Help!!! Can't find motivation!!!
buxs981
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I'm so tired of yo yo ing!!! I'll log daily for about 2 weeks then give up!! Ugh!! So frustrated with myself!!!
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Why not log what you eat for an entire week not reducing your calories at all. The next week, drop your daily amount by 250 calories per day for the week and see how you feel. Do this week in and week out and you will see success.7
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Why are u yo-yoing? Perhaps depression or? I agree with queenliz99 just take baby steps....1st log what u eat....don't worry about decreasing your calories, then when u have developed the habit of logging then look at decreasing your intake, then after doing that add in exercising.....take small steps to get to an obtainable goal....you can stay motivated, remember why you are doing this....it's for U4
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Queen Liz, alot of it is just lack of.motivation, getting down on myself easily, and giving in to temptation!!! Ugh!!!
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How tired and frustrated are you really? THAT is your motivation. Then develop some good habits and just do it. None of "feel motivated" all the time, or even most of the time. You just decide how badly you want it. You can set your deficit to something small and more manageable, like .5 lb per week. That's only a deficit of 250 calories per day--snack, soda, or dessert. That does not require a huge commitment and huge motivation. Obviously, you'll lose slower, but you might also see more success because it is something you can stick with.5
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I appreciate all of the suggestions and support!! Hopefully I'm at least sick and tired enough that I'm.asking for help, suggestions, and support! I'm not ready to give up!! I can definitely be my own worst enemy!!!3
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Day one of doing .5 lbs loss vs 1lb loss. Gonna try that. Hoping to have the same focus tomorrow!!
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One of the most motivational quote I have seen is "because the next few months will go by no matter if you workout or not." I guess it struck home is how long will I live being mad at myself when I am the one who can make the change. There are so many things out of my control but this is something I can do something about one day at a time.
Things I use to keep me motivated is MFP, I just downloaded an additional workout app for lifting, and commit to some group exercises (a vb league, right now but in the past I have done active MeetUp groups and aerobic classes for a couple of times a week where I have to be accountable and have to show up) Join challenges (or do your own 30 day challenge but post everyday on MFP when you finish) to help keep you accountable. Weight Watches has worked for a lot of people if you need weekly accountability and ideas. I have several family member who it has worked for.
I also use Pinterest. I have a several boards. One for inspirational quotes to keep me going, one for cute cloths that I would love to wear one day, a healthy eating board (separate from everyday recipes so I do not have to look at chocolate chip cookie recipes while looking for healthy options for dinner) and one for workouts (I do not do them all but this girl likes options)
I try to log on everyday even if I cheat and decide not to log my food diary. One I do not want to lose my streek, and second checking in 1st thing in the morning keeps me more accountable. Keeps me from going for the bagle with cc, vs. the greek yogurt. I have even logged what I am going to eat for breakfast which mentally keeps me more accountable for some reason. Have a healthy breakfast or a 10 min workout 1st thing in the morning. You will be less likely to be unaccountable for the day because you will not want to waste your good progress....
Try not to reward yourself with food. Not a good habit to teach yourself. Find something else to motivate you/reward you. Avoid emotional eating, and drink tons of water.
It is not one thing but the small things, small steps, to lead to hopefully "smaller" things for me.. I have a long journey in front of me but how will I ever get there if I do not take the steps... That reminds me I have my challenge to finish for the day and off to bed. Good luck! Add me if you would like. I am always looking for active friends.7 -
Thanks for all your help/suggestions Teacurls! I have been.on.thos journey for years. At one point: I was a weight watchers success. Met my goal, became a lifetime member, and kept it off for over 1yr. It was hard keeping it off as I struggled to find that adjustment to higher points and not gaining. Then, of course, life happened, excuses happened, in and out of depression, and trying to find that stability in life. Now, a business owner, 74 miles around trip to work and back, always tired, no energy when I get home, and just lay around. Yes, absolutely most of this is in my control. I know I had success before and want it back again!2
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update: I logged in everything yesterday and so far today. Also just came back from a 16 minute brisk walk, in between seeing clients!6
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So, maybe this discussion board is the accountability part that I was missing! It's helpful having others checking on me. Especially since I really don't have anyone like that in real life! Ugh! Husband is skinny and can eat whatever he wants without gaining an ounce!! I look at.
pizza and gain 5 lbs!!! So anyways, day 3 of logging! Counting everything. Forcing myself to be more aware of what I eat! Should be another warm day, so hoping to get out and take another walk! Thanks everyone!!7 -
Hang in there, lots of support in this group.
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My problem is excuses. I have a TON of them. I've actually gotten quite good at them (not bragging). I suffer from depression (hereditary) and just had my Dr. up my meds last week. I'm at the heaviest I have ever been right now (almost 400#) and that alone is enough to send me spiraling into an eating frenzy which of course perpetuates the problem (another excuse?). Either way my problem is that I need to get up and get moving. I sit behind a desk all day and then go home and am mentally exhausted. What I need to do is keep my big butt out of my recliner when I get home. Clean, get my bike fixed so I can ride it, walk the dogs, something. It's a matter of just doing it. When the time comes I don't. Ugh...it's an endless cycle!3
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I totally get it ScottinTX!!0
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Looking forward to hearing how your day went.1
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@ScottinTX - I am going to try to take a short walk at lunch today. Ditto on the mentally exhausted post-work.1
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I read a quote a few years that said something along the lines of "Motivation is Fleeting. Discipline is Reliable." The version I have pinned on my Pinterest page has a lot more curse words in it, but you get the gist. It was a huge paradigm shift for me & I realized that I may NEVER really feel motivated to exercise, eat healthy, etc. but I can commit to doing those things anyway. And what I've personally found is that the more I do them, the motivation actually follows...it's like we've gotten it all backwards.
That doesn't mean I don't have days where I still give in to old habits and lack of "feeling unmotivated", but I've slowly built up a set of habits that make these days much less common & less prone to the whim of my "feelings". This way of thinking changed everything for me!!
Here's a great article I found that says it much better than I can:
http://www.wisdomination.com/screw-motivation-what-you-need-is-discipline/
I hope you don't find my post to be brash or insensitive as this is not my intention at all. I wish you all the best in finding what works for you!!6 -
@ScottinTX One of the things I found is that I cannot sit down when I get home from work. If I sit down, I'll never get up. But if I immediately change into workout clothes, I will get my workout in. It's a dumb little trick, but it works every freaking time.5
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The hard part is that some days by the time I get home, I start making dinner right away, then by the time I'm eating it's already 6-7pm! That's when I just so exhausted! Then I'm in bed by 9:45-10pm, just to be up around 6;30am again!0
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The hard part is that some days by the time I get home, I start making dinner right away, then by the time I'm eating it's already 6-7pm! That's when I just so exhausted! Then I'm in bed by 9:45-10pm, just to be up around 6;30am again!
I get to the gym around 6-7 pm, and get home to make dinner around 8. Eat it, go to bed, get up around 5:00 a.m. and do it all again. I saw this on Facebook today, and thought it was really powerful.
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quiksylver296 wrote: »@ScottinTX One of the things I found is that I cannot sit down when I get home from work. If I sit down, I'll never get up. But if I immediately change into workout clothes, I will get my workout in. It's a dumb little trick, but it works every freaking time.
This is how it works for me. If *kitten* hits recliner before feet hit the street, it is over. If feet hit the street before *kitten* hits recliner, it is on. Dinner is in the slow cooker before I head for work in the morning. Or, someone else eating it can make it. Make it a habit, it does get easier, pretty much routine.2 -
So, daily update: actually did really good today! Did 30 mins of moderate walking outside, beautiful day out!! Trying to make better conscious decision of food. Did great all day! Today was one of my ling days at work, so asked hubby if he could make dinner, or I could pick something up. He said he would make it. Pasta with tomato/alfedo cream sauce. Ugh!! Really??? So, I used the scanner, weighed the portions, and only had 1bowl-after first having a big bowl of salad!!! So, overall a success! Still had 100 calories left!3
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My problem is excuses. I have a TON of them. I've actually gotten quite good at them (not bragging). I suffer from depression (hereditary) and just had my Dr. up my meds last week. I'm at the heaviest I have ever been right now (almost 400#) and that alone is enough to send me spiraling into an eating frenzy which of course perpetuates the problem (another excuse?). Either way my problem is that I need to get up and get moving. I sit behind a desk all day and then go home and am mentally exhausted. What I need to do is keep my big butt out of my recliner when I get home. Clean, get my bike fixed so I can ride it, walk the dogs, something. It's a matter of just doing it. When the time comes I don't. Ugh...it's an endless cycle!
I can sympathize. I was good at finding excuses and trying to tell myself I was ok with the weight. When life would get me down, how would I cheer myself up? Yep, hit the buffet and make the problem worse. You just have to man up and decide to do something about it. You WILL feel much better. Taking your dogs walking is an absolutely fantastic idea. It will be good for all of you and they will love it. They also deserve it. Let them help motivate you. I am taking my lab to the hiking trails at a nearby park this weekend and bringing the wife along so we all get some exercise. You CAN do this and it is worth it.2 -
@ScottinTX - I am going to try to take a short walk at lunch today. Ditto on the mentally exhausted post-work.
@Sira125 Did you get your walk in? How far did you go?
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quiksylver296 wrote: »@ScottinTX One of the things I found is that I cannot sit down when I get home from work. If I sit down, I'll never get up. But if I immediately change into workout clothes, I will get my workout in. It's a dumb little trick, but it works every freaking time.
@quiksylver296 Yeah, I totally get that. As soon as I walked in the door yesterday I started cleaning the house (happy wife, happy life). Got through the kitchen and started on the living room. Before I started vacuuming I SAT DOWN to pay attention to my needy dog and didn't get back up. So...today I'm going to take said needy dog(s) for a walk when I get home. Get them taken care of first!1 -
The hard part is that some days by the time I get home, I start making dinner right away, then by the time I'm eating it's already 6-7pm! That's when I just so exhausted! Then I'm in bed by 9:45-10pm, just to be up around 6;30am again!
@buxs981 In addition to what @quiksylver296 said about priorities (I REALLY like that BTW) I truly get it. Between work, kids, wife, sports and everything else life throws at us we have to make our health a priority...when we're ready to. I've known for a long time that for me it's been the excuses and I was okay with that. The reality is that to lose weight you have to put out more than you take in. But just knowing that doesn't do it. You have to commit, which I wasn't ready to do until this week (I say this to you just as much as I'm saying it to myself). One thing I figured out is the same thing I finally realized when I quit smoking all those years ago. No matter how many times I said I was going to quit, and did quit until the next one the reality is that I didn't quit until I I found a reason to and committed. This week (in part thanks to all on this thread) I came to that very realization and have committed.
For example...This morning I got to work at 5AM. 30 minutes ago I realized I was STARVING. So, I headed out to get something to eat. It took TONS of willpower to drive past McDonalds, past Chick-Fil-A (which I LOVE) down to Smoothie King where I got a 510 calorie smoothie. It'll fill me up and life will go on!
I guess the morale of this story is you and I (and anyone else in the same boat) have to make the decision to commit. Then every day it's going to be a reaffirmation of that commitment and one step at at time from there. No more excuses. No more reasons. As Nike said...Just do it!1 -
My problem is excuses. I have a TON of them. I've actually gotten quite good at them (not bragging). I suffer from depression (hereditary) and just had my Dr. up my meds last week. I'm at the heaviest I have ever been right now (almost 400#) and that alone is enough to send me spiraling into an eating frenzy which of course perpetuates the problem (another excuse?). Either way my problem is that I need to get up and get moving. I sit behind a desk all day and then go home and am mentally exhausted. What I need to do is keep my big butt out of my recliner when I get home. Clean, get my bike fixed so I can ride it, walk the dogs, something. It's a matter of just doing it. When the time comes I don't. Ugh...it's an endless cycle!
I can sympathize. I was good at finding excuses and trying to tell myself I was ok with the weight. When life would get me down, how would I cheer myself up? Yep, hit the buffet and make the problem worse. You just have to man up and decide to do something about it. You WILL feel much better. Taking your dogs walking is an absolutely fantastic idea. It will be good for all of you and they will love it. They also deserve it. Let them help motivate you. I am taking my lab to the hiking trails at a nearby park this weekend and bringing the wife along so we all get some exercise. You CAN do this and it is worth it.
@Chadxx I totally need to print this out because you are 100% correct. I like to think that I am strong, but when it comes to willpower (to do AND not to do something) I constantly fail. Thank you for the encouraging words!0 -
So, yesterday's walk: 2 different times for a total of 32 mins. Not bad! Already did a short walk today, too! And have logged my breakfast.2
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