Moms, new moms and expecting moms-need your advice
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@elphie754 hahah it was ME who wanted the makeup, my visitors could care less. I wanted to feel somewhat like myself, and make up is part of that lol (it's because i have blonde eyebrows and blonde eyelashes - so it just makes me feel better if I color them to match my gingah hair
) you've got some great lists here to work with!! 0 -
@elphie754 hahah it was ME who wanted the makeup, my visitors could care less. I wanted to feel somewhat like myself, and make up is part of that lol (it's because i have blonde eyebrows and blonde eyelashes - so it just makes me feel better if I color them to match my gingah hair ) you've got some great lists here to work with!!
Lol, I've always been kind of a simple person when it comes to makeup. I might leave the house with mascara and lip gloss but that about it lol.1 -
There's lots of good advice, but I'll just say don't stress too much about it. I meant to pack a bag with both of mine and never really did. I just threw a pair of pajamas and a brush in a bag at the last minute and that was it.1
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Even if you don't think you are going to breastfeed, a nice soft stretchy nursing bra will be nice to have, the engorgement can happen fast , and you don't want to feel constricted or have them moving about much ( I went from barely B's to D's within a matter of hours). Do not bring clothing that you love. You have the exact same birth plan as me
Oh, and my husband would say, pepto/anti-nausea drugs for your SOs if they get a little nauseated seeing you in pain ( my husband puked during both of my labors). But don't stress about packing the perfect bag, the hospitals provide a lot ( I sill use the one quart cup mine gave me 4.5 years ago) and you aren't in the middle of nowhere, you'll be able to get what you need if you've forgotten something 0 -
There's lots of good advice, but I'll just say don't stress too much about it. I meant to pack a bag with both of mine and never really did. I just threw a pair of pajamas and a brush in a bag at the last minute and that was it.
lol I'm pretty sure stress is my middle name right now. I over think everything and panic over every little thing. SO jokingly asks where my off button is lol.0 -
I didn't breastfeed twice (first time due to medication, second time because I just didn't want to) and my midwife told me to bring tight sports bras to help. I also saved the free nursing pads I got, stuck them in the freezer, and shoved them into my sports bras when engorgement did happen. Helped so much with the discomfort! (Sudafed helps too if it doesn't interfere with your medication, the good stuff they keep behind the counter - it should dry you out faster. Also stay away from warm water and anything that encourages more milk production. It's uncomfortable for maybe a week then they're pretty much back to "normal")
Good luck either way! 0 -
I would bring more than one outfit to bring baby home in. First, they're messy. Second, sometimes they don't exactly fit into Newborn size. One of my sons did, the other was too big for the outfit we brought. I did nurse and found a nursing tanktop and button down shirt to be pretty awesome at keeping the rest of me covered/warm.0
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Even if you're not planning to breastfeed, you'll want skin-to-skin snuggle time with baby. A button down shirt or similar makes that easier.0
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FreyasRebirth wrote: »I would bring more than one outfit to bring baby home in. First, they're messy. Second, sometimes they don't exactly fit into Newborn size. One of my sons did, the other was too big for the outfit we brought. I did nurse and found a nursing tanktop and button down shirt to be pretty awesome at keeping the rest of me covered/warm.
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marieamethyst wrote: »
While an episiotomy seems really unpleasant, realize that it is far easier for the doctors to repair a purposeful incision than an accidental tear. Not trying to discount your wishes, but I speak from experience.
If you are definitely against the episiotomy, make a definite plan with your midwife for how you are going to avoid needing one--this usually means taking it very slow which isn't always easy.
It depends on the woman I guess, because I had a third degree tear with my first and the OB had no problem stitching me back up and I recovered just fine. (Didn't even tear a tiny bit with my second baby) A friend who had an episiotomy had to have additional work because of the way she was cut and was stitched up. All of the OBs/midwives I had with my babies said it's better to tear naturally and reserve cutting to when it's absolutely needed, and that was the general procedure at the hospitals.
Even after a third degree tear I'd rather tear again than go through an episiotomy, so I'm glad the medical teams I had respected that. (@elphie754 - Just make it clear when you get to the hospital; I said no cutting unless there was no other option and they were in full agreement with my wish )
^^^^This^^^^ Yep. More likely to tear all the way to the perineum with an episiotomy. My doctor used olive oil and mineral oil with massage to avoid doing them.0 -
a nice nursing gown/robe set
slippers
make up/hair stuff
i had my kids before the days of ipods, cell phones and laptops. and i can tell you, that for ME ... i was exhausted and probably wouldnt have looked at it much anyways, between visitors, baby and sleeping (or trying to- the nurses have a knack for coming in right as you doze off.... ).
my husband at the time brought me all my meals. cause hospital food is gross and the coffee is grosser LOLOL2 -
marieamethyst wrote: »
My birth plan is super simple:I want to come home healthy with baby, by what ever means necessary. I only have two conditions: no male staff members in my room at all (even after delivery) unless a life or death situation and no episiotomy.
While an episiotomy seems really unpleasant, realize that it is far easier for the doctors to repair a purposeful incision than an accidental tear. Not trying to discount your wishes, but I speak from experience.
If you are definitely against the episiotomy, make a definite plan with your midwife for how you are going to avoid needing one--this usually means taking it very slow which isn't always easy.
It depends on the woman I guess, because I had a third degree tear with my first and the OB had no problem stitching me back up and I recovered just fine. (Didn't even tear a tiny bit with my second baby) A friend who had an episiotomy had to have additional work because of the way she was cut and was stitched up. All of the OBs/midwives I had with my babies said it's better to tear naturally and reserve cutting to when it's absolutely needed, and that was the general procedure at the hospitals.
Even after a third degree tear I'd rather tear again than go through an episiotomy, so I'm glad the medical teams I had respected that. (@elphie754 - Just make it clear when you get to the hospital; I said no cutting unless there was no other option and they were in full agreement with my wish )
We have made it clear and will continue to make it clear. That's why both SOs want to be there during delivery.
My sister tore something awful when she had her second (her children have huge heads) and she repaired just fine and went on to have another one without tearing at all with him.
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There's lots of good advice, but I'll just say don't stress too much about it. I meant to pack a bag with both of mine and never really did. I just threw a pair of pajamas and a brush in a bag at the last minute and that was it.
That was me. I'm not one much for worrying about packing. I wanted to get out of the hospital as quickly as possible. We were out less than 24 hours after #2 was born.0 -
If I tear I tear, but purposeful cutting, I would end up in the psych ER after she is delivered. Multiple people, here and in my personal life keep acting like it is no big deal. For me it is and wish people would just stop and respect that instead of trying to change my mind.2
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If I tear I tear, but purposeful cutting, I would end up in the psych ER after she is delivered. Multiple people, here and in my personal life keep acting like it is no big deal. For me it is and wish people would just stop and respect that instead of trying to change my mind.
My sister was happier she tore rather than being cut. I fully support your decision.
What she wishes her doctor had done was perineal massage. My doctor did that when I had my first. My second was pretty much on his way out by the time I got on the delivery table. There wasn't time for that!0 -
In addition to everything mentioned, non-slip socks or slippers. After my unplanned CS, walking was really difficult for me but you have to do it. Slippery hospital floors made it feel really treacherous bc my balance and ability to correct for a slip were really bad right after a major abdominal surgery. Hopefully you won't end up with a CS but just in case, non slip footwear will help the recovery walking.0
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If I tear I tear, but purposeful cutting, I would end up in the psych ER after she is delivered. Multiple people, here and in my personal life keep acting like it is no big deal. For me it is and wish people would just stop and respect that instead of trying to change my mind.
I'm not sure people are so much trying to change your mind as share their experiences with you. One thing I've learned over the years is women like to talk and share their birthing experiences. Although it's funny how horror stories tend to stick with us rather then the good stories. Lol!
And FWIW, people who have walked in similar shoes to you "get" what you're saying. Not everyone can understand because they haven't been there but they don't generally mean to be malicious or unkind. But I "get" it - and I'm sorry you have been through it. It makes certain things in life just more difficult.
You will do great and motherhood is exhausting but so greatly rewarding. 0 -
amyinthetardis1231 wrote: »In addition to everything mentioned, non-slip socks or slippers. After my unplanned CS, walking was really difficult for me but you have to do it. Slippery hospital floors made it feel really treacherous bc my balance and ability to correct for a slip were really bad right after a major abdominal surgery. Hopefully you won't end up with a CS but just in case, non slip footwear will help the recovery walking.
Everyone I know who has been recently hospitalized has been given slipper socks with their hospital gown. I don't know if this is common practice everywhere now or not.
I was admitted into a migraine treatment ward a couple of years ago, and got a couple of pairs myself. I have to say that they aren't very warm.0 -
GottaBurnEmAll wrote: »amyinthetardis1231 wrote: »In addition to everything mentioned, non-slip socks or slippers. After my unplanned CS, walking was really difficult for me but you have to do it. Slippery hospital floors made it feel really treacherous bc my balance and ability to correct for a slip were really bad right after a major abdominal surgery. Hopefully you won't end up with a CS but just in case, non slip footwear will help the recovery walking.
Everyone I know who has been recently hospitalized has been given slipper socks with their hospital gown. I don't know if this is common practice everywhere now or not.
I was admitted into a migraine treatment ward a couple of years ago, and got a couple of pairs myself. I have to say that they aren't very warm.
Yes they give slipper socks with a gown (although I'm bringing my own gowns because of allergies).0 -
My birth plan is super simple:I want to come home healthy with baby, by what ever means necessary. I only have two conditions: no male staff members in my room at all (even after delivery) unless a life or death situation and no episiotomy.
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I was definitely one that did not want a male in the room. The thought of It even makes me shudder.I think they should not even be in that field. Well, with my 3rd child it was all women in the room until it was time for me to push, then a male comes in that is suppose to be there just to make sure everything goes okay. Well, my SO told him that I don't want a male in there(he didn't either of course) but the man said he has to stay. Well, they was going back and forth while I was pushing. Very frustrating and stressful.it got to the point where they was going to call security on my SO. I think that is not right. He ruined a time that was suppose to be happy.0 -
It has been almost 17 years so I don't remember very well. If I didn't have something dh brought it.
Robe, nursing bra, outfit for mom, toiletries, baby book, outfit for baby
I wished for my own pillow.0 -
pjohnson0787 wrote: »
My birth plan is super simple:I want to come home healthy with baby, by what ever means necessary. I only have two conditions: no male staff members in my room at all (even after delivery) unless a life or death situation and no episiotomy.
I was definitely one that did not want a male in the room. The thought of It even makes me shudder.I think they should not even be in that field. Well, with my 3rd child it was all women in the room until it was time for me to push, then a male comes in that is suppose to be there just to make sure everything goes okay. Well, my SO told him that I don't want a male in there(he didn't either of course) but the man said he has to stay. Well, they was going back and forth while I was pushing. Very frustrating and stressful.it got to the point where they was going to call security on my SO. I think that is not right. He ruined a time that was suppose to be happy.
Glad to see that I'm not the only one who doesn't want any males in the room. I am so sorry to hear that they made your experience terrible.0 -
Uhh I thought eos snacks
Side note:! Did I actually post here or was thread moved?0
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