Clingy
BrinaBecnel
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I literally can't stand clingy people. I need my space! How do you nicely ask someone to back tf off?! 
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Agreed.2
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It really depends upon whom it's & why! I don't mind physically clingy/needy via, a man as long as that; doesn't lead to obsessive/possessive behavior & for a child it's a necessary acceptance otherwise, it's best to choose not; to've children at all! As far as friends if I know that they don't have, anyone else in their life to greet/comfort them; I'll allow them to hug me anytime they see me! Basically it's your responsibility to, choose to've people in your life that; mesh with you or get rid of them rather than, complain about them while putting on a false facade that; you care about them! You've no right to, ask someone to change whom they're if; they aren't causing harm!1
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I've never been good at that - in every situation like this I've been involved with, I didn't particularly care enough for the person to feel it was necessary to "discuss" their clinginess. I would casually (systematically) distance myself by not returning calls, leaving their company early, not being as engaged with them, etc. until they got the hint and let it happen organically.
Probably not the best advice you'll hear to help you, but figured I'd offer my perspective and experience.4 -
I don't do clingy. I haven't come across someone who's interested in being clingy with me so I haven't had the need to tell anyone to back off.3
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BrinaBecnel wrote: »I literally can't stand clingy people. I need my space! How do you nicely ask someone to back tf off?!
That's exactly it, to even broach the subject is impolite. And it's suffocating. The only solution is to cut it off! Add/Increase distance. *Toxic*
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happilymegan wrote: »Tell them you're the kind of person who needs time to themselves. There is no harm in explaining what you need.
Then this should've been, explained before getting involved with; the person & if it's a, child choose not; to've children!1 -
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BrinaBecnel wrote: »I literally can't stand clingy people. I need my space! How do you nicely ask someone to back tf off?!
Why are you talking to other people??? I thought I was all you needed
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Different people have different emotional needs. It's perfectly understandable you don't feel comfortable constantly providing that sort of emotional support as it gets tiring over time, there's no way in hell all people are compatible. I think you just need to talk it out straightforward and solve the issue at its root
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DeficitDuchess wrote: »happilymegan wrote: »Tell them you're the kind of person who needs time to themselves. There is no harm in explaining what you need.
Then this should've been, explained before getting involved with; the person & if it's a, child choose not; to've children!
I'm assuming you're joking because this sounds pretty ridiculous. Choose not to have children because they might be clingy? Really? smh5 -
BrinaBecnel wrote: »I literally can't stand clingy people. I need my space! How do you nicely ask someone to back tf off?!
Why are you talking to other people??? I thought I was all you needed
You're all I need, the plane ticket I just bought tells me so!3 -
DeficitDuchess wrote: »happilymegan wrote: »Tell them you're the kind of person who needs time to themselves. There is no harm in explaining what you need.
Then this should've been, explained before getting involved with; the person & if it's a, child choose not; to've children!
I'm assuming you're joking because this sounds pretty ridiculous. Choose not to have a children because they might be clingy? Really? smh
So if someone's unable to, tolerate children they; should've them?0 -
DeficitDuchess wrote: »DeficitDuchess wrote: »happilymegan wrote: »Tell them you're the kind of person who needs time to themselves. There is no harm in explaining what you need.
Then this should've been, explained before getting involved with; the person & if it's a, child choose not; to've children!
I'm assuming you're joking because this sounds pretty ridiculous. Choose not to have a children because they might be clingy? Really? smh
So if someone's unable to, tolerate children they; should've them?
Based on OP's post, I'm willing to bet she was not talking about children.7 -
I don't like clingy people....yet here I am, as a mom, enjoying their neediness
Children are helpless. Adults on the other hand....DeficitDuchess wrote: »DeficitDuchess wrote: »happilymegan wrote: »Tell them you're the kind of person who needs time to themselves. There is no harm in explaining what you need.
Then this should've been, explained before getting involved with; the person & if it's a, child choose not; to've children!
I'm assuming you're joking because this sounds pretty ridiculous. Choose not to have a children because they might be clingy? Really? smh
So if someone's unable to, tolerate children they; should've them?
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DeficitDuchess wrote: »DeficitDuchess wrote: »happilymegan wrote: »Tell them you're the kind of person who needs time to themselves. There is no harm in explaining what you need.
Then this should've been, explained before getting involved with; the person & if it's a, child choose not; to've children!
I'm assuming you're joking because this sounds pretty ridiculous. Choose not to have a children because they might be clingy? Really? smh
So if someone's unable to, tolerate children they; should've them?
Based on OP's post, I'm willing to bet she was not talking about children.
I agree but while currently it doesn't seem to involve the neediness of a child, these people tend to not discriminate when it pertains to any living creature that; might need an emotional/physical connection to them! Heck even pets get, abandoned if; they're deemed clingy!0 -
I don't like clingy people....yet here I am, as a mom, enjoying their neediness
Children are helpless. Adults on the other hand....DeficitDuchess wrote: »DeficitDuchess wrote: »happilymegan wrote: »Tell them you're the kind of person who needs time to themselves. There is no harm in explaining what you need.
Then this should've been, explained before getting involved with; the person & if it's a, child choose not; to've children!
I'm assuming you're joking because this sounds pretty ridiculous. Choose not to have a children because they might be clingy? Really? smh
So if someone's unable to, tolerate children they; should've them?
However 1 day your child'll be, an adult whom might still wanna; hug with their Mother!0 -
DeficitDuchess wrote: »I don't like clingy people....yet here I am, as a mom, enjoying their neediness
Children are helpless. Adults on the other hand....DeficitDuchess wrote: »DeficitDuchess wrote: »happilymegan wrote: »Tell them you're the kind of person who needs time to themselves. There is no harm in explaining what you need.
Then this should've been, explained before getting involved with; the person & if it's a, child choose not; to've children!
I'm assuming you're joking because this sounds pretty ridiculous. Choose not to have a children because they might be clingy? Really? smh
So if someone's unable to, tolerate children they; should've them?
However 1 day your child'll be, an adult whom might still wanna; hug with their Mother!
There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. An adult who wants to hug their parents is not clingy, it's endearing. I hope my sons still want to hug me no matter how old they get.5 -
Klingons must be destroyed.1
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JeromeBarry1 wrote: »Klingons must be destroyed.
Number two. Make it so.0 -
DeficitDuchess wrote: »I don't like clingy people....yet here I am, as a mom, enjoying their neediness
Children are helpless. Adults on the other hand....DeficitDuchess wrote: »DeficitDuchess wrote: »happilymegan wrote: »Tell them you're the kind of person who needs time to themselves. There is no harm in explaining what you need.
Then this should've been, explained before getting involved with; the person & if it's a, child choose not; to've children!
I'm assuming you're joking because this sounds pretty ridiculous. Choose not to have a children because they might be clingy? Really? smh
So if someone's unable to, tolerate children they; should've them?
However 1 day your child'll be, an adult whom might still wanna; hug with their Mother!
Duchess, what's going on, you are steering away from the topic. We're about to make a very important decision here. Concentrate1 -
Don't brush your teeth or wear deoderant.1
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DeficitDuchess wrote: »I don't like clingy people....yet here I am, as a mom, enjoying their neediness
Children are helpless. Adults on the other hand....DeficitDuchess wrote: »DeficitDuchess wrote: »happilymegan wrote: »Tell them you're the kind of person who needs time to themselves. There is no harm in explaining what you need.
Then this should've been, explained before getting involved with; the person & if it's a, child choose not; to've children!
I'm assuming you're joking because this sounds pretty ridiculous. Choose not to have a children because they might be clingy? Really? smh
So if someone's unable to, tolerate children they; should've them?
However 1 day your child'll be, an adult whom might still wanna; hug with their Mother!
There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. An adult who wants to hug their parents is not clingy, it's endearing. I hope my sons still want to hug me no matter how old they get.
True but everyone has, their own perceptions concerning; what's clingy as well! Some parents refuse to, be the shoulder for their child of any age to; cry on, etc. & no matter how, trivial or serious the; reasoning's!0 -
DeficitDuchess wrote: »I don't like clingy people....yet here I am, as a mom, enjoying their neediness
Children are helpless. Adults on the other hand....DeficitDuchess wrote: »DeficitDuchess wrote: »happilymegan wrote: »Tell them you're the kind of person who needs time to themselves. There is no harm in explaining what you need.
Then this should've been, explained before getting involved with; the person & if it's a, child choose not; to've children!
I'm assuming you're joking because this sounds pretty ridiculous. Choose not to have a children because they might be clingy? Really? smh
So if someone's unable to, tolerate children they; should've them?
However 1 day your child'll be, an adult whom might still wanna; hug with their Mother!
There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. An adult who wants to hug their parents is not clingy, it's endearing. I hope my sons still want to hug me no matter how old they get.
yes agreed.
WTH - How is that being clingy? WOW.1 -
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DeficitDuchess wrote: »DeficitDuchess wrote: »I don't like clingy people....yet here I am, as a mom, enjoying their neediness
Children are helpless. Adults on the other hand....DeficitDuchess wrote: »DeficitDuchess wrote: »happilymegan wrote: »Tell them you're the kind of person who needs time to themselves. There is no harm in explaining what you need.
Then this should've been, explained before getting involved with; the person & if it's a, child choose not; to've children!
I'm assuming you're joking because this sounds pretty ridiculous. Choose not to have a children because they might be clingy? Really? smh
So if someone's unable to, tolerate children they; should've them?
However 1 day your child'll be, an adult whom might still wanna; hug with their Mother!
There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. An adult who wants to hug their parents is not clingy, it's endearing. I hope my sons still want to hug me no matter how old they get.
True but everyone has, their own perceptions concerning; what's clingy as well! Some parents refuse to, be the shoulder for their child of any age to; cry on, etc. & no matter how, trivial or serious the; reasoning's!
I have a name for those types of parents. I could try to get creative and post it here but nah. I'm pretty sure someone will flag me, since I'm so well liked here...NOT.
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Y'all are really making me wanna go hug my kid now..
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DeficitDuchess wrote: »DeficitDuchess wrote: »I don't like clingy people....yet here I am, as a mom, enjoying their neediness
Children are helpless. Adults on the other hand....DeficitDuchess wrote: »DeficitDuchess wrote: »happilymegan wrote: »Tell them you're the kind of person who needs time to themselves. There is no harm in explaining what you need.
Then this should've been, explained before getting involved with; the person & if it's a, child choose not; to've children!
I'm assuming you're joking because this sounds pretty ridiculous. Choose not to have a children because they might be clingy? Really? smh
So if someone's unable to, tolerate children they; should've them?
However 1 day your child'll be, an adult whom might still wanna; hug with their Mother!
There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. An adult who wants to hug their parents is not clingy, it's endearing. I hope my sons still want to hug me no matter how old they get.
True but everyone has, their own perceptions concerning; what's clingy as well! Some parents refuse to, be the shoulder for their child of any age to; cry on, etc. & no matter how, trivial or serious the; reasoning's!
I have a name for those types of parents. I could try to get creative and post it here but nah. I'm pretty sure someone will flag me, since I'm so well liked here...NOT.
I understand, I am a product of; a parent like that &'ve babysat, some children that; were also!0
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