Heart broken

@sbrandt37 nailed it.

It's OK to lean on your friends in times like these--actually, it's times like these are when people show you who they really are, so be ready. Allow any chaff to fall away: they weren't truly serving any purpose, anyway.

Allow yourself to feel whatever you need to feel, though remember to take care of yourself. Remember to eat, to breathe.

Immerse yourself in music. Five Finger Death Punch and Hollywood Undead are my go-tos, but as you like.

You can find support on these forums, but if your sorrow starts affecting your daily life, please get help. Good luck.

Been here before man, I know what you're going through. It's tough.
Whatever you do, just don't sit around and do nothing, keep yourself busy, go out, take on something you've never done before. It's times like these you get to truly reinvent yourself.

"she was toxic" says it all right there , its not easy at first , it hurts , your mind will be all over the place , best thing to do is to focus on yourself. do not dwell on should have could have situations in your mind. you had good times and there were bad times. she was a large part of your life , but instead of giving a big portion of your time and energy to a volatile situation or argument , now you can focus on what is important to you. you need to step away and role play as your own best friend. and tell him what he should do.what would your advice be to him , if this was your friend / brother.. etc peace bro , it will work out for the best.

rambo1687 wrote: »

Thanks everyone , I'm going back to school and getting in better shape for myself.. however I loved her so much and I currently relocated to be close to family because my world is upside down.. I find myself relying on God and family.. but my world is upside down and everything intimidates me... very scared and thank you all for the support

I felt the same, but moving closer to family wasn't an option for me. I moved back to the neighborhood I felt comfortable/safest - my little bubble, I called it. I felt scared too. It's weird. I felt un-anchored and unsure of everything. Someone is such a huge part of your life, and then they're not. It felt like a death, because essentially I lost that person.

You got this. like I said... take it one. day. at. a. time. I used to make to do lists for myself each night. It gave me a sense of purpose and accomplishment. It included, walking my dog, getting frozen yogurt etc.

Pardon the 2nd comment - but you talking about being intimidated/scared - resonated with how I felt. And wanted to let you know. Best of luck to you - it may not feel like it, but you're on the right track. Keep on keepin' on.

This too shall pass, just like everything else in life.

It sounds like there are no children involved, right?

I wish you well.

I'm sorry you're hurting:-( I'm going through a separation. It's hard. So hard. Even though it was abusive and I know it's for the best. But it's getting better. Every day.
Allow yourself to grieve. To be angry, to cry, to miss her. But soon, only allow yourself a small time of the day to do this. Use distraction methods. Go for a walk, talk to a friend, get on mfp forums!
Do something for YOU. The sun always comes out after the rain.

Only time will heal.

I am going through a divorce as well...and it sucks...but we just need to put one foot in front of the other. lot's of people to lean on

Thanks for the video, made me smile.