Newly broken up :(
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bobfernandes wrote: »I know how it is. My adult life being someone and after 22 years, its over. Not easy and it makes staying motivated to lose weight and get healthier even harder because I'd rather just eat my sorrows away.
I had the opposite. I couldn't eat all last week :-/
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Cutaway_Collar wrote: »bearbugbear wrote: »I'm so sad and lonely, I have never been alone before.
It's been less than a month and I have three children, their father doesn't take them away much. I'm concentrating on creating a calm, healing home life for them. It's really lonely when they go to bed though.rugratz2015 wrote: »bearbugbear wrote: »I'm so sad and lonely, I have never been alone before.
That's a good thing! it will teach you to enjoy your own company, make your own decisions/mistakes, be selfish and generally get to know yourself better. Figure out what you want out of life and how to get it without having to take anyone else into consideration! Time to focus on you and celebrate !!! do things on your own, travel, meet new friends, be nice to yourself x
Thanks, I need to try to enjoy these things but it's so much harder than I expected.2 -
Cutaway_Collar wrote: »bearbugbear wrote: »Cutaway_Collar wrote: »bearbugbear wrote: »I'm so sad and lonely, I have never been alone before.
It's been less than a month and I have three children, their father doesn't take them away much. I'm concentrating on creating a calm, healing home life for them. It's really lonely when they go to bed though.rugratz2015 wrote: »bearbugbear wrote: »I'm so sad and lonely, I have never been alone before.
That's a good thing! it will teach you to enjoy your own company, make your own decisions/mistakes, be selfish and generally get to know yourself better. Figure out what you want out of life and how to get it without having to take anyone else into consideration! Time to focus on you and celebrate !!! do things on your own, travel, meet new friends, be nice to yourself x
Thanks, I need to try to enjoy these things but it's so much harder than I expected.
Sign up for a dating app and text 5 guys concurrently and mislead all of them. You are not looking for anything serious at this moment right? Now is the time to lead ten men on and sit back and enjoy the attention.
I agree you need to be careful about not getting involved too soon with kids in the picture. But there is are plenty of fools on the dating scene looking for hooking up and you can game them at will. Happy hunting
FIFY I just HAD to do that.0 -
Knitting isn't my thing. I hadn't even thought about dating or leading anyone on. I have a certain amount of attention from a couple of kind people but I'd feel far too guilty to lead them on, I really don't want anything serious, no. Hmm...best get googling knitting techniques after all.0
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I agree with @rugratz2015, use this time to just DO YOU. Stay single, in fact actively avoid dating for a while. Get to know yourself outside of a relationship, learn to enjoy your own company and function on your own. Get a babysitter and go out with some girlfriends! The more you sit around and feel sorry for yourself the lonelier you'll feel. And the lonelier you allow yourself to get the more apt you are to go for the wrong guy just to "have someone". You're better than that.0
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Omg that guy is either blind or crazy0
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Cutaway_Collar wrote: »
I'm crushed; absolutely crushed.1 -
My guy didn't disappear or poof as you said. Things were great. We had a few trips planned as far out as December. I felt like I needed to KNOW that he liked me (duh how basic). When he asked he clammed up so I broke it off. Haven't talked to him in 4 weeks.
Sometimes even when you make the right choice it still hurts like hell though.
Also, I went on a few dating sites and it was gross.2 -
Just like a meat market. Guys didn't read my profile. Would send msgs just saying stupid stuff. Plus the guys in my area appear to be bros or rednecks. I joined looking for hope, as in "see there are plenty of others out there" but I cancelled my accounts bc it was more of a bummer.0
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Just like a meat market. Guys didn't read my profile. Would send msgs just saying stupid stuff. Plus the guys in my area appear to be bros or rednecks. I joined looking for hope, as in "see there are plenty of others out there" but I cancelled my accounts bc it was more of a bummer.0
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My guy didn't disappear or poof as you said. Things were great. We had a few trips planned as far out as December. I felt like I needed to KNOW that he liked me (duh how basic). When he asked he clammed up so I broke it off. Haven't talked to him in 4 weeks.
Sometimes even when you make the right choice it still hurts like hell though.
Also, I went on a few dating sites and it was gross.
So YOU broke up with him because he didn't TELL you he liked you? Yet he was attentive, took you on trips, you met his family, they bought you plane tickets to spend a major holiday and you got along just great. Hmmm...sounds like he liked you. I'd be sad too if I blew that one.
edit to include AND he willingly hung out with your son? SMH3 -
Cutaway_Collar wrote: »bearbugbear wrote: »I'm so sad and lonely, I have never been alone before.
She is going through a divorce or separation....0 -
I hadn't taken the knitting comment seriously! But perhaps it will be my next big love0
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My guy didn't disappear or poof as you said. Things were great. We had a few trips planned as far out as December. I felt like I needed to KNOW that he liked me (duh how basic). When he asked he clammed up so I broke it off. Haven't talked to him in 4 weeks.
Sometimes even when you make the right choice it still hurts like hell though.
Also, I went on a few dating sites and it was gross.
Maybe it's my warped way of thinking but I would much rather a guy show me he likes me and not constantly tell me, then tell me all the time and not show any interest. To me, action speaks much louder than words.6 -
Anyone else? We were together ten months. He was a commitment phobe. We traveled together, I hung out with his family and was even going on a Christmas trip with them--he let them buy me a ticket--and he willingly hung out with my son.
Turns out he "didn't like me like that".
It hurts. Other than the whole couldn't tell me he liked me part we got along splendidly.
Eh tough so I feel ya. Fortunately you didn't waste a lot of time and can find someone even better.
All the best.0 -
@j_surita3
Yeah of course the actions speak louder than words, but there never were any words. He said he didn't have those feelings for me, but his actions completely said the opposite which is why it's so confusing and heart breaking.
So would you stay with someone who never told you in almost a year that he liked you? Not even once?0 -
@j_surita3
Yeah of course the actions speak louder than words, but there never were any words. He said he didn't have those feelings for me, but his actions completely said the opposite which is why it's so confusing and heart breaking.
So would you stay with someone who never told you in almost a year that he liked you? Not even once?
In retrospect, no I would not - here is my story:
I was in a 5 year roller coaster relationship with a man who always told me he liked me and all, but that he knew I was "not the one", and I was not looking for anything permanent at that time, so I didn't really mind (I was newly divorced for the second time, no rush to jump back into that cesspool). But it did start to take it's toll, and I could not understand why he wasted his time if I was "not the one". So I finally cut him loose. It was hard. I was a wreck for a while. Then I got over it and moved on.
And then he came back a year later. And he said all the right things and I took him back. And I thought he had gotten past whatever demons he had before. And 18 years and one child later, and 15 years of being more like roommates, he left me. Said he was not happy, that he had felt family pressure to get the perfect wife and kid and home, and it still didn't make him happy. He found someone that worshiped the ground he walked on. And once again I had to get past it. And I did.
So anyone reading this can use it as a PSA, that it's all a crap shoot.
And if you get lonely, come join us in the Singles Hangout here in Chit-Chat, be more than a drive by poster, and have some fun online. Without the meat market online dating crap. There is shameless flirting, bad puns, fun memes, and caring folks that support each other in good and bad times. Oh, and food porn of course.3 -
@j_surita3
Yeah of course the actions speak louder than words, but there never were any words. He said he didn't have those feelings for me, but his actions completely said the opposite which is why it's so confusing and heart breaking.
So would you stay with someone who never told you in almost a year that he liked you? Not even once?
Quite frankly, I probably would not have invested almost an entire year if I felt that strongly about it. I'm not trying to make you feel bad. That's just what I feel. It doesn't mean you're wrong about your decision and how you handled things. You do YOU and what's best for you and don't worry about what strangers on the internet think. Best of luck and much happiness to you.0 -
Just like a meat market. Guys didn't read my profile. Would send msgs just saying stupid stuff. Plus the guys in my area appear to be bros or rednecks. I joined looking for hope, as in "see there are plenty of others out there" but I cancelled my accounts bc it was more of a bummer.
I'm getting divorced after 15 years together. I don't do the bar thing, so at a loss of how to meet people. Ugh.1 -
My mom asked me if I would give my bf a chance. I said no, she said maybe I didn't love him as much as I though. It's not that, I do. I'm absolutely crushed. It's so hard when our lives were so intertwined, we still have financial ties.
But I have to love myself more, and I didn't deserve what he did. I heard from him today. He has regret, he's miserable, I will admit in a small unhealthy way, it gave me a little pleasure to hear.4
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