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Bariatric surger the only option
Okohme
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I made a lot of headway in dieting and exercising and almost stopped when I first read the 95% stat. You know what I mean.
So, not to beat a dead horse but here's this topic again, sort of.
I've done a lot of reading on the issue of metabolic damage and one of the things that really stood out to me was the whole "The NIH recognized bariatric (weight-loss) surgery as the only effective treatment to combat severe obesity and maintain weight loss in the long term."
I've seen that reiterated in a number of ways, sometimes omitting the portion about sever obesity. Is it just me, or does it seem somewhat suspect that the ONLY recognized method is a dangerous, invasive surgery? I'm not saying it doesn't work, I know people for whom it HAS worked. But the ONLY method......?
So, not to beat a dead horse but here's this topic again, sort of.
I've done a lot of reading on the issue of metabolic damage and one of the things that really stood out to me was the whole "The NIH recognized bariatric (weight-loss) surgery as the only effective treatment to combat severe obesity and maintain weight loss in the long term."
I've seen that reiterated in a number of ways, sometimes omitting the portion about sever obesity. Is it just me, or does it seem somewhat suspect that the ONLY recognized method is a dangerous, invasive surgery? I'm not saying it doesn't work, I know people for whom it HAS worked. But the ONLY method......?
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Don't ask a hairdresser if you need a haircut?12
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What is the first 95% stat?
So a girl was told when she was 12 that surgery was the only way for her. when she went in to get it as an adult the doctor totally supported her and let her know she could do it "naturally". Let me just see if I can find....
the body actually adapts really well. It's like a (flawed) computer. So yes that seems suspect. And I think a lot more people are keeping it off lately. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7xoly324FG4
She is planning on getting loose skin surgery.9 -
You still have to diet after those surgeries, but I'm sure you knew that.11
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I know several people who had bariatric surgery. They all gained the weight back. The surgery reduces the size of your stomach and limits the amount of food your stomach can hold at once, which naturally forces you to eat less. You still have to learn effective habits because you can stretch it back out, meaning you wasted all that money and time for nothing.
All weight loss, surgical or otherwise, relies on continuing positive habits after the extra weight is gone. You can take the time to learn them as you lose or you can be forced into a situation where you have to learn them immediately. The conversations I have had with those who gained it all back showed that they didn't take time to fix the mental part of it and that when they lost the weight the second time they made sure to fix how they saw things and approached food the second time around.14 -
DisruptedMatrix wrote: »What is the first 95% stat?
That 95% of people who lose weight gain it back, if not more.1 -
You can lose weight in a way to minimize metabolic damage and work to reverse any such damage afterwards. More significantly, there are lots of things you can do to increase TDEE even if you have some metabolic reduction, like just being more active. Concern about metabolic damage shouldn't keep someone who is overweight or obese from losing weight.7
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I figure if one person has lost it and kept it off, it's possible.
This site is full of people who have done just that.
Read the Success Stories forum here, not fear-mongering media stories.
Who cares what the 95 do? I only care about what I do.
I went from morbid obesity to 22.5 BMI. I lost the weight in 2007. Yes, I've gained and lost that last ten to fifteen pounds during a few of the long NW winters since, but I've always lost it again before it got worse than that, and I've stayed within my healthy BMI.
Is it easy? Not really. It is possible.
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DisruptedMatrix wrote: »What is the first 95% stat?
That 95% of people who lose weight gain it back, if not more.
That state came from a low protein diet study in 1959. The stat is still high at 80, and that's because people tend to give up on the eating habits that caused the weight loss in the first place.4 -
Maybe I am hopelessly optimistic but I believe NO ONE needs surgery to lose weight. Eat at a modest deficit and you WILL lose weight. Note I stated MODEST deficit. This will make weight loss a bit slower, but will avoid any ill effects such as metabolism issues.
The 95% stat you mention is true, and not true. It is true those who "diet" will gain the weight back. Those who modify their lifestyle WILL NOT. It is all about how and why you lose weight that determines the long term outcome. If you crash diet and focus on rapid weight loss you will likely put it right back on. If you focus on changing your lifestyle to include good eating habits, caloric monitoring, along with increased physical activity (exercise), you likely will not put the weight back on.13 -
MissusMoon wrote: »DisruptedMatrix wrote: »What is the first 95% stat?
That 95% of people who lose weight gain it back, if not more.
That state came from a low protein diet study in 1959. The stat is still high at 80, and that's because people tend to give up on the eating habits that caused the weight loss in the first place.
Not only that, did the participants in that 1959 study not also return to their prior eating habits? It's really not surprising that you'll regain the weight if you do that.
Here's the study to support the 80% finding.
http://ajcn.nutrition.org/content/82/1/222S.short5 -
I know several people who had bariatric surgery. They all gained the weight back. The surgery reduces the size of your stomach and limits the amount of food your stomach can hold at once, which naturally forces you to eat less. You still have to learn effective habits because you can stretch it back out, meaning you wasted all that money and time for nothing.
All weight loss, surgical or otherwise, relies on continuing positive habits after the extra weight is gone. You can take the time to learn them as you lose or you can be forced into a situation where you have to learn them immediately. The conversations I have had with those who gained it all back showed that they didn't take time to fix the mental part of it and that when they lost the weight the second time they made sure to fix how they saw things and approached food the second time around.
I know three people who had the surgery. Only one has been successful at maintaining her loss.
She's the only one who from the start acknowledged that she had to make sweeping changing to her whole lifestyle and relationship with food and worked hard to do just that.
The other two started looking for ways to game the whole thing as soon as they could. They were just looking for a quick fix and never acknowledged the part they played in their problem.7 -
I am a bariatric surgery success story. I weighed the options and this was my best shot. There is more than stomach reduction going on. Ghrelin is reduced. Some T2 diabetics go in to remission immediately after surgery. I did.
Yes, I still must make wise choices. Since my portion sizes are limited, I choose protein first. And I work at staying hydrated throughout the day.17 -
To say its the only way is absolute rubbish.
I have been morbidly obese since childhood, have never seen myself at a healthy weight except for pictures from when I was 5 years old. (I'm 34 now)
Over the past 2.5 years I've lost 141 pounds by eating less and moving more, no surgery.
Have not gained one single pound of that back and am now maintaining my loss while eating 400 calories more per day than when I was losing.
It can absolutely be done without surgery.
There is no possible way I can regain the weight unless I eat too much food. I have complete control over my weight plain and simple. 990 days logged and will log for the rest of my life.
Most people hit their goal weight and then think they are done. Go back to their old eating habits and stop caring as much until the scale starts to creep back up. That is a sure fire way to become one of those statistics!24 -
I'm a 68 yo who was overweight from my late 20s. I lost and regained many times.
in 2012 When I got up to 376# I considered WLS but was afraid of it and the aftermath.
I joined WW Jan 2013 and have lost -145#. I have changed my lifestyle and know I can live this way the rest of my life. I'm still losing (slowly) and have not gained back any weight during the past four years.
IT CAN BE DONE but it's not easy. I agree with @JoeCWV and @ElvenToad and their POV.23 -
Jimb376mfp wrote: »I'm a 68 yo who was overweight from my late 20s. I lost and regained many times.
in 2012 When I got up to 376# I considered WLS but was afraid of it and the aftermath.
I joined WW Jan 2013 and have lost -145#. I have changed my lifestyle and know I can live this way the rest of my life. I'm still losing (slowly) and have not gained back any weight during the past four years.
IT CAN BE DONE but it's not easy. I agree with @JoeCWV and @ElvenToad and their POV.
Totally brilliant :flowerforyou:1 -
GottaBurnEmAll wrote: »I know several people who had bariatric surgery. They all gained the weight back. The surgery reduces the size of your stomach and limits the amount of food your stomach can hold at once, which naturally forces you to eat less. You still have to learn effective habits because you can stretch it back out, meaning you wasted all that money and time for nothing.
All weight loss, surgical or otherwise, relies on continuing positive habits after the extra weight is gone. You can take the time to learn them as you lose or you can be forced into a situation where you have to learn them immediately. The conversations I have had with those who gained it all back showed that they didn't take time to fix the mental part of it and that when they lost the weight the second time they made sure to fix how they saw things and approached food the second time around.
I know three people who had the surgery. Only one has been successful at maintaining her loss.
She's the only one who from the start acknowledged that she had to make sweeping changing to her whole lifestyle and relationship with food and worked hard to do just that.
The other two started looking for ways to game the whole thing as soon as they could. They were just looking for a quick fix and never acknowledged the part they played in their problem.
Similar story here. I know four people who've had it done (various types of procedures). It's been about 3 yrs since the most recent one I know about and none have kept it off.
One ended up back in the hospital with systemic organ failure. He recovered and is mostly back to normal, health-wise. The best explanation the doctors were able to come up with was a combination of malnutrition and a low-grade infection from surgery that turned into much more as the months passed. This guy either did not get any advice on how to eat after surgery or he threw it all out the window from day one. Hard to tell.
Two went the more common route of losing about 60-70% of what they needed to get to a healthy weight and then started putting it back on when their stomach stretched back out and they weren't so careful about their diets anymore, although they will tell you they are still eating the way they were. It is obvious that both are now eating much more volume at a sitting than they were even remotely capable of months after surgery. We're talking at least 3x more - which is why the weight creeps back on. One of these two was just prescribed a doctor-recommended VLCD because his weight is starting to cause heart issues.
The fourth went the route of losing everything he wanted to lose, and gaining every bit of it back. This guy used to be an athlete. More than a hobbyist, but not a pro. A bicyclist and very lean and muscled - the last person you would have thought would have 1) gained enough to be morbidly obese, 2) had surgery to lose it given he knew how to lose that weight already, and 3) gain it all back again. Then, although we didn't know this at the time, he decided to do something about the fact he was unhappy with his marriage and ready for a change. Guess what - now that he had plenty of motivation, he dieted and exercised the way he already knew how to do and was down to healthy and well muscled again pretty quickly. Then he divorced his wife, who had stuck with him through the whole mess for a younger woman. :headdesk:2 -
You still need a calorie deficit after the surgery. Without a change in mentality and behaviour the surgery is pointless.8
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You are correct it is not the only way to lose weight and keep it off. I think that it probably comes down to how often it occurs though. Please also keep in mind it is specifically saying severe obesity. I think everything should be looked at in context. Your statement "The NIH recognized bariatric (weight-loss) surgery as the only effective treatment to combat severe obesity and maintain weight loss in the long term." is stemming from some very specific studies, but of course most weight loss places and practitioners leave that part out. There is also a ton of anecdotal evidence that we all have, hence the I knew someone who....(insert did/did not) I would like to know more about what context that original statement is being made in and the details around the studies before forming my opinion about that statement. Its possible that traditional methods of WL for severely obese fail at such a high rate that it is deemed ineffective. Not because it doesn't actually work but because so few are successful with it. That of course comes down to personal accountability which is a whole other debate. You also mention the health risks of surgery which are very valid. However, its possible that in cases where surgery is truly warranted other health risks outweigh those. Surgery is definitely not for me. However, while at one point in my life i was in the obese category, I was never severely or morbidly obese. I did not worry about not waking up because the weight on my organs was too much. I do not feel it is my place to discount how surgery could help individuals in that case.2
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My boss had this surgery back in February this year and immediately dropped 20 lbs. He never increased his motion and never changed his eating habits. He is now at the same weight he was before trending heavier.
At the same point - my team and I moved into a new building with a small gym. We stopped taking lunches and instead workout daily and then eating at our desks. We have all lost weight and establishing good habits which have a much higher chance of succeeding long term.2 -
That statistic is a scary one, and it was a factor in my decision to pursue the gastric sleeve. I'm 35, and have struggled with my weight since high school. Like most yo-yo dieters, I would lose a ton of weight (60 lbs) and then gain it all back because my diet wasn't sustainable. Especially to someone addicted to sugars and carbs. I'd gain 80 back and end up heavier than I was. After doing this several times in my life, my body had become resistant to any kind of calorie deficit. I struggled with many ways to 'shock' your body into losing weight through low carb and other means with no luck. The most I lost during this time period of a few years was 12 lbs over 6 months.
7 months post-op, I've lost 100 lbs and am still creeping down. I went from a BMI of 46 to now 31. I've learned a lot about myself, and as others have said on this thread, I am at risk of gaining weight back if I continue my habits. I've spent these last 8 months retraining my habits and dedicating myself to this new lifestyle.
I know there are a lot of anecdotes on this thread about 'everyone gains it back', but the real statistic is 20-30% fail long term with bariatric surgery because they don't change their habits. I'm confident I won't be one of them.
I would never go back. I'm thrilled with my success, my complete change in lifestyle and the freedom I feel every day. I'd do it 10x over.
If this is something you're considering for yourself, educate yourself. Talk to those who have failed and those who have succeeded. Don't let fear guide your decisions.10 -
kommodevaran wrote: »Don't ask a hairdresser if you need a haircut?
There's your hint "....bariatric (weight-loss) surgery as the only effective treatment...". Surgery. Invasive medical intervention. There may be no other type of "invasive medical treatment" that works as well. That might even be a true statement. However, not everyone (most people in fact) do not need "invasive medical treatment" to fix their weight problem. They simply want a quick fix, and again.. if you ask a surgeon what his answer would be, the answer is usually going to be.. wait for it.. surgery.0 -
GottaBurnEmAll wrote: »I know several people who had bariatric surgery. They all gained the weight back. The surgery reduces the size of your stomach and limits the amount of food your stomach can hold at once, which naturally forces you to eat less. You still have to learn effective habits because you can stretch it back out, meaning you wasted all that money and time for nothing.
All weight loss, surgical or otherwise, relies on continuing positive habits after the extra weight is gone. You can take the time to learn them as you lose or you can be forced into a situation where you have to learn them immediately. The conversations I have had with those who gained it all back showed that they didn't take time to fix the mental part of it and that when they lost the weight the second time they made sure to fix how they saw things and approached food the second time around.
I know three people who had the surgery. Only one has been successful at maintaining her loss.
She's the only one who from the start acknowledged that she had to make sweeping changing to her whole lifestyle and relationship with food and worked hard to do just that.
The other two started looking for ways to game the whole thing as soon as they could. They were just looking for a quick fix and never acknowledged the part they played in their problem.
Similar story here. I know four people who've had it done (various types of procedures). It's been about 3 yrs since the most recent one I know about and none have kept it off.
One ended up back in the hospital with systemic organ failure. He recovered and is mostly back to normal, health-wise. The best explanation the doctors were able to come up with was a combination of malnutrition and a low-grade infection from surgery that turned into much more as the months passed. This guy either did not get any advice on how to eat after surgery or he threw it all out the window from day one. Hard to tell.
Two went the more common route of losing about 60-70% of what they needed to get to a healthy weight and then started putting it back on when their stomach stretched back out and they weren't so careful about their diets anymore, although they will tell you they are still eating the way they were. It is obvious that both are now eating much more volume at a sitting than they were even remotely capable of months after surgery. We're talking at least 3x more - which is why the weight creeps back on. One of these two was just prescribed a doctor-recommended VLCD because his weight is starting to cause heart issues.
The fourth went the route of losing everything he wanted to lose, and gaining every bit of it back. This guy used to be an athlete. More than a hobbyist, but not a pro. A bicyclist and very lean and muscled - the last person you would have thought would have 1) gained enough to be morbidly obese, 2) had surgery to lose it given he knew how to lose that weight already, and 3) gain it all back again. Then, although we didn't know this at the time, he decided to do something about the fact he was unhappy with his marriage and ready for a change. Guess what - now that he had plenty of motivation, he dieted and exercised the way he already knew how to do and was down to healthy and well muscled again pretty quickly. Then he divorced his wife, who had stuck with him through the whole mess for a younger woman. :headdesk:
To be fair, it took something similar to your last statement for me to get my *kitten* back together and resume fat loss.
My ex-wife and I went through the initial "let's unfat ourselves" together, both of us doing very well, and by any metric, she better than me. She won several transformation contests, a couple of powerlifting tournaments, and overall did excellent on her drop from 190 to 120. I, on the other hand did fine, but not great. 265 to 185, and decent strength increases, but nothing to write home about.
Well, once we hit maintenance mode, I held between 185 and 190 for three years, but she completely lost control of herself and regained it all and then some. Now, in and of itself, this wasn't too big of an issue. What was an issue was the fact thay her getting fat again put her into such a negative funk that she became insufferable. Every other day she would whine about beinf fat, and I would tell her "you already know what you need to do, and you've done it before, so just get at it". That would always garner a response loaded with excuses, and she'd shove more ice cream into her face.
After a couple of years of this, I was just exhausted and done. I had started to creep back up on the scale myself, but as soon as I got near 200 again, I knew what I needed to do, and I did it. I purged the negativity and went on a massive hellcut from 195 to 150 within a few months. Interestingly, since we separated, she has gotten herself back together as well. There was just something there that was making both of us miserable, and our bodies were showing it.1 -
In my preferred world there would be an alternative but the medical profession are not with me on this one.
I would make it mandatory that anyone with any chronic condition has the full range of thyroid blood tests taken to identify if those poor people who do not have a reasonable level of t3 in their blood. T3 is the active form of thyroid hormone. Having a good level of t3 of its own will not ensure a person has t3 in their cells but it goes a long way to discovering what is going on in a body and at the present time is never taken into consideration. If I ask my doctor to test my t3 I am looked at as if I have left the planet. If you are considered for treatment on tsh and t4 numbers it is assumed you will automatically convert t4 to t3.....................
Thyroid support sites list some 300 different symptoms which are attribute to thyroid related malfunctions within the endocrine system. Trying to cluster different terms under key words, the digestive system prepares our food to be taken into our bodies, to do this it takes digestive acid and microbes, to eliminate our byproducts and toxins etc, we also need more different microbes. As we age our bodies make less digestive acid, also if we constantly over feed ourselves it cant keep up in part because we no longer eat foods with bitter tastes. Our digestive microbes come under attack from medications frequently prescribed to help us, primarily antibiotics which kill bacteria indiscriminately the beneficial and problematic microbes. Other medications such as the aspirin also compromise the beneficial bacteria. How often are we told this. I have had to find out for myself. Often because of our modern diet many of us are deficient in essential minerals or have them out of balance. Some of us still have amalgam fillings which contain mercury a major toxin. Many females can have an excess of copper in their bodies from the use of contraceptive implants which use copper to kill sperm. Those on the pill any form can also have problems because the reproductive cycles are blocked. Toxins make the liver work much harder to eliminate them, and contribute to allergies and intolerance's.
To continue on the reproduction issue, t3 governs the female reproductive cycle. T3 is also essential for every cell to ensure accurate replication. T3 is needed for our brains, many texts refers to t3 as the brain hormone. How many people who have mental health problems do not feel well on their medication? These are the people who would probably benefit from thyroid function investigation to see what is going on. Likewise those who have respiratory issues Asthma or Bronchitis. I've know for years that the thyroid can be implicated in Asthma but asthmatics are never tested for t3. When someone lives at a calorific deficit and a thyroid related problem their metabolism suffers a double hit because both actions down regulates our requirements.
I'm confident that when the balance of the endocrine system is restored, when specifically the adrenal; pituitary thyroid axis etc, is balances everyone's digestive issues would improve. Will the medical profession do any of this...... I truly fear not.
Read from, free hospital papers, thyroid support sites, STTM, stop the thyroid madness, your national thyroid support sites and the Hypothyroid Mom. All I have written and believe is contained there. With the right help for you, you will not need an operation. All the very best1 -
@Fuzzipeg, what? I am confused about your lengthy dissertation on thyroid issues, and how it even fits in with the conversation.
As go the OP, there is no one way to lose weight, but I've read plenty of success stories of people who have lost without surgery. My SIL had weight loss surgery, ended up gaining most of her weight back ten years later, all because she never changed her mentality around food.
Eat less calories than you burn and you will lose weight. If you don't, then you need to go to the doctor.2 -
IMO (since I've worked with several obese people who've lost weight without surgery), it's the "only" way for people who don't seem to have hope of faith in themselves to do it by just eating less for an extended period of time.
I'm not a big proponent for it since I believe that people that get it usually don't address the mental aspect of over consumption/addiction well. Even if they don't eat, they apply that behavior to possibly alcohol or some other form of comfort (gambling, drugs, etc.)
My personal belief is to work on the behavior daily. With great re enforcement.
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A very wise 3rd grade teacher told me many years ago if a question had "always" or "only" in it the answer was most likely false.6
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Packerjohn wrote: »A very wise 3rd grade teacher told me many years ago if a question had "always" or "only" in it the answer was most likely false.
Very wise indeed - I had a similar teacher who stated the same with "never" and told us to relish proving these people wrong.1 -
Sucessful weight loss requires commitmentment and a lot of hard work.
I have lost large amounts of weight through diet and exercise several times in my life.
However I have always regained the weight and when those pounds returned they brought buddies with them.
In 2013 my health and mobility was in serious jeopardy. No matter what I tried to do to shed those pounds my weight was stuck at 283 lbs.
My co-pays were $400 give or take a few bucks a month..
Due to my huge size I couldn't an adequate job of hygiene so I'm sure I smelled at times.
Life was tough.
After much thought and soul searching I begin the process required for WLS.
In Nov. I had sleeve surgery which was one of the best decisions of my life.
Many of my health issues have been resolved.
I move easily and hygiene isn't an issue anymore.
I now weigh 185. My weight fluctuates between 3-5 pounds.
WLS is simply a tool.
If you do the work it will help you loose weight.
It's not the right thing for everyone but it is the right thing for some of us.
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Gallowmere1984 wrote: »GottaBurnEmAll wrote: »I know several people who had bariatric surgery. They all gained the weight back. The surgery reduces the size of your stomach and limits the amount of food your stomach can hold at once, which naturally forces you to eat less. You still have to learn effective habits because you can stretch it back out, meaning you wasted all that money and time for nothing.
All weight loss, surgical or otherwise, relies on continuing positive habits after the extra weight is gone. You can take the time to learn them as you lose or you can be forced into a situation where you have to learn them immediately. The conversations I have had with those who gained it all back showed that they didn't take time to fix the mental part of it and that when they lost the weight the second time they made sure to fix how they saw things and approached food the second time around.
I know three people who had the surgery. Only one has been successful at maintaining her loss.
She's the only one who from the start acknowledged that she had to make sweeping changing to her whole lifestyle and relationship with food and worked hard to do just that.
The other two started looking for ways to game the whole thing as soon as they could. They were just looking for a quick fix and never acknowledged the part they played in their problem.
Similar story here. I know four people who've had it done (various types of procedures). It's been about 3 yrs since the most recent one I know about and none have kept it off.
One ended up back in the hospital with systemic organ failure. He recovered and is mostly back to normal, health-wise. The best explanation the doctors were able to come up with was a combination of malnutrition and a low-grade infection from surgery that turned into much more as the months passed. This guy either did not get any advice on how to eat after surgery or he threw it all out the window from day one. Hard to tell.
Two went the more common route of losing about 60-70% of what they needed to get to a healthy weight and then started putting it back on when their stomach stretched back out and they weren't so careful about their diets anymore, although they will tell you they are still eating the way they were. It is obvious that both are now eating much more volume at a sitting than they were even remotely capable of months after surgery. We're talking at least 3x more - which is why the weight creeps back on. One of these two was just prescribed a doctor-recommended VLCD because his weight is starting to cause heart issues.
The fourth went the route of losing everything he wanted to lose, and gaining every bit of it back. This guy used to be an athlete. More than a hobbyist, but not a pro. A bicyclist and very lean and muscled - the last person you would have thought would have 1) gained enough to be morbidly obese, 2) had surgery to lose it given he knew how to lose that weight already, and 3) gain it all back again. Then, although we didn't know this at the time, he decided to do something about the fact he was unhappy with his marriage and ready for a change. Guess what - now that he had plenty of motivation, he dieted and exercised the way he already knew how to do and was down to healthy and well muscled again pretty quickly. Then he divorced his wife, who had stuck with him through the whole mess for a younger woman. :headdesk:
To be fair, it took something similar to your last statement for me to get my *kitten* back together and resume fat loss.
My ex-wife and I went through the initial "let's unfat ourselves" together, both of us doing very well, and by any metric, she better than me. She won several transformation contests, a couple of powerlifting tournaments, and overall did excellent on her drop from 190 to 120. I, on the other hand did fine, but not great. 265 to 185, and decent strength increases, but nothing to write home about.
Well, once we hit maintenance mode, I held between 185 and 190 for three years, but she completely lost control of herself and regained it all and then some. Now, in and of itself, this wasn't too big of an issue. What was an issue was the fact thay her getting fat again put her into such a negative funk that she became insufferable. Every other day she would whine about beinf fat, and I would tell her "you already know what you need to do, and you've done it before, so just get at it". That would always garner a response loaded with excuses, and she'd shove more ice cream into her face.
After a couple of years of this, I was just exhausted and done. I had started to creep back up on the scale myself, but as soon as I got near 200 again, I knew what I needed to do, and I did it. I purged the negativity and went on a massive hellcut from 195 to 150 within a few months. Interestingly, since we separated, she has gotten herself back together as well. There was just something there that was making both of us miserable, and our bodies were showing it.
The *headdesk* mostly was not because this guy decided to leave his wife.
Mostly, it was because it just astounds me that someone would go through bariatric surgery to lose weight when they are clearly more than capable of doing it themselves given sufficient motivation. I would do just about anything to avoid the VLCD, etc that comes along with the surgery.
It was also partially because this particular guy sprang his unhappiness on his wife and young kids only after he'd already gotten lean, found himself a new SO, and had been cheating on his wife for months which I consider to be a *kitten* move. But those details weren't relevant to the point I was trying to make so I left them out.0
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