Why do people do this ?
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27 pounds is significant to me!! And....Love your haircut!!1
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if you listen to what "they" say you will never do anything.
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I suggest turning off the posts going to Facebook. If you feel that you need accountability or feedback, build up a nice group of friends on here and use the forums.1
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Overeating is so normalized by mainstream culture imo that people can't really be blamed for thinking sensible portions are undereating- we have no idea what a reasonable portion looks like anymore, especially in the case of energy dense foods.
Ihave had friends over for dinner and had them insinuate I'm massively undereating and that's why I can't stop losing. Meanwhile I'm logging 3000 a day. Let it lie and stop posting on Facebook about it if her commentary bothers you, it isn't anyone's business but yours what you eat.1 -
Delete Facebook, problem solved. Stop talking about your weight loss goals and meals with other people. Otherwise, don't complain when they do and get used to it.5
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ok I want to make my activity on MFP public, so I guess I will have to get used to people trying to feed me XD. I haven't lost any significant weight yet, so I expect it to only get worse as I progress lol.
If you want your weight loss efforts to be public, you're going to get feedback on them. That's just social media.
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Ok, I think everyone thinks I'm starving myself or something. Is 1600 calories for someone who is 5'2 and active not enough or something ? I post what I eat on facebook and my friend tells me I need to eat more. I usually eat a little less so my post says "Candice was under her calorie goal for the day" almost every time. She tells me I'm not eating enough when I go to work. I live with my parents and younger brother, my brother orders pizza all the time with coke, trying to get me to eat it lol. My parents are trying to get me to eat things like chocolate covered almonds from Trader Joes and candy coated roasted peanuts. I think they think I'm depriving myself , which I'm not, I weigh like 203 right now used to be 230 at the beginning of this year. It just seems like everyone's trying to thwart my plans
I'd argue that 1600 is a little low for an active teen who weighs more than 200 pounds. (I don't know whether you're a teen or young adult, but thought you might be a teen from the comment about living with your parents and brother.) Not crazy low or scary low, but lower than an active teen at that weight needs to go. Even if you're a young adult, 1800 would likely be more appropriate if you're quite active.
That said, you don't need the candy coated nuts, pop or pizza unless *you* are the one who wants them. Like others have said, stop sharing the food diary on Facebook and tell people (nicely) to mind their own business.1 -
People on Facebook and in real life: if you choose to share your dieting details (nothing is wrong with that) you need to understand that people feel entitled to express their opinions about what you made public knowledge. You are going to get at least some negative feedback. Don't take it personally, that desire to express opinion is natural, even if they know nothing about you or what would be an appropriate intake for you. Just smile and nod then continue doing what you are doing.
Close family: they want to feed you because they love you. To them, they find joy in certain foods and want you to experience it. They aren't actively trying to sabotage you. It's actually a naturally ingrained tendency.Thank them for their kindness and continue doing what you are doing.
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My annoyance meter would be pegged out if someone posted everything they ate on stupidfacebook. The politics is bad enough, hence why I rarely log in anymore. I wouldn't comment on someone's eating on FB, but I'd delete them or block their posts on my feed.
Also, 1600 calories is perfectly reasonable.9 -
So people on FB commenting that you don't eat much, reasures you of your diet progress, and in return is some kind of motivation for you..? As long as it works.
There are features on FB to avoid such posts ppl. No need to hate.
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my fitness pal is set up so my activity is posted on facebook.alyssa0061 wrote: »Why are you posting what you eat on Facebook?
it's in private settings or something like that.
so if you're happy to post it to the whole world, you have to put up with the comments.2 -
So many people will knock you when what you need is support. I don't talk about my diet to anyone, because I know that will happen to me too. So I keep my diet here. There's so much help and advise here.1
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Just as much as I don't want to see a mapmyrun update shared every day on FB, I don't want to see a diary close notification from MFP there either. That's what MFP is for.
The odd manual update is fine but a constant stream would annoy me as much as the constant stream of "inspirational" memes in my feed. Keep the cat videos coming though!2 -
ok I want to make my activity on MFP public, so I guess I will have to get used to people trying to feed me XD. I haven't lost any significant weight yet, so I expect it to only get worse as I progress lol.
Fabulous that you've lost almost 30 pounds and are close to "Onederland". You must feel terrific. That is serious dedication. Sorry to hear that your family is trying to undo your progress.0 -
This would be a sure fire way to get yourself deleted if you were on my friend list. Keep it to MFP!6
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applesandtapeline wrote: »So people on FB commenting that you don't eat much, reasures you of your diet progress, and in return is some kind of motivation for you..? As long as it works.
There are features on FB to avoid such posts ppl. No need to hate.
No one is hating... Just stop.1 -
I'm on 1600 and I'm a grownass man of some not inconsiderable height and of enviable taste.2
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The answer is probably that they care about you and you have not communicated your goals or concerns well. Sit down with your family and explain your healthy weight loss plan and what is a healthy weight. Let them know they can eat what they want but you will not be eating as much.
It may be people repeatedly seeing messages on facebook that you are eating under your calorie goal that makes them think you are not eating enough. Turn off the messages or eat to your goal.
Did people really never eat and offer you these foods before you started losing weight? It may be you are over-restricting and just being more sensitive. Fit foods you find tempting in your calorie goal more often.
Don't talk about it if you don't want input.
I made a decision this time not to talk about my weight loss to anyone I knew. I talk about it with anonymous internet strangers. I eat normal food so I don't look like I'm dieting. I don't post on facebook that I lost weight. If someone offers something I just say thank you but I don't want it right now unless I want it and can fit it in my goals. It has been easier not telling people everything.3 -
If you don't want input on something, don't post it on a platform that encourages discussion.
I keep FB and MFP separate for a reason. I don't need well-meaning but ultimately clueless folks I know chastising me for eating fewer calories - so I don't give them the opportunity to do so.1 -
SusanMFindlay wrote: »Ok, I think everyone thinks I'm starving myself or something. Is 1600 calories for someone who is 5'2 and active not enough or something ? I post what I eat on facebook and my friend tells me I need to eat more. I usually eat a little less so my post says "Candice was under her calorie goal for the day" almost every time. She tells me I'm not eating enough when I go to work. I live with my parents and younger brother, my brother orders pizza all the time with coke, trying to get me to eat it lol. My parents are trying to get me to eat things like chocolate covered almonds from Trader Joes and candy coated roasted peanuts. I think they think I'm depriving myself , which I'm not, I weigh like 203 right now used to be 230 at the beginning of this year. It just seems like everyone's trying to thwart my plans
I'd argue that 1600 is a little low for an active teen who weighs more than 200 pounds. (I don't know whether you're a teen or young adult, but thought you might be a teen from the comment about living with your parents and brother.) Not crazy low or scary low, but lower than an active teen at that weight needs to go. Even if you're a young adult, 1800 would likely be more appropriate if you're quite active.
That said, you don't need the candy coated nuts, pop or pizza unless *you* are the one who wants them. Like others have said, stop sharing the food diary on Facebook and tell people (nicely) to mind their own business.
She's not a teen or a young adult. Also, she could probably get away with eating more, but she may also have her goal set to lose 2lbs a week, which is not unhealthy. I do agree that she could probably get away with eating a bit more, but we also don't know what her definition of active is. Does that mean she's on her feet most of the day while also exercising 5-6 days a week? or getting 10k steps daily? or exercising 5 days a week? So a definitive answer for how many calories she should be eating can't really be given. She could have started eating at 1800 calories and wasn't losing at the rate she wanted.0
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