What are the most annoying things about being overweight?
MotherShabubu
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For me, they are:
- Getting out of breath while climbing stairs.
- Not being able to walk and hold a conversation at the same time. It's so embarrassing.
- Struggling to bend over, shave my legs, cut my toenails, put socks/shoes on, etc.
- My double chin.
- Looking huge in photos.
- Being essentially ignored by people of the opposite sex. I haven't received male attention in over five years.
- Feeling like I'll have to settle for someone who I'm not attracted to when looking for a husband, because I don't feel attractive myself.
- Having to buy plus-size clothes.
- Constantly adjusting my clothes to make sure they're not clinging to my belly or any other embarrassing area.
- Having to hold a cushion in my lap while sitting so that people don't see my belly sticking out.
- Not fitting comfortably into chairs with arms.
- Those university chairs with attached flip-desks. I can never get the desk down the whole way, as my belly is always in the way.
- Having to wear super-loose clothing all the time, because I'm way too ashamed of my body to wear anything even remotely fitting.
- Having a wardrobe full of black clothes, and a tonne of clothes that haven't fit me in years.
- Being the largest person out of my both my family and my group of friends. I don't have one friend or family member who is as big as I am.
- Being jealous of my petite female friends. I hate the feeling so much.
- Getting out of breath while climbing stairs.
- Not being able to walk and hold a conversation at the same time. It's so embarrassing.
- Struggling to bend over, shave my legs, cut my toenails, put socks/shoes on, etc.
- My double chin.
- Looking huge in photos.
- Being essentially ignored by people of the opposite sex. I haven't received male attention in over five years.
- Feeling like I'll have to settle for someone who I'm not attracted to when looking for a husband, because I don't feel attractive myself.
- Having to buy plus-size clothes.
- Constantly adjusting my clothes to make sure they're not clinging to my belly or any other embarrassing area.
- Having to hold a cushion in my lap while sitting so that people don't see my belly sticking out.
- Not fitting comfortably into chairs with arms.
- Those university chairs with attached flip-desks. I can never get the desk down the whole way, as my belly is always in the way.
- Having to wear super-loose clothing all the time, because I'm way too ashamed of my body to wear anything even remotely fitting.
- Having a wardrobe full of black clothes, and a tonne of clothes that haven't fit me in years.
- Being the largest person out of my both my family and my group of friends. I don't have one friend or family member who is as big as I am.
- Being jealous of my petite female friends. I hate the feeling so much.
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some of my weight has come off but I see pictures of myself and I am 17 lbs heavier than when I got married 11 years ago. Also, having people who are really thin, 30 years younger than I am, talk about overweight and "older" people in front of me.1
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Chub rub. I can't wear skirts without getting raw thighs.7
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I noticed how uncomfy it feels to be overweight. I had 30lb to loose, have lost 15lb and noticed my bra is so much more comfy with out that horrible fat around my middle.
Never give up. I will never be fat again, and this site and my fitbit are helping so much. Keep going!4 -
-Having my belly get in the way when I paint my toenails.
-My dbl chin in pictures, or just looking big overall in pictures.
-Having to wear baggy clothes to hide my rolls.
-Wearing a swimsuit.
-Having a lot of clothes that I can no longer fit into.1 -
(Sorry if some of these are not G rated)
-Not being able to keep up with the kiddos
-Having a hard time getting pregnant and being at an increased risk for miscarriage
-Not wanting to look for a partner or being afraid to talk to the opposite sex afraid of being *kitten* down
-being to heavy to ride a horse so i tell people I'm afraid of them
-making up excuses not to go swimming because I dont like the way i look in a swimsuit or in wet clothes
-not liking the way my arm flab shows in female shirts
-feeling uncomfortable eating in front of others regardless of if its healthy or not... thinking people think i probably eat nonstop because of my weight
-still wearing maternity clothes after i lost my baby and still fitting in them (3 years later)
-hate the way my body looks so wont have sex with the lights on
-haven't actually started woking out at the gym yet because im worried about the stares (been paying for the gym since may)
-people treat you different and talk to you different than other skinnier people without even getting to know you
-hate clothes shopping (not because of the money but because of the fact that cute clothes doesnt rather come in my size or it doesnt fit the same)
-liking someone and not being able to tell them because you dont wanna lose them as a friend but if you weren't classified obese you wouldnt be afraid to tell them
-not being able to run and not have to hold up your pants
-avoiding mirrors
-feeling like your relationships fail becuse the other person doesnt see you as a person just your weight
-not being able to play sports but want to4 -
So many of the annoyances listed are similar to mine.
I'm in my early twenties and got overweight (to now being about 80lbs my ideal/original weight) when I turned a teenager so haven't had any time in my adult lift this far knowing any different. My list includes:
- Hate not being able to keep up with people my own age or seeing much older people out-doing me in physical activities! I know it's not a competition but I feel super embarrassed that I can't atleast match others and am either way slower or so out of breath quickly I need to stop.
- Never feeling like I look good in clothes so I stick to buying and wearing the most hideous baggy clothes possible to stay well covered.
- As already mentioned, I can't stand to look at myself in the mirror ; especially full length ones.
- Knowing I've done this to myself and feeling pure resent.
- No confidence.
- Not sure if this is a weird one, but needing to walk past people in a quiet environment and worrying that people will watch me and just see that I'm fat.
- Being ill all the time. I now have digestive issues which I don't think are helped by being overweight.
- Not being able to or wanting to speak to new people.
- Not wanting to go out and do anything athletic with friends/family though fear they'll judge me for 'wobbling' or getting out of breath.
- Someone else mentioned bras - I just stick to wearing sports bras now because I don't know what size my breasts are anymore and I feel like 'what's the point' of wearing anything nice when I hate what's underneath.
- Stretchmarks!!!! I haven't had any children and because I have terrible ones through being overweight, I'm totally ashamed of them. Which also knocks my confidence in ever wanting to get into a relationship incase the other person finds them repulsive too.
My list could go on and on. Other than when I was little/very young, I don't know what it's like to be a healthy weight or size. I'd like too one day.2 -
I am male, but a lot of points raised here are identical to the way I feel about myself. I am nearly 60 years old (but feel 25 inside), and for me the very worst thing about being overweight is potentially dying far earlier than I would if I were slim.
I have problems with my hip joints that are not helped by my weight, so exercise is not easy for me. For those of you who get breathless, or tire easily, I would recommend starting a daily regime of walking. I started walking to work a month ago, and found it really tough even though it is only just over a mile. However, I have walked every day, even on the days when I had to take the car I went out for a walk in the evening, and I have just returned from a four mile workout that took me 63 minutes. Yes, my heart rate was raised, along with my breathing, but I was not tired, or out of breath. For the first three weeks I had quite a lot of muscle pain during and after my walks, but for the past few days it has not been a problem. On some days I have worn 1kg ankle weights to make me work harder. If you are self-conscious about people looking at you, why not go out for a walk after dark?
If you walk, then the world is your gym. There is no need to drive to the gym, wear different clothes, put up with stares, etc. It only takes a short time, unlike a gym visit, and it does not take much effort to fit in a workout. I have used MFP for 22 days and have lost 9lb so far, clothes that were tight and uncomfortable have become much easier to wear. I feel that it would be stupid to waste my effort by having a snack after returning from a walk, so it helps control my desire to eat. It also lifts my mood, because I feel that I am doing something really positive to assist my weight loss, aside from adopting better eating habits. I guarantee that you will notice a real improvement in your fitness within a month if you walk on a daily basis - why not give it a try?
Is there anywhere locally where you could post an advert asking for a walking buddy, so that you could motivate each other?
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I'm no longer overweight, but I remember everything:
*Being the biggest one in my group of friends
*Noticing that the security bar of rides at amusement parks locked at a spot higher than that of my friends'
*Chub rub, especially in the heat
*Having a harder time doing some yoga poses
*Wearing one piece bathing suits
*Annoying praises on my curves by thinner girls. I was always tempted to say, "Okay... If you want my curves so bad, be obese like me."
*Having to make sure that my size was available when I shopped from online Asian stores
Ugh. I'm so happy obesity is no longer my reality. If you're struggling, stay strong; I promise it's worth it.
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I can relate to some of yours.
They would be - not been able to hold a conversation and walk... everyone always asks when I'm on the phone and walking if I'm running somewhere
Double chin - hate it! I'm majorly aware of it when taking photos.
Hating how I look in photos.
Not been able to buy the clothes I want because I feel I don't have the body for it.
And being jealous of friends - especially when they eat what they want and are so slim!
Been self conscious in a bikini.
I think we all think similar about being overweight, but because we are all here that means we are all trying!
Good luck on your journeys everyone.
I hope you all get to where you want to be
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Not wanting to sit at a booth in a restaurant as I don't fit in most of them. Always asking for a table and chairs instead.1
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OH GOD! I could go on for pages. Right off the top of my head, the main ones would be ...
1. Not being 'wanted' by my spouse.
2. Not being 'wanted' by women - period.
3. Being self-conscious at the pool and beach.
4. Constantly feel like people are mocking me and judging me based on how I look.4 -
1) I look like a beer barrel with limbs and a head. No seriously, I'm 6'2", have a 52" chest, a 54" belly, and no *kitten*. I looked like an old fashion wooden barrel perched on a saw horse.
2) Very self conscious whenever I'm out
3) Finding clothes that fit.
4) Finding backpacks and messenger bags with straps that are long enough to cover my girth.
5) Trying to cram my bulk into places built for people 6 inches shorter and 100 lbs lighter.0 -
ThatUserNameIsAllReadyTaken wrote: »Chub rub. I can't wear skirts without getting raw thighs.
I KNOW! I wear shorts with everything I wear.
Also:
Never feeling sexy
Every time I try to work out I get hurt or have to ice my joints
Feeling like I'm the fattest person in a gym
Rashes in weird places
Everything hurts all the time
Finding out you're too big for a seat
Being worried you'll break furniture
Always looking like slob
Feeling super awkward when your husband and buddies are talking about hot chicks...
Tried to lose weight before my wedding and I cry when I look at my wedding photos
Just that constant feeling that no one finds you attractive, everyone thinks you're gross and lazy, and hating yourself for letting it get this far.3 -
AwkwardSprinkle wrote: »Just that constant feeling that no one finds you attractive, everyone thinks you're gross and lazy, and hating yourself for letting it get this far.
This sums it up for me pretty damn well. But just an FYI, based on what I see in your profile pic, you look beautiful. I'm sure your husband thinks so as well.
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Clothes is my biggest annoyance- nothing fits, or if it does its designed for someone at least 40 years older than myself. I'm 1 to 2 sizes too big for most fashionable clothes shops, so I'm limited to supermarkets and 'fat people shops'. I've got 3 posh events coming up with no ball gown to wear!1
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Having people point and laugh at me when I run.
Not being able to fit into branded sportswear designed for women so have to opt for mens trackpants.
No attention from guys
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inkedShimewaza wrote: »AwkwardSprinkle wrote: »Just that constant feeling that no one finds you attractive, everyone thinks you're gross and lazy, and hating yourself for letting it get this far.
This sums it up for me pretty damn well. But just an FYI, based on what I see in your profile pic, you look beautiful. I'm sure your husband thinks so as well.
SNAP!!0 -
ThatUserNameIsAllReadyTaken wrote: »Chub rub. I can't wear skirts without getting raw thighs.
I have this problem even when I'm not overweight, I have always had thunder thighs
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Being uncomfortable (physically and emotionally) - always feeling my jeans were too tight in the waist (then having that permanent line across my belly), failing at feeling sexy as a result of the belly line, feeling like I was enormous when taking a flight to see family and having my pudge touch the stranger next to me, not fitting into that airplane seat or on a roller coaster, not being able to shop in regular stores when friends want to go shopping, having to shop in "big girl" stores only, going to try on bridesmaids dresses with the party but not being able to get a single dress on, getting an XXXL sweater as a gift because they thought XXL wouldn't fit (they were right), booth seats where the table is bolted down and you get zero wiggle room.
There are "fat" aspects about me that will never go away, no matter how much (safe) weight I lose; I've accepted that's just how my body is. I have what I refer to as "sausage" fingers and toes and my thighs will always rub (now I'm careful about it, wear what works for my body, and avoid chafing).1 -
Having smaller and obvious thinner women complain that they are so fat in front of me. That is so annoying and rude. It's like they are fishing for compliments. I usually say "dang if you are fat then what am I? Super duper morbidly obese extreme?" Then they say "oh you're not fat." But they never understand how stupid they look and sound to me.6
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I have been successful in losing weight on this site--I lost 35 pounds and am working on the last 5. I just wanted to comment for those who worry about being stared at in the gym. Guys, people in gyms aren't really paying very much attention to other people. We're there to work out. I will say that when I notice a heavier person walking the track, or using an elliptical or treadmill, I always give them a mental cheer. Good for them, doing the work! I'd bet anything that most gym goers feel the same way. You might be surprised where some of the regulars started; I bet more can empathize with being fat than you might think.
Good luck, beginners!10 -
How easy it was to put it on and how hard it is to take it off.7
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I agree with pretty much everything that has been mentioned.
The biggest part for me is wanted to feel good in my own skin. I don't actually have a "goal weight". I know how much I need to lose to be at the upper end of the normal range but I figured that I'm just going to take this pound by pound.
I will tell you what I'm excited for: shopping. I can't wait to have a full range of clothing options available to me. I'm tired of shopping plus-size styles. Ugh. I'm 34. I don't want to dress like my 76 year old grandmother.
And about the gym: just go for it! I've been plugging away for about 2 months now and honestly no one is even looking at anyone else. When I'm there I'm either listening to something or catching a show on Netflix. The only time I take notice of anyone else is if the walk directly past me or if someone drops a weight or is talking quite loudly and I can hear them over my own show/music. Otherwise everyone is pretty focused on doing their own thing!1 -
I have been overweight my entire life, and not been below 200lbs since I was 13. I've lost some weight recently, and some of these things are no longer a problem, but it's still so close- they still haunt me. My most annoying things....
The lines around my mouth from my heavy cheeks dragging downward....
Not fitting in my favorite rides at theme parks....
My arms folding over at the elbows....
Seeing fat on my legs seem to move of it's own accord....
Chair arms punching my kidneys every time I tried to sit down in a small chair....
Feeling like a beached whale whenever I lay down....and it being so hard to get up...
No attention from men (I've been in one serious relationship in my whole life, PLUS I'm saving myself for marriage)
My serious boyfriend didn't love me only because I was overweight (so he says)
The look on his face and sound he made when I got in his kayak and it sunk to water level made me never want to get in a boat again....
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1. Chub rub which makes my inner thighs dark
2. Shaving ! Especially the kitty, it's a WORKOUT! I have to take 2-3 days to get it the way I like it.
3. Taking pictures
4. Having to overthink every single meal0 -
I forgot to mention excessive sweating.0
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1. Not finding anything at all that looks good for a night out!
2. Feeling depressed about my body as I went from being a healthy weight to an unhealthy weight so quickly.
3. Not being able to really enjoy myself as I am constantly uncomfortable in my own body.
4. Not letting my husband look at me naked anymore cause I know my body has changed so much since we started going out.
5. being to nervous to go to the gym in case of judgement.
There are so many reasons, I just want to feel comfortable again. Hopefully my fitness pal will help me get to where I want to be!! 0 -
The only really annoying thing about obesity, for me, was that it kept me from being able to ride the Texas Giant at Six Flags.0
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A few things come to mind.
- sweating/winded..like ALOT specially while doing low task activities
- extreamly hard to find the perfect pair of jeans & they have to be long
- I haven't seen my lady bits without a mirror in ages. Embarrassing 101
- Getting off a couch/floor or low chair, forget about it. (Calls for help)
- When you fall, you fall hard. Don't you dare freaking trip, big people & the ground are not friends..
- My knees constantly ache
- Belly freaking flab UGH
- Chicken cutlet arm flab, if I flap real hard I bet I can get some air time
I'm slowly loosing weight so my issues are slowly resolving themselves. Started at 268 now 2462
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