Starting at morbidly obese--what made you finally stick with it?

Sweet_Misery_
Sweet_Misery_ Posts: 29 Member
I have been heavy my whole life but lately worse than ever and gaining 30-40 pounds a year. I will try to start on a plan to get healthy just to give up. If I try baby steps so I don't get discouraged, then after I don't see results I give up. If I try something drastic, I get too deprived and give it up completely. I have awful eating habits and feel I am on my way to a young death and killing myself by choosing eating over a future with my kids. But yet I just never ever stick with a routine for healthier habits for diet and exercise. I need to kick myself into gear. I have actually logged into this app and logged my food daily just to GAIN weight in the past 2 months. Im so frustrated and upset with myself.

For those who started out very overweight, what was your catalyst to finally start living better?

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  • Gallowmere1984
    Gallowmere1984 Posts: 6,626 Member
    Reading this (http://chaosandpain.blogspot.com/2012/06/your-fat-is-unequivocally-your-fault.html) realizing he was right, and that I had been two things my whole life:

    1) a disgusting excuse for a person
    2) lied to about genetics, hormones, nutrition, etc.
  • missh1967
    missh1967 Posts: 661 Member
    edited February 2017
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  • amusedmonkey
    amusedmonkey Posts: 10,330 Member
    My priorities changed. The inconveniences brought on by being obese were not annoying enough to justify a change. I was fully aware I was obese and why I was obese, I just didn't have that push. Then I got diagnosed with prediabetes, on the very top of the prediabetic range, almost diabetic. The fear of having to drastically change my diet lead me want to un-drastically change my diet and see if it helped. It did. I stuck with it so far because I don't want to reach a point where I will have to drastically change my diet, or at least to delay that point as much as possible. I know if I let go and gain weight I will become diabetic again, so that's not an option.
  • SarahMacphail1
    SarahMacphail1 Posts: 36 Member
    Being diagnosed with diabetes gave me the kick up the backside I needed to start eating better. I was hospitalized with a blood sugar of 34 (should be under 7!) and on insulin for a while. Managed to get my sugars under control and lost about 30lbs, got off insulin and onto tablets instead. It all went out the window again when I had my son but now my blood sugar is back on the rise so I need to get back on track. I'm not here for the weight loss so much as getting my blood sugar under control. But the two do go hand in hand to an extent.

    I haven't drastically changed my diet. I've attempted to cut down on the carbs most days, cut out sugary drinks, cut out most of the cake, biscuits etc and am watching my portion size. But I'm eating the same things I've always eaten, just perhaps in smaller (or in some cases larger) quantities. I don't feel restricted, I enjoy my meals and if I want a biscuit or a bar of chocolate I can have one.
  • Ming1951
    Ming1951 Posts: 514 Member
    What this poster said "kommodevaran" I found the comment right on and very insightful. Pretty much what I am doing. And I also think that you have to come to think that this will be your "normal" way of eating, of course you won't always be in deficit but you will always need to make yourself accountable by logging and counting the calories you eat. Thats just my opinion and what I plan to do once I reach my goal. I know myself I've been obese for a long time and its because of how I eat without thinking. So I made a decision to think about what goes into my body. I'll eat what I want but I will stay within a certain amount of calories. I've yo-yo'd too many times over my life by not staying accountable.
  • Tacklewasher
    Tacklewasher Posts: 7,122 Member
    edited February 2017
    I still can't really point to what started me losing weight. I July/Aug of last year I had to fix some drainage issues around the house, which meant digging a gig hole in the front yard(talking grave sized) and it was hard work. Took 2 months of weekends to do, but while doing it I got a fitness tracker to make sure my HR wasn't going higher than I was comfortable with. It was downhill from there. ~330 - 261.5 this morning downhill.

    No doctors visit, no big scare, nothing really that was keeping me from doing things. Finding this place through the tracker software helped. Figuring out it was all about calories and actually simple to lose weight (not easy, but simple) helped and now that I get it, there's no more excuse to be morbidly obese. Have not hit 180 days of tracking yet, and am not close to my goal of just being overweight, but keeping at it.

    Setting small goals is key. If I thought about losing 110 lbs, it was too much. So 10 lbs here and down from one obese class to another there. I passed 20% lost, next goal is to be under 35 BMI, and that's 4 lbs away. Then 25% gone.
  • JeromeBarry1
    JeromeBarry1 Posts: 10,179 Member
    It's a neuron in my brain that toggled on. Which neuron, I'm not sure, but there's no going back. The proximate cause was another in a long string of quarterly doctor visits where my dr. in another in a long string of admonitions that I eat less and lose weight revealed results of a recent blood test which showed a dramatic decline in the goodness of my cholesterol numbers. That got my attention. The choice was mine: Drugs, or lose weight. I hate drugs.
  • Ejcejcejc
    Ejcejcejc Posts: 26 Member
    For me, being in ketosis has been a life changer....feel great...lost 100 in six months without working out...and don't feel deprived (very often). So very much of this is all in our heads. All my labs are now great. I am off hb meds. I am following the Ideal Protein protocol and it is really working for me. Have lots fat and water, not muscle. I added exercise back in three weeks ago and feel great but going to calculate what impact it had on my weight loss at the end of the fourth week. I have another 75-94 to lose.
  • genpopadopolous
    genpopadopolous Posts: 411 Member
    For me, it was a couple things- that I was going to look back in every picture of my children growing up and I was going to be embarrassed and that I was setting them up for a life with a crappy relationship with food and they deserve better.

    Plus it's simple. It isn't easy but it's simple. I have no good reason not to other than I didn't want to stop overeating and I didn't want to get off the couch. That's not a good enough reason to stay fat.

    It's still not totally easy. I'm maintaining at the moment because I'm hungry and I rather hang here than gain back. I'm never going back, though. What I have learned going from obese to just 10 pounds from a healthy BMI is that I'm worth it, too. Not just my kids.
  • red99ryder
    red99ryder Posts: 399 Member
    Im not sure living better is the way to look at it . i love food but have to learn to eat what by body needs and not more than that . Right now its a little bit less because im trying to lose weight . I think we all have some kind of light bulb that goes off that says im ready ,, like i want to be able to wipe my butt lol Or i weigh xxx number of pounds , I do think having some success helps keep me motivated , sure i have bad scale weeks and overeat sometimes , but over all its still a step in the right direction . It takes awhile depending on where you start and most likely will be a life long journey ,,i will still eat the foods i want but will be counting the calories

    Living better ??? Not sure its better , Just different

    Good luck
  • bwhitty67
    bwhitty67 Posts: 162 Member
    It's your life, your worth it. Be ready to commit to your lifestyle for life and don't let food control you, you control it. Find what works for your body i.e. CICO/LC/IF.... heck learn to eat when your hungry not what a clock says has been a game changer for me! It's not going to be easy and it's going to take time. You'll feel like giving up but just start out changing one or two habits at a time. Maybe journal, drink more water if you don't. If you drink a lot of soda give up one a day then in a couple weeks give up two :)

    I'm no expert but have started and stopped many times, I've restarted and have a whole new way of thinking about this journey. Good luck girl!
  • earlnabby
    earlnabby Posts: 8,171 Member

    For those who started out very overweight, what was your catalyst to finally start living better?

    For me, it was a trip to the hospital for severe anemia caused by stomach erosion (not uncommon for people with lots of belly fat like I had). Not only did I need transfusions and testing, the blood work showed I was just over the line so was technically T2 diabetic. It really hit me that this was just the beginning of all kinds of potential health issues if I didn't get my act together and eat better, move more, and lose weight.


  • Rocknut53
    Rocknut53 Posts: 1,794 Member
    Coming to the realization that at 62 I was probably going to my grave early and fat with a few years of declining health in between. How did I do it? As @JeromeBarry1 said: "It's a neuron in my brain that toggled on. Which neuron, I'm not sure, but there's no going back." OP, you are young, do this now so you can enjoy a good long healthy life.
  • RoteBook
    RoteBook Posts: 171 Member
    I think everyone's stumbling blocks are different, and figuring out what's holding you back will really help. For me, I've always been the "bad" kind of perfectionist. If I can't do it right the first time, why bother? I'll never be as good as somebody else, so I should just stop, etc. This is going to sound super hokey, but what finally got through to me was the growth mindset philosophy at my kid's school.

    It took about a year of teachers and the principal sending out information about teaching the value of hard work, making progress, learning from mistakes, and trying another way instead of giving up when frustrated before it finally sank in for me.

    I've slowly learned to stop seeing a binge snack as a huge failure, and now my binge snacks have (mostly) stopped turning into binge days. And when I do have a binge day, I've been able to stop and figure out why I wanted to binge. For me, it's usually hormones or stress.

    For me, slowing down my expectations has also made a huge difference. I'm only aiming for .5 pound per week, even though I started with 62 pounds to lose (I'm 5'3", so at 202 pounds I had a bmi over 35). I like food, and I had always gotten too obsessive about my food when I went under 1500 calories/day.

    My only consistent exercise has been walking, because that's what I'm willing to make time for right now. On days when I fit in more exercise I sometimes have a bigger deficit and lose more that week (yey) or if I'm hungry I eat more (also yey). I lost 30 pounds in 2016, and I'm planning to lose about another 26 pounds this year. At this rate I'll still be overweight going into 2018. That sounds excruciatingly slow, and wouldn't work for lots of people. But I know that if I had tried to go faster I would have given up by now.
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