Have you experienced rude comments during/after weight loss?

Physicians tended to ask me if my weight loss had been on purpose. Of course they had last seen me the year before, 35 pounds heavier.

People are rude and sometimes we just shouldn't listen to them!

The only rude comment I can say that I kinda got was my roommate was eating pretzel's and tried to feed me one and I told her I didn't want it, I wasn't hungry and I just had a banana and she looks at me and says with her rude attitude "It's just a damn pretzel"
Yeah, and I LOVE pretzels, I just don't want to. I'm on a mission here and when I don't want to eat something I don't want to!

I've had friends mock me for calorie counting...it gets quite ridiculous the comments that come out of people's mouths. One thing that hasn't been commented on is my 16 pound loss in 3 months. Wondering if people are embarrassed to say they can see I've lost weight or if no one can see a difference. Not sure what is worse...negative comments or none at all.

I am almost exacty the same weight and height as you, and I don't get those type of comments, because I still look heavy

I think it is a good things that you are trying to be healthy, and I would just try and not let the comments bother you. As long as you are being healthy....then keep up the good work and you do what you feel is right to do!

Good luck!

Ive had all of those comments. From teachers, my mother, and others. I remember eating Thanksgiving years ago and my uncle said, how do you loose weight eating like THAT? WTF bro, it's ONE day! ahole, still bitter as you can see.

jealousy....

It's not happened to me (yet!) but my dad lost 60 pounds 3 years ago and has kept it off. Since he is a senior citizen, he's 73, he got it all the time by his friends. It made him so mad! His response was, "Where was your concern when I was fat?" That usually shut them up.

First of all, I think A LOT of it has to do with jealously, like others have said. They see you losing weight and meeting goals and they know they need to and want to do the same, but they aren't ready. So, instead of being happy for you, they cover the jealously with rude comments.

Second, I think people get used to seeing us as our overweight selves. So, when they see us getting thinner, it automatically looks "weird" or whatever. For example, I've been overweight most of my life. When I started losing weight and had lost about 10 pounds my mom asked when I was going to stop, that I was getting too skinny. I explained that I still had a good 40-50 pounds to go and I thought she was going to die then and there! I seriously think it's just that they get used to seeing us overweight and anything else looks too different.

first off, i want to say i am sorry that you had/have to deal with those negative comments.

i think its jealousy.... i think a lot people want to loose weight, but they don't have the drive to see it all the way through. and obviously you do! don't let those people get you down, even though i understand that it is easier said than done.

remember, you are making yourself a better, healthier you and that is all that matters

They just don't have the guts to loose weight. I can't say I've had any negative comments made to me. One co-worker says I don't need to lose weight I was fine the way I was. that was 15 pounds ago.

Now i get asked how I did it, counting calories and exercise. when I tell them they are "I can't do that," an I'm thinking (its not easy but worth it too me).

Hope some good comments come your way soon. Just remember their jealous and your stronger then them.

I noticed a huge difference in comments depending on where I am. When I lived in Germany I was called fat when my weight was 160 lbs wit 5'8", here in Louisiana I was called skin and bones when I was at 185 lbs...

I am lucky that I have coworkers who say I am doing good, when I decline a cupcake, because I am going to have my splurge that day at lunch with a friend, they are motivating, my Dad tries to feed me with extra stuff because "there is no fun in life without eating", but makes rude comments about my oversized butt at the same time.

Just filter, only let the good comments come through and ignore the others with the mental note 'not important enough to be remembered"

I get this from a lot of My Clients. "You lost a lot of Weight, is it on Purpose or ?"
However, Its always followed up with a " Good for you !!"
I dont believe most People mean it as a Rudeness, but more an Expression of Concern, Which I find Heart Warming..
People are afraid of Congratulating you, just in case your Sick. A little Like People are afraid of asking Pregnant Woman, when they are Due.. (Just in case they arent Pregnant, but just gained a lot)


I dont Mind... I consider it a NSV that People actually Notice the effort you haev put in..

It's not happened to me (yet!) but my dad lost 60 pounds 3 years ago and has kept it off. Since he is a senior citizen, he's 73, he got it all the time by his friends. It made him so mad! His response was, "Where was your concern when I was fat?" That usually shut them up.

That is the PERFECT response!
People have had their perspective skewed so badly. It sounds like these people feel threatened by your hard work or feel bad about being out of shape themselves.

Weight loss does not equal illness.

I've been dealing with this lately as well. And you know what? It HURTS. I am sorry that you are dealing with this. You do what you need to do, for YOU. We'll all be your positive reinforcements here at MFP. :-)

Also, where were these caring people when we weren't eating so healthy and caring about ourweight? That's how I look at it anyways. No one cared when I was shoveling potato chips and Doritos and ice cream in, but they all of a sudden care now that I'm eating healthy?

I get that a lot too. I think the biggest problem is that most people nowadays have a distorted idea of what HEALTHY weight is.

I say, keep up the great work and don't let those people get to you. If possible, maybe even educate them as to what's "healthy".

This is the first problem ^. The second is that people don't like to think you are successful because it makes them feel less so. I get this all the time. It's discouraging. But it's them, not you! I gave blood yesterday and the woman doing it was prompting me to eat and looking at me disaprovingly. At the same time telling me about her prior job of selling very expensive weight loss stuff, and how she eats plenty of fruits, vegetables, and protein at work, so only eats "a little thing" of yogurt at home.

When I was overweight and said I need to lose weight people said "where!" and if I said I lost a few pounds they would look at me shocked and say "you dont need to lose weight". I was in the Obese BMI and felt awful, plus was so out of shape i had chest pain just going upstairs. Having lost weight they say Whaaaat? "You look fine! where did you lose it?" My family, the last time I lost this much were all telling me I looked anorexic and to stop it. My Brother said he could see around my mouth like I was anorexic. How would they know? They only know what padding looks like. I'm nearly in the middle of my BMI for my height, age, and sex. The BMI is only one little tool, but most things I have read points me to this, as well as how I feel and look. Don't even expect people to understand why you like whole foods better than junk food when you are "there". They can't imagine how bad they feel and how much better you feel and "real" food tastes.

People won't like you when you are fat. People won't like you when you are skinny. So the real reason is not to do this to become skinny and drop all your imagined problems, it's still you inside there. Do it for you and how you are going to feel! Which is terrific!