FAIL

AndraMW
AndraMW Posts: 32 Member
edited November 16 in Health and Weight Loss
I fell off the wagon...any and all encouragements would be appreciated. I hopped back on yesterday and today and hoping I can keep it up. Thanks mfpals
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  • kshama2001
    kshama2001 Posts: 28,052 Member
    Today is a new day!

    How much weight do you have to lose total and what's your weekly weight loss goal set to?
  • BootCampC
    BootCampC Posts: 689 Member
    Just do it, put into your mind nothing will stop you from going to the gym and preplan your meals
  • bagge72
    bagge72 Posts: 1,377 Member
    Put your mind to it, go for it, Get down and break a sweat. Rock and roll, you ain't seen nothing yet!
  • songbird13291
    songbird13291 Posts: 120 Member
    Life happens. Move on. Don't lose your focus.
  • megd44
    megd44 Posts: 120 Member
    You are not alone! You are back and ready to move forward, which is all you can do at this point. If you have triggers that make you stumble, identify those and try to create some mechanisms to combat them when they hit. Just take it one day at a time and remember this is a marathon, not a sprint. Feel free to send me a FR.
  • wizzybeth
    wizzybeth Posts: 3,578 Member
    Stop saying FAIL. Just keep on plan today. Don't continue to eat more calories when you overeat for one meal or one day....get back on next meal if you can. Don't beat yourself up. Just say "oopsies!" And move on back on plan. <3
  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,423 Member
    edited March 2017
    You will not have a perfect deficit every day. Some days you will eat at maintenance. Some days you may go over. One day over will do little damage if you consistently have a deficit.
    Don't get dramatic about it. Log and move on.
    If it is happening a lot look hard at your plan. Maybe you need to eat more protein, fiber or fats to feel satisfied. Maybe you need to incorporate more foods you like instead of completely changing your diet. Maybe your calorie goal is set too low/aggressive and you need to raise it to something more manageable.
  • size102b
    size102b Posts: 1,370 Member
    Just remember it will come on faster than come off if you don't stick to a new lifestyle you could be 30 lbs heavier by Christmas
  • quiksylver296
    quiksylver296 Posts: 28,439 Member
    cross2bear wrote: »
    No no no!! NOT fail - just more data for you to discover what works and what doesn't work for you. Every new day is another opportunity to start again, or to do better, or keep up the good work. Don't beat yourself up.

    This^^
  • GYATagain
    GYATagain Posts: 141 Member
    cross2bear wrote: »
    No no no!! NOT fail - just more data for you to discover what works and what doesnt work for you. Every new day is another opportunity to start again, or to do better, or keep up the good work. Dont beat yourself up.

    ^^DITTO This^^
  • lady_ghost
    lady_ghost Posts: 175 Member
    kommodevaran wrote: »
    Encouragement won't help you now. Regroup, rethink. Don't hop on and off wagons. Don't make a plan you can only hope sticking to. That is exactly how you set yourself up for failure.

    Terrible advice
  • Chadxx
    Chadxx Posts: 1,199 Member
    Ready2Rock206 wrote: »
    Well then you didn't fail did you? Failing would be quiting. You just hit a bump in the road.

    Exactly, you haven't failed. You have only stumbled but you caught yourself and are continuing on your journey to success.


    kommodevaran wrote: »
    Encouragement won't help you now. Regroup, rethink. Don't hop on and off wagons. Don't make a plan you can only hope sticking to. That is exactly how you set yourself up for failure.

    This is actually not bad advice. It would be helpful to figure out why you stumbled. We're you overly restrictive? Did you put yourself in a situation full of temptation? Was something causing you stress? Ultimately, is there something you can do to help prevent you from stumbling again?


    My advice is just to set a reasonable calorie goal, figure out what foods keep you satisfied, and work within your budget if there is something you really want. This doesn't have to be a complicated process. Then, just take it one day at a time and you will reach your goals.
  • BeChill73
    BeChill73 Posts: 75 Member
    There is no FAIL, only learning. Like any new skill or habit you need to practise until you become good at it. If you did not suceed this time, think about what went wrong, figure out how to avoid the same issue next time, and give it another go. You can do this!
  • wanderingartistry
    wanderingartistry Posts: 6 Member
    You can do it. It's a journey, and journeys never go perfectly. As long as you keep going forward.
  • HlthDtour
    HlthDtour Posts: 20 Member
    As long as you have a off day or a off meal it isn't a failure. I believe it is when you dwell on it and beat yourself up about it that you set yourself up for guilt. Welcome to being human. Try your best and string the success' together. Add one good habit today, add one tomorrow to make two, add another the next day to make three...and so on. Best of luck!
  • kommodevaran
    kommodevaran Posts: 17,890 Member
    lady_ghost wrote: »
    kommodevaran wrote: »
    Encouragement won't help you now. Regroup, rethink. Don't hop on and off wagons. Don't make a plan you can only hope sticking to. That is exactly how you set yourself up for failure.

    Terrible advice

    Please expand!
  • AndraMW
    AndraMW Posts: 32 Member
    kshama2001 wrote: »
    Today is a new day!

    How much weight do you have to lose total and what's your weekly weight loss goal set to?

    Thank you. Things have been going well. Sometimes life/kids can be overwhelming. I was wallowing in self pity. I have lost 10 lbs in 5 days. I want to lose about 50 more.
  • AndraMW
    AndraMW Posts: 32 Member
    CattOfTheGarage wrote: »
    Get rid of the wagon and just make it up as you go along. That's what I do.

    I let my self pity get the better of me.
  • red99ryder
    red99ryder Posts: 399 Member
    you never fail untill you quit ,, hang in there
  • AndraMW
    AndraMW Posts: 32 Member
    Lounmoun wrote: »
    You will not have a perfect deficit every day. Some days you will eat at maintenance. Some days you may go over. One day over will do little damage if you consistently have a deficit.
    Don't get dramatic about it. Log and move on.
    If it is happening a lot look hard at your plan. Maybe you need to eat more protein, fiber or fats to feel satisfied. Maybe you need to incorporate more foods you like instead of completely changing your diet. Maybe your calorie goal is set too low/aggressive and you need to raise it to something more manageable.

    Just let life get me down. Otherwise happened. It wasn't about a day otmr a meal, it was about a lot of different things.
  • AndraMW
    AndraMW Posts: 32 Member
    red99ryder wrote: »
    you never fail untill you quit ,, hang in there

    Thank you
  • AndraMW
    AndraMW Posts: 32 Member
    Thank you everyone. I was feeling sorry for myself and didn't feel like I wanted to get back at it. But now that I have, I feel amazing! I lost 10lbs in 5 days and feel energized. Sure I struggle, bit I remember the me that has done this before, and can do it again. Kind words can be some of the best motivation when you feel down on yourself. So thank you everyone for the kind words :)
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    lady_ghost wrote: »
    kommodevaran wrote: »
    Encouragement won't help you now. Regroup, rethink. Don't hop on and off wagons. Don't make a plan you can only hope sticking to. That is exactly how you set yourself up for failure.

    Terrible advice

    I don't think it's terrible advice. I think it's being real. I'm not sure if it applies to the OP, but I know it's true for a lot of people!

    You shouldn't set goals you have a good chance of not hitting, or use complicated and unsustainable methods to get there. The more you struggle, the more setbacks you have, the more likely you are to burn out. You should set yourself up for success by developing realistic plans that you know you can manage. Sure, you'll have a rough day here and there, but for the most part it's a plan you can stick to long-term. You start small (keep it simple) and then build on your successes. After awhile, you've grown confident and you know what works. That's when you can do anything! A lot of people set themselves up for failure by being too aggressive, too restrictive, too ambitious. You shouldn't be hoping you can meet your goals. You should be confident that you are well on your way.

    Successful people don't say, "I hope I can do this." They say, "I'm doing this," and they create a manageable, reasonable strategy and they do it. And they don't have to be perfect. They just have to get it done. They don't make things harder or more complicated than they need to be. They set themselves up for the win. There will always be bumps along the way, but they'll stay the course and keep moving forward.

    If you set yourself up for the long-term win, you won't have to keep falling off the wagon because it will be easier just to stay on it. You got this, OP! :)
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    sellingoncl76 wrote: »
    kshama2001 wrote: »
    Today is a new day!

    How much weight do you have to lose total and what's your weekly weight loss goal set to?

    ...I have lost 10 lbs in 5 days. I want to lose about 50 more.

    That's very aggressive. I'm not sure how sustainable that is. You have to be doing some really extreme stuff to be getting those numbers. I wouldn't blame you for burning out. I certainly would. It will take longer to get to goal if you slow down your loss, but it will be more manageable, healthier, and you'll be more likely to keep it off permanently (plus have more fun learning healthy habits) if you take your time. It took me a 4 or 5 months to lose 20 pounds, but I've kept it off easily for over 5 years. Slow and steady!
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