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Is this where we rant?1
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KourageousKarina wrote: »Is this where we rant?
Rant away. lol.0 -
SAHM dedicated gym goer, anyone? Anyone? Always looking g for good clean recipes that my kids won't spit out, and fresh new moves!1
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Hi, everyone!
Just joined today. Been married for 16 years and have two kids. Would like any kind of support!
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Married .... to my high school sweetheart. Seen me through thick, very thick and thin. I am getting very fit but my brain still sees the huge nasty 300 lbs me in the mirror. Need a little help getting my brain to catch up and tell myself that I am doing ok.0
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I'm not married, but I have a question for y'all. I've never been in a relationship, so maybe I'm wrong, but can't mental and physical attraction both exist together? Isn't accepting someone that has one or the other but not both settling?0
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Lipsmahoney wrote: »Married .... to my high school sweetheart. Seen me through thick, very thick and thin. I am getting very fit but my brain still sees the huge nasty 300 lbs me in the mirror. Need a little help getting my brain to catch up and tell myself that I am doing ok.
You're doing ok!0 -
I'm not married, but I have a question for y'all. I've never been in a relationship, so maybe I'm wrong, but can't mental and physical attraction both exist together? Isn't accepting someone that has one or the other but not both settling?
Of course they do, and sometimes they exist at the same time, but over many years they will wan and peak, and sometimes not together. If you think you will always have both and that anything less is settling, you will be a serial monogamist.0 -
I'm not married, but I have a question for y'all. I've never been in a relationship, so maybe I'm wrong, but can't mental and physical attraction both exist together? Isn't accepting someone that has one or the other but not both settling?
Of course they do, and sometimes they exist at the same time, but over many years they will wan and peak, and sometimes not together. If you think you will always have both and that anything less is settling, you will be a serial monogamist.
okay, makes sense. but at least at the beginning they should go together right?0 -
gotcha. thanks for the answer0 -
I'm not married, but I have a question for y'all. I've never been in a relationship, so maybe I'm wrong, but can't mental and physical attraction both exist together? Isn't accepting someone that has one or the other but not both settling?
They absolutely can. However, I've learned that a strong mental/emotional connection can really help build the physical connection. When I met my husband I thought he was super nice and we got along really well, but was only so/so on the physical. The more I fell for him, the better he started to look to me. 8 years later and I still can't keep my hands off of him. 2 -
I'm not married, but I have a question for y'all. I've never been in a relationship, so maybe I'm wrong, but can't mental and physical attraction both exist together? Isn't accepting someone that has one or the other but not both settling?
They absolutely can. However, I've learned that a strong mental/emotional connection can really help build the physical connection. When I met my husband I thought he was super nice and we got along really well, but was only so/so on the physical. The more I fell for him, the better he started to look to me. 8 years later and I still can't keep my hands off of him.
What she said. Ditto here.1 -
I'm a married one too .... i don't care who my buddies are .... i just want ppl to talk to and to me (best thing ever to receive a message from a buddy with some nice words spontaneously)
I send messages to my buddies when i see they've had a rough day or whatever and it makes all the difference to my day both doing that and receiving something when i get one back
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Lipsmahoney wrote: »Married .... to my high school sweetheart. Seen me through thick, very thick and thin. I am getting very fit but my brain still sees the huge nasty 300 lbs me in the mirror. Need a little help getting my brain to catch up and tell myself that I am doing ok.
You're doing ok!
Thank you ..... I need this tattooed somewhere. Reassurance from my trainer would be great, but I know i the end that I need to be able to tell myself I am awesome and yes I can call myself a body builder even if he never speaks the words to me. I hold more weight in his words than my own husband who loves me no matter what. How sad huh?0 -
highlightshadow wrote: »I'm a married one too .... i don't care who my buddies are .... i just want ppl to talk to and to me (best thing ever to receive a message from a buddy with some nice words spontaneously)
I send messages to my buddies when i see they've had a rough day or whatever and it makes all the difference to my day both doing that and receiving something when i get one back
To be that secure in a marriage is rare. I have it with my husband. Many of my buddies are male and I have amazing relationships with them. my husband recognizes that it doesn't matter the gender as long as we each have someone to talk to and support us is all that matters. We can't be everything to each other and need people with similar likes and issues to talk to from time to time.
The world needs more of this.
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Read that Scarlet Johansson is getting divorced from husband #2 after two years.
Do you feel smug or "superior" when you see Hollywood marriages crumble?
Sometimes I wonder why do they even bother to "make it legal"?0 -
Hi fellow married chit chatters, how is everyone tonight?1
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Jimb376mfp wrote: »Read that Scarlet Johansson is getting divorced from husband #2 after two years.
Do you feel smug or "superior" when you see Hollywood marriages crumble?
Sometimes I wonder why do they even bother to "make it legal"?
Two things:
Thing #1: Yes, I do feel superior
Thing #2: I do not have a bunch (by bunch, I mean millions) of people trying to watch my every moment, waking or otherwise. That would make me think I'm more important or valuable than I actually am.
Bonus thing #3: I don't feel sorry for the celebs and usually don't give a rip. But Scarlet is very attractive, last I observed...and much much younger than this old nuffer.
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Jimb376mfp wrote: »Read that Scarlet Johansson is getting divorced from husband #2 after two years.
Do you feel smug or "superior" when you see Hollywood marriages crumble?
Sometimes I wonder why do they even bother to "make it legal"?
I think the problem is too many people are marrying for social and legal reasons, rather than moral or spiritual. Then they don't feel obligated to try to stay together forever.0 -
Jimb376mfp wrote: »Do you feel smug or "superior" when you see Hollywood marriages crumble?
Kinda falls into the discussion about "only being as faithful as your opportunities". But also says a lot about the character of people. I can have dozens of crushes in life and still not vary in who I love. I work at a college, there are so many amazingly beautiful people here and online everywhere, and so much marketing based on physical appearances...it forces almost everyone to be in a constant state of physical arousal. That is the challenge for everyone, and in high profile stations in life, it becomes even more difficult to deny. SO I don't blame them, thinking I wouldn't want to be tested like that (not that I haven't been tested in my life, often even).
The saying is true though:
"f a man loves a woman’s soul, he will end up loving one woman, but if he just loves a woman’s body or face, all the women in the world won’t satisfy him."
Where you put your attention and efforts is where you will go.
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Jimb376mfp wrote: »Read that Scarlet Johansson is getting divorced from husband #2 after two years.
Do you feel smug or "superior" when you see Hollywood marriages crumble?
Sometimes I wonder why do they even bother to "make it legal"?
No. It makes me sad. At one point and time they believed they'd be forever, and then things happened and their marriage fell apart. That's always sad.
I can't imagine trying to survive in a celebrity marriage. The pressures, stressors, and temptations they go through that a normal marriage doesn't... Two celebs get in a relationship because they believe only another celeb can understand and support that kind of career, but then they have to watch their SO kissing other people on screen, skipping a night in with them to go to a function, being gone for months while filming on location or touring, all while being surrounded by beautiful, funny, talented, charismatic people.
Maybe when they get married they're still wildly in love and believe it will be forever. Maybe they're fulfilling expectations put on them by always being in the public eye. Maybe they're hoping marriage will bring a sense of security to an otherwise tumultuous situation. But then it falls apart, and the whole world tries to dig into the gory details of why and they don't get to mourn privately. They get bashed by faceless commenters on the internet for having no morals, and there's always rumors that someone cheated/was abusive/was on drugs that may or may not have any truth to them.
I don't know if I'd fare any better in that environment. Why should I feel superior? Everyone's human, *kitten* happens. Just because they're rich and famous doesn't mean they deserve my judgment or my lack of compassion.2 -
hankpick77 wrote: »Hi fellow married chit chatters, how is everyone tonight?
I'm a day late! HELLO!
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I am so ready for this day to be over and finally my weekend can start.2
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Jimb376mfp wrote: »Read that Scarlet Johansson is getting divorced from husband #2 after two years.
Do you feel smug or "superior" when you see Hollywood marriages crumble?
Sometimes I wonder why do they even bother to "make it legal"?
I don't feel smug or superior. I've been married twice sometimes things just don't work out.
And imagine living your life in a fishbowl with ever move you make tracked and judged. Must be hard to make a relationship work really. also to be a celebrity takes a special kind of person. To do something like that at the level these people do takes an intense kind of person. If you have 2 high powered people it must be quite the dynamic and very difficult to make things work.0 -
Jimb376mfp wrote: »Read that Scarlet Johansson is getting divorced from husband #2 after two years.
Do you feel smug or "superior" when you see Hollywood marriages crumble?
Sometimes I wonder why do they even bother to "make it legal"?
I do not feel smug or superior when Hollywood marriages crumble. I actually feel kind of sad for them because they live such hectic, public lives that it's hard to have a healthy marriage, especially when married to someone who lives that same hectic, public life. I imagine that's a very difficult life, and I'm sure the money is nice, but I wouldn't trade the general privacy and simplicity of my life for the money and public notoriety.
I'm sure they make it legal the same reason the rest of us do. They found someone they want to live their life with, someone that understands and can relate to the issues they have to deal with in their life, and someone they can be themselves with. It's not an easy thing to find.0 -
Happily married since 2002, looking fir friends on here been on MFP for over a year! Please by all means add me I don't mind. Happy dieting everyone0
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Happy Monday fellow chit chatters.1
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