Why do people do this ?
pinkste78
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Ok, I think everyone thinks I'm starving myself or something. Is 1600 calories for someone who is 5'2 and active not enough or something ? I post what I eat on facebook and my friend tells me I need to eat more. I usually eat a little less so my post says "Candice was under her calorie goal for the day" almost every time. She tells me I'm not eating enough when I go to work. I live with my parents and younger brother, my brother orders pizza all the time with coke, trying to get me to eat it lol. My parents are trying to get me to eat things like chocolate covered almonds from Trader Joes and candy coated roasted peanuts. I think they think I'm depriving myself , which I'm not, I weigh like 203 right now used to be 230 at the beginning of this year. It just seems like everyone's trying to thwart my plans
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Why are you posting what you eat on Facebook?42
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Change can be hard for the people around us. Even positive change.
Your calorie intake sounds fine to me!6 -
alyssa0061 wrote: »Why are you posting what you eat on Facebook?
This is my question. I don't talk about weight loss with anyone outside this board.19 -
Because people's perceptions of how much we actually need to eat are skewed.
There has also been a lot of anorexic awareness done lately and i've found a lot of people think eating less (or even what should be normal portions) is the start of an eating disorder.
Generally, it comes from a genuine place of concern and love - not of sabotage.
If it is really bothering you, perhaps it might be a good idea to stop posting what you're eating/calorie goals on facebook?13 -
If you post it on facebook you are inviting people to share their opinions. If you don't want their opinions stop posting about your food on FB.
Keep in mind that people have all sorts of opinions, and they like to share them. That does not mean that you have to accept them as yours. Nor does it mean you need to be offended if it is different from yours. Some people are just *kitten*. You are not required to have them as FB friends. And if you need to keep them you can always use those wonderful filters to customise a list of people who give you the support you want and let only those people see those posts.13 -
I find the best way to avoid people commenting on what I eat is to stop telling people what I eat.
I have a select few friends on here and elsewhere who are as into the calorie things as much as I am, and we share. Generally though, the people in your life who aren't as invested as you just don't care. When you share with them, they feel like they have to have some sort of response, and sometimes it's a positive one, sometimes not so much. You can't control their response, so the next best is to not give them a chance in the first place.8 -
my fitness pal is set up so my activity is posted on facebook.alyssa0061 wrote: »Why are you posting what you eat on Facebook?
it's in private settings or something like that.
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my fitness pal is set up so my activity is posted on facebook.alyssa0061 wrote: »Why are you posting what you eat on Facebook? it's in private settings or something like that.
Turn it off? You aren't going to change people's way of commenting but you can affect whether or not they have something to comment on in the first place.21 -
ok I want to make my activity on MFP public, so I guess I will have to get used to people trying to feed me XD. I haven't lost any significant weight yet, so I expect it to only get worse as I progress lol.0
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ok I want to make my activity on MFP public, so I guess I will have to get used to people trying to feed me XD. I haven't lost any significant weight yet, so I expect it to only get worse as I progress lol.
Maybe that's your answer? Tell them that since you haven't lost much, clearly eating MORE isn't going to help...!
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Yes, you'll need to get used to it.
I read something today where a person was advised that anyone over the age of 20 should regularly be consuming 2500-3000 calories.
People have NO CLUE about energy balance, or varying calorie requirements for different heights, ages, and activity levels.
You most certainly are not eating too little. Your calorie goal sounds spot on to me. I'm your height and very active, though I am older and am just about at goal weight. That figure is pretty much what I eat to lose weight very very slowly too.
To give you some reassurance, when I was around your weight, my doctor advised me to eat 1500-1800 calories to lose weight.4 -
alyssa0061 wrote: »Why are you posting what you eat on Facebook?
This was my thought too.
1600 sounds fine, most people don't know anything about calories, but going on about what you eat is a good way to get negative comments. I found it much easier to just be subtle about my dieting.4 -
I agree with those saying to turn off the notifications. People have no idea about portion control anymore. 1600 for 5'2" is great. I am the same height and older, and can lose 2lb/week on that, but need to keep active. The reality is in the results. You have lost nearly 30lbs over 9 months. That's a great, safe loss.
Awesome job! (but really, the best way to keep people out of your business is to not share it in the first place)4 -
If you feel the need to share your eating habits with the world then you have to be prepared for them to comment. I would never post that sort of stuff in FB - you're just begging for drama.11
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my fitness pal is set up so my activity is posted on facebook.alyssa0061 wrote: »Why are you posting what you eat on Facebook? it's in private settings or something like that.
Change this. I can't imagine anything more irritating -- to me and to everyone in my FB feed. (Well, some political stuff would be, but I'm luckier than some I know re what my friends talk about on FB.)9 -
my fitness pal is set up so my activity is posted on facebook.alyssa0061 wrote: »Why are you posting what you eat on Facebook? it's in private settings or something like that.
Right, but why? If you don't post it, people can't comment on it.8 -
It will get easier as you go along and have continued success. I'm almost at goal (down 5 dress sizes!) and the other day a coworker tried to tell me what I am doing is wrong. I just looked him straight in the eye and said "you're right. I clearly have no idea what I am doing." That shut him up.9
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ok I want to make my activity on MFP public, so I guess I will have to get used to people trying to feed me XD. I haven't lost any significant weight yet, so I expect it to only get worse as I progress lol.
But why? I still don't understand why auto post your MFP updates to FB and not just leave your feed within MFP and your MFP friends list here?
There is obviously a reason why you have to or need to do this? So, remember its the internet.. Once you post all the details about your life on the internet its free game to the world.
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I agree with the others here ...
The last thing I wanted was to have MFP auto-post my information to Facebook, and I know that the last thing most of my Facebook friends wanted to see was my MFP information. They don't want to see that I ate this and did that and lost 0.4 kg, and so on, every single day.
MFP stuff stays within MFP.
That said, I will occasionally manually type activity (i.e. Had a really nice walk to the beach this evening) and I may occasionally post something about what I ate (i.e. Tried this recipe and it was really good!). And I do like it when friends post their activity ... it's interesting to see what sorts of things my friends are up to. 5 -
ok I want to make my activity on MFP public, so I guess I will have to get used to people trying to feed me XD. I haven't lost any significant weight yet, so I expect it to only get worse as I progress lol.
But why? The only possible upside I see is a sense of external accountability, and you can get that here from your feed. Friend some more people.2 -
27 pounds is significant to me!! And....Love your haircut!!1
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if you listen to what "they" say you will never do anything.
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I suggest turning off the posts going to Facebook. If you feel that you need accountability or feedback, build up a nice group of friends on here and use the forums.1
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Overeating is so normalized by mainstream culture imo that people can't really be blamed for thinking sensible portions are undereating- we have no idea what a reasonable portion looks like anymore, especially in the case of energy dense foods.
Ihave had friends over for dinner and had them insinuate I'm massively undereating and that's why I can't stop losing. Meanwhile I'm logging 3000 a day. Let it lie and stop posting on Facebook about it if her commentary bothers you, it isn't anyone's business but yours what you eat.1 -
Delete Facebook, problem solved. Stop talking about your weight loss goals and meals with other people. Otherwise, don't complain when they do and get used to it.5
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ok I want to make my activity on MFP public, so I guess I will have to get used to people trying to feed me XD. I haven't lost any significant weight yet, so I expect it to only get worse as I progress lol.
If you want your weight loss efforts to be public, you're going to get feedback on them. That's just social media.
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Ok, I think everyone thinks I'm starving myself or something. Is 1600 calories for someone who is 5'2 and active not enough or something ? I post what I eat on facebook and my friend tells me I need to eat more. I usually eat a little less so my post says "Candice was under her calorie goal for the day" almost every time. She tells me I'm not eating enough when I go to work. I live with my parents and younger brother, my brother orders pizza all the time with coke, trying to get me to eat it lol. My parents are trying to get me to eat things like chocolate covered almonds from Trader Joes and candy coated roasted peanuts. I think they think I'm depriving myself , which I'm not, I weigh like 203 right now used to be 230 at the beginning of this year. It just seems like everyone's trying to thwart my plans
I'd argue that 1600 is a little low for an active teen who weighs more than 200 pounds. (I don't know whether you're a teen or young adult, but thought you might be a teen from the comment about living with your parents and brother.) Not crazy low or scary low, but lower than an active teen at that weight needs to go. Even if you're a young adult, 1800 would likely be more appropriate if you're quite active.
That said, you don't need the candy coated nuts, pop or pizza unless *you* are the one who wants them. Like others have said, stop sharing the food diary on Facebook and tell people (nicely) to mind their own business.1 -
People on Facebook and in real life: if you choose to share your dieting details (nothing is wrong with that) you need to understand that people feel entitled to express their opinions about what you made public knowledge. You are going to get at least some negative feedback. Don't take it personally, that desire to express opinion is natural, even if they know nothing about you or what would be an appropriate intake for you. Just smile and nod then continue doing what you are doing.
Close family: they want to feed you because they love you. To them, they find joy in certain foods and want you to experience it. They aren't actively trying to sabotage you. It's actually a naturally ingrained tendency.Thank them for their kindness and continue doing what you are doing.
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My annoyance meter would be pegged out if someone posted everything they ate on stupidfacebook. The politics is bad enough, hence why I rarely log in anymore. I wouldn't comment on someone's eating on FB, but I'd delete them or block their posts on my feed.
Also, 1600 calories is perfectly reasonable.9 -
So people on FB commenting that you don't eat much, reasures you of your diet progress, and in return is some kind of motivation for you..? As long as it works.
There are features on FB to avoid such posts ppl. No need to hate.
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