Death and Comfort Eating

Call a friend, go for a walk, if you have a pet, get extra snuggles. I'm so sorry for the pains you're dealing with. I hope you find comfort.

When my mom got sick she spent the next six months at death's door before she finally succumbed to it. It was really hard to deal with and I did spend a lot of time eating ice cream. I tried to find my therapy in exercise but because I was at the hospital a lot, it didn't work out very well and I did gain an unfortunate amount of weight before I regained control. It's okay to have some ice cream (or whatever) but keeping it under control is going to be much better for your mindset in the long run.

What I found helped me the most was journaling. I would spend some time writing out what I was thinking or feeling and allowed myself to grieve. Let yourself think about these people you love and remember the good times with them. Cry, be mad if you need to, feel what you need to feel and just let yourself grieve. And remember, you will grieve in your own way, in your own time. Nobody gets to tell you that you "should be over it" or "it's been long enough".

I am seven days away from the one year anniversary of her death and it's very much on my mind so I am having to practice what I preach right now. Nothing we can say will make it easier but you do have some tools and you can always come here if you need to share with someone outside of the situation. My heart goes out to you and just remember, you can get through this. When we love deeply, we feel the loss deeply and that's okay. Doesn't feel very nice right now but you will be okay.

I have no words of wisdom but, just my deepest caring and I am sorry for your pain. I lost my mom 8 months after my husband lost his. Just know many of us have been there and care.

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss and the bad news about your grandfather. A few years ago, both my best friend and my Dad died within a year of each other. I still tap into that when I need motivation. I think about how my friend would LOVE the opportunity to work out, but she no longer can. I also think about trying to create a healthier me so if/when I ever do get a bad medical issue, I will be in a better position to fight it. Last, I try to think about what they would both want my life to look like. I'm sure they would want me to be happy and healthy, so even though I get in my fair share of ruts, I try not to stay there too long.

Fill your refrigerator with fruits and vegetables so when you have an uncontrollable urge to eat in excess, you can try turning there first.

Also, rely on this sentence of yours: "I don't know what to do to cope except exercise because I don't drink or do drugs." You have an answer right there.

I like the suggestion above of just trying to maintain for a couple weeks if you feel like you don't have the energy/ability to keep up the hard work of the last couple weeks.

Last, what would your friend and grandfather want for you???

JeromeBarry1 wrote: »

While grandpa is still with you, interview him and write all he can remember. Or, write all you can remember and talk to his other kids/grandkids to collect their memories of him. My dad wrote his memoir and printed a copy for each of his kids. He died 2 months after completing it. It's precious.

My mom completed a grandma book years ago. I love reading it to my daughter. It brings back good memories

I lost my mother nine months ago.

Historically, I have been a comfort eater, but after she passed I had no appetite and couldn't bring myself to eat.

The real problem came after the initial shock and grief wore off were I just couldn't bring myself to care about weight loss or what I ate.

Lean on your family and friends during this difficult time, seek solace in prayer if religious, and just allow yourself to grieve.

I am truly sorry.