HELP! I need motivation & HELP. I'm begging!

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  • shortvixen09
    shortvixen09 Posts: 38 Member
    I see so much great advice! And I think you should take note of it all but we can't give you your motivation, only support. You have to make a decision to make a commitment and stay with it. I'm sure there are plenty of stories like yours with successful endings. You could try adding people similar to you to help you feel more comfortable. Everyone I've seen on here is super friendly. Feel free to add me for support!
  • dcc56
    dcc56 Posts: 172 Member
    I'd head to your primary care doctor for a visit and a range of standard blood tests. From there I would seek a Registered Dietician at your local near by hospital that has a Wellness program. Find out what is covered under your insurance, you might visit a bariatric clinic for a first visit appointment or introductory meeting. Not all bariatric care involves surgery. Many can help you with programs that don't involve surgery. Don't wait.
  • zeldon919
    zeldon919 Posts: 118 Member
    Welcome Summer.

    I would say start by tracking everything you eat and drink. See where the bulk of your calories come from, and make small adjustments.

    The first intentional step I would suggest is beverage. Don't drink your calories. I only drink water and coffee (with milk). Soda, even diet, fruit juice, energy drinks, even Gatorade are just liquid sugar.

    Also, at your weight, and in light of your health problems, I would say that working with your doctor and/or a licensed nutritionist is really fundamental, at least at first.
  • natasha_hal1
    natasha_hal1 Posts: 30 Member
    Summer!! I just want to say it is so amazing that you are beginning this adventure to a healthy lifestyle. :) I KNOW you can do it and I am excited to follow you on your journey! The first thing I would recommend is seeing your doctor and he/she can tell you best what your calorie intake should be and about how much you should lose a week. The one thing that you can easily cut from your diet are drinks that contain lots of calories. Try implementing more water or lower calorie drinks in your diet. Instead, you can use these extra calories you have left over to eat more. I would focus on the nutrition aspect only when you start your journey and when you feel comfortable with it, start adding in 15 minutes of walking a day. Good luck :)
  • Annie_01
    Annie_01 Posts: 3,096 Member
    Sadly Summer has not signed back in since Jan 7th.
  • jsdvasquez
    jsdvasquez Posts: 3 Member
    Start walking. When I didn't have a gym membership I would walk around the perimeter of the park 3 times per day for 4 days per week. That was the first change I made. As I felt my pants loosen I got motivated to start watching what I ate and started logging everything into this app. Don't get overwhelmed, just stay focused on getting through every individual day. Good luck!!
  • katiepoo22
    katiepoo22 Posts: 58 Member
    I'm 315 you just have to start! I started cutting out all the crap like my weakness is choc and sweets and replace with healthy cereal, cereal bars, calorie count, or keep a note on what u are eating try to get moving once you've lost a bit I know how hard it is to exercise when you're heavy just take your time start off slow
  • courtneyfabulous
    courtneyfabulous Posts: 1,863 Member
    Guys I think she is gone- she hasn't replied even once in this post and her last login to myfitnesspal was January 7th the day after creating this post.

    I often wonder what happens with users like this. They literally beg for support and advice, they receive it, and then... nothing.
  • Annie_01
    Annie_01 Posts: 3,096 Member
    I went back and read the posts on the 6th and 7th. Everyone was trying to be supportive.

    There was one though...a long long posts filled with do's and don'ts...it would have frightened me to "run away".

    I am leaving this thread bookmarked...hopefully she will show back up when she is ready.
  • courtneyfabulous
    courtneyfabulous Posts: 1,863 Member
    Annie_01 wrote: »
    I went back and read the posts on the 6th and 7th. Everyone was trying to be supportive.

    There was one though...a long long posts filled with do's and don'ts...it would have frightened me to "run away".

    I am leaving this thread bookmarked...hopefully she will show back up when she is ready.

    Yes I hope so! If not at least there's plenty of great advice for others to benefit from.
  • estherjellybabe
    estherjellybabe Posts: 14 Member
    edited January 2017
    Guys I think she is gone- she hasn't replied even once in this post and her last login to myfitnesspal was January 7th the day after creating this post.

    I often wonder what happens with users like this. They literally beg for support and advice, they receive it, and then... nothing.

    I was really rooting for her. Someone else had asked how I did it, and at the time I described exactly what I did and it worked so well for them! So I hoped it would work for Summer. But I guess everyone is different... Hope I didn't scare her off, it was not my intention for sure.
  • kevygirl
    kevygirl Posts: 9 Member
    I hope she hangs in there....You can do it Summer!
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  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,423 Member
    Weight loss is about having a calorie deficit. You can create a deficit by eating less than you need to maintain your current weight, burning more calories by increasing exercise or a combination of both.
    It will take time to lose weight. Accept that it will take a few years to lose a couple hundred pounds. But just 1 lb a week is 52 lbs less a year. It adds up.
    You can probably set your goal to lose 2 lbs a week but if that is a struggle try 1.5 or 1 lb to get you started.
    You should start with just logging what you normally eat and sticking to your calorie goal. You want to eat in a way you can sustain long term so don't eliminate all the food you like. You don't need to follow a bunch of rules or do weird things.
    You can alter your diet in small steps from there like getting more protein or having more vegetables on your plate.
    Weight loss is about calories not a particular diet. Protein, fats and fiber can help you feel satisfied.

    Motivation: you deserve to be healthy and have a good quality of life... those things will improve at a healthier weight

    Read some success stories:
    http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10300359/most-helpful-posts-success-stories-must-reads#latest
  • Dee_D33
    Dee_D33 Posts: 106 Member
    I FORGOT TO ADD:

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    Under the list of things NOT to eat:
    - Chocolate, chocolate spread
    - Cakes, cookies, sweets, candy bars
    - puddings, custard, pastries,
    - Biscuits, crackers, cereal-bars
    - Almost all commercially prepared breakfast cereals have lots of sugar added to them. (plain rolled oats are a natural tasty alternative especially when taken with fruit).
    - Do not add sugar to any food and drink.
    - Ice-cream, full-fat yoghurt, most yoghurts have added sugar in them.
    - fruit-juices have high amounts of added sugar (even when they say no added sugar, its bull), and no fibre to keep you full
    - Sodas/fizzy drinks/energy drinks; they have insane amounts of sugar and salt. Also avoid the ones with artificial sweeteners (aspartame, sucralose etc) since they may have a cancer-causing effect in the long term, so it's best to avoid them as much as possible).
    - Alcohol: any type, any volume, ALWAYS has a lot of sugar and always has a lot of empty calories (1 glass wine = 200 calories!)
    - Deep-fried foods, fries, oven-baked wedges, roux-based sauces, white creamy sauces, ketchup

    Learning to read food labels is extremely important, you will quickly be surprised by how much oil, fat and sugar lurks in commerically prepared foods.

    Notice that most of the things in the list of what not to eat are things that have been processed, refined and very modified from their original natural state. Remember to eat foods as close as possible to their natural form.
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    There is nothing wrong with eating any of those things. Are they the healthiest thing for you? Not quite, but if you can enjoy them while staying at or under your calorie goal then why not? As long as they are keeping track of everything correctly there is no reason to make things so complicated. Do/do not eat lists are the downfall of so many diets.

    P.S. - What kind of wine are you drinking?! (Or not drinking, I should ask). Cabernet Sauvignon has 125 calories a glass and Pinot Grigio rings in at 115. I can't imagine any other type of wine straying too far from that.

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