Stay-at-home moms 1/26-2/1

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  • farmgirlh
    farmgirlh Posts: 240
    Hello Ladies~ Do you mind if I join you??
  • Marla64
    Marla64 Posts: 23,120 Member
    PS Hubby agrees that it's margarita time....except for me it will be a daiquri, I can't drink tequila :sick:

    I shouldn't drink it either-- "tequila makes her clothes fall off-- " hee :blushing:

    As for bullying-- we've told our sons not to start fights and never hit someone first-- BUT-- if someone is in your face and/or throws a first punch, knock 'em on their @$$. My eldest has had to do it twice in high school, and both times witnesses said he had been punched first and his was retaliatory-- they tried to suspend him too the first time, but we raised holy hell. So, my son is supposed to get punched in the face and go home and tell his mommy? I don't think so--

    Alas, this is why we homeschool the rest-- we wish we hadn't gone this route with the eldest-- he's changed so much in ways we don't like-- but he was so emotionally invested, we let him go back to graduate. But, no more--

    Nite all-- off to work!
  • mrsbuzz
    mrsbuzz Posts: 576 Member
    Okay all this talk about drinking makes me want one!!

    I am so in:drinker: :drinker: :drinker:
  • mommachag
    mommachag Posts: 318
    Hello Ladies~ Do you mind if I join you??

    come on in!:flowerforyou:
  • abetterme
    abetterme Posts: 393
    Good evening ladies,

    Give me one of those daiquries maybe that would settle my nerves regarding tomorrow. Ladies I had my very first mammo the end of July last year and they found a spot and had me come back in for a second set of pictures then that very same day they ended up doing a byopsy cause they were still seeing it so then it came back banyne but I still had it removed cause it was larger than most as I was told and that there was still a chance in the future that it could turn into cancer, so I had it removed Oct. 6th of 08 and now it has been six months since my first set of pictures and I have to go back and have a mammo again so they can get a good picture of the scar tissue WELL I am nervouse scared and all of the above that they may find something again. And what makes it even worse is when they found the first one I came home and did umteen self exams and still couldn't find the lump and when I went in to see the surgent the surgent had a hard time also, he said it was that deep that it was hard to feel:noway: :ohwell: So I have the mammo tomorrow and probably won't know anything until next week:angry: so if you could please send up a prayer I would be very gratefull.

    Thank you:flowerforyou:
  • LosingIt4good
    LosingIt4good Posts: 1,214 Member
    Thanks for understanding. Hubby is home now and has been on the phone calling all the kids that were there and saw what happened. He wanted to make sure that what we heard from our son was how it went down since he is planning a trip to the school tomorrow. Roughly 5 kids say the same thing. That they were just standing around eating lunch and this kid came in, started spewing stuff at my son and my son told him "leave, just go" to which the other kid pushed him and told him he didnt have to leave. My son pushed him back as a kneejerk reaction... kinda like "hey man, hands off" and the other kid pushed him again then punched him in the face then turned and ran. My son went after him and another kid handed him an apple. He threw it at him and missed.

    SOOOOO, given that, hubby is taking a trip to the principals office to file a grievence against the assistant principal. He is also going to call the sherrifs office about a deputy that spoke with my son after the incident. Quite basically, this was assault and neither the deputy OR the assistant principal investigated it at all. They simply took the other childs word over my sons and that kid lied his butt off.
    Hes checking out the state law regarding this whole mess. (gotta love havin guy with a criminal justice background! :drinker: to see if they violated any laws and it looks like hes already found several things that they did wrong.

    Im going with him just to listen.... LOL...This is gonna get good....

    PS.. Im known as the Tequila queen....Id explain but it'd be another book :laugh:
  • LosingIt4good
    LosingIt4good Posts: 1,214 Member
    Hello Ladies~ Do you mind if I join you??

    Welcome aboard!! :smile:
  • Lyn_Matthews
    Lyn_Matthews Posts: 902 Member
    Welcome farmgirl.

    Losingit-please let us know how that works out.....oh if I were a fly on the wall :happy:
  • Marla64
    Marla64 Posts: 23,120 Member
    Thanks for understanding. Hubby is home now and has been on the phone calling all the kids that were there and saw what happened. He wanted to make sure that what we heard from our son was how it went down since he is planning a trip to the school tomorrow. Roughly 5 kids say the same thing. That they were just standing around eating lunch and this kid came in, started spewing stuff at my son and my son told him "leave, just go" to which the other kid pushed him and told him he didnt have to leave. My son pushed him back as a kneejerk reaction... kinda like "hey man, hands off" and the other kid pushed him again then punched him in the face then turned and ran. My son went after him and another kid handed him an apple. He threw it at him and missed.

    SOOOOO, given that, hubby is taking a trip to the principals office to file a grievence against the assistant principal. He is also going to call the sherrifs office about a deputy that spoke with my son after the incident. Quite basically, this was assault and neither the deputy OR the assistant principal investigated it at all. They simply took the other childs word over my sons and that kid lied his butt off.
    Hes checking out the state law regarding this whole mess. (gotta love havin guy with a criminal justice background! :drinker: to see if they violated any laws and it looks like hes already found several things that they did wrong.

    Im going with him just to listen.... LOL...This is gonna get good....

    PS.. Im known as the Tequila queen....Id explain but it'd be another book :laugh:

    Kick some *kitten*-- these schools are out of control. Show 'em who's the boss!! :angry:
  • mrsbuzz
    mrsbuzz Posts: 576 Member
    Good evening ladies,

    Give me one of those daiquries maybe that would settle my nerves regarding tomorrow. Ladies I had my very first mammo the end of July last year and they found a spot and had me come back in for a second set of pictures then that very same day they ended up doing a byopsy cause they were still seeing it so then it came back banyne but I still had it removed cause it was larger than most as I was told and that there was still a chance in the future that it could turn into cancer, so I had it removed Oct. 6th of 08 and now it has been six months since my first set of pictures and I have to go back and have a mammo again so they can get a good picture of the scar tissue WELL I am nervouse scared and all of the above that they may find something again. And what makes it even worse is when they found the first one I came home and did umteen self exams and still couldn't find the lump and when I went in to see the surgent the surgent had a hard time also, he said it was that deep that it was hard to feel:noway: :ohwell: So I have the mammo tomorrow and probably won't know anything until next week:angry: so if you could please send up a prayer I would be very gratefull.

    Thank you:flowerforyou:

    I will say a little prayer for you that everything works out!!! Hope you have great day other then that!!

    Talk to you later:flowerforyou:
  • CrystalOKeefe
    CrystalOKeefe Posts: 326
    Good Morning Mommys !!!

    Losingit4good~ I hope things get taken care of... I hate how people dont look in to stuff and just got and do things! I dont think the schools actually care anymore.

    Well I am slowly startig to see the scale move down again I hope it stays going down, I have to break that hurdle and shrink.

    My daughter Cali turned 6 couple weeks ago and she wanted to get her ears pierced, so we went bought the earrings and they put the marker on her ear and she then got scared and didnt want it done, anyone have any advice to help her get over the scared part cause she really wants them she is just very scared.

    Everyone have a great day!
  • musicmom04
    musicmom04 Posts: 670 Member
    Welcome Lisa.

    Hey veteran mothers....I have a VERY constipated 6 month old baby. I've tried to decrease her cereal intake and up her fruit intake. I'm trying to nurse her more, but this has been going on for weeks now and I'm not sure what to do. She used to scream bloody murder when she'd finally have a BM but now she just throws up cuz she's pushing so hard. Any suggestions??

    when my niece was a baby she was constipated and wouldn't drink prune juice, so my sister's pediatrition told her to try pear juice. if i remember correctly, it worked pretty well.
  • mommachag
    mommachag Posts: 318
    My daughter Cali turned 6 couple weeks ago and she wanted to get her ears pierced, so we went bought the earrings and they put the marker on her ear and she then got scared and didnt want it done, anyone have any advice to help her get over the scared part cause she really wants them she is just very scared.

    honestly I would just wait until she is ready, and from what I read the places that use the guns aren't the best places to go. If it is done at a place that does peicings it's supposed to hurt less and be more sanitary. check into it:wink:
  • SarainKS
    SarainKS Posts: 23
    Hi girls! Mind if I join ya? My name is Sara and I'm a stay at home mom to 2 wonderful boys, ages 3 and 1. Yes they keep me very busy. :)

    So I just need some support and motivation. This has always been my lowest point when it came to diet and exercising. Then I found this site and it just looks too good to be true. I've been doing the 30 day shred just on Tues and Wed this week. I plan on doing it 5 days a week. Maybe if my legs don't fall off before then. But I'm going to stick with it. Uggh...

    Anyway -

    My starting weight is 139 and I haven't weighed since Monday (that's my check in day). I'm hoping to lose around 1-2 pounds per week with watching my calories too. I've never done calories before so this should be interesting. I'm really not looking for a big weight loss, I just want to tone and lose inches. That's my huge problem area.
  • mrsbuzz
    mrsbuzz Posts: 576 Member
    Hi girls! Mind if I join ya? My name is Sara and I'm a stay at home mom to 2 wonderful boys, ages 3 and 1. Yes they keep me very busy. :)

    So I just need some support and motivation. This has always been my lowest point when it came to diet and exercising. Then I found this site and it just looks too good to be true. I've been doing the 30 day shred just on Tues and Wed this week. I plan on doing it 5 days a week. Maybe if my legs don't fall off before then. But I'm going to stick with it. Uggh...

    Anyway -

    My starting weight is 139 and I haven't weighed since Monday (that's my check in day). I'm hoping to lose around 1-2 pounds per week with watching my calories too. I've never done calories before so this should be interesting. I'm really not looking for a big weight loss, I just want to tone and lose inches. That's my huge problem area.

    Welcome to the group!

    Everyone is great support and motiviation!!

    Jules:flowerforyou:
  • SarainKS
    SarainKS Posts: 23
    Whoever asked about constipation...try Gerber's pear juice. It works wonders!!!! I used to work for a ped. and this is what we would tell people to use. Babies like the taste better than prune. You don't need much either.
  • Lyn_Matthews
    Lyn_Matthews Posts: 902 Member
    Ladies thanks for the tip on pear juice I will try that.

    I'm checking in a little late today. DD decided to take a early nap so I jumped at the opportunity to get my workout in early. Then my son had his computer time and then lunch and now here I am FINALLY!

    Welcome Sara. I hope you can find the inspiration, motivation and support that you need here. These ladies are amazing.

    Not much to say...same old same old here. Weather is looking lovely today so I might get to walk today...OHHHH how I miss my walks!!! Is it spring yet???

    Anyway hope you all have a healthy day!
  • Summarain
    Summarain Posts: 145
    I just wanted to throw in a quick note---

    I got my taxes filed!!!!! WAHOO!!!!! I love getting them done before the end of Jan.

    me too!!!:drinker:
  • mommachag
    mommachag Posts: 318
    it isn't even 3pm and I am over my fat grams for the day. today AF came to visit so crap in a hat I went and had a whopper jr. it could have been worse so. I guess i have to squeeze my workout in today even though I feel yucky

    :angry:
  • Lyn_Matthews
    Lyn_Matthews Posts: 902 Member
    it isn't even 3pm and I am over my fat grams for the day. today AF came to visit so crap in a hat I went and had a whopper jr. it could have been worse so. I guess i have to squeeze my workout in today even though I feel yucky

    :angry:

    Don't stress it. You are right it could have been worse, so be proud that you chose the lesser of 2(or 10) evils. If you get your workout in great, if not...drink more water. That's my answer to every bad choice...more water :smile:


    Okay ladies I have to word vomit a little because I have those bad voices in my head and I'm hoping if I just get it out they will go away.....
    I am not seeing any difference in my body. SEEING....I can feel a difference strength wise and I know my body is changing cuz I just bought smaller jeans but I can SEE it in the mirror. I don't know if this is because I've always seen myself differently that the way I am or because nothing is happening. I really thought after 30 lbs I would look better. Granted a great majority of that 30 lbs is baby weight but still....In my eyes I actually look fatter. My stomach looks saggy and jiggly and gross. I'm at the point where I'm actually doubting that I'm going to look good when I hit my goal of 165. That's 20 pounds from now I don't think it's going to be enough. UGH! I know better than to sabatoge myself mentally like this but the thoughts are there day in and day out. I just wanted to get them out and move forward. Thanks for reading.
  • mommachag
    mommachag Posts: 318
    Okay ladies I have to word vomit a little because I have those bad voices in my head and I'm hoping if I just get it out they will go away.....
    I am not seeing any difference in my body. SEEING....I can feel a difference strength wise and I know my body is changing cuz I just bought smaller jeans but I can SEE it in the mirror. I don't know if this is because I've always seen myself differently that the way I am or because nothing is happening. I really thought after 30 lbs I would look better. Granted a great majority of that 30 lbs is baby weight but still....In my eyes I actually look fatter. My stomach looks saggy and jiggly and gross. I'm at the point where I'm actually doubting that I'm going to look good when I hit my goal of 165. That's 20 pounds from now I don't think it's going to be enough. UGH! I know better than to sabatoge myself mentally like this but the thoughts are there day in and day out. I just wanted to get them out and move forward. Thanks for reading.

    think logic. it always helps me.30 pounds is A LOT! your body is going to change. it will be weird at first. my friend lost 165lbs. i remember her feeling the same way. you can do this! you are going to look and feel great
  • loreeb18
    loreeb18 Posts: 1,221 Member
    I feel the same way! My hips actually look worse because some of the muscles are toning up and tightening in my upper legs. But just above it in my hips, it's still saggy. Unfortunately, we women do look at ourselves more harshly than others look at us. So we focus on our trouble spots.
  • LosingIt4good
    LosingIt4good Posts: 1,214 Member
    Afternoon!

    Well...hubby and I went and talked to the principal. He was briefed on the situation by the assistant principal so i had to start with what she told me, then tell him what actually happened. Once we got done explaining that she did not investigate the situation and what the situation was he asked what we wanted to have happen. Basically we were told that each child was suspended because they were both involved with getting physical. Thier stance on the issue is basically this: If a child is being attacked, be it verbally or physically, then they should leave the situation and find an adult to tell WITHOUT hitting or verbally reacting to the other person. Well... we all know that is easier said than done. Add to the fact that my son has impulsive type ADHD, his filter doesnt always kick in but he is definitely NOT a violent person.. usually his mouth is what gets him in trouble. I explained this to the principal and told him : Dont get me wrong, Im not condoning violent words or actions, but he was defending himself and that kid put him in a position that made him react and the reaction was ALOT better than what it could have been. He tried to communicate, in a respectful way, that the other kid needed to leave him alone and the other kid chose to make it physical not just pushing him once, but pushing him a 2nd time and then punching him in the face. I also told him that he backed my son into a corner and that pushing him away was the only thing he could think of to do because the boy was way to close and he felt threatened and cornered after being pushed against the wall. I told him that while I can understand punishing both kids (only to set an example to other students that violence is never the answer), I dont think the punishments shouldnt have been the same since he wasnt the one who instigated the fight, didnt use fowl language and didnt really have a way out of the situation. He actually had the nerve to tell me that if my son had not pushed back but instead had basically curled into a ball and let the kid wail on him that only the other kid would have been in trouble. Well, that just pissed me off. I asked him "in all the time you have been a principal, how many times has THAT happened". He asked me what I wanted to have happen and I told him that in the future, I wanted to be called PRIOR to any suspension action was put in place, regardless of WHAT caused it...AND that he should be allowed to return tomorrow since he was off half of yesterday and all of today. I told him that I didnt think he was treated fairly by his assistant and that all they did was prove to my son that there is no such thing as justice or fairness in school when it comes to getting bullied.

    SO...after all that.. we are supposed to hear back from him this evening about weather he can go back to school tomorrow. He said he was going to speak the assistant principal and would get back to us tonight.

    We also spoke with the officer on duty at the school and explained the situation to him and that several kids harass him on a daily basis. He told us we could file assault 4 charges against the other child if we wanted to but that stuff like this happens all the time and that the prosecuting attourney probably would dismiss it. He told us to have our son go to him anytime someone was calling him names, picking at him or prodding him and he would be happy to look into it and take action when necessary. He wasnt involved in the situation yesterday but he did talk with him afterwards about using fists to solve problems. I didnt have an issue with that, the more he hears that getting physical isnt ok, thats fine. As long as this guy is going to do whats necessary to keep these jerks off my kids back in the first place.

    So thats about it...I'll know more tonight if they are going to let him come back tomorrow or not.

    :ohwell: :huh:
  • autumn78
    autumn78 Posts: 5
    Silly question, but Im new here and still havent figured this out. I noticed on your replies everyone has a ticker.....how do I get one on my profile?????
    Congrats on the weight loss. I am also a stay at home mom of 3, my youngest being 3 month...Its a hard process but I am determined to hang in there.
    Anyway thanks for reading.:flowerforyou:
  • LosingIt4good
    LosingIt4good Posts: 1,214 Member
    it isn't even 3pm and I am over my fat grams for the day. today AF came to visit so crap in a hat I went and had a whopper jr. it could have been worse so. I guess i have to squeeze my workout in today even though I feel yucky

    :angry:

    Ughhh AF is visiting me this week also. I had a hard week last week with motivation and water weight...this week its pretty much gone. I love BK... used to eat there all the time for lunch when I was working. I hadnt eaten there in a long time and went there for lunch about a week and a half ago. I wont do it again...the bloating was :sad: and i felt :sick: the next day. Unfortunately I love BK..but even the whopper with no cheese or mayo was not a good thing for me even tho it was within my cals for lunch that day... :sad:
  • LosingIt4good
    LosingIt4good Posts: 1,214 Member
    Okay ladies I have to word vomit a little because I have those bad voices in my head and I'm hoping if I just get it out they will go away.....
    I am not seeing any difference in my body. SEEING....I can feel a difference strength wise and I know my body is changing cuz I just bought smaller jeans but I can SEE it in the mirror. I don't know if this is because I've always seen myself differently that the way I am or because nothing is happening. I really thought after 30 lbs I would look better. Granted a great majority of that 30 lbs is baby weight but still....In my eyes I actually look fatter. My stomach looks saggy and jiggly and gross. I'm at the point where I'm actually doubting that I'm going to look good when I hit my goal of 165. That's 20 pounds from now I don't think it's going to be enough. UGH! I know better than to sabatoge myself mentally like this but the thoughts are there day in and day out. I just wanted to get them out and move forward. Thanks for reading.

    I know exactly how you feel. I havent lost much yet....but I can feel already that my stomach is the first place its come off and have already noticed a few saggy spots. There are areas that I just dont think I will ever feel completely comfy with. First off.. Ive got "bear claw" stretch marks (sorta like that before picture in the ad above.. :grumble: ) from having 3 kids and I really dont think that even if i lost all the weight I would be comfy ever putting on a bikini again. So.. this is how I look at it. My body isnt supermodel perfect, it wasnt before I had kids and it sure wont be after I lose all this extra flub. BUT.. I know I'll feel better that i reached the goal I wanted to get to, that I have way more energy than I ever had and that my body will be healthier for it. It will also be VERY nice to shop outside of the PLUS sized department and buy cute clothes on the regular sales racks again!

    How long did it take you to lose those 30? Have you tried using some firming lotion on your trouble spots? I know the last time my stomach shrunk and I started using lotion alot, the saggies werent that bad. Still there, but definitely not as bad. Maybe try a body wrap? Those help a little also, as does seaweed soap for firming up skin.
  • mrsbuzz
    mrsbuzz Posts: 576 Member
    Silly question, but Im new here and still havent figured this out. I noticed on your replies everyone has a ticker.....how do I get one on my profile?????
    Congrats on the weight loss. I am also a stay at home mom of 3, my youngest being 3 month...Its a hard process but I am determined to hang in there.
    Anyway thanks for reading.:flowerforyou:

    Hi!

    Go into your tools and you can scroll down until you get to the tickers!! I hope that helps! After you click on it on the ticker it will give you instructions on how to do it all.

    Good luck!

    Jules:flowerforyou:
  • Lyn_Matthews
    Lyn_Matthews Posts: 902 Member
    Silly question, but Im new here and still havent figured this out. I noticed on your replies everyone has a ticker.....how do I get one on my profile?????
    Congrats on the weight loss. I am also a stay at home mom of 3, my youngest being 3 month...Its a hard process but I am determined to hang in there.
    Anyway thanks for reading.:flowerforyou:

    Welcome. I hope mrsbuzz answered your question for you. If you still need help let us know.
  • Lyn_Matthews
    Lyn_Matthews Posts: 902 Member
    Losingit-having been the victim of verbal abuse EVERY DAY of my 8th grade year, I know how your son feels and I know that schools rules when it comes to fighting/bullying dont make reasonable sense. We all know that if he would have walked away the bully would have either come at him from behind or continued his verbal assult. The bully instigated the confrontation and threw the first punch therefore he should be suspended based upon the zero tolerance rules. Your son defended himself. Was it right for him to shove the kid? maybe not but he didn't throw fists. Was it right for him to throw the apple? probably not cuz someone else could have been hurt. Did your son deserved to be suspended...imo HELL no! Lunch detention maybe but not suspension. Since when is it a crime to defend ourselves?? Schools have gotten OVERLY protective and I can understand the principle of it but it doesn't always seem rational.
    I was verbally attacked every day at lunch by a girl that was my age. It got to the point where I would just call home "sick" just before lunch so that I didn't have to deal with it anymore. She always confronted me in the lobby right in front of the office and not one faculty member or staff member ever did a damn thing about it. I missed many days of afternoon classes and eventually ended up with a physical condition because of the stress she was putting me through. I got my "revenge" the last day of summer vacation. We went to blows in a parking lot on the "main drag" in our small little town. I kicked her butt and walked away...I never had a problem with her again. Some people just need to be put in their place.
  • Lyn_Matthews
    Lyn_Matthews Posts: 902 Member
    I know exactly how you feel. I havent lost much yet....but I can feel already that my stomach is the first place its come off and have already noticed a few saggy spots. There are areas that I just dont think I will ever feel completely comfy with. First off.. Ive got "bear claw" stretch marks (sorta like that before picture in the ad above.. :grumble: ) from having 3 kids and I really dont think that even if i lost all the weight I would be comfy ever putting on a bikini again. So.. this is how I look at it. My body isnt supermodel perfect, it wasnt before I had kids and it sure wont be after I lose all this extra flub. BUT.. I know I'll feel better that i reached the goal I wanted to get to, that I have way more energy than I ever had and that my body will be healthier for it. It will also be VERY nice to shop outside of the PLUS sized department and buy cute clothes on the regular sales racks again!

    How long did it take you to lose those 30? Have you tried using some firming lotion on your trouble spots? I know the last time my stomach shrunk and I started using lotion alot, the saggies werent that bad. Still there, but definitely not as bad. Maybe try a body wrap? Those help a little also, as does seaweed soap for firming up skin.

    I too have major stretch marks but I'm proud of them and if I ever get skinny enough that I COULD wear a two piece I might just to show off my battle wounds :laugh: I would LOVE to be able to shop where ever I want and own an article of clothing that DOESN'T say X in front of the size (unless its XS :noway: ) I started working out and counting cals Aug 25th so it's taken me 5 months to lose 30 lbs. I haven't tried lotions cuz I have a hard time believing they actually work. I would love to do a body wrap...more for the experience than the supposed weight loss and body firming effects. Maybe I will make that a reward after the next 10 or 15 lbs. I'm trying to stay positive and I keep pushing forward but every once in a while those negatives creep in. I'm just gonna have to start focusing on my "problem" areas and work a little harder on them.
    Thanks for the support ladies :flowerforyou:
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