My BF said i am too fat!

vivid2012
vivid2012 Posts: 31
edited September 30 in Health and Weight Loss
Hi,all guys and ladies here. I wanna share my story; I am so sad now. last weekend, I just got this convertible Dress for our Hawaii travelling.
http://tinyurl.com/44ndfwu
I showed it to my honey in the hope of getting praise or something els. But he said :"you are too fat on this dress." His words like a sword. It hurt my heart deeply. What do u think about this dress? Is it nice? I am 150 pounds now. Am I too fat??? If so, what I should do to lose weight?
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  • northstar699
    northstar699 Posts: 99 Member
    You could always lose 200+ pounds of boyfriend!!

    Edit:
    It does seem to be the kind of dress that would be "unforgiving," but until you try it on there is really no way to know how you will look. It might fit you perfectly, who knows? I'm sorry your feelings got hurt though. Try to stay positive and definitely let your BF know that comments like that are NOT helpful. Use curse words if necessary.
  • Faybelline88
    Faybelline88 Posts: 27
    Get a new boyfriend and you'll lose about 180lb all in one go! ;-)
  • joehempel
    joehempel Posts: 1,543 Member
    Agree with the rest. That's a horrible thing to say!
  • mistyb47711
    mistyb47711 Posts: 861 Member
    Well try the dress on.....how did it fit....and I think he is very mean for saying that to you......i agree with the rest.....
  • babylemonade
    babylemonade Posts: 250 Member
    Lose the boyfriend. he sounds like a jerk.
  • elmobabie84
    elmobabie84 Posts: 112
    :noway: 150 is NOT FAT!!!:grumble: ur bf needs to be smacked! :angry: he should be there to encourage you!!!
  • MasterXelcas
    MasterXelcas Posts: 130 Member
    you look great and 150 lbs is not bad at all, ur bf is an idiot
  • newmommynewfitme
    newmommynewfitme Posts: 89
    Drop him like a bad habit and you'll be so much lighter , you'll float!
  • pauljsolie
    pauljsolie Posts: 1,024 Member
    get rid of tha loser bf.
  • beccau_20
    beccau_20 Posts: 191 Member
    Um, if I weighed 150 and wore a dress like that, my husband might just keel over. Wear that dress and forget what he says!
  • margo36
    margo36 Posts: 222 Member
    I would dump him right now. My partner loves me whatever size I am :smile:
  • methetree
    methetree Posts: 381
    He isn't the guy for you... dump his silly *kitten* and find someone who will appreciate the dress...
    You are awesome.
  • RedBullLiz
    RedBullLiz Posts: 469 Member
    Whaaaaaaa?! Wow, not a very supportive thing to say. But damn, if the dress makes you happy the way you look in it, does it matter what he thinks - even after that comment?? No!! Like everyone else says: 150 is NOT fat. Get a girlfriends opinion. Your girls will tell you what's up.
  • 623Hernandez
    623Hernandez Posts: 458
    Fu*k him! Really!?
  • RedBullLiz
    RedBullLiz Posts: 469 Member
    Oh, and hell yeah, the dress is beautiful.
  • SandyEdge
    SandyEdge Posts: 72 Member
    I would reflect on whether the Boyfriend said this in passing or if he was trying to be malicious. If he was being malicious then probably is a good idea to put him on notice.

    If it was an off the cuff comment - you should try to understand that often Men are just not very good at being diplomatic sometimes - and will speak the truth without considering the consequences.

    Ask yourself - do you want your boyfriend to say that you are not fat - even if you are ??

    Anyway - I hope you are ok.
  • SandyEdge
    SandyEdge Posts: 72 Member
    I would reflect on whether the Boyfriend said this comment in passing or if he was trying to be malicious. If he was being malicious then it probably is a good idea to put him on notice.

    If it was an off the cuff comment - you should try to understand that often Men are just not very good at being diplomatic sometimes - and will speak the truth without considering the consequences.

    Ask yourself - do you want your boyfriend to say that you are not fat - even if you are ??

    Anyway - I hope you are ok.
  • portexploit
    portexploit Posts: 378 Member
    Yes that was the wrong thing to say to the OP. What if he has a point? What if the dress doesn't fit her and she just looks ridiculous in it?
  • FTIM2015
    FTIM2015 Posts: 460 Member
    I love that dress! Tell him to take a hike, if you feel good and look good in it, forget what he thinks!
  • FTIM2015
    FTIM2015 Posts: 460 Member
    Yes that was the wrong thing to say to the OP. What if he has a point? What if the dress doesn't fit her and she just looks ridiculous in it?
    Then there are FAR better ways to say it!
  • melaniecheeks
    melaniecheeks Posts: 6,349 Member
    Yes I dont want to jump to conclusions here - what you heard him say made you upset, and quite right too.

    But what did he actually mean to say? We know men have a tough time communicating, and diplomacy doesn't' come naturally to them. So maybe he was suggesting that other styles suit you better? I know I'd find it hard to carry off the tight ruching of that dress, but without seeing it on YOU it's not easy to tell.

    Was this an unexpected comment, or does he often say things that upset you? Is he supportive of your lifestyle change? Time to talk to him honestly and explain how you feel.
  • kanonxbou47
    kanonxbou47 Posts: 265 Member
    Dump him.
    Does he often say stuff like that to you? It could be emotional abuse.
    150 pounds is really not fat.
    If my significant other said something like that to me, they would regret it. Very much.
  • beccau_20
    beccau_20 Posts: 191 Member
    Yes that was the wrong thing to say to the OP. What if he has a point? What if the dress doesn't fit her and she just looks ridiculous in it?

    Okay, he doesn't have to LIE, but he doesn't need to call her fat. My husband tells me when things don't look good on me without calling me fat and I am actually fat.
  • Andythefitfamilyman
    Andythefitfamilyman Posts: 420
    If I said that too my wife I would lose the twig and berries really fast lol
  • Fattack
    Fattack Posts: 666 Member
    Yes, he was rude and insensitive, but sometimes men don't know how to sugar coat it. That said, my boyfriend wouldn't dream of hurting my feelings like that because he knows how sensitive I am about my weight. But people are different, and maybe he was just trying to help in his own strange way.

    OP: If you want the dress and it makes you feel good, then go for it!

    As an aside, to those of you saying 150lbs isn't fat, that depends on your height. I'm 138, but at 5'0'' I still am distinctly chunky!
  • CARNAT22
    CARNAT22 Posts: 764 Member
    I am not defending your BF OP as it is just damn rude for him to say what he did and if he often makes remarks like that I suggest you think long and hard about your future with him!

    However I often ask my OH's opinion on clothes and I tell him to be totally honest - so I don't get upset if he doesn't like what I am wearing (my OH has awful taste though and wold have me dressed likea street walker if he had his way LOL!!)
  • jade_85
    jade_85 Posts: 96
    OMG what an insensitive pig. if that was me i would dump him there are ways of saying things and that is just RUDE and HORIIBLE. u r no way fat and i agree with the rest x
  • notoriousgtt
    notoriousgtt Posts: 75 Member
    Just to play devils advocate, but it might have been a particularly ill fitting dress? Perhaps it didn't suit her body shape? Perhaps she had been giving him a hard time and he said it out of spite?

    I think people who are telling her to dump her fella are not looking at the long term, one comment is not reason for ending a relationship and if you people seriously think that it is then thank god I'm not your partner!

    Yes, it was not the cleverest thing to say but we are men, we do not do sensitive. I'm sure it would have been better if he kept his mouth shut but lets not encourage the girl to over react.
  • kenzietea
    kenzietea Posts: 614 Member
    If he is not happy with your size, why is he with you?
    But, like someone said on here, if he just was being a man and did not mean harm to it, maybe just explain to him how you feel.
  • heatherelise84
    heatherelise84 Posts: 7
    I agree.....Lose the BF. Thats BS.
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