Tired of some folks

elphie754 · January 2017

Wow, I'm the opposite. I get more annoyed that some people feel that it is their place to judge another person, especially when each persons weight loss journey is going to be different than anyone else.

Judgemental people make things so much more complicated than needed.

Christine_72 · January 2017

I can't help it :sad: I'm a Judgy McJudgerston, it's not a personality flaw, i blame my Uterus

Orphia · January 2017

I use good judgement to help individuals.

I don't have any religious sort of guilt over judging people in general.

Annie_01 · January 2017

Well...I had a response but it sounded a little snarky so...

I think that you just have to let people do it their own way. Hopefully somewhere along the way they will take an honest look at themselves and figure it out. If they don't...not much that you can do about it.

Lounmoun · January 2017

What I would like to say to those people is stop restricting so much that you feel you need a cheat day. Drop that kind of mindset and you will probably have more sustainable weight loss. Just eat the food you like every day in smaller portions. Learn to moderate.

duddysdad · January 2017

I've been on my journey for over two years and I have BED, so yeah, I cheat. However, I am aware of what I am doing to my body and luckily I haven't gained too much weight since hitting my goal.

MrsKila · January 2017

Annie_01 · January 2017

Lounmoun wrote: »

What I would like to say to those people is stop restricting so much that you feel you need a cheat day. Drop that kind of mindset and you will probably have more sustainable weight loss. Just eat the food you like every day in smaller portions. Learn to moderate.

I refuse to use the "cheat day" phrase when it comes to my eating. Sometimes I make the choice to go over my calorie goals...other days...well I didn't plan on it...it just happened for whatever reason.

I am just not sure why we have to associate some guilt trip upon ourselves. Didn't we get enough of that when we were shoveling down the foods that got us to this point?

icemom011 · January 2017

OP, the only advice i can give you, is to skip those threads. The moment you see the key words like cheat day, oe fell off the wagon, or the likes, especially from the members that are constantly doing that, i suggest you go to the next thread and don't read or respond to those. Obviously it's annoying to you, but they sure can post whatever they feel at the moment, within the allowed limits, of course, since it's the public forum. So don't aggravate yourself and move away from those topics/ posts.

Idle_Moon · January 2017

Sometimes it's relieving to cry "unfair!" and then move on.

missh1967 · January 2017

Gallowmere1984 wrote: »

I feel the same way every time I see the phrase "fell off the wagon".

Apparently they need to be strapped in and forcibly restrained like an ill-tempered child in a car seat.

Lol. Love it.

missh1967 · January 2017

OP, I'm kind of glad you started this thread. As others have said, sometimes it's good to vent.

So I'd like to vent about my real-life coworkers. There are a few that continually whine that they can't lose weight. They've seen me lose 65 pounds through CICO and working out consistently again. Some have asked, "How'd you lose weight?" I just tell them, "I watch my calories and work out. I don't eliminate whole food groups. Everything in moderation, etc."

So fast forward a couple of years and they STILL are running around in circles. "I'm not eating sugar." "I'm eating low carb." "I'm eating high fat." "I'm taking these supplements to suppress my appetite." "I'm doing Keto." "I can't work out because I have this, this, and this obligation." "My foot hurts." You get the idea.

Meanwhile, I continue on my merry way eating things I enjoy - some days in a deficit, some days in a surplus, some days at maintenance - and working out. I keep my mouth shut and watch in amusement, frustration, and irritation.

Thanks for letting me vent!!

Therealobi1 · January 2017

OP some people like to complain it makes them feel better
you can either tell them to do something about it if they keep yakking on about the same thing
or you can zone them out

MrsKila · January 2017

Yes @missh1967, things like that. Uuggghhhhh! And if you say something you either "thing your all that" or your "hating"

. Can't win!

MrsKila · January 2017

Think*

GottaBurnEmAll · January 2017

You just have to zone out and do you.

I'm in my third year of doing this (working on vanity stuff now) and back in my first year, I think I was down about 45 pounds at that point, I hadn't seen my sister for a while, and we were vacationing together. She sat me down. She even had a notebook and wanted to know everything. I went over it all. We sat for two hours going over it all. She's a former Weight Watcher's leader!

She's just not ready in her head to make those changes. Deep down she knows how this all works, but some friend of hers told her about Trim Healthy Mama, and that's what she's doing. I think in two years she's lost 5 pounds doing some weird food combining ish that ignores everything she knows deep down to be true.

She's doing her, I'm doing me.

By the time I'm done, I'm shooting to have lost 100 pounds. This morning, I'm 3 pounds from that, but that's largely due to being massively sick and I'm sure the scale will rocket back up tomorrow now that I'm eating again

And what I just said there? Is what you need to remember. You do you, and you'll get to your goals while those other people spin their wheels.

Therealobi1 · January 2017

once you have told these people our magical way of losing weight if they dont want to hear it, then its up to them. I have learnt this awhile back and rather than find it annoying i find it amusing. What many people want is some complicated method usually endorsed by a celebrity to then carry on as normal because then at least they have tried.

Reaverie · January 2017

I dont have cheat days..

I have Oh F* days.

Then the next day I try harder.

nomorepuke · January 2017

I know exactly what you mean. I get irritated too. This weight loss journey takes patience, hard work, dedication and some sacrifices. If you're not ready to do what it takes to lose weight then you're not ready, you shouldn't be torturing yourself.

Monchichi3 · January 2017

Lounmoun wrote: »

What I would like to say to those people is stop restricting so much that you feel you need a cheat day. Drop that kind of mindset and you will probably have more sustainable weight loss. Just eat the food you like every day in smaller portions. Learn to moderate.

This mindset is what also gets some into trouble. Not all manufactured foods were designed to be eaten in moderation. How does one moderate certain foods purposely designed to eat more?

Many regain weight by slowly eating more and more "foods they like" (foods manufactured for the purpose of eating more) and then they are back at square one. Then they become people referenced in the op. For those that have the type of discipline to sustain eating everything in moderation, kudos.

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