This is me now at 24st 1lb I hate myself

jrobertson290365
jrobertson290365 Posts: 81 Member
edited November 13 in Motivation and Support
This is a photo of me at 24st 1lb, I'm not looking for sympathy or pity as I know I got myself into this mess but I really hate myself and the way I look, but hopefully this photo will motivate me to lose more weight as i've lost 7lb in 2 weeks. 8b4ri9kp1yet.jpg
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  • zoeysasha37
    zoeysasha37 Posts: 7,088 Member
    You can do it!! Chin up!!
  • behnybaby
    behnybaby Posts: 106 Member
    The beginning of every journey starts with the first step. The first step was knowing you need to make a change. Not hating yourself, use your energy for the journey and discovering how to change your bad habits. Go for a walk, if you walk 15 min today 20 min tomorrow and keep going till you are walking km at least a day, make good dietary choices, weigh all meals, eliminate all sugars,sodas and juices are out, no processed foods, eat as close to nature as you can. Log everything, remember if hiding food from MFP you are only lying to yourself, Friend people to support you. What happened yesterday is over, today we begin again, for a better tomorrow. It will take time, trust me I know, almost a year now on my journey, slow and stead wins the race.
    Best of Luck, I know you can do it!
  • samchez0
    samchez0 Posts: 364 Member
    7 lbs is a great start but hating yourself does not do you any good. Your body does not define you. Good luck.
  • Wolfena
    Wolfena Posts: 1,570 Member
    Well.... The "I hate the way I look" thing, I can understand - however, the "I hate myself" thing really bothers me :/ I think, unless you can look at yourself and your goals positively, you will have a hard time making changes.

    Personally, I KNOW you can lose weight if you put forth effort - I don't even know you personally, but I have 100% confidence that you can do it :)

    Now, as to how quickly it comes off and how successful you are in keeping it off is up to you! I, for one, would love to see your progress B)
  • beachgal0626
    beachgal0626 Posts: 1,912 Member
    dissentingdude wrote: »
    So you made some bad choices but here you are now taking the first step towards a better you.
    Embrace that, embrace this supportive community, and do your best to get into the routine of meal tracking and general good dietary practices.
    Don`t be so hard on yourself or you`ll stop before you start.

    Could not have said this better myself. OP, you CAN do it! One day at a time, and think positive thoughts. The MFP community is great, and here for you.
  • musicsax
    musicsax Posts: 4,657 Member
    You've made a start, keep positive, if you want to do it you can. I used to hate myself too and be so depressed, but you can get help. If you live in the UK contact your doctor you should be able to get some vouchers to use at Weight watchers or Slimming World, quite a few men attend these meetings now and you will receive the help and support to get you through your journey. You've made the first big step by deciding that you want to do something about it and the second by losing your first 7 pounds.
    Keep going my friend the struggle is well worth the rewards that you will quickly notice.
  • hikernut53
    hikernut53 Posts: 43 Member
    Remember that losing weight will help with your diabetes, and your back pain. You CAN do it!
  • SueSueDio
    SueSueDio Posts: 4,796 Member
    AngryGangrel wrote: »
    You've made a great start!

    Like everyone else said, don't be hating on yourself. Improving your health is one of the kindest things you can do for yourself, so treat your soul accordingly. Forgive yourself for the past and if you start getting into the "I've made bad choices" mindset just tell yourself, "But I'm making better choices now."

    All of this. :) Yes, you made some poor choices and you don't like where they've led you, but you've recognised that and you've started the process of change. I know it's hard not to think in terms of "hating yourself" when you don't like the way you look, but try to find more positive ways of phrasing your desire for change.

    7lbs is a great start, and every additional pound will improve your health and fitness. It might be slow progress at times, but keep at it and you will get there eventually! If you have a day of poor food choices don't beat yourself up about it - accept it and move on, get back on track the next day or next meal.

    Don't worry too much about not being able to do much activity right now - I would have to respectfully disagree with the folks above who said weight loss is 80% diet. In my opinion it's 100% diet! :) Activity helps with fitness and can give you a few extra calories for food, but for now just concentrate on your calorie intake and you WILL lose weight if you're eating less than you burn. You might find that your back improves when you have less weight to carry around, and you may feel able to do more activity after a while. If you can manage some gentle walking regularly then that could help, but don't push it if you're in pain. (You can also look up exercises for disabled people/limited mobility/etc on YouTube, if you want to try something else.)

    Just take it easy and be kind to yourself - it took time to get where you are now, it'll take time to get back to a healthy weight. We're rooting for you! :)
  • teacherspet1
    teacherspet1 Posts: 142 Member
    Hello & welcome, you have come to the right place. There is plenty of support on here for all ages & sizes so please dont hate yourself. Its a change in lifestyle which may take some time to get into, Im 62 and thought I am too old to start dieting again, so I am not!! I am having a change of lifestyle & a healthy eating plan too. I too have lost 7 lbs but I am losing inches too. Take it one day at a time and get yourself a mantra like. ....I am worth it, I am a nice person inside & out...... believe in yourself me duck, you can add me as a friend & we can chivvy each other along. Good luck xx
  • st476
    st476 Posts: 357 Member
    A lot of people have been there. Good luck with everything :smile: Mind over matter!
  • Rushbrook60
    Rushbrook60 Posts: 95 Member
    edited July 2016
    Someone once told me to keep the worst photos of me in places I'm likely to go to for comfort or boredom...like the fridge or the cupboard. Believe me, it works. When I started associating the way I looked with what I put in my body, I realised I had no one else to blame but myself for the mess I was in. I have a very long way to go but I can now enjoy the "naughty" things but I can get straight back on the band wagon the day after. I just don't make it habit that I have those "naughty" things as often as I had done before (and had had mindlessly in the past). I now know what choices I should be making and I've found very good, satisfying alternatives when I know I shouldn't touch more calorific foods.

    I've literally devoured domino's pizza tonight and feel extremely uncomfortable...but I did that to myself and tomorrow morning I'll hit the gym (both for pleasure and punishment). I might not see the scales move this week but one naughty night isn't going to change my body shape drastically or damage my entire efforts and journey. I'm still going to be inches smaller, so remember not to deprive yourself, just cut back and get moving.

    Your loss already is proof it can and will happen. Don't be so down or hard on yourself. Mind over matter and positive thoughts will get you a long way. There are plenty of inspiring, friendly and helpful people on here, so join them and let them be your motivation and your ear to bend when you're feeling low.

    Feel free to add me and remember to keep smiling. You can do anything you put your mind to
  • joans1976
    joans1976 Posts: 2,201 Member
    I have also cut right down with my meals during the week and don't eat sweets or crisps (well maybe 1 pack of 97 cal potato crisps once or twice a week instead of per night

    ^^^^this
    See? You're already making little changes! All of them add up to a big change.
    I've read in plenty of places on here before to not try too much at once because it's easier to fail that way. This is true for me but not all are the same. For example, cutting calories, logging everything, buying a food scale, exercising, eating more vegetables, counting macros, cutting out soda....the list goes on and on...all at the same time is enough to overwhelm anyone! Please stick with whatever goal you have going on, no matter how big or small you think it is. And then recognize yourself for it!

    Please keep checking in here too, everyone is so wonderfully supportive and EVERYONE has bad days or weeks. Just keep going!
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