Help! No progress whatsoever after 2+ months...

yellowbrickroad369
yellowbrickroad369 Posts: 11 Member
edited November 2024 in Health and Weight Loss
I am a 51 year old woman, 158 pounds and 5'8" tall, no stranger to fitness and eating healthy. I gained 15 pounds over the past year and a half due to some very stressful events in my life. I eat clean - avoid processed food, grains and things made with flour, as much as possible. For the past two months I've been tracking my calories, carbs, protein, etc. assiduously, and working out on an average of 45 minutes per day 6 [freaking] days per week. I do a combination of running, swimming and strength training, the latter at least 3 x week.

Result? I have not lost one godforsaken pound!! I can't even get on the scale anymore because I just cry. And yes, I'm measuring with the tape measure too and no, I haven't lost any inches either. WHAT is wrong with me?? I'm finally giving in and going to see my doctor next week and I'm going to ask about bio-identical hormone replacement therapy - could be I need some progesterone possibly? I've already had thyroid checked and it's within normal range.

Now, I know my problems may seem small to others who are trying to lose much more weight, but it is very frustrating nonetheless, because none of my clothes fit, I don't feel good in my own skin, and I don't want to just give up and have this larger me become 'the new normal.' I don't see why aging needs to equal weight gain. I'd be grateful to hear if anyone on here has had any kind similar experience.

And yes, I have also tried staying off the scale altogether and also taking the median of several days weight - makes no difference. It doesn't budge off this number.

Thanks for reading!
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  • TR0berts
    TR0berts Posts: 7,739 Member
    I see no mention of how many Calories you're eating every day. I'm thinking around 1350?
  • No, I don't use a food scale. Good point, I forgot to mention calorie intake! After doing all those BMR, TDEE calculations and aiming for a 500 calorie deficit based on my activity level, I'm averaging 1600-1800 calories a day. I've tried loads of online calculators and this is what keeps coming up. Am I that far off??
  • Spliner1969
    Spliner1969 Posts: 3,233 Member
    There's no way in all that time that a single fluctuation wouldn't have happened on the scale. I'd have to agree, if it's saying the exact same weight all this time to the pound then it's faulty. I also second the food scale, no way to be sure you're accurate unless you're using one. So if you are sure the scale is fine, and don't want to buy a food scale, then you'll probably have to drop your calories more, or double your exercise. I, personally, would use the food scale. I love mine.
  • Thanks a lot for your answers on here! I've actually been a member here for several years and have been tracking calories and what I'm eating on here for the past month and a half at least - so I'm not sure why you can't see it or it's not showing up. Maybe I have to change some privacy settings or something?

    Anyway, I'm definitely aware of tracking absolutely everything I eat and I do my best to do that whether it's a pad of butter or oil and vinegar dressing. I'm sure there is some margin for error in recording stuff without a food scale, but I do often look up photos of portion sizes, or for example what does 4 oz. of chicken breast look like, etc. before logging it.

    Bought a new scale already - check! (body weight scale)

    I have always worked out a lot and I do a LOT of heavy weight lifting and strength training, especially the last three years. However, I know this is not just extra muscle I'm carrying around, the fat is obvious, as my clothes are tighter and not looser.;)

    No on on here has mentioned anything about hormonal changes though and I'm curious to talk to my doctor about it. I have read some places that it is often extremely difficult for perimenopausal women to lose weight at all. Obviously everyone's different, but maybe I"m one of the unlucky ones. I will read those other posts you linked too. and try to keep the faith!

    Thanks again!
  • Seffell
    Seffell Posts: 2,246 Member
    Just to reiterate the need for a food scale.
  • SueSueDio
    SueSueDio Posts: 4,796 Member
    edited November 2016
    All right, I'm in for the food scale!!

    Excellent choice! :)

    I see your diary now - and yes, you need to start weighing. There's absolutely nothing wrong with the foods you're eating, but many of them can be high in calories so if you're not weighing them you could well be far over the amount you think you're eating! Check out this list and make sure that you're very careful about the amount you eat of any of these things. It starts to add up fast!


    (In light of your comments I'm going to guess that the "first visit" thing refers to a member's first visit/post to the forums, and not to their account creation date! :) )
  • SueSueDio
    SueSueDio Posts: 4,796 Member
    I'd just like to add... when you do get your food scale and start weighing, please do come back and update us with your findings! I think that sometimes people are a bit embarrassed to admit they've been consuming more than they thought (presuming that that is the case), but it would be very helpful to other folks browsing the threads to see if it really does make as much of a difference as people always say. :)
  • OK will do, thank you Sue!
  • SueSueDio
    SueSueDio Posts: 4,796 Member
    You're welcome! :) I hope that this does turn out to be the source of your problem and you'll be comfortable in your clothes again soon!
  • One more question...am I understanding the math right that we should aim for about 500 calories below our TDEE?
  • SueSueDio
    SueSueDio Posts: 4,796 Member
    It depends on how fast you want to lose... slower is usually considered better (unless one is severely obese), and -500 would be around 1lb per week for most people. Because you don't have much to lose, the recommendation would usually be to aim for 0.5lbs/week which would be -250 calories. It would take you longer to lose the excess weight, but the general advice seems to be to slow things down as you approach your goal. I guess really it's up to you and what seems to work best for you, but I wouldn't go for more than 1lb/week.

    Don't forget, too, that MFP is designed for you to eat back at least some of your exercise calories. Most people set their activity level based on their job or regular daily activity and then log exercise separately, but you could also set yourself as active (or maybe very active) based on your workouts and not add anything more. Sometimes it just needs a bit of experimentation to figure out what works best for you and your particular lifestyle. :)

    (For reference I've been at 1lb/week all along, and although my weight fluctuates a lot the overall trend has been almost exactly that - 46lbs in 44.5 weeks right now. I still have 25-30lbs to go, so I don't intend to increase my calories just yet, but because I'm inactive my allowance is currently only 1290 per day. As I get smaller that will decrease even more, so my losses will naturally slow down anyway because I want to be able to actually eat! ;) )
  • Wow, congratulations on impressive results! Sorry, I don't know what MFP stands for. Considering I'm not losing ANY weigh at all yet, I'd be happy with 1/2 lb. per week. ;)
  • Christine_72
    Christine_72 Posts: 16,049 Member
    Wow, congratulations on impressive results! Sorry, I don't know what MFP stands for. Considering I'm not losing ANY weigh at all yet, I'd be happy with 1/2 lb. per week. ;)

    MFP= MyFitnessPal.. The site you are on right now.
  • Oh. Duh. Thanks!
  • dawnwells6172
    dawnwells6172 Posts: 1 Member
    I feel your pain. I'm a fitness instructor, nutritionist and chef. I eat clean( in the true sense of the word), I am not working as a chef at the moment so I'm not getting hidden tasting calories. I track my water, food and exercise and have gained 15 lbs in 3 months. Unfortunately I do have a thyroid problem which I take meds for and my levels are ok, I've been diagnosed with fibromyalgia , but I am still active everyday. I walk 60 min a day on top of my hour swims, hot yoga, boot camps, strength training and cycling. I also struggled with major depressive disorder for the past 20 years and been on countless meds. I'm almost 40 and I question my hormones being on the level, but I know these meds are causing the weight gain. My doctors don't seem to care and just say workout or eat less!!! Wtf how much more can I do. So I can totally empathize with you and just wonder if you are on any meds or dealing with stress?
  • Thanks for sharing your story. It sounds like your body is dealing with a lot of other issues at the moment, so not surprised to hear you can't lose the weight. Have you tried any alternative practitioners who might be more open to listening to you rather than throwing up their hands and saying there's nothing that can be done? I'm not taking any major meds other than melatonin and a low dosage of Doxipene for sleep. I struggle with chronic insomnia. The worst stress of the past year has subsided and I'm sleeping much better. It sounds like you do a ton of exercise! Maybe your body is stressed and I know it sounds hard, when you've gained weight, but try to just give it the rest and healing it needs, while maybe just staying lightly active, like walking and maybe yoga? I'm no one to be giving advice really, but it's just a suggestion. I'm sure others on here can be much more helpful than me. Hang in there!!
  • Dogmom1978
    Dogmom1978 Posts: 1,580 Member
    You really need to get the food scale! You can't possibly know what portions you are eating without one. Start weighing foods and then you will see some progress.
  • Just a wee follow up, nothing changed on the scale yet, but did see my doc and we looked at the results of my blood test and it turns out, wasn't all completely normal as they told me over the phone weeks ago. My thyroid number is high - still within the 'normal' range - but high end of that. Plus he did an iodine test on me and it looks like I'm deficient in iodine (big player in the thyroid equation), plus all my methyl Bs and B12s were low. So upshot is, thyroid is not working optimally, which is good to know and I'm not dreaming. He wants me to try treating it with supplements for several weeks to see if that helps the number go down, but if it doesn't then he'll prescribe something. Other than that, still counting, weighing, and exercising and hope for some progress soon!

    Again, thanks for all your advice on here!
  • SueSueDio
    SueSueDio Posts: 4,796 Member
    Thanks for popping back in! At least you have some more medical info now - always good to know if there IS something not quite right! I hope they can sort out some appropriate treatment for you soon and get that side of it figured out for you. :)

    Did you start actually weighing your food yet, and have you seen any difference in the amount you thought you were eating as opposed to actual measurements, or was your estimating pretty good? (Some people are good at eyeballing, but I suspect a lot more of us struggle with it! :) I'm getting better with some foods (e.g. cheese), but not others.)
  • trigden1991
    trigden1991 Posts: 4,658 Member
    If the scale is still not moving, you are not in a calorie deficit.
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