This is me now at 24st 1lb I hate myself
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Hating yourself only gets you down. I know from experience. Try coming up with a small catchphrase you can repeat when you catch yourself with negative self talk. I use "By me, for me, about me." You need to use something that resonates with you. "I'm strong inside and out" or "Every choice is a new one. Choose stronger." even say "you got this".
Then go do one positive thing for yourself... prep some veggies, go for a short walk, if you're working stop and do some streches.
Try thinking about the amazing things your body can do even if they're small things now.2 -
Well done on your fantastic weight loss, you CAN do it and you are already proving that to yourself. I was over 21 stone and lost, got down to just under 16 stone, stupid me took my eye off the ball and went back up to 17st 1lb, but it IS coming off
so keep on going and learn by your earlier mistakes so you don't go there again like I did. 1 -
Keep up the walking- do your amount every day and you will see your endurance slowly build. As you get stronger and lose you will probably see improvements in the back issues too (I did). It will also start to activate those endorphins and maybe that will turn around some negative talk. Even if you're doing slow laps in the living room- keep it up. Step by step you'll get there !!1
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Try lifting weights or little things like increasing your water intake. Cardio isn't tthe only form of exercise to get you going. Be proud of yourself and I hope you start to feel better soon!1
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jrobertson290365 wrote: »This is a photo of me at 24st 1lb, I'm not looking for sympathy or pity as I know I got myself into this mess but I really hate myself and the way I look, but hopefully this photo will motivate me to lose more weight as i've lost 7lb in 2 weeks.
Start telling yourself "I'm Worth It)...every morning...get up....take a deep breath and start with something you'll change for that day.I would start by positive thinking...I figure if you (hate) something you won't be to motivated to do anything for It or in this case for yourself. We tend to act out according to our EMOTIONS that we feel at that moment..so be cautious because our moods tend to change throughout the day..another simple change may be to drink a cup of water in the morning and every hour after that..just wanna help!!! Feel free to add me1 -
sarahbeams wrote: »jrobertson290365 wrote: »This is a photo of me at 24st 1lb, I'm not looking for sympathy or pity as I know I got myself into this mess but I really hate myself and the way I look, but hopefully this photo will motivate me to lose more weight as i've lost 7lb in 2 weeks.
Start telling yourself "I'm Worth It)...every morning...get up....take a deep breath and start with something you'll change for that day.I would start by positive thinking...I figure if you (hate) something you won't be to motivated to do anything for It or in this case for yourself. We tend to act out according to our EMOTIONS that we feel at that moment..so be cautious because our moods tend to change throughout the day..another simple change may be to drink a cup of water in the morning and every hour after that..just wanna help!!! Feel free to add me
Thanks Sarah, since that photo was taken I have lost 32lbs but unfortunately my weight seems to fluctuate between 22st 5lb and 22st 11lb which I don't get as i'm practically doing myself harm by overdoing the exercise to the point I can barely walk the next day.
The photo's below are just taken today as a comparison.
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jrobertson290365 wrote: »sarahbeams wrote: »jrobertson290365 wrote: »This is a photo of me at 24st 1lb, I'm not looking for sympathy or pity as I know I got myself into this mess but I really hate myself and the way I look, but hopefully this photo will motivate me to lose more weight as i've lost 7lb in 2 weeks.
Start telling yourself "I'm Worth It)...every morning...get up....take a deep breath and start with something you'll change for that day.I would start by positive thinking...I figure if you (hate) something you won't be to motivated to do anything for It or in this case for yourself. We tend to act out according to our EMOTIONS that we feel at that moment..so be cautious because our moods tend to change throughout the day..another simple change may be to drink a cup of water in the morning and every hour after that..just wanna help!!! Feel free to add me
Thanks Sarah, since that photo was taken I have lost 32lbs but unfortunately my weight seems to fluctuate between 22st 5lb and 22st 11lb which I don't get as i'm practically doing myself harm by overdoing the exercise to the point I can barely walk the next day.
The photo's below are just taken today as a comparison.
You know what though, your eyes are brighter, you look happier and that is a major positive step. As we are friends I know how far you have come and how much you are pushing yourself.
Keep going as you are and have some patience Your journey has only just begun and you will get there4 -
I think you are INCREDIBLE! You totally have this in hand, and you can do it - you've taken the hardest step already.3
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dutchandkiwi wrote: »jrobertson290365 wrote: »sarahbeams wrote: »jrobertson290365 wrote: »This is a photo of me at 24st 1lb, I'm not looking for sympathy or pity as I know I got myself into this mess but I really hate myself and the way I look, but hopefully this photo will motivate me to lose more weight as i've lost 7lb in 2 weeks.
The photo's below are just taken today as a comparison.
You know what though, your eyes are brighter, you look happier and that is a major positive step. As we are friends I know how far you have come and how much you are pushing yourself.
Keep going as you are and have some patience Your journey has only just begun and you will get there
That is so nice of you to say Dutch, I've noticed in myself that my eyes are different than I 1st started on this journey and yep my Daughter made me smile for my photo today as I never smile in photos LOL1 -
dutchandkiwi wrote: »jrobertson290365 wrote: »sarahbeams wrote: »jrobertson290365 wrote: »This is a photo of me at 24st 1lb, I'm not looking for sympathy or pity as I know I got myself into this mess but I really hate myself and the way I look, but hopefully this photo will motivate me to lose more weight as i've lost 7lb in 2 weeks.
Thanks Sarah, since that photo was taken I have lost 32lbs but unfortunately my weight seems to fluctuate between 22st 5lb and 22st 11lb which I don't get as i'm practically doing myself harm by overdoing the exercise to the point I can barely walk the next day.
The photo's below are just taken today as a comparison.
You know what though, your eyes are brighter, you look happier and that is a major positive step. As we are friends I know how far you have come and how much you are pushing yourself.
Keep going as you are and have some patience Your journey has only just begun and you will get there
That is so nice of you to say Dutch, I've noticed in myself that my eyes are different than I 1st started on this journey and yep my Daughter made me smile for my photo today as I never smile in photos LOL0 -
You look ten years younger when you smile..let alone lighter! Great work, we're so proud of you!
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JustMissTracy wrote: »You look ten years younger when you smile..let alone lighter! Great work, we're so proud of you!
Thanks Tracy, that was so nice to hear
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So well done on your weight loss. Shows you are getting something right! But if you are fluctuating between two weights it sounds like you are at a plateau. This WILL pass I keep getting stuck for a while and then it starts to shift again.
I am however worried that you exercise to a point where you can hardly walk the next day. So would it be possible on those days where you go all out for exercise you tone it down just very slightly so that the next day you can at least walk somewhere with ease? Just a suggestion.1 -
Tea_A_Holic wrote: »So well done on your weight loss. Shows you are getting something right! But if you are fluctuating between two weights it sounds like you are at a plateau. This WILL pass I keep getting stuck for a while and then it starts to shift again.
I am however worried that you exercise to a point where you can hardly walk the next day. So would it be possible on those days where you go all out for exercise you tone it down just very slightly so that the next day you can at least walk somewhere with ease? Just a suggestion.
I know what your saying Tea, but the only exercise I do due to my disabilities is walk and TBH since losing all my weight I seem to be getting worse as in the amount of pain i'm in, I think I might need to go back to my doctor as I thought after losing over 2 stones/28lbs it would get easier but if anything it is getting worse.0 -
jrobertson290365 wrote: »Tea_A_Holic wrote: »So well done on your weight loss. Shows you are getting something right! But if you are fluctuating between two weights it sounds like you are at a plateau. This WILL pass I keep getting stuck for a while and then it starts to shift again.
I am however worried that you exercise to a point where you can hardly walk the next day. So would it be possible on those days where you go all out for exercise you tone it down just very slightly so that the next day you can at least walk somewhere with ease? Just a suggestion.
I know what your saying Tea, but the only exercise I do due to my disabilities is walk and TBH since losing all my weight I seem to be getting worse as in the amount of pain i'm in, I think I might need to go back to my doctor as I thought after losing over 2 stones/28lbs it would get easier but if anything it is getting worse.
Sunds like you know what you are doing going t the dr sounds like the right thing from what you are saying, after all they know so much more than us, or at least should do. I wish you the very best in getting out of pain.1 -
YOU GOT THIS!!! One day at a time, be happy and...enjoy your journey down (on the scale) and up on life!1
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Wow, such a change already, you're doing absolutely brilliant, well done!1
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Hang in there, buddy. You can do it!!1
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Keep at it kiddo! One step at a time, one day at a time. Remember, you must learn to crawl before you can walk and walk before you can run. You can do this! We're all rootin' for ya!1
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jrobertson290365 wrote: »The photo's below are just taken today as a comparison.
I could see the difference without even looking back at the "before" photo. Nice job. Stay focused on the long-term life changes and don't burn yourself out.2 -
Your new photo is awesome!
Keep it going. Even if you can't do a lot of exercise, the weight will come off if you stay in your calories.
Yay! Congrats on your success so far.
A journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.1 -
Tea_A_Holic wrote: »jrobertson290365 wrote: »Tea_A_Holic wrote: »So well done on your weight loss. Shows you are getting something right! But if you are fluctuating between two weights it sounds like you are at a plateau. This WILL pass I keep getting stuck for a while and then it starts to shift again.
I am however worried that you exercise to a point where you can hardly walk the next day. So would it be possible on those days where you go all out for exercise you tone it down just very slightly so that the next day you can at least walk somewhere with ease? Just a suggestion.
I know what your saying Tea, but the only exercise I do due to my disabilities is walk and TBH since losing all my weight I seem to be getting worse as in the amount of pain i'm in, I think I might need to go back to my doctor as I thought after losing over 2 stones/28lbs it would get easier but if anything it is getting worse.
Sunds like you know what you are doing going t the dr sounds like the right thing from what you are saying, after all they know so much more than us, or at least should do. I wish you the very best in getting out of pain.
Unfortunately I didn't get to the doctor today as I wasn't feeling that great, but I've been in this constant back pain for over 12 years and never had any diagnosis from them just pain killers after pain killers but after losing all this weight (well I think it's a lot) I actually thought my pain would atleast get better although I know it won't happen overnight but you'd think going from what I was a few months ago to what I am now my knees would atleast feel the benefit and not appear to be getting worse to the point I have difficulty even getting off my chair
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Dude I wish you lived near me. I'd love to workout with you, and help you make fast healthy progress. Add me, my food diary is open. I'd be happy to help set you up with a meal plan. Just message me about it if you're interested.1
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I love the hint of a smile and the sparkle starting in your eye!
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Just wanted to wish you well on your journey. You can do it!
I haven't read the whole thread so not sure if it has been mentioned before but is there anyway you can get to a swimming pool? Walking lengths in a pool is easier on your joints etc.1 -
Every journey has to begin somewhere, and you've begun yours now. Keep your head up, mind strong, and embrace the excitement of what you're about to undertake. Eliminate the word "diet" from your vocab, include the word "lifestyle", and remember to be kind to yourself. Good luck, mate!0
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jrobertson290365 wrote: »Thank you everyone for your advice and support, I have been told by my wife that i'm too hard on myself and I need to stop it as i'm going to do myself damage but after seeing that photo of myself today really shocked me as I never thought of myself like that before.
I'm just not happy and don't know what I can do, I am disabled with chronic back pain and use a walking stick when I go out a few weeks ago I had to go to the doctor who referred me to the Rapid Access Chest Pain Clinic due to having chest pains and shortness of breath.
Thankfully the tests on my heart came back clear and I got told I have Pre-Diabetes and need to lose weight, since getting that news I have pushed and pushed to try and walk more to exercise and I can only manage about 0.8 miles but i'm desperate to get over the 1 mile point of walking and just can't do it.
So I feel like i'm burning myself out as my mind is telling me I need to walk more because i'm too fat and ugly but my bodies telling me I can't do it because of the pain i'm in but if I rest up i'm frightened I'll seize up.
you can do this and things should improve. I couldnt breath doing normal everyday tasks.once I started losing the weight I was able to be more active,my lung capacity improved,my breathing got better,you will be able to walk longer, just set small goals and accomplish them first. are your back pains from the weight? if so that may improve as well. take one day at a time.just walk a little farther each time and you will get there.you are making an effort and that is what counts.0 -
jrobertson290365 wrote: »Tea_A_Holic wrote: »jrobertson290365 wrote: »Tea_A_Holic wrote: »So well done on your weight loss. Shows you are getting something right! But if you are fluctuating between two weights it sounds like you are at a plateau. This WILL pass I keep getting stuck for a while and then it starts to shift again.
I am however worried that you exercise to a point where you can hardly walk the next day. So would it be possible on those days where you go all out for exercise you tone it down just very slightly so that the next day you can at least walk somewhere with ease? Just a suggestion.
I know what your saying Tea, but the only exercise I do due to my disabilities is walk and TBH since losing all my weight I seem to be getting worse as in the amount of pain i'm in, I think I might need to go back to my doctor as I thought after losing over 2 stones/28lbs it would get easier but if anything it is getting worse.
Sunds like you know what you are doing going t the dr sounds like the right thing from what you are saying, after all they know so much more than us, or at least should do. I wish you the very best in getting out of pain.
Unfortunately I didn't get to the doctor today as I wasn't feeling that great, but I've been in this constant back pain for over 12 years and never had any diagnosis from them just pain killers after pain killers but after losing all this weight (well I think it's a lot) I actually thought my pain would atleast get better although I know it won't happen overnight but you'd think going from what I was a few months ago to what I am now my knees would atleast feel the benefit and not appear to be getting worse to the point I have difficulty even getting off my chair
Do you have access to a stationary bike? How about a pool? Many public pools offer lanes for water-walking. My local pool even has one of those lazy river things where you can walk in waist deep water against a flowing current of water. One of the things public pools do is rehab for people. If you have a public pool, call them or go online and look at their schedule. Being in water relieves your joints.
If you have insurance, you should be able to be referred for physical therapy and they always have stationary bikes and pools.0 -
Sounds like you have some great suggestions there for trying to help ease the pain, hope you find something that works for you x0
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