Newly broken up :(
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Anyone else? We were together ten months. He was a commitment phobe. We traveled together, I hung out with his family and was even going on a Christmas trip with them--he let them buy me a ticket--and he willingly hung out with my son.
Turns out he "didn't like me like that".
It hurts. Other than the whole couldn't tell me he liked me part we got along splendidly.
Turns out he "didn't like me like that".
It hurts. Other than the whole couldn't tell me he liked me part we got along splendidly.
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I'm sorry to hear you're going through a break up, that's really difficult. I'm going through one too, it's lonely and I hate it.1
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Going through one too... totally sucks.0
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Anyone else? We were together ten months. He was a commitment phobe. We traveled together, I hung out with his family and was even going on a Christmas trip with them--he let them buy me a ticket--and he willingly hung out with my son.
Turns out he "didn't like me like that".
It hurts. Other than the whole couldn't tell me he liked me part we got along splendidly.
I think you were dating my ex! Together a year did everything together with all of our kids (7 total between us) took me to Hawaii for two weeks this summer with his brother and sister. Then told me he decided he needed to work on him and needed to let me go because he wanted to be selfish and it wasn't fair to me...blah, blah, blah. I feel the pain. I allowed myself to trust him and love him. Now he is gone.
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What is up with that? Ugh... Intentions up front my peeps.2
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well that's pretty messed up. All that time and what? He thought you were just friends?0
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Yes, two years in. I thought so highly of him. We got along, hardly argued. We moved in together after a year. A week ago (literally) started like any other day. Until I got home from work and he was gone. Nothing but a letter for me and each of my kids.
Early that week we had talked about marriage. HE said in 4-5 months. Then he was just gone.
I've been absolutely devastated, I keep dreaming of our normal life, I haven't slept well in a week. It's so upsetting and confusing. I feel so betrayed, my hopes and plans are just gone.
I've been reading some really good books, and I started seeing a new therapist.1 -
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I've been there too. We were together for almost 2 years. I became close with his family and he with mine. One evening, we had dinner together and he took me back home. When we got to my house, he stated very matter of factly, that he had decided he was not interested in being a husband and a father.
He had been the one who brought the idea of marriage up (quite early in the relationship) so it really hit me from left field!
Time has gone on and I healed from that train wreck but it was not easy. Be kind to yourself and take time to grieve your loss.
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We teach at the same school. He did tell me pretty early on he had some issues regarding commitment. I knew. We were exclusive, hung out 3-4 times a week, went on several trips together. I gave him lots of space and never pressured. We had so much fun together. But he was never able to say "I really like you" let alone anything with love. He said saying that made him feel trapped. He's not a bad guy, just messed up. But I can't be with someone who can't at the minimum say he likes me. He's 40 so he should have known better. You don't show someone you like them through your actions and then tell them you don't like them. It's a total mind trip for me. Usually it's the other way around- they say they love you but their actions show otherwise.1
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generally if a guy just "poofs" there was or is someone else. Not being mean just telling you from a guys side...cant speak for why a female would do it but suspect the same.10
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Sadly on the same boat. Was in a relationship for 10 months as well.
I knew really early on in the relationship it wouldn't work out though but I would try to "fix" things. I should've gotten out fast but I ended up opening up to him (which is hard for me to do with anyone) so I ended up getting really hurt. It sucks .0 -
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I almost wish mine left for someone else. That's an easier pill to swallow then what I was left with.0
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I have a friend that was in a 11 year relationship and the guy said this...0
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I'm so sad and lonely, I have never been alone before.0
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Get out there again2
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bearbugbear wrote: »I'm so sad and lonely, I have never been alone before.
That's a good thing! it will teach you to enjoy your own company, make your own decisions/mistakes, be selfish and generally get to know yourself better. Figure out what you want out of life and how to get it without having to take anyone else into consideration! Time to focus on you and celebrate !!! do things on your own, travel, meet new friends, be nice to yourself x6
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