MY HUSBAND LIKES ME FAT....MAJOR SABOTAGING!!!!
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HEY maybe he likes a little extra cushion for the pushing? XD0
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How have you been behaving since starting to lose weight? Are you constantly turning food down, cutting out foods you think you can no longer eat, or constantly talking about your weight loss efforts?
I ask because maybe he's *not* sabotaging you (Gee, there's a concept). Maybe he's worried you're obsessing over counting calories, and this is his way of trying to tell you that you need to lighten up.
Or maybe he thinks you're losing weight to feel more attractive to him, and this is his way of saying he loves you no matter what size you are.
All I'm saying is, consider every option. On the surface it might appear like he's trying to keep you fat, but sometimes men have a hard time with communication. Maybe he's simply trying to let you know that he thinks you don't *need* to lose weight. If this is the real cause of the random treats, simply sit him down, and fully explain to him that you're doing this to feel better both mentally and physically, and that you really need his support.0 -
How have you been behaving since starting to lose weight? Are you constantly turning food down, cutting out foods you think you can no longer eat, or constantly talking about your weight loss efforts?
I ask because maybe he's *not* sabotaging you (Gee, there's a concept). Maybe he's worried you're obsessing over counting calories, and this is his way of trying to tell you that you need to lighten up.
Or maybe he thinks you're losing weight to feel more attractive to him, and this is his way of saying he loves you no matter what size you are.
All I'm saying is, consider every option. On the surface it might appear like he's trying to keep you fat, but sometimes men have a hard time with communication. Maybe he's simply trying to let you know that he thinks you don't *need* to lose weight. If this is the real cause of the random treats, simply sit him down, and fully explain to him that you're doing this to feel better both mentally and physically, and that you really need his support.
^QFT. My DH used to do the same thing back when I was pretty much starving myself. He knew I wouldn't buy the stuff for myself and thought that my restrictions weren't emotionally healthy. He wants me to be successful but also loves me the way that I am. So much so that he felt like he'd rather have me stay like this forever if the alternative was to be with a miserable, thinner version of myself who has major emotional issues with food.
But the simple version is that he was just doing it to be nice. He noticed that I wasn't buying the things that I loved and was constantly staring in the pantry or fridge with longing b/c there was nothing "fun" to eat. I still bought his goodies but none of my own, so he was just returning the favor.0 -
Just let them sit on the side. Don't make a confrontation of it. If he says anything about wh you haven't eaten them, you could say something like you really appreciate his thoughtfullness, but as you can't eat them AND fit into that hot new bikini/summer dress/lingerie you want to buy for him to enjoy
he should eat them/take them inot work to share with his colleagues.
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Maybe he's worried about the fact you are dropping a lot of weight? Speak to him, it's the only way to figure it out.0
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Why would a spouse, not want their spouse to lose weight??????
There are various reasons, but I'd bet the most popular is uncertainty. Worry that if you are unhappy with yourself, maybe you are unhappy with your life in general, of which he is a part. Worry that he's not good enough for you and the extra weight is the only thing leveling the field. If you lose the weight, you'll realize how much better you could do and leave.
Or maybe he really just prefers chubby. Some men like their jello with a little jiggle.0 -
I agree - it's such an unknown that I would want to ask. If he just wanted to do something nice for you - ask for flowers :flowerforyou:0
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I think you're doing the right thing. Let those brownies just sit there until they rot.
Hopefully he'll stop buying them soon.
My husband has been buying ice-cream for himself all the time, even though I told him I don't want junk in the house because it's too tempting. I haven't had any of that since I started MFP. If I really want dessert, I'll make it or get it myself, but he can keep his ice-cream.0 -
More cushion for the pushin ;-) hehheh
You can still be chubby and be healthy just saying ;-)0 -
Sometime if a person is around you everyday, you can't really tell the weight loss. People who haven't seen you in a few week can really see the difference. As for the junk food, I play a little mind trick/ game called let's see how much dust can gather on that crap. Use it as a "marker" as in "it's been 4 months since you bought that crap and I still haven't touched it.
I got 3 can's of cokes in the back of my fridge that have been there for 3 months and they are like my little trophy's.
Thats pretty awesome man!1 -
Black men like their women big!!!!
Most men about 90% like their women curvy and some fluff!0 -
Michelle2W wrote: »I've been married for over 22 years and have been overweight for the majority. My husband is fit, in the Air Force and runs and trains for 1/2 marathons. He ran four 1/2 marathons (13.1 miles each) in 120 days! I've lost about 20lbs from exercising and changing my eating habits. Hubby is deliberately going out and buying all of my old favorite foods like, Swedish Fish, Oreos, MdDonalds, ice cream and today 32 brownie bites! I'm trying my best not to take one bite of those brownie bites!!!!! Why would a spouse, not want their spouse to lose weight??????
A MAN THAT WANTS HIS SPOUSE OVERWEIGHT AND UNATTRACTIVE TO OTHER MEN LACKS CONFIDENCE.
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50_SHADES_OF_TREY wrote: »Michelle2W wrote: »I've been married for over 22 years and have been overweight for the majority. My husband is fit, in the Air Force and runs and trains for 1/2 marathons. He ran four 1/2 marathons (13.1 miles each) in 120 days! I've lost about 20lbs from exercising and changing my eating habits. Hubby is deliberately going out and buying all of my old favorite foods like, Swedish Fish, Oreos, MdDonalds, ice cream and today 32 brownie bites! I'm trying my best not to take one bite of those brownie bites!!!!! Why would a spouse, not want their spouse to lose weight??????
A MAN THAT WANTS HIS SPOUSE OVERWEIGHT AND UNATTRACTIVE TO OTHER MEN LACKS CONFIDENCE.
Not commenting on the thread - just why is it that the person was flagged????
Why are people flagging things that are so small?
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thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »50_SHADES_OF_TREY wrote: »Michelle2W wrote: »I've been married for over 22 years and have been overweight for the majority. My husband is fit, in the Air Force and runs and trains for 1/2 marathons. He ran four 1/2 marathons (13.1 miles each) in 120 days! I've lost about 20lbs from exercising and changing my eating habits. Hubby is deliberately going out and buying all of my old favorite foods like, Swedish Fish, Oreos, MdDonalds, ice cream and today 32 brownie bites! I'm trying my best not to take one bite of those brownie bites!!!!! Why would a spouse, not want their spouse to lose weight??????
A MAN THAT WANTS HIS SPOUSE OVERWEIGHT AND UNATTRACTIVE TO OTHER MEN LACKS CONFIDENCE.
Not commenting on the thread - just why is it that the person was flagged????
Why are people flagging things that are so small?
My guess is that some people areassholes, or maybe the person was offended by all caps. *shrugs*0 -
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littlemissbgiff wrote: »thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »50_SHADES_OF_TREY wrote: »Michelle2W wrote: »I've been married for over 22 years and have been overweight for the majority. My husband is fit, in the Air Force and runs and trains for 1/2 marathons. He ran four 1/2 marathons (13.1 miles each) in 120 days! I've lost about 20lbs from exercising and changing my eating habits. Hubby is deliberately going out and buying all of my old favorite foods like, Swedish Fish, Oreos, MdDonalds, ice cream and today 32 brownie bites! I'm trying my best not to take one bite of those brownie bites!!!!! Why would a spouse, not want their spouse to lose weight??????
A MAN THAT WANTS HIS SPOUSE OVERWEIGHT AND UNATTRACTIVE TO OTHER MEN LACKS CONFIDENCE.
Not commenting on the thread - just why is it that the person was flagged????
Why are people flagging things that are so small?
My guess is that some people areassholes, or maybe the person was offended by all caps. *shrugs*
I was offended that he dug up a 4 year old thread just to yell at someone but I didn't bother to flag
Good point. I just noticed that. He deserves a banning then.
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littlemissbgiff wrote: »thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »50_SHADES_OF_TREY wrote: »Michelle2W wrote: »I've been married for over 22 years and have been overweight for the majority. My husband is fit, in the Air Force and runs and trains for 1/2 marathons. He ran four 1/2 marathons (13.1 miles each) in 120 days! I've lost about 20lbs from exercising and changing my eating habits. Hubby is deliberately going out and buying all of my old favorite foods like, Swedish Fish, Oreos, MdDonalds, ice cream and today 32 brownie bites! I'm trying my best not to take one bite of those brownie bites!!!!! Why would a spouse, not want their spouse to lose weight??????
A MAN THAT WANTS HIS SPOUSE OVERWEIGHT AND UNATTRACTIVE TO OTHER MEN LACKS CONFIDENCE.
Not commenting on the thread - just why is it that the person was flagged????
Why are people flagging things that are so small?
My guess is that some people areassholes, or maybe the person was offended by all caps. *shrugs*
I was offended that he dug up a 4 year old thread just to yell at someone but I didn't bother to flag
Oh wow! Another one?!
Why do people do this????!!!0 -
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This dude always revives old threads like this.. not sure WHY. The yelling in caps has to be the reason for the flag, it is annoying..0
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littlemissbgiff wrote: »This dude always revives old threads like this.. not sure WHY. The yelling in caps has to be the reason for the flag, it is annoying..
Thought so too but then noticed that the title is in all caps so maybe he thought he was responding appropriately. Trying to give him the benefit of the doubt here
Very good observation.. it is funny to see from time to time what his thread of the day is going to be to bring back from the dead.0 -
Michelle2W wrote: »I've been married for over 22 years and have been overweight for the majority. My husband is fit, in the Air Force and runs and trains for 1/2 marathons. He ran four 1/2 marathons (13.1 miles each) in 120 days! I've lost about 20lbs from exercising and changing my eating habits. Hubby is deliberately going out and buying all of my old favorite foods like, Swedish Fish, Oreos, MdDonalds, ice cream and today 32 brownie bites! I'm trying my best not to take one bite of those brownie bites!!!!! Why would a spouse, not want their spouse to lose weight??????
If he is buying it.. you trash it.0 -
he's a chubby chaser?0
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