Need to lose 100 + pounds and scared

jls2837
jls2837 Posts: 13 Member
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This number seems so big to me and I'm trying to conquer my fears of doing something new and unfamiliar. Does anyone else feel this way when starting a new lifestyle? I've tried SO many times to get in better shape and have ALWAYS fallen off the wagon. What makes this time different? Fear of the unknown and my lack of confidence has been controlling my life.

I'm 3 days into tracking calories and have been walking a mile everyday since Monday. Will I ever get there?
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  • Donutking2006
    Donutking2006 Posts: 4 Member
    Good luck, work hard and never give up any thing is possible if you every need motivation hmu
  • jls2837
    jls2837 Posts: 13 Member
    health_guard wrote: »
    Good Luck! I'm in the same boat. I have 100 lbs. to lose. It seems like a huge number but have confidence and the motivation to succeed. Breaking it up into mini goals seems to be less overwhelming...Like right now I'm focusing on losing 20lbs with a rough goal to have that accomplished by November/December. For me I need to lose the weight no matter how long it takes, just as long as I get there. Add me as a friend if you would like.

    Good luck to you! We can both get there no matter what it takes!
  • louann_jude
    louann_jude Posts: 307 Member
    I have been there. I was there nine months ago. I weighed 283 the day I started. I came in this forum, logged my food, quit pop, and started losing. I have lost almost 100 pounds. The last two weeks I have been in a plateau, but will break through it.

    Besides logging I kept writing down my feelings and prayers. I would explain to myself why I wanted this. It really helped me out so much. Also I went to the Dr and had blood work done. It helps in case there is an under line condition. I am also in talk therapy. It helps having someone to talk to when your having a bad day or week.
  • louann_jude
    louann_jude Posts: 307 Member
    Add me if you all want.
  • jls2837
    jls2837 Posts: 13 Member
    louann_jude wrote: »
    I have been there. I was there nine months ago. I weighed 283 the day I started. I came in this forum, logged my food, quit pop, and started losing. I have lost almost 100 pounds. The last two weeks I have been in a plateau, but will break through it.

    Besides logging I kept writing down my feelings and prayers. I would explain to myself why I wanted this. It really helped me out so much. Also I went to the Dr and had blood work done. It helps in case there is an under line condition. I am also in talk therapy. It helps having someone to talk to when your having a bad day or week.

    Wow that is amazing!! You should be so proud of yourself!
  • Hmeek22
    Hmeek22 Posts: 15 Member
    I'm there with you I have 80 to go, we didn't put in on overnight so it will take some time to get it off. Stick with it!!
  • trekkiegirl8
    trekkiegirl8 Posts: 32 Member
    I agree about the mini-goals. I'm trying to lose about 40-45. That's the ultimate goal but it's not the immediate focus. I joined a couple of challenges here that are "lose 5 pounds this month" type challenges, so that's how I've broken it up in my mind. It's like, okay, first 5 lbs down, now I just have to do this again and again and again. ;) I think when you set a mini goal that is not so daunting to reach and then you reach it, it motivates you to keep going. Plus, whatever you've done during that time, you know you can do it again and maybe a little bit more. I've also been wearing my Fitbit every day and doing some of those challenges. I find I like being part of challenges that are less about competition and more about just trying to reach a goal. I don't have to be #1 on the list.
  • vnb_208
    vnb_208 Posts: 1,359 Member
    edited October 2016
    I'm also in to loose 100 lbs, I started on August 16,2015 I have lost 25 lbs so far. Food is 90% making sure you stay in your calorie deficit, and exercise is 10% from my experience. I started walking a minimum of 4 miles per day, (fitbit help keep track) as well as eating below 1500 calories and working out 5 days a week at least 30 minutes of cardio usually zumba/kickboxing. I use the 3,2,1(well at least try sometimes i go for 3 snacks, 2meals, 1 shake which ever feels right) rule 3 snacks, 2 shakes, and 1 meal under 500 calories per day. Always look for support/friends so feel free to send a friend request ! you got this no need to be scared ! :D

    *THIS IS NO A DIET CAUSE DIETS ARE FADS IT IS LIFESTYLE CHANGE & WE MUST STICK WITH IT* at least i tell myself this daily Oh and I do not do cheat days if i want something i eat it making sure it fits into my macros, and i log it. I still consume cheeseburgers just wrapped in lettuce and no bacon, extra veggies no mayo.
  • omnisis
    omnisis Posts: 85 Member
    Don't focus on the 100lbs goal, set a mini-goal for yourself. Say down by 10lbs in 5 weeks and enjoy the journey as you cross of those mini-goals. Perhaps put up a piece of paper with your current weight all the way down to your 100lb goal in descending order with 5 lb intervals. Cross off each weight as you hit another 5lbs down that way you can see visually how you are doing. It will take some time and you may have a few setbacks along the way so be mentally prepared for that. It won't be like those "biggest loser" shows, don't even try to compare yourself to those things. Try to focus the fact that you are now making more health conscious decisions that will lead to a longer and healthier life. Seek out ways to spend time with family and friends while participating in healthy activities. Relax, you got this ;-)
  • firef1y72
    firef1y72 Posts: 1,579 Member
    jls2837 wrote: »
    This number seems so big to me and I'm trying to conquer my fears of doing something new and unfamiliar. Does anyone else feel this way when starting a new lifestyle? I've tried SO many times to get in better shape and have ALWAYS fallen off the wagon. What makes this time different? Fear of the unknown and my lack of confidence has been controlling my life.

    I'm 3 days into tracking calories and have been walking a mile everyday since Monday. Will I ever get there?

    I was where you are now a year ago (well actually had 150lb to lose) and it is so daunting to see such a big number of pounds to lose. So set yourself a series of smaller targets, I set myself short, mid and long term goals. A short term goal could be to simply track your food every day for a week, while a mid term goal could be to lose 10% of our bodyweight and a long term could be to lose 25lb. As you pass each goal you can set new ones, some based on actual weight and some on health and before you know it the whole losing weight thing doesn't seem quite so insurmountable. (I'm down 102lb in just under a year and it's only been in the last couple of weeks that I had the courage to put my ultimate goal in to the Fitbit app).
  • notkaseykasem
    notkaseykasem Posts: 136 Member
    Set small goals, they're not as scary. I started in January and am down 79 lbs and can't believe how the time has flown. It's not easy. Every day takes work, but you CAN do it!
  • spngnetwork
    spngnetwork Posts: 41 Member
    jls2837 wrote: »
    This number seems so big to me and I'm trying to conquer my fears of doing something new and unfamiliar. Does anyone else feel this way when starting a new lifestyle? I've tried SO many times to get in better shape and have ALWAYS fallen off the wagon. What makes this time different? Fear of the unknown and my lack of confidence has been controlling my life.

    I'm 3 days into tracking calories and have been walking a mile everyday since Monday. Will I ever get there?

    So much great advice above! Keep at it. I started walking a mile everyday since last week, I've also changed my diet a few weeks prior to that. I've gradually replaced a meal with a protein shake and started drinking a lot more water. I feel different, I don't feel sluggish anymore; and I also look forward to hitting the track everyday. You'll get there, just don't give up :)
  • Richie2shoes
    Richie2shoes Posts: 411 Member
    edited October 2016
    I absolutely understand. It is incredibly daunting when you look at that number! Like others have said, set small goals. I get overwhelmed by all the planning - right now it seems like I think about it all the time - planning meals, planning exercise, etc... I know it will get easier though.

    Feel free to friend me.
  • Spears1354
    Spears1354 Posts: 223 Member
    I don't have as much to lose... 35lbs but at my age it feels like I'm trying to move a mountain it's coming off so slow. But you know what? No matter where you're at, nothing positive is going to happen if we keep the same ol same ol right? We are all on here to be the best we can be. I've felt like giving up for sure but I'm finding out fast that MFP is a great motivator! Make friends and check in... We can all help motivate each other. I'm actually in 3 Challenges this month! Lol! Make it fun! Learn a lot! Feel Better! It's Mind over Matter and you can do this!!!
  • matt_vagner
    matt_vagner Posts: 4 Member
    edited October 2016
    you got it
  • Expat4Life
    Expat4Life Posts: 154 Member
    jls2837 wrote: »
    This number seems so big to me and I'm trying to conquer my fears of doing something new and unfamiliar. Does anyone else feel this way when starting a new lifestyle? I've tried SO many times to get in better shape and have ALWAYS fallen off the wagon. What makes this time different? Fear of the unknown and my lack of confidence has been controlling my life.

    I'm 3 days into tracking calories and have been walking a mile everyday since Monday. Will I ever get there?

    Not only have you got this, you'll be shocked how quickly it goes by. I've lost nearly 60lbs so far with no sign of stopping until I hit my goal of 75lbs. It seems incredibly daunting at first, but just focus on mini-goals (e.g. getting into that next 10 pound bracket of the 60s, then 50s, then 40s, and so on). It you look to the end it seems so far away but focusing on these smaller, achievable goals allows you to focus and crush it! Plus, the community on here is great :smile:
  • besaro
    besaro Posts: 1,858 Member
    totally doable. check out all the success stories. 4 years ago I lost 100 pounds, took me roughly a year. Been maintaining for 3 years now. It really doesn't matter how long it takes as long as you keep after it. When you stumble, you got to come back. Every day, every minute, is an opportunity to right the course. Some days you might not want to, and thats fine too.
  • slimsammyone
    slimsammyone Posts: 2 Member
    You will, as long as you stick to it. You will find it difficult at times, especially if there is an underlying compulsive issue that you don't tackle head on. I needed to get back on meds, bupropion, and even with that I am still better some times than others. Compulsions are a result of trying to cope with real or perceived stresses. That is to say the stress is real whether or not the problem is. I was able to minimize my exposure to the stressors, but we are not always able to do that, and that is where professional help can be the key to success. Don't ever feel bad about seeking medical or psychological help. Good luck. P.S. I don't own a scale. I focus solely on my daily caloric intake.
  • PALMINADALESSANDRO
    PALMINADALESSANDRO Posts: 192 Member
    I ALSO have to lose 100 lbs :)
  • Rusty740
    Rusty740 Posts: 749 Member
    Take it slow. Turtles win the weight loss war, not rabbits ;) The biggest danger is losing confidence that the weight will come off, but guess what, you decide if you stick with it. It's that simple, just because you miss a walk or something, doesn't mean it's over. AND, by the way, you don't even need to walk, just keep logging all you meals and keep to your calorie goal and you WILL do it :smile: !!! It's gonna take some time, but you're gonna get there and it's gonna feel so good!! 5 lbs at a time, and a month at a time, you got this, be patient.
  • s3rend1p1ty
    s3rend1p1ty Posts: 65 Member
    I have a bit less than 100 lbs to lose when I got started. Instead of focusing on the whole number, I broke it down into smaller goals. First goal, 20 then on to 50. When I self talk about only needing to lose 4 more lbs to hit my first goal, then it wasn't overwhelming anymore.
  • avygyaru
    avygyaru Posts: 51 Member
    jls2837 wrote: »
    I've tried SO many times to get in better shape and have ALWAYS fallen off the wagon.

    You and me both but clearly you keep trying and that's really the key. Even if you have a "bad" day, make the next one better. Try to start fresh every week and review weekly. It helps if you have people to help. I have 100 to lose as well (100+ honestly) so if you're looking for another helper, feel free to add me! Just don't let the fear and frustration stop you.

  • jls2837
    jls2837 Posts: 13 Member
    AprilCoe wrote: »
    I lost 105 pounds - it took a year. Give yourself time, don't try to cut calories too drastically and don't rely on exercise to offset a poor diet. You can do it. Lose 10 pounds...do it 9 more times. :smiley:

    I like your way of thinking!!
  • OhMsDiva
    OhMsDiva Posts: 1,073 Member
    I will add in my two cents for what its worth. I was hovering at 500 pounds March 2015. My doctor suggested I try weight loss surgery. I did not give surgery much thought, because I had not tried to lose weight on my own. On my birthday in March of 2015, I finally decided it was time to make a change, I was miserable in every way imaginable. I started with a commercial weight loss program and I was faithful for the first year. In that year I lost 120 lbs. Since then I am learning how to eat regular food, but in moderation. I am continually losing and I really feel this is just my new way of living.
    I never had a weight loss goal and I still don't. I just want to be the best person I can be. I have learned so much about myself on this journey. I do not beat myself up if i had a bad day or a bad week, because I know I am strong enough to get right back to doing what I need to do. And that is just what I do. What I always say is that it takes dedication, motivation, commitment, and planning. Everything else will fall into place. Good luck!

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