Unemployment/living with parents

I wouldn't judge people like that as long as they know where they Are heading and not just wasting life people need to have some sort of plan of what they want to achieve even if it's a vague one

Being 23 is not uncommon to move back home or even still be living at home.

I have paid every single living expense for my daughters (tuition, living expenses, cars, insurance, all of it, and I am still paying for one's tuition right now and the other one took back hers to pay when she graduated). I am a proud parent and would not change one thing.

If we chose for them to work to help pay their way, college would have been a struggle to get through. We chose for them to have their college experience, study hard and graduate over expenses or money woes.

So no guilt, no shame in what you are doing. You have circumstances that have put you where you are, you are loved by your parents and they want you to do well. It looks like you have some plans in the works, your circumstances make many exceptions but none the less, you are doing well.

I wish you luck and make sure you make your health a number one priority always!

As a parent, I will say that we prefer having our kids living with us than out struggling to stay afloat.
I've always told my kids when they're 18 they're out. However, they know we're here to help in any way possible if necessary.

Mmmmm.... home cooked meals with the secret ingredient love

I am in similar situations before. I had mental illness at 17. Recover in 5 to 10 years without medicine or operations. I lived with my parents and I am 34 now. I did not have jobs for some periods of my life. I accept people for who they are and do not judge them. we all had problems but to every problem that we had, there is always a solution.

I have a 24 year old that still lives at home with me. I would never kick him out however I'm secretly wondering how long is he planning on staying. He seems really comfortable. Grant it, he works and goes to school so I'm a little patient. Good to know it's common. Sometimes I feel like people will judge me as a parent for having a grown son at home. Not that I really give a ratsass because no one pays my bills or lives my life but the thought still crosses my mind.

I feel like "recovering from brain surgery and mental health issues" is an extremely valid reason to live at home. I feel like even if you had the means to afford your own place, living with your parents is still the better option in that scenario. You needed care, and there's nothing leech-like about coming together as a family to make sure you got healthy again.

I'll also say I think the Western culture that expects you to be an independent adult immediately after graduation is fairly unique and not the most sensible. Even if you don't have student debt, living at home gives you a chance to amass savings for a house, for a car, for a wedding, and for other major expenses you're going to incur in the next decade or so. I lived in Singapore, and the locals would move back in with their parents well into their thirties, until they could afford to move out and provide for their families without generating massive amounts of debt. They'd have a couple of decades with their spouse and kids before their parents would move in with them again because they needed some level of care. Some families never expected their children to move out. Everyone would share the family home - lower expenses, more people around to help with kids and chores. I expect that given the current economic climate, this will become more normal in Western societies.

Dont sweat it, be thankful your parents did not just kick you out at 17 and tell you have a good life. They dont mind having you, you have had obstacles to over come, now you have a plan, move forward, and then when your ready leave the nest on good terms. Consider yourself lucky your folks are letting you stay there.

I guess it all depends on your relationship with your family. Personally, I have had all three of my daughters move back in with us for a short time for one reason or another. I was glad to be there and be able to help them in their time of need. My door is always open to them.

I live in Italy, and living at home with your family is the norm. Since the economy is very bad here, it's hard to find a decent job. I have 3 sons--30, 29 and 23, all at home. My oldest has studied for years, and finally passed the most difficult bar exam in Italy--he will be a Notaio, like my husband. We are still waiting for his posting, and then he'll get his seal. He will get married in July, and then move to another town to practice. My second son has taken the Law Bar Exam and will hear the results in July, he is now studying to be a magistrate. My youngest is still in college with a year or two to go. I cook alot of big meals everyday. Sometimes it seems neverending, but we want our kids to have the opportunity to be professionals. It takes a long time, and years of study here. I must admit that sometimes I'm jealous of friends and family in the States with all their kids gone, since I haven't much time for myself.

just wanted to add my story too. My MIL died, my husband had to move to her town to take care of her estate. My parents didn't like me living alone while he was gone, and I was up to my eyes in debt, so I moved back in with my parents at 31. I am 33 now. It was hard as hell, because my brother and his gf live there, and my other brother came back from the Navy and lives there too. So my parents have had 3 of their 5 kids with them for a while. There were times where I wanted to just live in my car because of the stress, but I'm grateful that they offered their home to me. My husband was able to sell his mom's house, and we're signing a lease on an apartment tomorrow. It's a long, hard road, but if you want to move out, focus on that and it'll come.