Had a bad couple of days

Santeham
Santeham Posts: 36 Member
edited November 14 in Motivation and Support
Hey guys.

I've had a bad couple of days as far as support from my family has been going. The last 2 video's in my diary here will tell you more -->https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZywsUNU8WbDIS8rzob1y4g
To summarise, I went to my sisters for New Years Eve, and after sitting on her sofa, she believes that I have broken a bracket or something (it's a sofa bed) and wants £140 to replace the entire sofa piece, and then today I got into an argument with my Mum about my weight.
She basically gives me a hard time about needing to start a diet and acts as though I'm not doing anything about my weight. She's knows I'm on a diet and have lost 1/2 stone since I started but continues to tell me I should start losing weight and talking as though I'm still gaining. This is the 3rd time I'll have had this exact conversation, and today when I really needed some motivation and positivity, instead I ended up having to just get up and leave.
I believe she means well, but has a HORRIBLE way of expressing it, which just comes out as continuous negativity.

On the plus side, I came here to find some of the motivation and positivity I needed, and was so pleased to find a dozen members wanting to be friends and support me. I have been away since before Christmas, and this was really fantastic to come back to.

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  • tinamarie6624
    tinamarie6624 Posts: 182 Member
    I understand what you are saying. I started a year ago at 378 Lbs. I have lost 160 and am now at 218, I still have 103 to lose. I had to have a conversation with my family when I started that I didn't want judgement if I ate something they didn't think I should eat and I absolutely forbid anyone from any kind of nagging as that would not have helped one bit. Even with that after telling my extended family and friends how much I had lost and how much I still had to lose one of my aunts said she would pray for me to lose the rest. I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt that she meant that in a good way but it made me angry because I obviously have lost an enormous amount without a prayer and I will continue in that vein until I reach my goal.

    We all need positive support and motivation and MFP is a great place to find that kind of support.

    I am here for support if you would like to add me.

    I wish you the best in your future endeavors and remember that you are stronger than you think.

    Tina Marie

  • suruda
    suruda Posts: 1,233 Member
    Welcome back! I'm sorry your family is not giving you the support you need, I'm sure you are right and she means well but doesn't express it right. My mom spent years telling me how pretty I would be if I just lost weight...sigh. Now with my daughter who also struggles with her weight, I work so hard to NOT be that mom.

    The good thing is that you are back here on MFP, you've lost 1/2 a stone and are doing the right thing by returning. You will find support here and many people who have similar experiences. Here's to an awesome 2017!
  • dmmfox
    dmmfox Posts: 45 Member
    I would've slapped them both, you did the right thing leaving. Keep up the good work!
  • StartEveryDayNew
    StartEveryDayNew Posts: 50 Member
    You're doing this for no one but yourself. Losing weight will not only improve health but increase self confidence, and your total outlook on life. Stay strong!! I have dealt with more negative than positive in my life and continue to work out and lose for me.
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