It's so damn difficult....
GoldenLennon
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I get that losing weight is not an easy task. I get that you don't have to work until you nearly pass out. But to eat things in moderation and exercise could help too. But anytime I feel like I'm in the right mindset 99% of the time, but in the end I feel like I can't do it and gain another 5 lbs. Is there anyone out there who also thinks like this or is it just me? Any advice I could get on how to get over something like this and get to a healthier me?
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Every person ever. Just got to find the strength and knowledge to get yourself through it21
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That's so me on every other weightloss path except this one.
I've been taking this one day at a time, one meal at a time (or at least that's how I started) and at first I didn't believe I would have the results that I did, this meant that I could use each Pound/ Kilogram as a challenge to myself to do and be better.
Check that you're not making your deficit too large and excluding too many food groups, this I've found severley hinders my motivation. I've set my goal to 500grams a week and so far so good.
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I've also been struggling, I changed my goal to 500kg this week from 750kg. Maybe it will make a difference. Any tips on staying on track during the weekend, it seems that's when I'm the weakest.....1
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RocheBeukes wrote: »I've also been struggling, I changed my goal to 500kg this week from 750kg. Maybe it will make a difference. Any tips on staying on track during the weekend, it seems that's when I'm the weakest.....
500 kg of what?5 -
I just got into the habit of logging everything I eat.
It's amazing how caloric awareness keeps you on track.
I don't make rules as to what I can and can't eat. I exercise because I love it. I eat what I love within my calorie limit.
I'm fully aware I will need to stick to my calorie limit for life. I don't have a problem with that.
What use is having a problem with the laws of physics?17 -
Don't make this whole thing more complicated than it actually is-the only thing that matters for weight loss is eating at the correct calorie deficit for your weight goals. Just focus on that and keep things simple 10
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I do this and tend to yo yo a bit within the same 14 pounds but I'm trying to think more take it one day at a time, or even one meal at a time.
I have a habit of putting things off (the typical "start on Monday" syndrome, one last cake etc.) when really I should just think - if it fits my macros I can have it, or if I haven't the calories/macros left in my allowance I have to either workout until I earn some back or not bother, most of the time I'll likely think it's not worth it then.
I think we far too often fail because we tell ourselves that we can't have nice things anymore once we start "dieting" so put off making the start - this lack of control doesn't work for me, all that ever works for me is an "if it fits your macros" approach and try to generally be sensible with absolutely nothing off limits, as long as my calorie/macro goals allow. For it to work for me I have to know there's nothing I can't have.
Try to think of this journey as YOUR choice with YOU in control, it's a lifestyle choice NOT a diet. I think control is such a massive element when it comes to eating habits.5 -
What puts you in the mindset of "Can't do it"?1
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I just got into the habit of logging everything I eat.
It's amazing how caloric awareness keeps you on track.
I don't make rules as to what I can and can't eat. I exercise because I love it. I eat what I love within my calorie limit.
I'm fully aware I will need to stick to my calorie limit for life. I don't have a problem with that.
What use is having a problem with the laws of physics?
Yep ... this ^^0 -
singingflutelady wrote: »RocheBeukes wrote: »I've also been struggling, I changed my goal to 500kg this week from 750kg. Maybe it will make a difference. Any tips on staying on track during the weekend, it seems that's when I'm the weakest.....
500 kg of what?
I suspect she means grams.3 -
one thing that has helped me is having some success , then i want to loose more . turns out the more i loose the more i want/need to loose .
good luck2 -
Forget about losing weight. Just start by logging everything you eat normally with no restrictions. Once you have mastered logging every bite, and this activity becomes a daily habit like brushing your teeth THEN begin to cut back your normal consumption by a small amount so you don't feel deprived.
For me, I had to master the habit of paying attention to what I was eating and learn what true portion sizes look like. Then the weight loss magically happened.15 -
I'm a binge eater. I gain and lose the same 5 pounds over and over. Losing weight is a great struggle for me. You aren't alone.1
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texasleahgirl wrote: »Forget about losing weight. Just start by logging everything you eat normally with no restrictions. Once you have mastered logging every bite, and this activity becomes a daily habit like brushing your teeth THEN begin to cut back your normal consumption by a small amount so you don't feel deprived.
For me, I had to master the habit of paying attention to what I was eating and learn what true portion sizes look like. Then the weight loss magically happened.
yeah. This^0 -
500kg is half a tonne. That's a steep deficit.13
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that's exactly where I started 30 pounds ago....frustrated and feeling alone and like it was an impossible task! I had to go to a specialist who met with me weekly and then monthly for 6 months, taught me healthy eating, drink water (don't drink your calories) but more than that I had to pay for her services and so I felt accountable to her and someone else was looking at that scale with me and that helped me...I needed someone else seeing that number and didn't want to be embarrassed....but she really taught me about getting enough protein, fruits and vegetables....I had to learn to eat in a way that was healthy and I felt satisfied. I've been able to maintain most of my loss. You can do this0
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I just got into the habit of logging everything I eat.
It's amazing how caloric awareness keeps you on track.
I don't make rules as to what I can and can't eat. I exercise because I love it. I eat what I love within my calorie limit.
I'm fully aware I will need to stick to my calorie limit for life. I don't have a problem with that.
What use is having a problem with the laws of physics?
This. Take it one step at a time.
Trying to do too much at once is what makes it hard.
Being fat is hard. Losing weight is hard. Chose your hard.
Honestly, I'm going to disagree with the others here that it was hard. Because I did this slower approach. I started just by logging my food, right where I was, without the intent to lose weight. Then I started seeing where I could make small changes. One small change at a time.
I started exercising in the same way. One small step at a time.
Taking a slow approach made the whole process not seem very hard at all. I don't care that it took longer. I mean for this to last.10 -
It's not hard, it just takes patience and discipline and time. I've spent two years to lose 50 pounds. I still have some bodyfat to lose but at some point it will be gone. The greatest thing I have ever been told (by a guy who lost 140 pounds) is this..."It's not where you are now, it's where you will be a year from now".5
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GottaBurnEmAll wrote: »Being fat is hard. Losing weight is hard. Chose your hard.
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I've seen this before and don't get it. It was easy to be over 300 for me. How is being fat hard?
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grmckenzie wrote: »GottaBurnEmAll wrote: »Being fat is hard. Losing weight is hard. Chose your hard.
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I've seen this before and don't get it. It was easy to be over 300 for me. How is being fat hard?
They won't let you on the teacup ride for one thing
But I don't want to go on the teacup ride. So that isn't hard for me..... 3 -
grmckenzie wrote: »grmckenzie wrote: »GottaBurnEmAll wrote: »Being fat is hard. Losing weight is hard. Chose your hard.
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I've seen this before and don't get it. It was easy to be over 300 for me. How is being fat hard?
They won't let you on the teacup ride for one thing
But I don't want to go on the teacup ride. So that isn't hard for me.....
Yup. Forget the teacup ride. I worked my *** off for a year to lose weight but it its pretty darned easy for me to eat a pizza and drink beer while playing Minecraft.3 -
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I used to see things with an all or nothing mentality. The most important thing is making small changes that you can stick to for the rest of your life. I use a flexible dieting approach, meaning I don't eliminate ANYTHING from my diet- I just eat it in moderation. For some reason our bodies seem to want something more when we say, "no! You can't have that!" Often I find people binge, feel bad, then start ALL over numerous times because of how much they limit specific foods. Just figure out your calories and then get about 30% of those from protein, 40% from carbs, and 40% from fat. Also make sure you are eating about 30g of fiber and drinking about 100oz of water per day. I PROMISE this will help!0
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singingflutelady wrote: »RocheBeukes wrote: »I've also been struggling, I changed my goal to 500kg this week from 750kg. Maybe it will make a difference. Any tips on staying on track during the weekend, it seems that's when I'm the weakest.....
500 kg of what?
I suspect she means grams.
I suspect she means calories.2 -
Yes, it is difficult, but it becomes easier with diligence. I have been seriously overweight for about 10 years since quitting smoking & reaching menopause. I lost some a few years ago when I logged my food, and I've usually been involved in some sort of physical activity. When I strayed from calorie counting I gained most of my weight again. I simply cannot eat intuitively, and logging holds me accountable.
Not to whine, but this past year has been awful: My Mother died after an awful period of Alzheimer's & other issues, I was the subject of a witch hunt where I've had a stellar 20-year career, and they fired me. Anxiety & depression have been nearly debilitating. It may seem odd that I made a decision to lose weight during all of this, but I have. It seemed to be one thing that I could control.
Since July 2016 I have lost 28 pounds--much of it from my belly. I've increased my exertion at the gym, and I recently resumed lifting weights. I'm feeling pretty good about all this. But I try not to make weight loss the only measure of success. Eating well & exercising make me feel good; I like it when I accomplish my goal. Weight loss may be inconsistent, so I have to look for other positives.
At first I aimed to remain within my calorie allotment. Over time I've tried to refine my intake by emphasizing lean protein and fruits/vegies. I'm not lifting heavy weights, but I do what I can: It still counts. I sometimes have to remind myself that it is okay to be a novice; I don't have to be perfect just yet.7 -
GoldenLennon wrote: »I get that losing weight is not an easy task. I get that you don't have to work until you nearly pass out. But to eat things in moderation and exercise could help too. But anytime I feel like I'm in the right mindset 99% of the time, but in the end I feel like I can't do it and gain another 5 lbs. Is there anyone out there who also thinks like this or is it just me? Any advice I could get on how to get over something like this and get to a healthier me?
I'm having the same problem. Maybe try not eating back excercise calories and keep your goals updated on MFP.
Idk I have been having some problems too0 -
I get it op. I'm like that with my type two diabetes. I go through some smooth day's were I don't have sweet and yet my sugars go high so I get mad and shovel all kinds of goodies. It's all in the mind. If you say it's only one day it's a lie. You say that for one day but then there's six more days in the week. It's hard but if you go reaching for the sweets have other option available that will fill you up. Just remember to be mind full. I'm still working on this0
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I may sound harsh, but you've got to hate being fat more than you love eating.
Nothing wonderful is ever easy.
But once you get into the habit of moving your body more, you will feel worse when you miss a workout, walk, whatever you do.....
Some days I still overeat but I try to ensure I walk more that day to balance the goodies I consume. I really prefer the skinny fit me over the fat me. 5 -
I feel like I can't do it almost everyday, but then I do. How I feel and what I do aren't directly correlated. For example, sometimes I don't feel like going to work, but I do.
Weight loss isn't some mythical thing and truthfully there's no mythical answer. It's just like anything else in life that you have to work for.1 -
GoldenLennon wrote: »I get that losing weight is not an easy task. I get that you don't have to work until you nearly pass out. But to eat things in moderation and exercise could help too. But anytime I feel like I'm in the right mindset 99% of the time, but in the end I feel like I can't do it and gain another 5 lbs. Is there anyone out there who also thinks like this or is it just me? Any advice I could get on how to get over something like this and get to a healthier me?
I think the hardest part is just getting the ball rolling...once it's rolling, it takes on it's own momentum. Unfortunately, getting the ball rolling takes some effort and "just do it" mentality...it take some consistency...but after a few weeks, that ball gets rolling and you start to see the, "yeah...I'm doing this."1
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