I wish people would notice :(

mommyoftwins05
mommyoftwins05 Posts: 645 Member
edited September 2024 in Health and Weight Loss
My fiancee knows i've lost 10lbs because I told him (because its my mini goal for my bikini :) ) and plus he sees this site. I guess he told my dad last night that I lost 10lbs. My dad asked him where?

I don't know whether its discouraging people not noticing... or makes me want to work harder just to make them notice lol..

I'm hoping when I reach 15lbs they will

I'm only 5'2 and I started at 144.6 and I'm at 134.5... My goal is 115.. (maybe 110 we will see) so not sure if they will ever notice hmm
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  • Elzecat
    Elzecat Posts: 2,916 Member
    Only one person noticed when I had lost about 9-10 lbs...it really became noticeable when I'd lost about 15...

    I still have people who don't seem to notice...and I've lost 40 lbs and am at a healthy "average" weight now...lol...
  • mommyoftwins05
    mommyoftwins05 Posts: 645 Member
    wow.. well I'm hoping next time we have a bbq with aunts and uncles ect.. since they only see me 1 or 2 times a month.. during the summer.. that it'll show.. then we will don't see them during the fall/winter.. so hopefully next summer will be really good
  • HMonsterX
    HMonsterX Posts: 3,000 Member
    Im always naturally suspicious when people like my wife or parents say "I can definitely see a change!". Id expect them to say that, even if they cant...

    The best ones are when unsolicited compliments. People you arent overly close to say it. They didnt have to, they werent expected to. I had that the other day when someone i used to bowl with, and hadnt seen for ages, noticed it.
  • leslturn8
    leslturn8 Posts: 505 Member
    it is disheartening, my work is all fitness freaks atm and my boss was polite enough to ask if i lost weight...it didnt seam genuine....everyone else is dropping a kilo a week and i manage 1 kilo a fortnight :(
  • mommyoftwins05
    mommyoftwins05 Posts: 645 Member
    Im always naturally suspicious when people like my wife or parents say "I can definitely see a change!". Id expect them to say that, even if they cant...

    The best ones are when unsolicited compliments. People you arent overly close to say it. They didnt have to, they werent expected to. I had that the other day when someone i used to bowl with, and hadnt seen for ages, noticed it.

    Yeah I'm hoping for someone who doesn't know I'm trying to lose weight to notice it..
  • Rae6503
    Rae6503 Posts: 6,294 Member
    I think people who see you a lot don't notice and if people don't think of you as overweight, they also won't noticed a change. It kind of sucks but at least you know they didn't think you were that bad to begin with.
  • beamishcas
    beamishcas Posts: 226 Member
    I know how you feel. I just saw family last weekend that hasn't seen my in a long while, and NOT ONE PERSON noticed. I was down 24 lbs at the time. Next time they will see me is Christmas.... Maybe they will notice then. :)
  • fastbelly
    fastbelly Posts: 727 Member
    The more often people see you the less they will notice.
    People that don't see you often usually notice it much more. I only started getting comments after loosing 20-25lbs.
  • runner328
    runner328 Posts: 174
    My fiancee knows i've lost 10lbs because I told him (because its my mini goal for my bikini :) ) and plus he sees this site. I guess he told my dad last night that I lost 10lbs. My dad asked him where?

    I don't know whether its discouraging people not noticing... or makes me want to work harder just to make them notice lol..

    I'm hoping when I reach 15lbs they will

    I'm only 5'2 and I started at 144.6 and I'm at 134.5... My goal is 115.. (maybe 110 we will see) so not sure if they will ever notice hmm

    Nothing against your dad but men are dense when it comes to noticing weight loss, hair cuts and new shoes. Paint your car he'd notice that though :)
  • celtickarasu
    celtickarasu Posts: 76
    For some reason, my husband always claims to see weight loss in me, and tells me so even in the times I'm not trying to lose weight. The problem is the only time he thinks I've lost weight is when I've really gained 5 lbs.
  • mommyoftwins05
    mommyoftwins05 Posts: 645 Member
    it is disheartening, my work is all fitness freaks atm and my boss was polite enough to ask if i lost weight...it didnt seam genuine....everyone else is dropping a kilo a week and i manage 1 kilo a fortnight :(

    Yeah I rather it be genuine... I don't want someone telling me it just because they know i've lost weight
  • mommyoftwins05
    mommyoftwins05 Posts: 645 Member
    For some reason, my husband always claims to see weight loss in me, and tells me so even in the times I'm not trying to lose weight. The problem is the only time he thinks I've lost weight is when I've really gained 5 lbs.

    LOL yeah over a year ago my MIL asked if I lost weight.. at that time I wasn't even trying to lose weight and I'm sure I didn't loose any either
  • queenbeaumont
    queenbeaumont Posts: 19
    I am so sorry that that was your dad's response to you losing 10 pounds :( . Don't worry about though, people will notice soon enough just hang in there and keep working at your goal, don't worry about others noticing you as long as you know that is all that matters!

    I have only been using this sight now for a little over a week now, and I have lost 7 pounds so far with using the information here and working out at the gym. Not many people have noticed but that's okay because I know and it makes me proud of myself !:)

    Hang in there and good luck!
  • QueenCat25
    QueenCat25 Posts: 130
    Sounds like he may have meant "where?" as in where do you even have ten pounds to lose? You gotta do this for yourself. Everyone will notice eventually.
  • mommyoftwins05
    mommyoftwins05 Posts: 645 Member
    My fiancee knows i've lost 10lbs because I told him (because its my mini goal for my bikini :) ) and plus he sees this site. I guess he told my dad last night that I lost 10lbs. My dad asked him where?

    I don't know whether its discouraging people not noticing... or makes me want to work harder just to make them notice lol..

    I'm hoping when I reach 15lbs they will

    I'm only 5'2 and I started at 144.6 and I'm at 134.5... My goal is 115.. (maybe 110 we will see) so not sure if they will ever notice hmm

    Nothing against your dad but men are dense when it comes to noticing weight loss, hair cuts and new shoes. Paint your car he'd notice that though :)

    LOL So true!!!!
  • mommyoftwins05
    mommyoftwins05 Posts: 645 Member
    I know how you feel. I just saw family last weekend that hasn't seen my in a long while, and NOT ONE PERSON noticed. I was down 24 lbs at the time. Next time they will see me is Christmas.... Maybe they will notice then. :)

    Good Luck :)
  • mommyoftwins05
    mommyoftwins05 Posts: 645 Member
    Thanks all!! You guys always have great advice :)
  • kr3851
    kr3851 Posts: 994 Member
    Have YOU noticed yet? I'm not trying to be mean at all so please don't take this the wrong way. I've lost just on 7kg and I can't tell. I can't expect other people to notice if I can't tell....

    I'm a lot bigger than you though, so 7kg on me isn't much.

    I'm doing this for me... no-one else. If people notice, it's a bonus. But in the end, I only want to please me when I look in the mirror.
  • sheffiej34
    sheffiej34 Posts: 91
    I've lost nearly 30 lbs and it seems the only people who notice are those I work with who also know I am trying to lose weight. Friends at church compliment my husband on his weight loss and don't say a peep to me. hmmm
  • sonpari24
    sonpari24 Posts: 62 Member
    same here but then i told myself that i m doing it for my own self ...i should not b bothered by other ppl attitudes .....n trust me one day they all will notice ......by that time u wud be more stronger n healthy:)
  • mommyoftwins05
    mommyoftwins05 Posts: 645 Member
    Have YOU noticed yet? I'm not trying to be mean at all so please don't take this the wrong way. I've lost just on 7kg and I can't tell. I can't expect other people to notice if I can't tell....

    I'm a lot bigger than you though, so 7kg on me isn't much.

    I'm doing this for me... no-one else. If people notice, it's a bonus. But in the end, I only want to please me when I look in the mirror.

    Yeah I've noticed a little in my belly.. plus my shorts are getting loose on me
  • mommyoftwins05
    mommyoftwins05 Posts: 645 Member
    I've lost nearly 30 lbs and it seems the only people who notice are those I work with who also know I am trying to lose weight. Friends at church compliment my husband on his weight loss and don't say a peep to me. hmmm

    Wow I hope they notice soon
  • kunibob
    kunibob Posts: 608 Member
    A lot of people who see you regularly won't notice the changes because they're gradual. Also, sometimes people don't like to comment on weight loss because they aren't sure if they're imagining it or not, and they don't want to sound rude if they're incorrect. People pay a lot less attention to one another than we pay to ourselves. ;)

    Hopefully you are seeing positive changes in yourself, and that's what really matters! The compliments will come...hang in there! ;)
  • PrincessSparkle5253
    PrincessSparkle5253 Posts: 28
    A lot of people say they didn't say anything because they didn't want to offend me (perhaps they think that by saying I've lost they're implying I was once bigger)
  • newfielover
    newfielover Posts: 104 Member
    Im sure you are beatiful!!! And if they don't say anything they might be thinking it.....
  • calliope_music
    calliope_music Posts: 1,242 Member
    my husband can't tell that i've lost weight. the only people who really can are people i haven't seen in a while. i think it's because he sees me every day!
  • HansTied
    HansTied Posts: 81 Member
    Those are the Exact Words I heard from my Mom..."I can definitely see a change!". I do feel that I have lost SOME weight, but until I weigh again at the Dr's on Monday, I am only guessing. But I really think I have. It's just that when there is so much to start with, it is hard to believe that a few pounds will be noticable to anyone.
  • NotGoddess
    NotGoddess Posts: 1,198 Member
    What are you wearing?
    You don't want to buy a new wardrobe, but you said your shorts are loose. Maybe go buy a new shirt that hugs your form more than what you are wearing now. Plus you can try on things in the dressing room and ask for a stranger's opinion. I've found they are pretty open when they know they aren't going to see you again and I've gotten some great advice on what works and doesn't for my shape.
  • pinkita
    pinkita Posts: 779 Member
    To those of you who haven't had anyone notice your weight loss--are you still wearing your old clothing sizes?? I didn't get comments until I got rid of my "fat" clothes and started wearing my smaller sizes :)
  • Nikkiairforcewife
    Nikkiairforcewife Posts: 164 Member
    Is it possible your dad meant, "Where did she lose it from? She doesn't need to lose any." That was my interpretation when reading it.

    I look forward to the day that someone notices. My husband knows I have, but has been honest saying that he can't tell yet. But in my case, I have a lot more than you to lose. I hope when I reach 20 lbs. that SOMEONE will notice other than myself.

    And it makes sense that someone who doesn't see you every day or week would notice because they haven't seen the gradual change. They'll see the big change.

    I'm torn between telling people that I'm trying to lose weight so they will be supportive, and NOT telling anyone so someone will notice. :P

    I like the comments that people made about buying smaller clothes. If you're hiding your trimmer figure under your baggy clothes, they won't be able to tell.
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