Unicorns against Gold Diggers

Your friend sounds bitter. Perhaps he's ugly, a poor lay, and/or not too intelligent. Perhaps the supposed gold diggers were trying to give him another shot by asking if he were employed/had money. Some people like to try to make a relationship work (or start one) based on minimal factors. Others are desperate to be in one to avoid being homeless (I think they're called Hobosexuals). It's human nature to want to improve our personal situations. Unfortunately, some people feel they cannot work for their improvement outside of putting out for someone else who has the resources they cannot obtain.

I find none of this works out too well. I was married for 13 years. We divorced over his violence towards me in front of the kids. I realized during the marriage that I had settled for an individual only because he "seemed" better than all the other relationships. I disregarded his being on disability, not being a redhead, not being too bright, etc., etc. He had a few factors that I felt were enough to try to build a relationship upon.

Lesson learned: Don't settle. I am a freelance full stack developer. I support myself and my children. He still pays minimal child support that goes into savings accounts for the appointed children. My children's health and safety come before anything else. I refuse to support a grown-up who should have the fortitude and capability to create their own income. Working is part of being an adult.

I am not currently interested in dating anyone, but if I were, I would have to ask a ton of questions and definitely have to feel comfortable enough around the person before establishing a relationship. It's a given that eventually, we'll have to meet each others kids and families. If "sacrificing innocent children" is one of the individual's interests, you bet we won't be having any sort of relationship or convo, for that matter.

Also, they would have to at least meet or exceed what I'm bringing to the table to display intelligence, an interest in the world around them, and the ability to not become buzzard fodder for messing with my children:

• Divorced/single, adept parent/co-parent
• NOT a criminal, or having a desire to act in a criminal, thuggish manner
• Holding at least one, or preferably a couple of degrees in different fields (I hold a Bachelor's in IT and an Associate's in Culinary Arts)
• WORKING
• Self-aware and working on improving themselves

Unicorn? Nah. Picky af? For the reasons stated above, you bet your bottom!

pudgy1977 wrote: »

I feel like money only impresses lazy women. I am a hard worker, I do not need a man with money to upgrade my life. Happy with my own successes

jtegirl1 wrote: »

I'd take great sex with a good man over money any day!

QFT

_John_ wrote: »

Gimsteinn wrote: »

Yeah I'd rather take an arrow to the knee 10 times then have a man pay for me or my kids

Just think how much you'd burden your family with hospital bills though...not sure this is well thought out.

Free health care where I live so I'm not worried at all