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he is either having sex with someone else or gay. it is not about you being fat.1
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He's either a massive jerk, or had a moment of VERY poor judgment. Either way, neither of those ultimatums are reasonable in the least.2
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I'm pretty sure that no matter your BMI, you could find sex elsewhere. That's a dumb threat if you ask me.3
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DTMFA
Someone who gives weight loss ultimatums isn't the kind of person I would want to have sex with. That isn't sexy at all.2 -
Thanks to everyone for the advice! Today he's been super nice to me and extra helpful around the house. It's like he thinks I will forget what he said if he is nice enough.
yeah, that sounds abusive. overstep, kiss up, wait until 'forgiven', rinse and repeat.
and if never 'forgiven' then get started on building a grievance about how should be 'forgiven' and you're therefore a *kitten* and the real problem here.
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Agreeing with everyone who said this is controlling and manipulative. http://www.theduluthmodel.org/pdf/PowerandControl.pdf1
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Dump him.0
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Stella3838 wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »He's having sex with someone else
I'd be inclined to agree. Most dudes won't easily give up sex if they get it on a somewhat regular basis. Otherwise, it's a d*ck move.
This isn't true. Not all men are sex crazy or even have a high sex drive. That's just a myth. However, I would be inclined to worry about cheating just because of how he's treating you. This particular man does sound very particular and shallow.... Just wow. He isn't attracted to you as you are? Then why is he with you because it is dangerous to be married to someone you don't find attractive - it leads to affairs.0 -
2016ItStartsToday wrote: »If you can get the creep to pay for a tummy tuck, I'd do it. Maybe afterwards, you'd have more confidence in YOU and then the only extra weight to lose would be him....Just saying
Good idea lol0 -
TavistockToad wrote: »He's having sex with someone else
Yep. The only reason to be that *kitten* is to try to get someone to dump you.0 -
My husband and I talked this weekend and it was a big misunderstanding. He truly believed that he was helping me because he would be sacrificing something too.
He can be totally clueless about some things and I think this was one of them. Thank you for all your comments.0
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