my face right in it. He might as well rubbed that kebab in my face literally and said "no you aint having any!"

In that case, F 'em. If your home is big enough, go into another room when he starts acting like a punk. Physically remove yourself from his presence. If he doesn't take the hint that you don't want to be around that kind of jerky behavior, then spell it out for him. If that doesn't work, kick him to the curb. There are plenty of other boyfriends out there. There's only one YOU!

I just realized that sometimes my honey REALLLY enjoys his food enough that he makes comments and moans as well!! LOL

When he REALLY likes the cookies, chips, pop, whatever he's eating, I tend to tell him how much I REALLLY love my yogurt and strawberries, or how good I feel eating whatever it is I'm having.

We both LOVE food. Since I've changed my goals, I just now enjoy healthier versions!! And I enjoy eating just as much as I always have. Just now, when I enjoy my food, I know that I'm still losing weight and inches!! How awesome is THAT??