Are you supposed to like what you do?

I do what I can to make ends meet and pay the bills (bank teller). In my free time, I pursue my passion (hoof trimming/farrier). In time, I may be able to make a living by my passion, but I am a single mom with a 6 year old to support, I don't have the privilege of pursuing my passion full time, so for now, I do what I can, and I enjoy the life I have while doing it.

wellthenwhat wrote: »

KassLea22 wrote: »

youdowant wrote: »

This is kind of hypothetical. Many people don't truly have any option. They do what they have to to make ends meet. For them, a job's a job. However, may others have the freedom and means to seek out a career field that fits their interests. It's just different for all of us. Saying that everyone has the ability to seek out their dream job is just ignorant. It's as foolish as saying no one likes Trump.

I don't agree with this. I don't think it's as much about having the freedom or means, it's about having the drive and the patience to get to where you want to be.

I grew up in a small town in Montana and after college I moved out to a big city all by myself after basically never living outside my small town, started at the very bottom of my career field doing a terrible job for a couple years, and I worked my way up to doing my dream job in a big city.

To be honest I think it's kind of a copout to say some people don't have the ability or the means when if you really want something you can get yourself there. I'm not saying it's going to be easy, and you definitely have to be willing to start at the bottom and pay your dues, but it's not impossible or unreasonable. I think a large problem I've seen is that people don't want to pay their dues and work their way up. They want to start out at the top when that's not going to happen most likely. I think people also get a frayed to leave their comfort zones and find a new job or tell themselves that they can't.

Not everyone has the privilege of being able to survive while they start at the bottom. A lot of people don't wanna put in the work, yes, but some are working their butts off to survive, and climbing out is almost impossible, let alone being picky about what kind of work they do

I'm going to respectfully disagree. Working different kinds of jobs is not a privilege, because that makes it sound like it's just so easy to get where you want. It's something that the people work hard for and make work for them if they really want. I definitely struggled financially when I was working out the bottom, but I just learned how to manage and budget my money I guess.

When you think about it, a lot of people say that professional athletes are privileged because they play sports for a living and make a lot of money. But those people also have been working their entire lives towards that goal and I think it is flippant to say has a privilege about something they worked very hard for.

I think everyone has roadblocks and things they could use as, an excuse as to why they can't achieve their goals or ambitions. I don't really know if excuse is the right word, but I didn't know how else to word it. I think a lot of people just don't think they have the ability to get to where they want, when if you really want something you usually can find a way to get yourself there one way or another. People's priorities are also different. I personally could not work a job long-term that I hated, and I also don't like when people complain about working a job that they hate and don't do anything to change it.

KassLea22 wrote: »

youdowant wrote: »

This is kind of hypothetical. Many people don't truly have any option. They do what they have to to make ends meet. For them, a job's a job. However, may others have the freedom and means to seek out a career field that fits their interests. It's just different for all of us. Saying that everyone has the ability to seek out their dream job is just ignorant. It's as foolish as saying no one likes Trump.

I don't agree with this. I don't think it's as much about having the freedom or means, it's about having the drive and the patience to get to where you want to be.

I grew up in a small town in Montana and after college I moved out to a big city all by myself after basically never living outside my small town, started at the very bottom of my career field doing a terrible job for a couple years, and I worked my way up to doing my dream job in a big city.

To be honest I think it's kind of a copout to say some people don't have the ability or the means when if you really want something you can get yourself there. I'm not saying it's going to be easy, and you definitely have to be willing to start at the bottom and pay your dues, but it's not impossible or unreasonable. I think a large problem I've seen is that people don't want to pay their dues and work their way up. They want to start out at the top when that's not going to happen most likely. I think people also get a frayed to leave their comfort zones and find a new job or tell themselves that they can't.

This is kinda an ignorant point of view. There are people, sure, who have that inner drive, and the required intelligence that goes along with it to pull themselves up and get where they want to be. I am one of them, I come from very humble beginnings, do not possess any formal qualifications and yet I have a very good job now. To say everyone has this option is BS. They don't. Their family or socio-economic status may not allow them the time or money to learn new skills or explore new options. They may not be in possession of the drive and courage to do so. They may not have any support or fall back. They may not have the skills or intelligence (for want of a less offensive term) to do better than what they are doing. They may also have anxiety or other issues that would not allow them to take such a risk. You think it's a cop out, I think it's very judgemental of you to say so.

It depends. Do you want a job? Or a fulfilling career?

angelxsss wrote: »

Do you think you're supposed to find something you enjoy to do for a living, or do you think it's more about just finding something that doesn't suck your soul out of your body and pays the bills?

so I actually had a teacher that would preach to us to love what we do and then money will come. I've had lots of jobs...lots that ive hated. I'm a hairstylist now, and even as a hairstylist I've had jobs that I hated and had such bad vibes that I would physically and mentally get sick as well as emotionally get drained...but now I kind of work on my own and I love it. I make great money, I can make 50 bucks in one hour compared to other jobs where its minimum wage. I'm also still contracted with drybar (which I actually hate and cant believe I still work there) and they pay minimum wage which is annoying, but yeah. I'm all about for finding a job that you love, the money will come eventually.

Your career should be something you enjoy for the most part. I love what I do overall despite some of the downsides - long hours, dealing with difficult individuals, stress, and disappointments. If I didn't enjoy my job or career, I'd pursue something else. Life is too short to remain in a job you don't like or a career that doesn't suit you or that you don't enjoy, in my opinion.

I'm in the public sector now and considering taking a pay cut and going back to a commute just to get away from the limited intelligence I encounter in employees every day. But the benefits have me staying where I am. I have 4.5 weeks of paid vacation every year, plus the week between Christmas and New Years off, plus a week of Spring Break off every year. We work four 10-hour days in the summer. My mom is elderly and the only parent my hubs and I have left. Shes three hours away and I have time to see her and travel with her. I don't love my job, but it has its value.

Most of my jobs haven't fulfilled me, but they allow me to do things that are fulfilling. If a job sucks the soul out of you quit it.

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I love the people I work with, and I enjoy my job but I'd rather be getting paid to pet puppies. I think there is enormous pressure on people to "make money doing what they love". You're not a failure if you don't bounce out of bed with excitement in the morning lol. I think this pressure actually sets you up to have unrealistic expectations about work which could lead to overall feelings of "unhappiness" at work. Try focusing on the good things about it, I highly doubt most people love having to work at all.

I Chase Dreams, I Damn Sure Do.

I have a job that's only a paycheck right now.

I'm overqualified, the work flow is misguided and the commute is too long.

I'm giving my 2 week notice today.

It's time to do something that's rewarding beyond a paycheck.