I was doing better but relapsed
emjam99
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Hi, about a year and a half ago I started this whole weight loss journey. A little under a year I lost about 40 pounds and then my weight loss stopped. I struggle with binge eating disorder and about a month ago I was finally making progressive changes, however with the holidays and emotional issues plus just life getting in the way (I won't make excuses, I'm not perfect) I relapsed. Im upset because my goal was originally 125-130 pounds (im 5'5) but I'm stuck here at 140 and more important than my weight I'm worried about my health. I want to not binge anymore, I want to become more active, I want to be happy. What steps should I take to ridding myself of this disorder?
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You already have a normal bmi. Binge eating disorder is best addressed by a therapist who specializes in eating disorders. Your goal weight is also within normal range, so I see nothing wrong with working towards that, but given the psychological issues, you will want to work with a therapist while you do so.
Good luck!9 -
Eating disorders pretty much require professional assistance to get out of. Contacting someone, or getting a referral from your physician, is your first step.6
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Often binges happen because you've been under-eating for a while.
What is a "binge" to you?
Since you are already at a healthy weight, you should not have a large calorie deficit - no more than 250 per day. If you eat enough, the binges will be more controllable.4 -
You need to see a professional who is qualified and experienced in treating eating disordered behavior.
See if your family physician/GP can refer you.5 -
Hi, about a year and a half ago I started this whole weight loss journey. A little under a year I lost about 40 pounds and then my weight loss stopped. I struggle with binge eating disorder and about a month ago I was finally making progressive changes, however with the holidays and emotional issues plus just life getting in the way (I won't make excuses, I'm not perfect) I relapsed. Im upset because my goal was originally 125-130 pounds (im 5'5) but I'm stuck here at 140 and more important than my weight I'm worried about my health. I want to not binge anymore, I want to become more active, I want to be happy. What steps should I take to ridding myself of this disorder?
What professional help have you had thus far for your binge eating disorder? I highly recommend Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.1 -
Can i just add that not every solution is to see a therapist only the therapist can give her tips maybe even set goals for her that she has to do but hes her own mind that has to stop the binge eating and she has to really want to stop it or its pointless x3
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Noone other than yourself can help you you halft to help yourself its you that has to do it its you that has to make yourself exsersize and eat healthy its you that has to quit it not anyone else because you see the therapist for an hour a week not really going to benifit from that entirely im afraid its only you that can make a change x0
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ashley_mulvey wrote: »Noone other than yourself can help you you halft to help yourself its you that has to do it its you that has to make yourself exsersize and eat healthy its you that has to quit it not anyone else because you see the therapist for an hour a week not really going to benifit from that entirely im afraid its only you that can make a change xashley_mulvey wrote: »Can i just add that not every solution is to see a therapist only the therapist can give her tips maybe even set goals for her that she has to do but hes her own mind that has to stop the binge eating and she has to really want to stop it or its pointless x
^ No offense but you're entirely trivializing what could be a disorder that requires professional help.
You're doing the equivalent of telling a person with clinical depression to "just cheer up".
It's not that simple.12 -
ashley_mulvey wrote: »Can i just add that not every solution is to see a therapist only the therapist can give her tips maybe even set goals for her that she has to do but hes her own mind that has to stop the binge eating and she has to really want to stop it or its pointless xashley_mulvey wrote: »Noone other than yourself can help you you halft to help yourself its you that has to do it its you that has to make yourself exsersize and eat healthy its you that has to quit it not anyone else because you see the therapist for an hour a week not really going to benifit from that entirely im afraid its only you that can make a change x
In that one hour a week she can learn skills that will help her for the other 167.
She does want to stop binging; hence her thread.6 -
You aren't too far from goal. The last 10 pounds come off much slower now. Try not to create a really big deficit and be happy with little losses. Aim for 0.5 pound loss a week which is only 250 calories less a day below TDEE. That way you won't feel so hungry.
Aim for eating at your TDEE calorie level on your "diet breaks" instead of binging. <You won't gain weight doing that. Weight loss will go slower now, so be patient and good to yourself. You look great!0 -
ashley_mulvey wrote: »Noone other than yourself can help you you halft to help yourself its you that has to do it its you that has to make yourself exsersize and eat healthy its you that has to quit it not anyone else because you see the therapist for an hour a week not really going to benifit from that entirely im afraid its only you that can make a change xashley_mulvey wrote: »Can i just add that not every solution is to see a therapist only the therapist can give her tips maybe even set goals for her that she has to do but hes her own mind that has to stop the binge eating and she has to really want to stop it or its pointless x
^ No offense but you're entirely trivializing what could be a disorder that requires professional help.
You're doing the equivalent of telling a person with clinical depression to "just cheer up".
It's not that simple.
She's been roughly 140 pounds at 5'5" for nearly a year. Does that sound like a "disorder" to you?
OP, you do it by doing it. You can't eat what isn't around, so don't keep binge-worthy foods around.
By all means, pay someone else hundreds (thousands?) of dollars to tell you not to binge. Or just choose not to.
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xmichaelyx wrote: »ashley_mulvey wrote: »Noone other than yourself can help you you halft to help yourself its you that has to do it its you that has to make yourself exsersize and eat healthy its you that has to quit it not anyone else because you see the therapist for an hour a week not really going to benifit from that entirely im afraid its only you that can make a change xashley_mulvey wrote: »Can i just add that not every solution is to see a therapist only the therapist can give her tips maybe even set goals for her that she has to do but hes her own mind that has to stop the binge eating and she has to really want to stop it or its pointless x
^ No offense but you're entirely trivializing what could be a disorder that requires professional help.
You're doing the equivalent of telling a person with clinical depression to "just cheer up".
It's not that simple.
She's been roughly 140 pounds at 5'5" for nearly a year...
OP, you do it by doing it. You can't eat what isn't around, so don't keep binge-worthy foods around.
Oh, then OP knows how to do maintenance. Excellent! Yeah. This is good advice above to stay away from trigger foods and keep them out of the house.1 -
Hi, about a year and a half ago I started this whole weight loss journey. A little under a year I lost about 40 pounds and then my weight loss stopped. I struggle with binge eating disorder and about a month ago I was finally making progressive changes, however with the holidays and emotional issues plus just life getting in the way (I won't make excuses, I'm not perfect) I relapsed. Im upset because my goal was originally 125-130 pounds (im 5'5) but I'm stuck here at 140 and more important than my weight I'm worried about my health. I want to not binge anymore, I want to become more active, I want to be happy. What steps should I take to ridding myself of this disorder?
It can be very discouraging to plateau for a long time, and even more so after you work so hard to lose.
But do try to keep this whole recent "binge" ordeal in perspective and realize that a lot of people gain weight during Christmas holidays. Most of it is water weight and will drop off.0 -
I can certainly relate (I'm not perfect either...AND I have experience w/ eating disorders!) What finally worked for me was taking my focus off of the numbers altogether. I go to the gym and instead focus on how individual exercises make me feel (and no matter what you've been told, it IS possible to be slightly overweight and still be fit!) Focus on being the best YOU the you can be, no matter what the scale says! You're doing GREAT!!!1
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xmichaelyx wrote: »ashley_mulvey wrote: »Noone other than yourself can help you you halft to help yourself its you that has to do it its you that has to make yourself exsersize and eat healthy its you that has to quit it not anyone else because you see the therapist for an hour a week not really going to benifit from that entirely im afraid its only you that can make a change xashley_mulvey wrote: »Can i just add that not every solution is to see a therapist only the therapist can give her tips maybe even set goals for her that she has to do but hes her own mind that has to stop the binge eating and she has to really want to stop it or its pointless x
^ No offense but you're entirely trivializing what could be a disorder that requires professional help.
You're doing the equivalent of telling a person with clinical depression to "just cheer up".
It's not that simple.
She's been roughly 140 pounds at 5'5" for nearly a year. Does that sound like a "disorder" to you?
OP, you do it by doing it. You can't eat what isn't around, so don't keep binge-worthy foods around.
By all means, pay someone else hundreds (thousands?) of dollars to tell you not to binge. Or just choose not to.
She states she has recently over the holidays relapsed with her binging and wants help before it gets out of hand.
I think someone can have a disorder in the past manage it for awhile and then fall back into that disorder. At least this is how I'm reading the OP. And if that is what she is saying I don't think its as easy as saying "stop".
ETA - OP says she has a disorder.
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Hi, about a year and a half ago I started this whole weight loss journey. A little under a year I lost about 40 pounds and then my weight loss stopped. I struggle with binge eating disorder and about a month ago I was finally making progressive changes, however with the holidays and emotional issues plus just life getting in the way (I won't make excuses, I'm not perfect) I relapsed. Im upset because my goal was originally 125-130 pounds (im 5'5) but I'm stuck here at 140 and more important than my weight I'm worried about my health. I want to not binge anymore, I want to become more active, I want to be happy. What steps should I take to ridding myself of this disorder?
If you hit a plateau you should "rebuff/reset" your metabolism and eat more calories than your current normal for 2-3 weeks (no deficit, maintain weight diet or slightly more) to cheat your body. After that, go for a deficit in calories again.0 -
xmichaelyx wrote: »ashley_mulvey wrote: »Noone other than yourself can help you you halft to help yourself its you that has to do it its you that has to make yourself exsersize and eat healthy its you that has to quit it not anyone else because you see the therapist for an hour a week not really going to benifit from that entirely im afraid its only you that can make a change xashley_mulvey wrote: »Can i just add that not every solution is to see a therapist only the therapist can give her tips maybe even set goals for her that she has to do but hes her own mind that has to stop the binge eating and she has to really want to stop it or its pointless x
^ No offense but you're entirely trivializing what could be a disorder that requires professional help.
You're doing the equivalent of telling a person with clinical depression to "just cheer up".
It's not that simple.
She's been roughly 140 pounds at 5'5" for nearly a year. Does that sound like a "disorder" to you?
OP, you do it by doing it. You can't eat what isn't around, so don't keep binge-worthy foods around.
By all means, pay someone else hundreds (thousands?) of dollars to tell you not to binge. Or just choose not to.xmichaelyx wrote: »ashley_mulvey wrote: »Noone other than yourself can help you you halft to help yourself its you that has to do it its you that has to make yourself exsersize and eat healthy its you that has to quit it not anyone else because you see the therapist for an hour a week not really going to benifit from that entirely im afraid its only you that can make a change xashley_mulvey wrote: »Can i just add that not every solution is to see a therapist only the therapist can give her tips maybe even set goals for her that she has to do but hes her own mind that has to stop the binge eating and she has to really want to stop it or its pointless x
^ No offense but you're entirely trivializing what could be a disorder that requires professional help.
You're doing the equivalent of telling a person with clinical depression to "just cheer up".
It's not that simple.
She's been roughly 140 pounds at 5'5" for nearly a year. Does that sound like a "disorder" to you?
OP, you do it by doing it. You can't eat what isn't around, so don't keep binge-worthy foods around.
By all means, pay someone else hundreds (thousands?) of dollars to tell you not to binge. Or just choose not to.xmichaelyx wrote: »ashley_mulvey wrote: »Noone other than yourself can help you you halft to help yourself its you that has to do it its you that has to make yourself exsersize and eat healthy its you that has to quit it not anyone else because you see the therapist for an hour a week not really going to benifit from that entirely im afraid its only you that can make a change xashley_mulvey wrote: »Can i just add that not every solution is to see a therapist only the therapist can give her tips maybe even set goals for her that she has to do but hes her own mind that has to stop the binge eating and she has to really want to stop it or its pointless x
^ No offense but you're entirely trivializing what could be a disorder that requires professional help.
You're doing the equivalent of telling a person with clinical depression to "just cheer up".
It's not that simple.
She's been roughly 140 pounds at 5'5" for nearly a year. Does that sound like a "disorder" to you?
OP, you do it by doing it. You can't eat what isn't around, so don't keep binge-worthy foods around.
By all means, pay someone else hundreds (thousands?) of dollars to tell you not to binge. Or just choose not to.
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I am shocked how unsupportive people are being. Yes, she and I could seek professional help. We are not dumb and know that's an option. The idea is that she is recognizing a pattern and asking what "you" do when strong urges come on. This is supposed to be a supportive community. It doesn't matter the op's size or history. If you don't have any advice because this is not your thing, then don't just reply, see a doctor. Maybe answer a thread that you can be helpful with.
As for my advice. I weigh 130. I revenkt gained this weight from binge eating. My comfortable weight is 115. One thing that has helped me is identify the time or times this urge comes on. Then figure out, why is it this time? For me it's at night. I'm alone and can eat away the stresses of the day without anyone knowing. Also I realized I hate being alone. Food comforts me. When I'm with my bf, I never think of it. There must be an underlying anxiety or fear driving you to seek comfort through food. Pm me if you want a friend to write to with no judgement.2 -
xmichaelyx wrote: »ashley_mulvey wrote: »Noone other than yourself can help you you halft to help yourself its you that has to do it its you that has to make yourself exsersize and eat healthy its you that has to quit it not anyone else because you see the therapist for an hour a week not really going to benifit from that entirely im afraid its only you that can make a change xashley_mulvey wrote: »Can i just add that not every solution is to see a therapist only the therapist can give her tips maybe even set goals for her that she has to do but hes her own mind that has to stop the binge eating and she has to really want to stop it or its pointless x
^ No offense but you're entirely trivializing what could be a disorder that requires professional help.
You're doing the equivalent of telling a person with clinical depression to "just cheer up".
It's not that simple.
She's been roughly 140 pounds at 5'5" for nearly a year. Does that sound like a "disorder" to you?
OP, you do it by doing it. You can't eat what isn't around, so don't keep binge-worthy foods around.
By all means, pay someone else hundreds (thousands?) of dollars to tell you not to binge. Or just choose not to.
I can't tell if she has a disorder based on her bodyweight and I'm not sure how you think you can.
Also, everyone saying she just needs to somehow choose not to binge, she literally said that she struggles with binge eating disorder.
Not:
"I eat too much on occasion"
Not
"hey I can't moderate the potato chips"
^^^ THESE might be things that you can try to pull the "just choose not to do it" card.
"I have binge eating disorder " <---- Not something you just solve by modifying your grocery shopping.5 -
I am shocked how unsupportive people are being. Yes, she and I could seek professional help. We are not dumb and know that's an option. The idea is that she is recognizing a pattern and asking what "you" do when strong urges come on. This is supposed to be a supportive community. It doesn't matter the op's size or history. If you don't have any advice because this is not your thing, then don't just reply, see a doctor. Maybe answer a thread that you can be helpful with.
As for my advice. I weigh 130. I revenkt gained this weight from binge eating. My comfortable weight is 115. One thing that has helped me is identify the time or times this urge comes on. Then figure out, why is it this time? For me it's at night. I'm alone and can eat away the stresses of the day without anyone knowing. Also I realized I hate being alone. Food comforts me. When I'm with my bf, I never think of it. There must be an underlying anxiety or fear driving you to seek comfort through food. Pm me if you want a friend to write to with no judgement.
I don't see how recommending professional help is "unsupportive". EDs are serious. And beyond the scope of an Internet forum. Period. Full stop.
If she really feels like she is relapsing (her words, btw), then it would be wise to seek out the help of a professional, rather than the random advice of strangers on an anonymous forum. They could trailer advice specific to her goals, triggers, lifestyle, and any other health concerns. The suggestion is not unsupportive. It's sensible.
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tlflag1620 wrote: »I am shocked how unsupportive people are being. Yes, she and I could seek professional help. We are not dumb and know that's an option. The idea is that she is recognizing a pattern and asking what "you" do when strong urges come on. This is supposed to be a supportive community. It doesn't matter the op's size or history. If you don't have any advice because this is not your thing, then don't just reply, see a doctor. Maybe answer a thread that you can be helpful with.
As for my advice. I weigh 130. I revenkt gained this weight from binge eating. My comfortable weight is 115. One thing that has helped me is identify the time or times this urge comes on. Then figure out, why is it this time? For me it's at night. I'm alone and can eat away the stresses of the day without anyone knowing. Also I realized I hate being alone. Food comforts me. When I'm with my bf, I never think of it. There must be an underlying anxiety or fear driving you to seek comfort through food. Pm me if you want a friend to write to with no judgement.
I don't see how recommending professional help is "unsupportive". EDs are serious. And beyond the scope of an Internet forum. Period. Full stop.
If she really feels like she is relapsing (her words, btw), then it would be wise to seek out the help of a professional, rather than the random advice of strangers on an anonymous forum. They could trailer advice specific to her goals, triggers, lifestyle, and any other health concerns. The suggestion is not unsupportive. It's sensible.
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I am shocked how unsupportive people are being. Yes, she and I could seek professional help. We are not dumb and know that's an option. The idea is that she is recognizing a pattern and asking what "you" do when strong urges come on. This is supposed to be a supportive community. It doesn't matter the op's size or history. If you don't have any advice because this is not your thing, then don't just reply, see a doctor. Maybe answer a thread that you can be helpful with.
As for my advice. I weigh 130. I revenkt gained this weight from binge eating. My comfortable weight is 115. One thing that has helped me is identify the time or times this urge comes on. Then figure out, why is it this time? For me it's at night. I'm alone and can eat away the stresses of the day without anyone knowing. Also I realized I hate being alone. Food comforts me. When I'm with my bf, I never think of it. There must be an underlying anxiety or fear driving you to seek comfort through food. Pm me if you want a friend to write to with no judgement.
Nobody here is trained to help with eating disorders, which the OP says she has. Suggesting she seek support from someone who does have training is all we can do.3 -
I binged over Christmas. Same last year. The combination of feeling stressed and being surrounded by an unusual abundance of treats does me in. My plan to combat this behaviour is to prioritize exercise. I have had a tendency to skip it when things get hectic and I now recognize that is a big mistake for me. Exercise is critical to getting a proper night's sleep and my mental health.
Btw, it's not unusual for me to not feel up to "vigorous" exercise when I'm feeling stressed. Luckily brisk walks are enough.0 -
Hi, about a year and a half ago I started this whole weight loss journey. A little under a year I lost about 40 pounds and then my weight loss stopped. I struggle with binge eating disorder and about a month ago I was finally making progressive changes, however with the holidays and emotional issues plus just life getting in the way (I won't make excuses, I'm not perfect) I relapsed. Im upset because my goal was originally 125-130 pounds (im 5'5) but I'm stuck here at 140 and more important than my weight I'm worried about my health. I want to not binge anymore, I want to become more active, I want to be happy. What steps should I take to ridding myself of this disorder?
Hello, Emjam. Let's look at one of your goals - it's the easiest, because it's framed as wanting the presence of something tangible: becoming more active. How about something simple? Walking .... it's something you are probably doing every day. Adding ten minutes here and there is pretty doable. Take the bus? Get off or on a stop earlier/later than you usually do. Drive to the grocery store? Park at the furthest cart-return kiosk. Are you already walking a fair amount and want to step it up? Check out your local "Y" for a class that looks interesting.
The goal of "not binging..." I agree that this is a place where getting expert help is useful. That said, you have some data that might be helpful. You were making "progressive changes." Think of what they were. What did you start doing? How did that help?
What can you be grateful for today (no matter how small or large)? Honor that. Tomorrow, repeat.
Good luck to you!1
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