some questions for the mom's out there

I was 32 when I had my son and 35 when I had my daughter...Our wedding was in August 2008 and we were planning on starting right away. I knew I wanted to be done having children by 35, just a personal decision. Anyway, we were hoping to get pregnant in October, then OOPS...found out I was pregnant 2 weeks before our wedding. Can you say "bye bye" all inclusive honeymoon drinking! We planned on trying to get pg with #2 last May/June. My Dr. said "Don't expect it to happen so quickly again..." So we tried a month sooner and BAM! I was pregnant again. Needless to say I'm very fertile.

I am happy that I waited until my 30's to have kids. I had a lot of fun in my 20's...plus built up my career. Now I'm still young enough to play along side my kids. I also like having 3 years between them. Babies are a lot of work and having 2 at the same time would be far too stressful for me! LOL. My 3 year old is so independent now.

Hope that helps!

I was 27 with my first and 29 with my second. My hubby and i were married for almost 3 years when our first was born, and had dated and been engaged for 2 years before that. I think fo us it was perfect timing. we had time to be us before we beacome us plus............................bundle of joy, dirty diapers, puking, no sleep, breast feeding, pumping breast milk, buying amd making formula, no time to shower, screaming kid in the grocery store, doctors appointments-shots included, not going out to a restaurant cuz the kid wont sit without screaming LOVE OF OUR LIVES!! I know thats a lot and may seem that i am complaining but i am not. I am being realistic!!! i love both my kids to death and i would not change having them, i just know that having them was a huge change and want to be open and honest to anyone who asks in your position. it wass the best thing for our lives and the best timing. if we did it sooner i think we would have missed out on some of us and if we waited it wasnt going to happpen cuz i didnt want to be preggers much after 30. also keep in mind the pregnancy itself and the delivery. both for me were absolutely awful for my first and the delivery wasnt too bad for my second. one thing i learned is that i wanted 2 kids and that is it cuz i will never do a pregnancy again, well on purpose i will not tempt the hand of god cuz if i happened to get pregnant id follow it to the birth:) also think about your finances all that stuff is expenseive and so is daycare if you work. we pay as much as our mortgage is every month in daycare. but even after all this is said you will never really be "ready" to have kids. you will be at a time in your life that it is time but you will grow into it!! good luck with your decision and the growth of your family

I was 19 when I had my first. Honestly, I wish I would have given it some more time. If I knew I could wait and have the same children, I would have. But I wasn't married. The discussions you have with your husband should always include what his role is, what his job will be as well as yours, otherwise you are going to have more responsibilities than you ever dreamed could be yours. Many families make the mistake of assuming that mom will adopt the role of mom without discussing what that actually entails.

I had my first at 23. She was born a little over a year after my husband and I were married. I am now 31 and have just had our 5th!
We had wanted to have our kids early so that we could still be young enough to travel and stuff when our kids move out.

I do agreeyou are never ready money wise for kids. my hubby decided to have kids, one we werent getting any younger. he was 30 i was 28. also too, its not like we had money or big plans to travel the world or whatever. so why not start our family? We got married Aug 2009, I found out i was preggo Sept 2009 and had a beauitful baby girl May 2010. I wouldnt change it for the world. my hubby and i arent partiers or real big bar goers. we do liek our dinners out here and there, but my sweet pea is so good in resturants we can all go together.

Plus just to show you, my hubby got laid off two months after i found out i was preggo.. GO FIGURE.. he was laid off until Aug after she was born. SO really life happens. You do what you think is best and dont let anyone else deter you away from what you and your new hubby want!

How old were you when you had your first? 31
How long had you been married (if you were married that is)? 2 years
Do you wish you would have done it sooner/later or do you think it was great timing? I think the timing was PERFECT. I don't think I could have done it earlier. I honestly would have been very frustrated. Why? Because I honestly enjoyed my 20's to the fullest. I traveled extensively, I went to college, got my degrees, like I said, I completely enjoyed my youth (not that I am old). Now that I have a baby I realize how much sacrifice and work goes into having a baby, and I love her dearly but it is a lot of work and had I had her in my 20's, I would not have been happy.
I am very goal oriented and college was one of my top goals. I think had I not completed college I would be very unsatisfied. I am now 32 year old and I no longer feel like I need to go party or hang out in bars because I did all that to the fullest extent in my 20's. I can now dedicate my time and efforts to my daughter and I also have the financial stability to support a child.
Of course, this doesn't mean that everyone feels the same way, this was just my experience.

bundle of joy, dirty diapers, puking, no sleep, breast feeding, pumping breast milk, buying amd making formula, no time to shower, screaming kid in the grocery store, doctors appointments-shots included, not going out to a restaurant cuz the kid wont sit without screaming LOVE OF OUR LIVES!!

Hahaha...so true!!! It's the most difficult yet most rewarding thing ever...to say it's a life change is an understatement .

I think the timing was PERFECT. I don't think I could have done it earlier. I honestly would have been very frustrated. Why? Because I honestly enjoyed my 20's to the fullest. I traveled extensively, I went to college, got my degrees, like I said, I completely enjoyed my youth (not that I am old). Now that I have a baby I realize how much sacrifice and work goes into having a baby, and I love her dearly but it is a lot of work and had I had her in my 20's, I would not have been happy.
I am very goal oriented and college was one of my top goals. I think had I not completed college I would be very unsatisfied. I am now 32 year old and I no longer feel like I need to go party or hang out in bars because I did all that to the fullest extent in my 20's. I can now dedicate my time and efforts to my daughter and I also have the financial stability to support a child.
Of course, this doesn't mean that everyone feels the same way, this was just my experience.

I LOVE this! Exactly! I get a kick out of people saying "I'm glad I had my kids early, now they're gone and I'm still young...I can do whatever I want." I did whatever I wanted when I REALLY WAS young, now I have clarity, stability, and more to give. Of course this was my experience, it really just depends on you and your life goals.

Sorry I'm blowing up your post, it's something I'm passionate about!